Current Events > 28k paid on my wedding, 21k to go

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TC is doomed

My wedding was 7 or 8 grand (in 15 years ago money) and I thought that was super expensive.
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What's making it so expensive? What's going to be making it unique?

How long have you been planning it?
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Thats an expensive wedding but its your life. Only you two know if its right for you.

We spent $11-12k and got like $5k back in gifts. Zero regrets, I remember the day almost photographically. CEmen are just bitter/cynical.
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Eat More Beef posted...

Here's a picture of my grooms people.

https://imgur.com/ZI0kVZr

That is AWESOME.
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It's been asked but what exactly will make this unique and stuff? What are some plans?

50k is a bit excessive but no one really cares. You two seem to be well off. I'd personally use like 40k on a nice vacation as a celebration.

Wedding food? Pot luck. Make every group bring a meal to share.
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Ours was a little over $60k (her parents paid almost half tho)....thinking back it obviously would be nice to have that extra money now, but if I had to do it all over again, I wouldn't change a thing

Edit: I probably should add our honeymoon flights/hotels were free because I stocked up on miles/points when I used to travel for work which is partly why we spent a little extra on the wedding
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JustMyOpinion posted...

What the hell kind of vacation costs 40k? You staying at a 5 star hotel in the Maldives for a month?

Maybe go see a lot of places. Traveling, food, hotel and buying random keepsakes add up.

Probably not even 40k but that's not the point. I'd utilize money elsewhere.
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Skurvy_1 posted...

Ours was a little over $60k (her parents paid almost half tho)....thinking back it obviously would be nice to have that extra money now, but if I had to do it all over again, I wouldn't change a thing

Edit: I probably should add our honeymoon flights/hotels were free because I stocked up on miles/points when I used to travel for work which is partly why we spent a little extra on the wedding

Educate me. What makes the wedding cost so much? Food, alcohol, location? What exactly made it cost so much
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I anxiously await my save the date.
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While $50K is expensive, it's not really that crazy because that's about the going rate for a good wedding these days.

Listen the sad reality is that you're not gonna make the money back with gifts. People are typically cheap and don't like going to weddings. It's considered an inconvenience these days. Yes family will and SHOULD come through for you guys but again...if your immediate family is contributing towards the wedding then that's their gift to you. Don't expect much more in the way of cash. Also you'll be surprised by how badly your friends screw you on the gift and give the bare minimum. It's a real eye-opener.

The other disappointment of weddings is that as the royal couple, you don't really get a chance to really enjoy it. Too much of the day is spent on staged pictures and making your way around greeting all the guests. You barely get to enjoy the open bar or food that's served. It's an exhausting, whirlwind of a day. And if something goes wrong, it can put the groom or bride in a bad mood for the entire event.
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YellowSUV posted...

There is no point to a 50k wedding besides wasting money.

Yeah this is absolutely outrageous. Your wedding should not exceed my entire student loaon debt.
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holy shit, and I thought my cousin was crazy for spending $15k on his wedding. Im glad my fianc and I agreed to just go to the court house and get our papers
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My wedding was probably about $4-5k. It was rushed and we want to do a vow renewal at some point and do it right.
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emblem boy posted...

Skurvy_1 posted...

Ours was a little over $60k (her parents paid almost half tho)....thinking back it obviously would be nice to have that extra money now, but if I had to do it all over again, I wouldn't change a thing

Edit: I probably should add our honeymoon flights/hotels were free because I stocked up on miles/points when I used to travel for work which is partly why we spent a little extra on the wedding

Educate me. What makes the wedding cost so much? Food, alcohol, location? What exactly made it cost so much

Well we had a guest count of about 225 people and a full open bar...also the venue was in Aliso Viejo orange county (nice area)...we also paid for an in n out truck for a surprise at the end of the night

Other costs include dj, she wanted special linens/chairs, floral arrangements, photo booth, gelato booth, etc.
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Sad_Face posted...

Eat More Beef posted...

Here's a picture of my grooms people.

https://imgur.com/ZI0kVZr

That is AWESOME.

Thanks dude!
JustMyOpinion posted...

What the hell kind of vacation costs 40k? You staying at a 5 star hotel in the Maldives for a month?

You can spend a lot, depending. Most I ever dropped was 10k during a three week back-packing trip through Western Europe; mind you I'd been on tour in Afghanistan and this was my leave away from it. I'd spent the previous 40 odd days prior to going back to Kandahar and hoping on a plane sleeping in a hole I'd dug myself in the northern mountains, so i kinda went a little crazy on the booze and hotels, heh
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JustMyOpinion posted...

Are you looking to celebrate your love or are you looking to profit off friends and family?

Um...yeah? That's the whole point of a wedding bud. That's why people have them. The idea is that the money is supposed to get the newlyweds started off on the right foot. I didn't say that they would get all the money back. But getting 15-20k should be considered a win. Also minimum gift expected per guest is $150...which is theoretically supposed to be the cost of your plate and drinks.
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JustMyOpinion posted...

What the hell kind of vacation costs 40k? You staying at a 5 star hotel in the Maldives for a month?

luxury safaris can run you this much or more
especially if you have private helicopters, private camps, private guides etc
most i spent on a vacation was just over 50k but it was a phenomenal experience

people on CE are cheap as hell
never spent more than $200 on a wedding gift? when my best friend got married i flew them and their fiance overseas to join me for a week long wine tour around europe as the wedding gift
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lesidesi posted...

people on CE are cheap as hell
never spent more than $200 on a wedding gift?

lol seriously. bunch of cheap fucks on this board. Me and my girl gave $500 to close friends of ours that got married.
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when you're old enough, you'll understand. It's not just a party. It's a huge financial undertaking. Get that fairytale bullshit outta here.
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That's great man. Hope it works out for you and you're not in debt as a result.
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lesidesi posted...

people on CE are cheap as hell

no, people on CE are poor working class people largely

not all of us have the luxury of being able to throw money away like that
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DavidWong posted...

Damn weddings are expensive.

Wow. Life is so funny when you look at the discrepancies what we will or won't pay for something.

How much you wanna make a bet I can throw a football over them mountains?
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make sure the food is good, alcohol is free, and have bangers playing all night. only things people remember about weddings.
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Eat More Beef posted...

https://imgur.com/ZI0kVZr

Badass
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Vermander posted...

YellowSUV posted...

There is no point to a 50k wedding besides wasting money.

Yeah this is absolutely outrageous. Your wedding should not exceed my entire student loaon debt.

Or double mine :
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Sure
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What a waste of money, all that would be better spent on your honeymoon.
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If you went skydiving with four people and I told you three random parachutes wont open, would you still do it? No? Well that's the chance of the divorce rate.
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JustMyOpinion posted...

The divorce rate isn't 75%. And you don't literally die if you get a divorce.

youll wish you had died instead.

You aren't going to make a profit on gifts...lol. But hey, you do you, I guess. My wife and I spent about 15k on ours. Good experience at the time but in retrospect, we definitely wish we would have saved that and done something much smaller.
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Hes already commited and has wasted a lot of money, no one is going to change his mind about marrying this person now with 28k pissed away already.

I have a lot of money and have spent crap loads traveling with my sweethearts but this is just sad stupid wasting money.

There is no reason to waste all that money for 1 day, a trip around the world is a better use of money (its on our travel list and we all look forward to it).

@PIITB415
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FluttershyPony posted...

JustMyOpinion posted...

The divorce rate isn't 75%. And you don't literally die if you get a divorce.

youll wish you had died instead.

Exactly
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A lot of men have been taken to the cleaners with a divorce, they literally get divorce screwed and go from living decently to barely surviving in a shit hole apartment.

Divorce almost always favors the woman and she has so much to gain while the man has everything to lose.
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Do people pay for weddings in cash? Or take out a loan or something?
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emblem boy posted...

Do people pay for weddings in cash? Or take out a loan or something?

payments to the venue are usually done in installments, but everything else is up front money out of someone's pocket.
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Mango Sauce posted...

lesidesi posted...

ppl itt mad that TC has enough money to afford a dope wedding

if he's doing it in payments then he literally doesn't.

For 50k you can have a nice car or a down payment on a home instead.

I am not surprised this board is cheap given a lot of NEETs post here.
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A nice car or a down payment on a home is still a better use of 50k, your getting more out of it, and its going towards something worth the money not some stupid 1 day wedding.

@DragonGirlYuki
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Agreed. A few coworkers I have talked to would have preferred the money going towards a home instead of a 1 day party.
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Good luck. It's been well documented that expensive weddings lead to divorce due to financial problems.
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Where did @DavidWong go?
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Probably drinking away the pain of truth.
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