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ExtremeLuchador 01/21/18 10:21:53 PM #151: |
Quality women don't want dependas.
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mipond 01/22/18 9:30:21 AM #152: |
ExtremeLuchador posted...
Quality women don't want dependas. I consider myself quality. If I had a so in school trying to achieve his goals I would help all that I could. A guy with goals and a plan is top notch quality waiting to happen. ... Copied to Clipboard!
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Jiggy101011 01/22/18 9:36:18 AM #153: |
C_Pain posted...
I feel like in these topics, even though clearly she's in the wrong, people don't get how just "dump that bitch" is hard. You've been together 4 years, you love her, and it's all you know. misery loves company --- Gamertag: F1RE v2 PSN ID: F1REx Man got me a 9 and she sexy. ... Copied to Clipboard!
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FLUFFYGERM 01/22/18 9:39:23 AM #154: |
Honestly, it sounds like she wants a man who has his shit together so she can start a family. You are not that person.
Might as well end it. Some women wanna have kids in their early 20s. That's not necessarily a bad thing. Most women want a financially stable man. If you were making 100k and she was making 105k she prolly wouldn't perceive money the same as she does now. If you dated her for four years and didn't make enough progress financially and academically, she probably got tired of waiting and trying to help from the sidelines. Honestly, some men need a woman like this. --- but Marxist theory is extremely consistent, both internally and with reality. -averagejeol ... Copied to Clipboard!
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C7D 01/22/18 9:40:48 AM #155: |
I may have missed it. What is your degree going to be in? What are your job prospects after you get the degree? Do you have someone lined up willing to hire you? What are you making now versus when you finish your degree? Depending upon the answers to these questions, she could be quite rational.
Regardless of whether or not you stick with her, you could look into that. I talked to my wife about wanting to go to med school. She told me if I wanted to do it, we would sell all our stuff, she would work overtime, and we would make it happen. I couldnt let her sacrifice that much, but it just goes to illustrated the kind of woman you want on your side. --- Polite fiction is still fictitious even when no one is offended. ... Copied to Clipboard!
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Lathissamus 01/23/18 6:18:19 PM #156: |
C7D posted...
I may have missed it. What is your degree going to be in? What are your job prospects after you get the degree? Do you have someone lined up willing to hire you? What are you making now versus when you finish your degree? Depending upon the answers to these questions, she could be quite rational. I'm in school for Physical Therapy, and I'm going all the way to a doctorate. I was going to graduate with my A.S. and be a PTA in the mean time. I will have a job for me after I graduate. Right now I'm making roughly $16/hr. After school I should be making around $30/hr. Before I'm even 30. --- ... Copied to Clipboard!
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OpheliaAdenade 01/23/18 6:21:09 PM #157: |
Lathissamus posted...
C7D posted...I may have missed it. What is your degree going to be in? What are your job prospects after you get the degree? Do you have someone lined up willing to hire you? What are you making now versus when you finish your degree? Depending upon the answers to these questions, she could be quite rational. ... you doing anything later? --- ... Copied to Clipboard!
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Lathissamus 01/23/18 8:44:17 PM #158: |
OpheliaAdenade posted...
Lathissamus posted...C7D posted...I may have missed it. What is your degree going to be in? What are your job prospects after you get the degree? Do you have someone lined up willing to hire you? What are you making now versus when you finish your degree? Depending upon the answers to these questions, she could be quite rational. Yeah, sleep lmao --- ... Copied to Clipboard!
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Perascamin 01/23/18 8:49:41 PM #159: |
How is 30$/hr bad money?
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TheGrindery 01/23/18 8:59:08 PM #160: |
Sometimes it seems like a vagina is basically a suction cup to a couch.
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Lordgold666 01/23/18 9:06:47 PM #161: |
Lathissamus posted...
she is basically saying it's her way or the highway Lathissamus posted... I've let her do basically whatever she's wanted to for the sum of our relationship. Lol --- Xbox GT: l0rdg0ld666 | 3DS FC: 1848-2391-0198 [LXGC] - Lethal Xbox Gaming crew ... Copied to Clipboard!
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Leanaunfurled 01/23/18 9:11:22 PM #162: |
The bright side is, he's now free to find a woman who sees his actual worth and will support him as he supports her. And hopefully uses her brain way more.
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Lathissamus 01/23/18 9:42:36 PM #163: |
Perascamin posted...
How is 30$/hr bad money? She'll be making more. It's not bad money at all though. Leanaunfurled posted... The bright side is, he's now free to find a woman who sees his actual worth and will support him as he supports her. And hopefully uses her brain way more. Honestly I'm done with relationships for now. --- ... Copied to Clipboard!
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teepan95 01/24/18 6:54:19 AM #164: |
TC, ya did good. Proud of you man. It can't have been easy
Now is the time to cut all contact. If that gets you down, do whatever you feel you need to do to cheer yourself up. You've earned it, man. --- I use Gameraven and you should too. #desisoyboy ... Copied to Clipboard!
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Lathissamus 01/24/18 5:13:19 PM #165: |
teepan95 posted...
TC, ya did good. Proud of you man. It can't have been easy I'm trying to keep myself occupied, but I'm also slowly realizing that I don't have many friends to hang out with/talk to about it. Any good games I should pick up to keep my mind off of it? --- ... Copied to Clipboard!
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Offworlder1 01/24/18 5:17:43 PM #166: |
Your free now, do all the things you used to enjoy before you had that selfish bitch in your life.
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mipond 01/24/18 5:20:18 PM #167: |
Lathissamus posted...
teepan95 posted...TC, ya did good. Proud of you man. It can't have been easy What kind of games do you like? I love StarDew valley. ... Copied to Clipboard!
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Tony_Biggie_Pun 01/24/18 5:25:04 PM #168: |
D-Lo_BrownTown posted...
Fuck that ... Copied to Clipboard!
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Tony_Biggie_Pun 01/24/18 5:40:18 PM #169: |
Jiggy101011 posted...
Lathissamus posted...Dustin1280 posted...Ask her if she plans to pay for those loans required to do what she wants. Yeah I agree, this sounds like what it is. But she's going about it in the wrong way. Maybe she'll realize it or maybe she won't but regardless never put yourself in financial debt to satisfy someone else because it is hard as fuck to get out of it and it doesn't feel good to live day to day in debt to someone else. It's a hard thing to do but moving on is the best. Move on and don't feel any regret once your do. Any time your start to think what if or think about if you could have handled it better just remember that you made the right decision ... Copied to Clipboard!
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Tony_Biggie_Pun 01/24/18 5:44:12 PM #170: |
Lathissamus posted...
It's really starting to sink in now. 4 years. It's all good don't think about it like this everything good eventually comes to an end ... Copied to Clipboard!
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Tony_Biggie_Pun 01/24/18 5:45:15 PM #171: |
Lathissamus posted...
teepan95 posted...TC, ya did good. Proud of you man. It can't have been easy Pick up Tekken 7 that's a good one to get your stress out and keep you occupied ... Copied to Clipboard!
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Tony_Biggie_Pun 01/24/18 5:49:44 PM #172: |
Lathissamus posted...
C7D posted...I may have missed it. What is your degree going to be in? What are your job prospects after you get the degree? Do you have someone lined up willing to hire you? What are you making now versus when you finish your degree? Depending upon the answers to these questions, she could be quite rational. You're on the right track then. Don't let her opinions make your feel bad about what you're doing and your overall status in life. There are plenty of women or there who would not only be happy when where you are not also proud. Just keep it up and don't start slacking or let the sad feelings get in the way of your work and progress. As long as you keep doing what you're doing and stay consistent you'll be good ... Copied to Clipboard!
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Lathissamus 01/25/18 2:39:02 AM #173: |
So.....
We met up and talked. She owned up to her faults, admitted she was wrong and that she was sorry for pushing me away. We both discussed some things, like what we want, what we'd do if we got back together. She conceded on the whole buying a house thing and making a family so soon; she also conceded on the whole school thing, so I don't know where we're going from here. She did say that she was rushing things, and she apologized. I think I'm going to get back together. Despite her faults, I have my own faults too -- and talking to her today, I was happy just to even see her. This whole situation has been crazy to me. I haven't been able to sleep or concentrate really this whole time. It sounds cliche and strange, but she's a huge part of my life. It's hard to see myself without her. Too strong of a bond here. --- ... Copied to Clipboard!
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Offworlder1 01/25/18 2:50:40 AM #174: |
You do know she is only saying this shit because you dumped her right ?
When you get back together with her she will know that your a doormat and how to refine her manipulation. What she was saying is not just some willy nilly bs, she will pull it again but with higher stakes and ultimatums that only hurt you. --- "Always two there are, a master and an apprentice" ... Copied to Clipboard!
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Tony_Biggie_Pun 01/25/18 2:50:52 AM #175: |
Thats good that she owned up to it. We're all human people make mistakes. If you two get back together I hope it works out
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The-19th-Sparta 01/25/18 2:59:11 AM #176: |
Be careful TC, she might be confused as well but still have the intention of forming you into her ideal person. She proved it once and one week typically isn't enough for someone to change drastically.
Also, this topic at least taught you not to take OpheliaAdenade seriously. Don't ever take them seriously. --- "The land beneath the sky..." ... Copied to Clipboard!
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Shadowplay 01/25/18 3:09:09 AM #177: |
Based on what you said earlier in the topic, TC, she's just one of those stock women that rely heavily on the husband instead of being her own person. Basically, she sounds exactly like the kind of woman that would cheat several years into the marriage, divorce you, and take half of everything.
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Tony_Biggie_Pun 01/25/18 3:51:15 AM #178: |
Yeah I think you shouldn't get too comfortable she may change her mind down the line still try to force things on you. Just be prepare yourself for the worst emotionally but hopefully things work out
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mipond 01/25/18 8:04:28 AM #179: |
Sounds like you are both trying. It's important to work together instead of just throwing away so much. Good luck.
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booboy 01/25/18 8:43:28 PM #180: |
Lathissamus posted...
So..... Congrats, you failed. --- There is no problem that can't be solved by applying more yuri to it. In Torque We Trust ... Copied to Clipboard!
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KILBOTz 01/26/18 3:23:09 PM #181: |
so what happens when youre married and she issues another ultimatum only this time you walking costs you hundreds of thousands so she has all the leverage?
to me the fact she gave you an ultimatum like that, that is the deal breaker there. Not the exact content of the ultimatum. but I have a no-ultimatums ultimatum. --- ... Copied to Clipboard!
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bulletproofvita 01/26/18 3:40:43 PM #183: |
Drpooplol posted...
Lathissamus posted...Well, I guess I can give the basics. Dump her and move on... She's way too controlling --- PSN: bulletproofvita ... Copied to Clipboard!
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emblem boy 01/26/18 4:00:55 PM #184: |
KILBOTz posted...
so what happens when youre married and she issues another ultimatum only this time you walking costs you hundreds of thousands so she has all the leverage? Are all ultimatums bad? I mean, it's pretty much saying "this is what I need/want, if you can't provide that, we aren't meant for each other. We all have our deal breaker --- Posted with GameRaven 3.3 ... Copied to Clipboard!
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KILBOTz 01/26/18 4:07:59 PM #185: |
emblem boy posted...
KILBOTz posted...so what happens when youre married and she issues another ultimatum only this time you walking costs you hundreds of thousands so she has all the leverage? to me its the expression of ultimatums. it is fine to have deal breakers but change has to come from within IMO. if its external motivation (pleasing your significant other) it doesn't last from what I've seen. saying "I can't raise a family with someone who smokes crack." that's a fair statement to me. saying "You need to stop smoking crack or I leave", that sort of communication doesn't work for me. --- ... Copied to Clipboard!
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Offworlder1 01/26/18 4:47:22 PM #186: |
@KILBOTz
Exactly, how they word it and phrase it matters, and yes ultimatums are always a bad thing in my book as well and a deal breaker. Seen a lot of people break up because an ultimatum was given and the person just dumped them with zero regrets. Asking, requesting, saying I cant be with a person if your doing ____. is far better then stop doing ____ or I leave. Even something reasonable is shit when it is part of an ultimatum. --- "Always two there are, a master and an apprentice" ... Copied to Clipboard!
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