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FrenchCrunch 01/25/18 3:36:38 PM #51: |
i need a hug
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darkphoenix181 01/25/18 3:39:44 PM #52: |
FrenchCrunch posted...
to top it all off i've been majorly depressed for a while now and she wants pretty much 100% of my waking time and i'm too irrationally guilty to stick up for myself you are her pet --- chill02 to me: you are beautiful ... Copied to Clipboard!
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Sami1000 01/25/18 3:39:51 PM #53: |
She's fucking crazy, better to cut ties with her now, than wait until she drugs you and you wake up tied in basement waiting for her to cut your balls off with garden scissors.
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Lost_All_Senses 01/25/18 3:41:03 PM #55: |
darkphoenix181 posted...
FrenchCrunch posted...to top it all off i've been majorly depressed for a while now and she wants pretty much 100% of my waking time and i'm too irrationally guilty to stick up for myself Most definitely. You need to work on yourself. Cause letting that happen falls heavily on you. --- There will always be exceptions. ... Copied to Clipboard!
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DragonGirlYuki 01/25/18 3:41:25 PM #56: |
You need a gun.
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HaVeNII7 01/25/18 3:41:49 PM #57: |
FrenchCrunch posted...
to top it all off i've been majorly depressed for a while now and she wants pretty much 100% of my waking time and i'm too irrationally guilty to stick up for myself Stop being a pussy. Its a matter of self respect at this point. Tell her if thats how she feels she can fuck right off. --- PSN/Steam: HaVeNII7 ... Copied to Clipboard!
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ImTheMacheteGuy 01/25/18 3:49:56 PM #58: |
I'd ghost the fuck out of her for weeks to months until she started apologizing and admitting how she was being a c***
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ImTheMacheteGuy 01/25/18 3:51:31 PM #59: |
FrenchCrunch posted...
DifferentialEquation posted...FrenchCrunch posted...i'm working on saving up enough money to move, but currently she WILL come to my house if i turn my phone off Call the cops... or get your gun out if you are one of those states where people don't go to jail for shooting burglars. --- Place-holder sig because new phone and old sigs not saved :/ ... Copied to Clipboard!
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ImTheMacheteGuy 01/25/18 3:54:37 PM #60: |
FrenchCrunch posted...
leverageblargh posted...Sounds like a psycho. Okay this DEFINITELY needs to be recorded. You have to be prepared in case she follows through with that. Threats like that are not okay. --- Place-holder sig because new phone and old sigs not saved :/ ... Copied to Clipboard!
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FrenchCrunch 01/25/18 3:55:55 PM #61: |
i wish i could just not care. sometimes i dont but her relentless guilting works without fail. my current plan is to ghost her but that will take months
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ImTheMacheteGuy 01/25/18 3:56:20 PM #62: |
FrenchCrunch posted...
a sick part of me wants her to claim that i raped her becuase i recorded the call in which she said she'd lie to the cops Ah okay, thank fuck for that --- Place-holder sig because new phone and old sigs not saved :/ ... Copied to Clipboard!
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refmon 01/25/18 3:59:21 PM #63: |
Jesus, just how desperate is TC for some sex?
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FrenchCrunch 01/25/18 4:00:47 PM #64: |
refmon posted...
Jesus, just how desperate is TC for some sex? this isn't a sexual relationship and hasn't been for a long time in fact i no longer have a sex drive ... Copied to Clipboard!
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FrenchCrunch 01/25/18 4:05:59 PM #65: |
it would be so much easier if we weren't neighbors working in the same office
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Back_Stabbath 01/25/18 4:15:41 PM #66: |
Tell her you've noticed a change in her recently. Ask her about her feelings. Has she always been an angry, spiteful person? She should get checked for BPD. Try not to make it a shameful conversation, ask her to do it out of concern. Unmedicated BPD is fucking terrible to deal with and I feel for her if that ends up being the case.
In any case, ditch her ass if she carries on like this, you don't need friends like that. If i'm right and she is borderline, she won't like that her clingy, volatile personality has lost her a friend and may be more likely seek help for it. If she has no mental illness and is just a terrible person then -definitely- leave that friendship. --- ... Copied to Clipboard!
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Eevee-Trainer 01/25/18 4:18:58 PM #67: |
MACisBack posted...
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FrenchCrunch 01/25/18 4:21:04 PM #68: |
Back_Stabbath posted...
Tell her you've noticed a change in her recently. Ask her about her feelings. Has she always been an angry, spiteful person? She should get checked for BPD. Try not to make it a shameful conversation, ask her to do it out of concern. Unmedicated BPD is fucking terrible to deal with and I feel for her if that ends up being the case. when i tried this she screamed at me and broke my door and said it was extremely insulting and i'm not a doctor and i have no right to even mention the subject to her in november. i've been theorizing bpd since i started to notice the behavior ... Copied to Clipboard!
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FrenchCrunch 01/25/18 4:29:45 PM #69: |
bump
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ssj3vegeta 01/25/18 4:31:31 PM #70: |
Is she super hot
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Back_Stabbath 01/25/18 4:33:13 PM #71: |
i'm almost certain she has it based on what you've said here. It's a shame she won't seek help. she doesn't have to feel these feelings. medication can provide so much relief to her symptoms. it's no fun being an unstable mess all the time. she needs an intervention, it seems like she really values your friendship despite her way of... showing it. tell her to calm her fucking farm and go to a doctor or you're gone. Tell her chimping out as she does is NOT normal human behaviour and her unstable moods that she has to have noticed by now can be treated.
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Axiom 01/25/18 4:34:55 PM #72: |
That's uh...that's a major overreaction. Clearly something else is wrong with her
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FrenchCrunch 01/25/18 4:54:51 PM #73: |
Back_Stabbath posted...
i'm almost certain she has it based on what you've said here. It's a shame she won't seek help. she doesn't have to feel these feelings. medication can provide so much relief to her symptoms. it's no fun being an unstable mess all the time. she needs an intervention, it seems like she really values your friendship despite her way of... showing it. tell her to calm her fucking farm and go to a doctor or you're gone. Tell her chimping out as she does is NOT normal human behaviour and her unstable moods that she has to have noticed by now can be treated. i've been there done that almost word for word man i need to somehow be okay with ghosting her. i think that's the only option ... Copied to Clipboard!
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FrenchCrunch 01/25/18 5:13:52 PM #74: |
my life
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FrenchCrunch 01/25/18 5:49:00 PM #75: |
so what's goin' on with you guys
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GuyCarlPeterson 01/25/18 6:00:14 PM #76: |
Fist fight her.
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Offworlder1 01/25/18 6:02:39 PM #77: |
About to play some Pokemon X or Sun in a few minutes, trying to catch some new mons.
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Arcanine2009 01/25/18 6:03:26 PM #78: |
She's fucking toxic. Cut her out man
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I4NRulez 01/25/18 6:04:01 PM #79: |
CE getting worked like a bunch of marks.
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Xx09x7 01/25/18 6:05:43 PM #80: |
FrenchCrunch posted...
KainWind posted...She's mad because you haven't asked her out yet. So you asked her out, she said no, and she's still acting possessive over you? She's extremely selfish it sounds like. I doubt you'll cut ties with her though since she's a girl. --- Text. ... Copied to Clipboard!
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darkphoenix181 01/25/18 6:28:26 PM #81: |
FrenchCrunch posted...
so what's goin' on with you guys I told this girl that tonight she will hang out with me or I will tell the cops she raped me. She appears upset but is hanging with me right now. Good. Cause the other night she didn't want to hang and I broke a bunch of stuff. --- chill02 to me: you are beautiful ... Copied to Clipboard!
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FrenchCrunch 01/25/18 6:40:03 PM #82: |
Xx09x7 posted...
FrenchCrunch posted...KainWind posted...She's mad because you haven't asked her out yet. No I mean I dated her ... Copied to Clipboard!
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Lost_All_Senses 01/25/18 7:25:13 PM #83: |
FrenchCrunch posted...
so what's goin' on with you guys Waiting about 5 more long ass hours to play MHW at midnight. Trying to find stuff to do until then. Couldn't get into any other games. So you just gonna ghost her? You should at least let her know her attitude and extreme reactions are the reason. --- There will always be exceptions. ... Copied to Clipboard!
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FrenchCrunch 01/25/18 7:32:30 PM #84: |
Lost_All_Senses posted...
FrenchCrunch posted...so what's goin' on with you guys I'm going to ghost her abruptly by moving to a new apartment. For now I'll be cordial. Also what's MHW? ... Copied to Clipboard!
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ImTheMacheteGuy 01/25/18 7:57:49 PM #85: |
I4NRulez posted...
CE getting worked like a bunch of marks. Sometimes it's more fun to just roll with it and see where it goes. --- Place-holder sig because new phone and old sigs not saved :/ ... Copied to Clipboard!
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Xx09x7 01/25/18 8:24:30 PM #86: |
FrenchCrunch posted...
Xx09x7 posted...FrenchCrunch posted...KainWind posted...She's mad because you haven't asked her out yet. In which case, my statement stands even further. There's still that hope of a post-breakup hookup for you. If this were a dude, think you'd still be this guy's friend? Loooool no. I say sit down with her and tell her you're not with her anymore, and that you're allowed to do stuff for your other friends. I mean, you probably don't want to do that, but please don't let her walk all over you. --- Text. ... Copied to Clipboard!
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Offworlder1 01/25/18 8:25:14 PM #87: |
Aw come on now, this is fun, no reason CE cant be fun.
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FrenchCrunch 01/25/18 8:28:44 PM #88: |
Her: hello?
Me: hey Her: can i get you dinner? Me: no thank you, i'm not feeling well. if i feel up to eating i'll make a sandwich Her: ok 2 minutes go by Her: I didn't want to ask because I figured I'd get rejected. getting rejected feels bad makes me never want to reach out or make a move Me: I'm just not hungry. I'm not feeling great is all Her: ok. whatever Me:Whatever what Her: I guess I'll make dinner then Me: ok" Her: i won't reach out then. getting rejected blows Me: I said I don't feel well, that's not a rejection. Don't sour reaching out by trying to guilt after. Sometimes the other person can't talk or doesn t feel up to talking. It's not personal Her: didn't realize you can't oor don't feel up to talking. that's not for me to guess. i obviously understand that concept Me: You assumed rejection after I said i don't feel well Her: not feeling well is vague especially when you said you'd possibly make a sandwixh Me: ok sorry" Her: no problem, didn't mean to sour by sharing my feelings Me: You made reaching out about you. Couldn't you have left it when I thanked you and politefully declined dinner? I just want to shiver and rest, I'm sorry, I'm sorry for everything today okay Her: dude I'm not preventing that you won't hear from me again Me: Thank you, hope to talk tomorrow wanna guess who's who ... Copied to Clipboard!
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FrenchCrunch 01/25/18 8:33:55 PM #89: |
that guilt laden language bros
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Xx09x7 01/25/18 8:34:05 PM #90: |
FrenchCrunch posted...
"hello?" "I didn't want to ask because I figured I'd get rejected. getting rejected feels bad makes me never want to reach out or make a move" Gonna guess that was you. And I'm guessing you sent the last message too. If she actually sent those messages though, when it comes to your responses, good job overall, otherwise, yikes --- Text. ... Copied to Clipboard!
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FrenchCrunch 01/25/18 8:34:53 PM #91: |
Xx09x7 posted...
Gonna guess that was you. And I'm guessing you sent the last message too. If she actually sent those messages though, when it comes to your responses, good job overall, otherwise, yikes i guess i'll label it since that was her ... Copied to Clipboard!
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Xx09x7 01/25/18 8:37:22 PM #92: |
FrenchCrunch posted...
Xx09x7 posted...Gonna guess that was you. And I'm guessing you sent the last message too. If she actually sent those messages though, when it comes to your responses, good job overall, otherwise, yikes Oh okay then good job you handled that fairly well. Still, if this were a dude, he'd be blocked on everything and have a restraining order on him or something. I do hope she's otherwise a fantastic friend who maybe hasn't taken her meds in a while, otherwise she sounds like a completely awful person who's only still around because she has a vagina --- Text. ... Copied to Clipboard!
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FrenchCrunch 01/25/18 8:41:21 PM #93: |
thanks @Xx09x7 i guess. i feel super bad. i have a feeling she's gonna message me soon about how i'm being controlling by determining when we talk
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Xx09x7 01/25/18 8:44:59 PM #94: |
FrenchCrunch posted...
thanks @Xx09x7 i guess. i feel super bad. i have a feeling she's gonna message me soon about how i'm being controlling by determining when we talk Obvs if she said that that's being controlling in and of itself trying to guilt you into talking to her/give her attention. Plus, weren't you guys like, just talking? --- Text. ... Copied to Clipboard!
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SpiralDrift 01/25/18 8:45:32 PM #95: |
Suggest a friendly game of Frisbee to thaw the ice, and then utterly fucking dominate her and crotch thrust the air after every point.
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FrenchCrunch 01/25/18 8:47:27 PM #96: |
Xx09x7 posted...
FrenchCrunch posted...thanks @Xx09x7 i guess. i feel super bad. i have a feeling she's gonna message me soon about how i'm being controlling by determining when we talk yeah she never sticks to it when she sulks off. it never lasts long. i have constant anxiety and my heart is always up in my throat because she could message me at any time and make me feel exponentially terrible ... Copied to Clipboard!
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Xx09x7 01/25/18 8:51:44 PM #97: |
FrenchCrunch posted...
Xx09x7 posted...FrenchCrunch posted...thanks @Xx09x7 i guess. i feel super bad. i have a feeling she's gonna message me soon about how i'm being controlling by determining when we talk Well since you aren't feeling well, and still want to be friends with this girl, you could just re-iterate to her that you're not feeling well at the moment and you'll be able to talk to her later, perhaps tomorrow, and that it's nothing against her. --- Text. ... Copied to Clipboard!
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FrenchCrunch 01/25/18 8:52:44 PM #98: |
haha
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SSMajinVegeta2 01/25/18 9:03:27 PM #99: |
MACisBack posted...
You won't like my answer, read at your own risk. Theres ABSOLUTELY NO REASON to be treated that way. Dont try to defend her. Just drop it like its hot. @FrenchCrunch SHE IS MANIPULATING you to make you feel terrible. You did nothing but be kind to fellow Co workers. --- On my business card, I am a corporate president. In my mind, I am a game developer. But in my heart, I am a gamer. Satoru Iwata, 1959 - 2015 RIP GP God bless ... Copied to Clipboard!
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SpiralDrift 01/25/18 9:04:05 PM #100: |
The fact that she's still engaging with you shows that she wants to resolve it. Maybe she just doesn't know how to, or expects you to resolve it for her.
Either way your best bet is to just tell her how much you value her as a friend and really focus more on that than on the little details and semantics that are so easy to get stuck on. Every time she tries to focus in on one of those details just reiterate how much you appreciate her friendship. --- Do unto others what your parents did to you. ... Copied to Clipboard!
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