Poll of the Day > I'm kicking myself for not asking this girl out sooner

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So there was this girl at work that I had been talking to whenever I got the chance. Unfortunately at our job were busy practically all the time so I havent been able to get to know her THAT well, but we had nice little chats here and there.

I was kinda crushing on her and it felt like we were hitting it off, I kept meaning to just casually ask her out at some point, but like I said, were always so busy at work, ESPECIALLY with the holidays.

She ended up quitting last week, unfortunately (though I cant say I blame her lol). Problem is, I never got her phone number or added her on any kind of social media. Im kicking myself for this mostly. All I had to do was take five seconds and come up with a reason to get her number or something. I guess I just needed to rant about this stupid situation I put myself in lol.

/BlogFAQs
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Plenty more fish in the sea.
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You snooze you lose.
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wwinterj25 posted...

Plenty more fish in the sea.

True.

SunWuKung420 posted...

You snooze you lose.

I know next time I wont ne such an insecure idiot.
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If you know her name, you can add her on facebook. No guarantee that anything will come of it, but it's at least something you can try.
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You know, I actually have looked her up on Facebook and if shes on there, shes very well hidden lol.

Idk, I guess I was too weary about dating a coworker (which obviously doesnt matter now), plus I had been recently dumped so I didnt want to rush into anything.

Ill have to see if any of my coworkers know how to get in touch with her. It feels stalker-ish lol but idk, I felt like we had kind of a spark between us, and Im in no position to be turning a possible relationship away.
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Well if she felt the same way about you she probably would've gotten your contact info before quitting.
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Eh
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rexcrk posted...

So there was this girl at work that I had been talking to whenever I got the chance. Unfortunately at our job were busy practically all the time so I havent been able to get to know her THAT well, but we had nice little chats here and there.

I was kinda crushing on her and it felt like we were hitting it off, I kept meaning to just casually ask her out at some point, but like I said, were always so busy at work, ESPECIALLY with the holidays.

I can relate. Back when I was in college, I took a temp job doing collections at a call center (they were a subcontractor, but I can't remember who they were contracting for) where I met a cute Albanian chick who helped to train me and whose name I couldn't remember which bothered me for like a month after I very shortly parted ways with the company. I really should have asked her out immediately but I assumed I had time and I think I might have already been kinda seeing somebody else (nothing too serious, though)

rexcrk posted...

Idk, I guess I was too weary about dating a coworker (which obviously doesnt matter now), plus I had been recently dumped so I didnt want to rush into anything.

If you like your job, you should never date a coworker. However, if you're still in school or something, you could always just find another job.

Also, it's "wary" not "weary."
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Stupid Pirate Guy posted...

Well if she felt the same way about you she probably would've gotten your contact info before quitting.

I don't agree

If you have to approach her you already lost
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Just friend her on Facebook and go from there.
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Coincidence is crazy. This girl at my work I've been crushing on I finally sacked up today.

Waited till the end of her shift and said

"I'm not good at this so I'll just say it. I like you, I think your smart and funny and would like to spend more time with you. I think you feel the same way. If you do here's my number if you want to chat or hang out some time. If I'm wrong just pretend this never happened, but I hope you don't."

That's really all you gotta do and I hate myself for not figuring that out till im fucking 30.
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TES_Nut posted...

Coincidence is crazy. This girl at my work I've been crushing on I finally sacked up today.

Waited till the end of her shift and said

"I'm not good at this so I'll just say it. I like you, I think your smart and funny and would like to spend more time with you. I think you feel the same way. If you do here's my number if you want to chat or hang out some time. If I'm wrong just pretend this never happened, but I hope you don't."

That's really all you gotta do and I hate myself for not figuring that out till im fucking 30.

Yeah man thats what I keep telling myself. All I had to do was something like hey I keep seeing funny pictures that I think youd like or something.
Zeus posted...

rexcrk posted...

So there was this girl at work that I had been talking to whenever I got the chance. Unfortunately at our job were busy practically all the time so I havent been able to get to know her THAT well, but we had nice little chats here and there.

I was kinda crushing on her and it felt like we were hitting it off, I kept meaning to just casually ask her out at some point, but like I said, were always so busy at work, ESPECIALLY with the holidays.

I can relate. Back when I was in college, I took a temp job doing collections at a call center (they were a subcontractor, but I can't remember who they were contracting for) where I met a cute Albanian chick who helped to train me and whose name I couldn't remember which bothered me for like a month after I very shortly parted ways with the company. I really should have asked her out immediately but I assumed I had time and I think I might have already been kinda seeing somebody else (nothing too serious, though)

rexcrk posted...

Idk, I guess I was too weary about dating a coworker (which obviously doesnt matter now), plus I had been recently dumped so I didnt want to rush into anything.

Also, it's "wary" not "weary."

Fuck.. youre right lol
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Once I found out no was all they could really say, it built up a lot of confidence. I use to worry about stuff like that. Now, I could care less in most situations.
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I know that feel OP.
work with a qt Asian girl
talked to her last week
she said she's thinking of quitting
I kind of panic
jokingly asked if she ever wanted to hang out sometime
she agrees right away
I say, awesome
then walk away without getting her number
tfw she might be gone when work starts up again next week

Summertimebooks posted...

I know that feel OP.
work with a qt Asian girl
talked to her last week
she said she's thinking of quitting
I kind of panic
jokingly asked if she ever wanted to hang out sometime
she agrees right away
I say, awesome
then walk away without getting her number
tfw she might be gone when work starts up again next week

Lol that sucks.
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Summertimebooks posted...

I know that feel OP.
work with a qt Asian girl
talked to her last week
she said she's thinking of quitting
I kind of panic
jokingly asked if she ever wanted to hang out sometime
she agrees right away
I say, awesome
then walk away without getting her number
tfw she might be gone when work starts up again next week

Bro
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Never hesitate to ask out a girl, or you will always regret what could have been
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rexcrk posted...

You know, I actually have looked her up on Facebook and if shes on there, shes very well hidden lol.

Idk, I guess I was too weary about dating a coworker (which obviously doesnt matter now), plus I had been recently dumped so I didnt want to rush into anything.

Ill have to see if any of my coworkers know how to get in touch with her. It feels stalker-ish lol but idk, I felt like we had kind of a spark between us, and Im in no position to be turning a possible relationship away.

I mean...

If you don't contact her at all you probably never see or talk to her again.

If you do contact her, the worst case scenario is...you probably never see or talk to her again.

Seems like a simple choice to me...

(also, trying to friend on FB is probably less "stalker-ish" than getting her phone number or other contact info from a co-worker, IMO)

green dragon posted...

Stupid Pirate Guy posted...

Well if she felt the same way about you she probably would've gotten your contact info before quitting.

I don't agree

Yeah part of me was wondering the same thing. But I dont even know the circumstances under which she quit.

But still, part of me was hoping shed find a way to get in touch with me (even something as simple as calling our store and asking for me).
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joemodda posted...

If you have to approach her you already lost

This is not true.

But in TCs case I feel like you two just didnt have enough time together or she just wasnt into you, maybe a combination of both. If you were close enough I feel she would have told you she was leaving the job first. Not telling you might mean she just doesnt care about you or anything to do with your job.

I really do believe you guys hit it off, but like you said with the holidays it gets busy and you lose out on opportunities. The girl may not have understood that and thought you lost interest.
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kislev posted...

Never hesitate to ask out a girl, or you will always regret what could have been

True that. Two major crushes I've had:
Girl at secondary school - Probably married and/or with kids now. Wouldn't know as I haven't seen her since.
Sisters friend - Has a BF and kid now.

Upon reflection I'd rather have asked them out when I had the opportunity (such as sisters friend, drunk in my bedroom) and probably have been rejected than keep wondering what if? Those ships have sailed now though.
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rexcrk posted...

Ill have to see if any of my coworkers know how to get in touch with her. It feels stalker-ish lol but idk, I felt like we had kind of a spark between us, and Im in no position to be turning a possible relationship away.

If you want to avoid being stalker-ish, you could always find a co-worker that knows how to get in touch with her, and then have them send your number to her. That puts the ball in her court, rather than leaving her feeling like you tracked her down.
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rexcrk posted...

or added her on any kind of social media.

*doesn't read rest of topic*

Presumably you know her name and can add her on Facebook. It's not at all unusual to add former coworkers on social media if you want to keep in touch with them.
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Kazuma_Yagami posted...

joemodda posted...

If you have to approach her you already lost

This is not true.

But in TCs case I feel like you two just didnt have enough time together or she just wasnt into you, maybe a combination of both. If you were close enough I feel she would have told you she was leaving the job first. Not telling you might mean she just doesnt care about you or anything to do with your job.

I really do believe you guys hit it off, but like you said with the holidays it gets busy and you lose out on opportunities. The girl may not have understood that and thought you lost interest.

Well she worked in the bakery at the grocery store we work at. If anyone here has worked retail, you know how stressful and busy it gets this time of year. Im guessing she had had enough and just walked out, I doubt she was necessarily planning on leaving.
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Dynalo posted...

rexcrk posted...

or added her on any kind of social media.

*doesn't read rest of topic*

Presumably you know her name and can add her on Facebook. It's not at all unusual to add former coworkers on social media if you want to keep in touch with them.

Ive mentioned that Ive looked for her on Facebook lol with no luck unfortunately. She might be on it under a fake name, I have no idea.

There have been times in the past where Ive looked back and thought maybe if Id done things differently, I could be with [so and so girl] but honestly this is the first time where I really feel like an idiot for not making more of a move.
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Dead ass had something just like this happen to me a couple months ago.

we talked here and there and like I would always playfully tease her all the time.

One time she even asked if I had a girlfriend... I thought, damn she wants to know if Im available Im definitely in the door.

I was like next time I see her ima get her number.....little did I know she would quit soon after...talk about a missed opportunity lol fml

xXsabbathXx posted...

Dead ass had something just like this happen to me a couple months ago.

we talked here and there and like I would always playfully tease her all the time.

One time she even asked if I had a girlfriend... I thought, damn she wants to know if Im available Im definitely in the door.

I was like next time I see her ima get her number.....little did I know she would quit soon after...talk about a missed opportunity lol fml

Ugh, it hurts
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