Current Events > New job... everyone think I am straight...

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I was starting to feel comfortable at my old job even though it was a shitty student job...

I feel like I should stop being a coward about this, but I can't help feeling concerned about it all the time...
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Unless youre being asked to come to after work functions all the time I dont see why this would matter.
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masticatingman posted...

Unless youre being asked to come to after work functions all the time I dont see why this would matter.

Because he wants to be a special snowflake
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next time lad banter about a fine lass or whatever comes up just drop a heavy hint that they aren't your thing or something. this is the only situation where i can see your orientation being relevant tbh..
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APM posted...

masticatingman posted...

Unless youre being asked to come to after work functions all the time I dont see why this would matter.

Because he wants to be a special snowflake

Actually it's because that I am afraid that people will think I want to be a special snowflake. Also I dunno yet if my coworkers are homophobes.

Also I got straight coworkers who went "hey man did you see that hot chick" and I was like... yeah, but I don't really care about it.

But I hope that using generic right wing buzzwords made you feel unique and special.
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Back_Stabbath posted...

next time lad banter about a fine lass or whatever comes up just drop a heavy hint that they aren't your thing or something. this is the only situation where i can see your orientation being relevant tbh..

I see straight guys bonding with other coworkers about girls they like all the time.
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It's only a problem if someone makes it a problem. Most people are pretty accepting now, but never know.
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Just answer any questions like this:


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OpheliaAdenade posted...

Just answer any questions like this:

But they never ask. They always assume I am straight.
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yeah, I have gay friend who complain that every new job they feel like they have to "come out" again
in fact one lesbian friend said she used "my girlfriend" like every day and they still didn't realize she was gay until she brought her to a company picnic
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Unless you work in the adult film industry, it doesn't matter.

people at work still don't think I am straight
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Are you wanting to be buddy buddy with the straight guys? If you don't like talking about the hot babes, then maybe sports, or whatever else straight dudes are into?
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masticatingman posted...

Unless youre being asked to come to after work functions all the time I dont see why this would matter.

This. What does your sexuality matter at the work place unless it somehow directly relates to the job itself?

I don't feel the need to stand up at work and be like, listen guys, I like vagina.

Not trying to be disrespectful, but it's a job, where you go to make money. The rest isn't their business, and vice versa.
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prince_leo posted...

in fact one lesbian friend said she used "my girlfriend" like every day and they still didn't realize she was gay until she brought her to a company picnic

I mean, "girlfriend" is a term often used by straight girls to refer to their female friends.
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epik_fail1 posted...

Also I got straight coworkers who went "hey man did you see that hot chick" and I was like... yeah, but I don't really care about it.

But I hope that using generic right wing buzzwords made you feel unique and special.

That's interesting. How do liberal guys generally talk about hot girls? Or do they never point them out to each other?
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MabusIncarnate posted...

masticatingman posted...

Unless youre being asked to come to after work functions all the time I dont see why this would matter.

This. What does your sexuality matter at the work place unless it somehow directly relates to the job itself?

I don't feel the need to stand up at work and be like, listen guys, I like vagina.

Not trying to be disrespectful, but it's a job, where you go to make money. The rest isn't their business, and vice versa.

That's the thing... Straight guys casually talk about how much they like vagina at their jobs and the thing is... they rarely realise how often they talk about it. And why it matters? Well because you know I actually bonded with coworkers at my old crappy job. I am paid well now, but I feel a little alone even if they are nice with me. Maybe you would understand if you worked at a gay bar and everyone casually talked about gay sex.
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MabusIncarnate posted...

masticatingman posted...

Unless youre being asked to come to after work functions all the time I dont see why this would matter.

This. What does your sexuality matter at the work place unless it somehow directly relates to the job itself?

I don't feel the need to stand up at work and be like, listen guys, I like vagina.

Not trying to be disrespectful, but it's a job, where you go to make money. The rest isn't their business, and vice versa.

Do you guys just not talk to anyone at your job cause guys frequently talk about girls on the job and well anywhere. I could see how that would be uncomfortable for a gay guy getting treated like a straight guy

Capn Circus posted...

epik_fail1 posted...

Also I got straight coworkers who went "hey man did you see that hot chick" and I was like... yeah, but I don't really care about it.

But I hope that using generic right wing buzzwords made you feel unique and special.

That's interesting. How do liberal guys generally talk about hot girls? Or do they never point them out to each other?

I have no clue wtf you are talking about, but I was refering to the "snowflake" comment when I mentioned "generic right wing buzzwords ".
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Capn Circus is just being dishonest by quoting you without the post you quoted and trying to derail the topic. Ignore him

Axiom posted...

Capn Circus is just being dishonest by quoting you without the post you quoted and trying to derail the topic. Ignore him

There's a reason the word "circus" is in his name.
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epik_fail1 posted...

MabusIncarnate posted...

masticatingman posted...

Unless youre being asked to come to after work functions all the time I dont see why this would matter.

This. What does your sexuality matter at the work place unless it somehow directly relates to the job itself?

I don't feel the need to stand up at work and be like, listen guys, I like vagina.

Not trying to be disrespectful, but it's a job, where you go to make money. The rest isn't their business, and vice versa.

That's the thing... Straight guys casually talk about how much they like vagina at their jobs and the thing is... they rarely realise how often they talk about it. And why it matters? Well because you know I actually bonded with coworkers at my old crappy job. I am paid well now, but I feel a little alone even if they are nice with me. Maybe you would understand if you worked at a gay bar and everyone casually talked about gay sex.

I get that to an extent. My brother, and my wife's brother are both gay, and i'm around them both quite a bit. Neither of them are too reserved when talking, especially to each other in get togethers. I've been around it long enough that there's no awkward for me, and it never really has been. Where I work though, and have worked, it's been a pretty even balance of men and women, so men tend to refrain from "locker room talk" for the most part.

But fact is I am straight, so no, I don't have a full understanding. I just think maybe you are looking too deep into it and concerning yourself about what others are going to think about you, and you shouldn't.
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epik_fail1 posted...

Capn Circus posted...

epik_fail1 posted...

Also I got straight coworkers who went "hey man did you see that hot chick" and I was like... yeah, but I don't really care about it.

But I hope that using generic right wing buzzwords made you feel unique and special.

That's interesting. How do liberal guys generally talk about hot girls? Or do they never point them out to each other?

I have no clue wtf you are talking about, but I was refering to the "snowflake" comment when I mentioned "generic right wing buzzwords ".

Okay, gotcha. Sorry. Maybe I should have put two and two together, but the plural in buzzword threw me off. In all fairness, with all of these leftist movements going on it's hard to keep up, so it wouldn't surprise me if saying "look at that hot chick" was considered right wing.

Anyway.. How straight acting would you consider yourself? If you never expressed any excitement and never actively talked about women with them---would they ever suspect you were gay? Or would it just be matter of time before they thought "maybe he might be gay"?

Personally, I don't bring it up unless specifically asked about my relationship status or if a question is more relevant than general. "Do you have a girlfriend?" --- "No, but I have a boyfriend/No, I'm actually not attracted to girls".
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epik_fail1 posted...

MabusIncarnate posted...

masticatingman posted...

Unless youre being asked to come to after work functions all the time I dont see why this would matter.

This. What does your sexuality matter at the work place unless it somehow directly relates to the job itself?

I don't feel the need to stand up at work and be like, listen guys, I like vagina.

Not trying to be disrespectful, but it's a job, where you go to make money. The rest isn't their business, and vice versa.

That's the thing... Straight guys casually talk about how much they like vagina at their jobs and the thing is... they rarely realise how often they talk about it. And why it matters? Well because you know I actually bonded with coworkers at my old crappy job. I am paid well now, but I feel a little alone even if they are nice with me. Maybe you would understand if you worked at a gay bar and everyone casually talked about gay sex.

A lot of the strippers at gay bars are straight dudes who get hired for their looks/muscles. And bars in general arent the most normal workplace.
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masticatingman posted...

epik_fail1 posted...

MabusIncarnate posted...

masticatingman posted...

Unless youre being asked to come to after work functions all the time I dont see why this would matter.

This. What does your sexuality matter at the work place unless it somehow directly relates to the job itself?

I don't feel the need to stand up at work and be like, listen guys, I like vagina.

Not trying to be disrespectful, but it's a job, where you go to make money. The rest isn't their business, and vice versa.

That's the thing... Straight guys casually talk about how much they like vagina at their jobs and the thing is... they rarely realise how often they talk about it. And why it matters? Well because you know I actually bonded with coworkers at my old crappy job. I am paid well now, but I feel a little alone even if they are nice with me. Maybe you would understand if you worked at a gay bar and everyone casually talked about gay sex.

A lot of the strippers at gay bars are straight dudes who get hired for their looks/muscles. And bars in general arent the most normal workplace.

I worked at a gay bar before and while their was two guys who fit your description... it was two out of like 30 employees
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Axiom posted...

Capn Circus is just being dishonest by quoting you without the post you quoted and trying to derail the topic. Ignore him

lol, you're so bad. It was an innocent mistake. He made "buzzword" plural so it threw me off, I've had a little wine, and it's not inconceivable that the left could start taking a stance of "calling girls hot is bad".
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epik_fail1 posted...

masticatingman posted...

epik_fail1 posted...

MabusIncarnate posted...

masticatingman posted...

Unless youre being asked to come to after work functions all the time I dont see why this would matter.

This. What does your sexuality matter at the work place unless it somehow directly relates to the job itself?

I don't feel the need to stand up at work and be like, listen guys, I like vagina.

Not trying to be disrespectful, but it's a job, where you go to make money. The rest isn't their business, and vice versa.

That's the thing... Straight guys casually talk about how much they like vagina at their jobs and the thing is... they rarely realise how often they talk about it. And why it matters? Well because you know I actually bonded with coworkers at my old crappy job. I am paid well now, but I feel a little alone even if they are nice with me. Maybe you would understand if you worked at a gay bar and everyone casually talked about gay sex.

A lot of the strippers at gay bars are straight dudes who get hired for their looks/muscles. And bars in general arent the most normal workplace.

I worked at a gay bar before and while their was two guys who fit your description... it was two out of like 30 employees

Hey man, just inputting from what Ive seen.

Bottom line is youre making too big a deal outta this.
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BLAKUboy posted...

I mean, "girlfriend" is a term often used by straight girls to refer to their female friends.

you are correct, yes
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