Current Events > TBH no sex before marriage is a good idea to follow

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Marriage is arbitrary, but it draws a line and given the commitments of marriage, it makes sex more meaningful.

You can still make out and stuff, so it's not like you have no idea what the other person is like sexually
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If you aren't sexually comparable the chances of divorce skyrockets. Sex is extremely important to the stability of a relationship I just wish more people (like my gf) understood that.
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If a couple is not sexually comparable then the husband is very likely to cheat, only a very sheltered person would think no sex before marriage is a good thing.

No sane person wants a woman who refused to give a blow job nor would most women want a guy who refuses to go down on her.
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That is the default response, but you don't need penetration to know if you're sexually compatible
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Thats the real answer though, sex matters and some women have low as hell sex drives which means a guy who marries a woman like that has two options: divorce or cheat.

If the guy finds out about the low sex drive before putting a ring on her finger he can get the fuck out of there wothout any real trouble.
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Damn_Underscore posted...

you don't need penetration to know if you're sexually compatible

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Are you a virgin?
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Does virgin mean no penetration? Yes
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No sex before marriage was only ever a thing because people (just the girls, actually) were being married at 14 years old or younger in some cases throughout human history. It didn't really change until the industrial revolution & general death of feudalism.
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So you think there's no value in waiting to have sex? Do you care if she or he has had sex with multiple partners? If so, where do you draw the line?

I personally wouldn't want to do any sexual stuff at all on the first few dates.
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Damn_Underscore posted...

So you think there's no value in waiting to have sex? Do you care if she or he has had sex with multiple partners? If so, where do you draw the line?

I personally wouldn't want to do any sexual stuff at all on the first few dates.

You stick your dick in whatever you want whenever you want (as long as it's consensual)

But I'm telling you that it's a bad idea to wait until after marriage. I think marriage itself is also a bad idea.
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@Damn_Underscore

You post like a virgin who does not live in reality or is very sheltered.
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ok
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I think it's a horrible idea, personally, and wouldn't date a girl if that's the way she wanted it.
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Tyranthraxus posted...

But I'm telling you that it's a bad idea to wait until after marriage. I think marriage itself is also a bad idea.

Then forget the marriage thing.

Instead of waiting until marriage, wait until you're with the person who you plan to be with forever.
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Damn_Underscore posted...

Tyranthraxus posted...

But I'm telling you that it's a bad idea to wait until after marriage. I think marriage itself is also a bad idea.

Then forget the marriage thing.

Instead of waiting until marriage, wait until you're with the person who you plan to be with forever.

I wouldn't know if I found this person unless I've had sex with them among other things.
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Ugh yeah, you kind of need to know if you guys are sexually compatible with each other. There is such thing as bad sex and if you're stuck with the person for a lifetime then the chances of divorce can skyrocket. Sex isn't something we need to put on a pedestal, but I would also say that having it too often can also hurt a relationship as well. Moderation is key.
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Damn_Underscore posted...

Damn_Underscore posted...

you don't need penetration to know if you're sexually compatible

Imagine actually believing this.

You don't need penetration to know if you're sexually compatible!

Unless she secretly has spikes in her vagina or something
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Damn_Underscore posted...

You don't need penetration to know if you're sexually compatible!

Unless she secretly has spikes in her vagina or something

It's the easiest way to know though. I heard of stories from girls where the guy's dong is too large that when they try to do anal, it ended hurting them.
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Damn_Underscore posted...

You don't need penetration to know if you're sexually compatible!

Unless she secretly has spikes in her vagina or something

Nah, man, you do.

Some girls don't like being penetrated. A rare few dudes don't enjoy penetrating. Same goes on both sides for gay dudes.

It's not heterosexual sex if there's no penetration.

Sexual compatibility is a made up thing by people trying to validate why they sleep around, like theyre doing a service to themselves.

Theres no real benefit to premarital sex, I wish I had realized this before I was married but thats life.
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Romulox28 posted...

Sexual compatibility is a made up thing by people trying to validate why they sleep around, like theyre doing a service to themselves.

Theres no real benefit to premarital sex, I wish I had realized this before I was married but thats life.

I feel so bad for your spouse and the shitty sex they have to endure with you.

I shouldn't have said before marriage, because people are focusing on only that.
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_Rinku_ posted...

Romulox28 posted...

Sexual compatibility is a made up thing by people trying to validate why they sleep around, like theyre doing a service to themselves.

Theres no real benefit to premarital sex, I wish I had realized this before I was married but thats life.

I feel so bad for your spouse and the shitty sex they have to endure with you.

My wife and I both have had sex with other ppl before we got together. I dont feel that it was beneficial or impactful in any way to developing our sex life. How could it be? When you have a relationship you have to figure out this stuff together
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No sex before you and your potential partners are ready.

That's the only rule you need.

Conflict posted...

"makes sex more meaningful"

Hilarious myth

Seriously, most people realize how stupid that phrase is the moment they actually have sex. I mean more power to ya if you are a virgin and happy about it, but thinking that sex becomes more meaningful because you waited is stupid.
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Maybe eventually waiting longer doesn't do anything, but the entire point of one night stands is meaningless sex. Having sex on the first date is meaningless sex.
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There is a lot of room between "dont fuck on the first date/have casual sex with strangers" and "dont have sex until you're married"
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Damn_Underscore posted...

Having sex on the first date is meaningless sex.

I agree, as someone else posted that you don't have sex until both partners are ready. Though I didn't state that because I thought it was pretty obvious.
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