Poll of the Day > My life is objectively good from the outside, but I'm miserable.

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I never create topics like this, because I don't like making my problems anybody else's, but I'm fucking fed up and I need to vent. Fuck. My wife's being so emo lately and I feel like things are not going well. I'm trying to change that, but failing miserably, apparently. I even baked her a cake for her birthday. I didn't even know how to do laundry until I was in my twenties because I was so privileged (as a point of comparison).

One of her best friends is this mentally ill stoner who, for an example as to where her head is at, thinks the Deadpool movie was shitty because they didn't use the mouthless one from the X-Men Origins: Wolverine movie. Yet, my wife thinks she's cool, and I can't help but wonder if her fucking Rasputin ass is part of what's going on.

She's so miserable and distant and even though I know it's not "over" it feels like it is right in this moment of heightened emotion. I really don't know what to do. I just don't even want to be at home anymore the past few days. I went out for drinks with my dad, which was nice, but I'm seriously not sure how much longer I can exist in this situation. I'm bipolar 1... If you know anything about that, it means things can go off the fucking rails fast. My doctor almost committed me last year because I got pissed off at the neighbours and ripped a bunch of skin off my forehead in a fit of rage because the cops weren't shutting them up fast enough.

I apologize for being "one of those people", but I'm fucking losing it right now.
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Take a vacation
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"Emo," you say?

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=DPKfvcqCzzs

TES_Nut posted...

Take a vacation

Nah, I hate travelling. In all honesty, I'd be happy to just use my EU passport and go for a while, but I'd miss my parrots and don't have that kind of money, so here we are. I love her, I just hate exiting in such a toxic environment. I'm not suicidal, for clarity's sake, but I wish I was dead. This just feels awful day in, day out to be around.
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Maybe you just need to talk to her. I'm not sure if it's really the best. But I know that sometimes, when people just talk to the other person, It can help. Maybe there's something that's bothering her that you could help with. But I honestly have no idea what would be the best thing to do in this situation...
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Yeah have you talked to your wife? Asked her how she's feeling? She could be depressed or something and keeping it to herself. Or she may have some problem with the relationship that she's foolishly not bringing up. Or any number of things.

Are you on meds for your bipolar? If so, have you felt pretty stable? Proper medication helps a lot.

Also bipolar and I got so stressed out by reality that I ended up psychotic and delusional and somewhat violent. And ended up in a mental hospital twice. I hope you don't end up with a similar problem from this stress. Take care of yourself.
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LinkPizza posted...

Maybe you just need to talk to her. I'm not sure if it's really the best. But I know that sometimes, when people just talk to the other person, It can help. Maybe there's something that's bothering her that you could help with. But I honestly have no idea what would be the best thing to do in this situation...

In this instance it won't go anywhere. Normally that's a great way to resolve it, but it's not working now. It could be PMS (I hate pulling that card), but it feels like she's just checked out. I'm prone to paranoia, I'll admit, but I guarantee that fucking dirtbag friend of hers is at least partly to blame and probably escalated anything that's going on. That chick's tagline should be "walking clusterfuck with subnormal intelligence"...
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