Current Events > I'm in a long distance open relationship AMA

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To make a long story short, me and the gf have been together for a few years, but because we're both pursuing graduate degrees in different cities we won't be together physically for at least a few mlre years.

However, we both have pretty high sex drives and decided to have sex with other people at least until we're back together full time.

AMA

So you're not in a relationship.
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I think that's called not being in a relationship
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Meh we still have a commitment to each other, and try to visit as often as we can.

Being in a relationship is way more than sex lol

I mean it really sounds like you guys are pen pals tbqh
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eston posted...

I mean it really sounds like you guys are pen pals tbqh

Naw. We regularly schedule visits like anyone in a long distance relationship, which is usually every few weeks, skype all the time, etc

Does she tell you about the hot, throbbing cock she took last night with a big ol smile on her face while you guys Skype?
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PoopPotato posted...

Does she tell you about the hot, throbbing cock she took last night with a big ol smile on her face while you guys Skype?

Do you ever tell her.
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PoopPotato posted...

Does she tell you about the hot, throbbing cock she took last night with a big ol smile on her face while you guys Skype?

We share stories. Hers haven't seemed to be great tbh.

But yeah, you can easily get jealous, but once you realize she's going through the same thing it isn't so bad

Is she Asian?
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Flockaveli posted...

Is she Asian?

Why would that matter?

KhanJohnny posted...

Flockaveli posted...

Is she Asian?

Why would that matter?

For his fetishes.
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Th3_Butt3rfly posted...

KhanJohnny posted...

Flockaveli posted...

Is she Asian?

Why would that matter?

For his fetishes.

But what difference does it make to him lol

KhanJohnny posted...

eston posted...

I mean it really sounds like you guys are pen pals tbqh

Naw. We regularly schedule visits like anyone in a long distance relationship, which is usually every few weeks, skype all the time, etc

If you see her once a month or so I'd think you guys could remain monagomous. Lots of people manage to go a week or two without sex and as far as I know they are fine.
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Th3_Butt3rfly posted...

If you see her once a month or so I'd think you guys could remain monagomous. Lots of people manage to go a week or two without sex and as far as I know they are fine.

some can't
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KhanJohnny posted...

Flockaveli posted...

Is she Asian?

Why would that matter?

Sounds like something a hot nerdy Asian babe with daddy issues would suggest. From my experience, at least.
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aren't you afraid of falling in love with other people, since you are getting intimate with others.
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Th3_Butt3rfly posted...

KhanJohnny posted...

eston posted...

I mean it really sounds like you guys are pen pals tbqh

Naw. We regularly schedule visits like anyone in a long distance relationship, which is usually every few weeks, skype all the time, etc

If you see her once a month or so I'd think you guys could remain monagomous. Lots of people manage to go a week or two without sex and as far as I know they are fine.

At least right now we usually see each other closer to every two months, although that might change soon. It's unclear.

ALIEN_WORK2HOP posted...

aren't you afraid of falling in love with other people, since you are getting intimate with others.

Nah. I can stay pretty detached easily. It's my default state, really.

I trust her to not fall in love with anyone. But she's a really emotional person, and has invested a lot of that in me. More likely than not, my natural detachment would ruin our relationship if it came to that, not having sex with other people.

Is this your first open relationship? Is it hers?
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AlabamaLove posted...

Is this your first open relationship? Is it hers?

Yes and yes

We also had very limited sexual partners before this, since we dated pretty much all through college purely monogamously. So we both kinda felt like we missed out on the wild college experience too.

so you're both sloots.
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Abyssea posted...

so you're both sloots.

We are now. srs.

Back in my day, we called this friend's with benefits
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PoopPotato posted...

Back in my day, we called this friend's with benefits

Nah. FWB is entirely different. There's no commitment there. I have a full commitment with this girl and once we get in place I'll probably marry her.

I do have FWBs on the side now though lol

Lmao you get to see each other weekly but still dont have enough self control to not stick dick in every hole you get
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So assuming y'all stay together and reunite, will you still sex other people?
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Well shit, if that's the criteria then I'm in a long distance open relationship with Scarlett Johansen

you're gonna get the herp
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SoundNetwork posted...

Lmao you get to see each other weekly but still dont have enough self control to not stick dick in every hole you get

Its just two people doing what makes them happy. Theres nothing wrong with that.

Seems like a lot of jealous users in this topic tbqh.
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SoundNetwork posted...

Lmao you get to see each other weekly but still dont have enough self control to not stick dick in every hole you get

We dont see each other weekly. Did you read the topic at all? We see each other a few days like every two months lol

AlabamaLove posted...

So assuming y'all stay together and reunite, will you still sex other people?

The plan is that we wouldn't, but who really knows. We never would have thought we'd be doing this.

But practically speaking, having a gf is just so much easier for getting sex, and she knows what I like lol. I don't have to waste time or money buying drinks for a girl that's not going to give it up until like the fourth date or some nonsense.

Assuming this happened, why does everyone keep saying TC is "not in a relationship?"

They can stay emotionally connected but go bang other people, it's not a big deal.

Hell I'd be ripping TC if he was in a long-distance relationship and didn't work out some kind of arrangement where extracurricular sex was on the table.

Y'all should be congratulating him
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what happens if she sleeps with a guy that knocks her socks off and you can't compare anymore? What if she decides she'd rather date Tyrone instead?

Would you be okay with her having two boyfriends? Like, you'd all live in the same house together and you'd take turns.
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Abyssea posted...

what happens if she sleeps with a guy that knocks her socks off and you can't compare anymore? What if she decides she'd rather date Tyrone instead?

Would you be okay with her having two boyfriends? Like, you'd all live in the same house together and you'd take turns.

No she cant have another boyfriend lol

I mean, yeah, there's a risk she has really good sex with someone else, but she also faces the same risk that I bang some girl with huge tits and a tight ass, that she doesn't measure up to.

So far at least, she still seems to really want my D.

KhanJohnny posted...

No she cant have another boyfriend lolI mean, yeah, there's a risk she has really good sex with someone else, but she also faces the same risk that I bang some girl with huge tits and a tight ass, that she doesn't measure up to.So far at least, she still seems to really want my D.

But what if she wants another boyfriend after having sex with Tyrone? :v Do you love her enough to live with Tyrone too?
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Burgess posted...

So you're not in a relationship.

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Muffinz0rz posted...

Assuming this happened, why does everyone keep saying TC is "not in a relationship?"

They can stay emotionally connected but go bang other people, it's not a big deal.

Hell I'd be ripping TC if he was in a long-distance relationship and didn't work out some kind of arrangement where extracurricular sex was on the table.

Y'all should be congratulating him

They're just mad because it sounds like an awesome lifestyle, when it really isn't that great.

I mean it is nice having a girl I can always rely on and still go out to meet other women. But it's not like I'm having a ton of sex either way. I still have to spend a ton of time on tinder or whatever app grinding for matches like every other guy, and then court these women. I get much less overall now, than when I lived with my gf.

Abyssea posted...

KhanJohnny posted...

No she cant have another boyfriend lolI mean, yeah, there's a risk she has really good sex with someone else, but she also faces the same risk that I bang some girl with huge tits and a tight ass, that she doesn't measure up to.So far at least, she still seems to really want my D.

But what if she wants another boyfriend after having sex with Tyrone? :v Do you love her enough to live with Tyrone too?

Nah

KhanJohnny posted...

Meh we still have a commitment to each other, and try to visit as often as we can.

Being in a relationship is way more than sex lol

Are there some people who can make it work? Sure. But sex and emotional connections often go hand-in-hand if theres chemistry, so good luck with that.
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Women don't operate like this. She's gonna leave you eventually. Monkeys don't let go of one branch until they they take hold of another. It's the same thing here.
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KhanJohnny posted...

Muffinz0rz posted...

Assuming this happened, why does everyone keep saying TC is "not in a relationship?"

They can stay emotionally connected but go bang other people, it's not a big deal.

Hell I'd be ripping TC if he was in a long-distance relationship and didn't work out some kind of arrangement where extracurricular sex was on the table.

Y'all should be congratulating him

They're just mad because it sounds like an awesome lifestyle, when it really isn't that great.

I mean it is nice having a girl I can always rely on and still go out to meet other women. But it's not like I'm having a ton of sex either way. I still have to spend a ton of time on tinder or whatever app grinding for matches like every other guy, and then court these women. I get much less overall now, than when I lived with my gf.

I actually think the lifestyle does not sound awesome, but you're still getting occasional sex which means you're better off than 95% of CE

Axe the whole "long-distance girlfriend with whom I have to speak all the time" part and yes it becomes awesome again.
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EnragedSlith posted...

KhanJohnny posted...

Meh we still have a commitment to each other, and try to visit as often as we can.

Being in a relationship is way more than sex lol

Are there some people who can make it work? Sure. But sex and emotional connections often go hand-in-hand if theres chemistry, so good luck with that.

he's gonna get cucked, I just know it. :v gonna stay tuned for updated.
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Muffinz0rz posted...

KhanJohnny posted...

Muffinz0rz posted...

Assuming this happened, why does everyone keep saying TC is "not in a relationship?"

They can stay emotionally connected but go bang other people, it's not a big deal.

Hell I'd be ripping TC if he was in a long-distance relationship and didn't work out some kind of arrangement where extracurricular sex was on the table.

Y'all should be congratulating him

They're just mad because it sounds like an awesome lifestyle, when it really isn't that great.

I mean it is nice having a girl I can always rely on and still go out to meet other women. But it's not like I'm having a ton of sex either way. I still have to spend a ton of time on tinder or whatever app grinding for matches like every other guy, and then court these women. I get much less overall now, than when I lived with my gf.

I actually think the lifestyle does not sound awesome, but you're still getting occasional sex which means you're better off than 95% of CE

Axe the whole "long-distance girlfriend with whom I have to speak all the time" part and yes it becomes awesome again.

But I like the girlfriend, so that's a bonus lol

I could have casual sex without a girlfriend if I wanted to. Best of both worlds lol

KhanJohnny posted...

But I like the girlfriend, so that's a bonus lol

I could have casual sex without a girlfriend if I wanted too. Best of both worlds lol

fair
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EnragedSlith posted...

KhanJohnny posted...

Meh we still have a commitment to each other, and try to visit as often as we can.

Being in a relationship is way more than sex lol

Are there some people who can make it work? Sure. But sex and emotional connections often go hand-in-hand if theres chemistry, so good luck with that.

We'll see. I won't fall in love with anyone else at least.

But who knows, if we didnt do this, maybe we'd break up from sexual frustration anyway.

Good times