Current Events > Messaging people on fetlife

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>Strikes up basic online dating conversation not about sex at all
>Eventually asks sex-related question on sex-related website
>Essentially told to fuck off

rly
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ok
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chokesex?
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Ask deed related things and say the word deed exclusively but don't tell them what deed means
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Hay posted...

chokesex?

I mean obviously

glitteringfairy posted...

Ask deed related things and say the word deed exclusively but don't tell them what deed means

I'd be pretty shook if they didn't know what "deed" meant
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You use the site too?

It's awesome. Cannonball told me about it.
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Muffinz0rz posted...

Hay posted...

chokesex?

I mean obviously

glitteringfairy posted...

Ask deed related things and say the word deed exclusively but don't tell them what deed means

I'd be pretty shook if they didn't know what "deed" meant

You'd be surprised. I've had to explain it more than once
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Vol2tex posted...

You use the site too?

It's awesome. Cannonball told me about it.

I mean trying to find someone in your area is a pain in the ass given the lack of search filters (which I get, for privacy reasons, but still -- really not necessary in big cities).

I have met up with a person from there though. It was hella fun, but it didn't last.
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You have to be Chad to ask sex-related questions.
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Muffinz0rz posted...

Vol2tex posted...

You use the site too?

It's awesome. Cannonball told me about it.

I mean trying to find someone in your area is a pain in the ass given the lack of search filters (which I get, for privacy reasons, but still -- really not necessary in big cities).

I have met up with a person from there though. It was hella fun, but it didn't last.

The search is the worst feature indeed, in some cases you have to be very specific in your spelling or wording to get accurate results, and I do wish that you could search by categories like ModelMayhem has. The site hasn't changed at all in 5 years.
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What did you ask?
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Oh yeah, and the people on there can be brutal or weird. Hasn't happened to me but the site is literally for kink and fetish and erotic,and if a guy messages a girl with comments you would expect, they block the person then screencap their message to post publicly on their page.
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Vol2tex posted...

Oh yeah, and the people on there can be brutal or weird. Hasn't happened to me but the site is literally for kink and fetish and erotic,and if a guy messages a girl with comments you would expect, they block the person then screencap their message to post publicly on their page.

Jeez, nobody's ever been thatsavage to me.

But yeah the point remains. People just can't get their heads out of their asses.
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Oh wow they actually did update the search feature! Barely though. Now searching for a name or term brings up pictures on not just users. Now if I type in a person I know like Freshie, it brings up all the photos which have the word "Freshie" in the description or tag.
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Vol2tex posted...

Oh wow they actually did update the search feature! Barely though. Now searching for a name or term brings up pictures on not just users. Now if I type in a person I know like Freshie, it brings up all the photos which have the word "Freshie" in the description or tag.

I don't really mean searching for particular people -- I mean search filters like age, sub/dom, etc.

I don't enjoy scrubbing through dozens of dick pics for every occasional female profile
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I know. Why don't they add that level of searching?
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Vol2tex posted...

I know. Why don't they add that level of searching?

Someone (who has no insider knowledge or anything) told me it's to keep from being able to find people who want to keep themselves private.

It's fucking dumb.
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This has less to do you with you personally and more to do with the nature of being propositioned with offers like that on a daily basis by so many awful men.

In future, really work on establishing rapport and make the kink side of things an afterthought.
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Muffinz0rz posted...

Vol2tex posted...

I know. Why don't they add that level of searching?

Someone (who has no insider knowledge or anything) told me it's to keep from being able to find people who want to keep themselves private.

It's fucking dumb.

But why be on the website if they want to keep private?
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Its not a dating site, its a community.
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If you browse by city, you'll find them eventually.
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