Current Events > "No Blacks" in a dating profile--is that racist or sexual preference?

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Balrog0 posted...

it is a racist preference

Is it racist if I ask a black woman out and she tells me she prefers to date black men and not white men? I would not be offended, its just her preference. Again, not everything is racist or meant to be taken as racist.

EbonTitanium posted...

xOmniCloudx posted...

It's not racist to exclude anyone you're not attracted to. However, wording is everything and it's obvious everyone's reasons for why they dislike others differs. Anyone writing it that way is definitely racist despite not liking a particular race not being a racist thing in itself.

Black guy here and in America, most White women think they're all pedestaled so merely talking to them like a regular person has them auto assume you want them and they'll quickly throw out partner card or something like that when I had zero interest in them beyond the conversation we were having. Don't have this problem with White women in any other country I deal with.

What are these other countries?

Never had this problem in Canada, Germany, Netherlands or Australia.

thelovefist posted...

xOmniCloudx posted...

most White women think they're all pedestaled so merely talking to them like a regular person has them auto assume you want them and they'll quickly throw out partner card or something like that when I had zero interest in them beyond the conversation we were having.

There can be some reasonable debate over whether or not it is racist to not want to date other races of people. There can be no reasonable debate over whether or not your statement is racist though - it most certainly is.

Factually speaking, nah you're wrong on my statement. If my statement was racist, I would have said ALL White women and I also wouldn't said the issue only existed with American White women for me. So even if I would have singled out all White women, they would have only been the American ones and American isn't a race so even then, factually not racist.

I know you have a lot of White guilt as an American White male so are on the defensive and need to twist things opposite of reality to be able to cope with it but, it doesn't do you any good when you claim the opposite of what happened on a messaging forum where everybody can see the posts....

It just exposes you as triggered and more than people normally figured you would be since you also conveniently ignored the parts of the post that shot down your claims before you even wrote them and despite that, managed to fail making a valid point anyway...

Get that White guilt of yours under control, no one should be embarrassing themselves the way you do lol.
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Im_JustMe0129 posted...

Is it racist if I ask a black woman out and she tells me she prefers to date black men and not white men?

yes
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Theres a difference between preference and outright racial exclusion
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FrisbeeDude posted...

Theres a difference between preference and outright racial exclusion

this is also true
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I'm not sure. It may well be racist, but some people just aren't attracted to certain races and aren't racist.

If this person is, at least others will know to steer clear. So I guess that's something.
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CiIantro posted...

I have seen "No rice, no spice". It is the same thing.

What does that mean? @CiIantro
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Lil_Bit83 posted...

CiIantro posted...

I have seen "No rice, no spice". It is the same thing.

What does that mean? @CiIantro

Rice = Asians
Spice = Latinos (anyone stereotypically "Mexican" looking)

IE anyone non White (looking) (enough).

Although I have seen people say that but date both Black and Whites and Latinos that could pass for either. Typically, it's most common to see Asian men and Black women excluded as many people that do will date virtually anything else in that gender.
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Im_JustMe0129 posted...

Balrog0 posted...

it is a racist preference

Is it racist if I ask a black woman out and she tells me she prefers to date black men and not white men?

Uh, yes. Duh.
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Some day I will find a guy with a fetish for self-loathing half-asian female doctors.
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Coffeebeanz posted...

Some day I will find a guy with a fetish for self-loathing half-asian female doctors.

If she looks 100% Asian then you can find these guys on this very website and virtually any internet messaging boards where White American male nerds and racists hang out given their disturbing level of yellow fever...
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Coffeebeanz posted...

Some day I will find a guy with a fetish for self-loathing half-asian female doctors.

Don't look for someone who fetishizes you. You'll be disappointed down the line when you realize they don't see you, but their idealization of you instead.
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xOmniCloudx posted...

Coffeebeanz posted...

Some day I will find a guy with a fetish for self-loathing half-asian female doctors.

If she looks 100% Asian then you can find these guys on this very website and virtually any internet messaging boards where White American male nerds and racists hang out...

Yeah but the whole doctor thing makes Incels rage because obviously I was handed a med school admit for having breasts.
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xOmniCloudx posted...

Lil_Bit83 posted...

CiIantro posted...

I have seen "No rice, no spice". It is the same thing.

What does that mean? @CiIantro

Rice = Asians
Spice = Latinos (anyone stereotypically "Mexican" looking)

IE anyone non White (looking) (enough).

Although I have seen people say that but date both Black and Whites and Latinos that could pass for either. Typically, it's most common to see Asian men and Black women excluded as many people that do will date virtually anything else in that gender.

Oh. Thanks for the clarification.
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Kineth posted...

Coffeebeanz posted...

Some day I will find a guy with a fetish for self-loathing half-asian female doctors.

Don't look for someone who fetishizes you. You'll be disappointed down the line when you realize they don't see you, but their idealization of you instead.

This, straight up.

People act surprised when they have a kid with someone and they call them and their child a racial slur when they're angry at them (I've heard of that happening a lot).
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Seems to me like it could just be left out, and just simply not respond to people that you aren't interested in. I don't care for blondes, and I strongly prefer chubby girls, but I never put either on a dating profile.

Yeah, apples and oranges, I know, but it's the same basic principle. Don't respond to people that you don't want to date, and don't be an ass about it.
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Kineth posted...

It's really weird that people interpret pointing out racism as some call to force them to change.

Because they know their racist views are wrong and should change.
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Coffeebeanz posted...

xOmniCloudx posted...

Coffeebeanz posted...

Some day I will find a guy with a fetish for self-loathing half-asian female doctors.

If she looks 100% Asian then you can find these guys on this very website and virtually any internet messaging boards where White American male nerds and racists hang out...

Yeah but the whole doctor thing makes Incels rage because obviously I was handed a med school admit for having breasts.

Out of curiosity, why are you self loathing?

DarthGravid posted...

Seems to me like it could just be left out, and just simply not respond to people that you aren't interested in. I don't care for blondes, and I strongly prefer chubby girls, but I never put either on a dating profile.

Yeah, apples and oranges, I know, but it's the same basic principle. Don't respond to people that you don't want to date, and don't be an ass about it.

Same. Regardless of race, I realized I MUCH prefer many international women (and I'm not talking about Asian women) and so far have had multiple international girlfriends the past half decade. Loved it and it was far superior to the American women I have dated and most that were there as potential candidates.

They were multilingual speakers, more cultured, cared more about the greater world and knew about it, well traveled and wanted to travel more, they were far more feminine in attitude and dress and knew how to carry themselves.

Night and day seeing them get dressed up an walk in heels vs the American women that just look ungraceful and like it's too hard even when they try their best. The international women cared about their health and appearance more and both enjoyed and cooked healthier foods often scoffing at American cuisine and eating habits.

They were more open minded and worldly people. The baggage many Americans have also didn't exist and they often criticized Americans for having it due to all the issues Americans would cause with it. Plus on the superficial side, they were often far more attractive than American women even of the same race. I guess the less attractive ethnic groups of most races immigrate to America and not the better looking ones. It was night and day really.

For me, American women are outright obsolete to many international women and I refuse to go back so am fortunate to be in the travel scene and also live in a part of the country where we get a lot of international presence anyway.

It's too big a downgrade for me to date an American woman in most cases since those international women have WAY too many things about them I value highly in individuals even as a friend since they're things I strive for on a personal level and many I already can say about myself.

I'm not interested in American women of any kind but I don't feel the need to put on a dating service don't talk to me if you're American. They'll know by me not responding to them or simply saying no.

Now does this make me racist? Given American isn't a race, nope. Plus, I didn't exclude all Americans as I simply said most. Plus it has nothing to do with them being American. It has to do with most of what I value in people being highly rare to find from an American compared to people in many other countries.
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It's way too blunt and likely misguided, but I wouldn't immediately call the person racist.

Dragonblade01 posted...

It's way too blunt and likely misguided, but I wouldn't immediately call the person racist.

Exactly.

Racist. Who cares what skin color? You're looking for love.
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What about white girls that have "blacks only" in their profile?

Either way, I think its fine to have prefrences, but to state it in your profile makes you seem racist or trashy.
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Personally it doesnt bother me. Id rather not have my time wasted, if I see up front youre not into black guys I wont even reach out. Plenty of other women who do like black guys that Id rather spend my time on.
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Doe posted...

It's either racist or ignorant.

Watch Straight Outta Compton, there's a scene that will change any person's mind about the beauty of the black female

DoubleDare posted...

What about

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Kisai posted...

Wording it like that? Definitely sounds racist.

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0 blacks allowed? That's racist.

If she simply prefers non blacks it's a preference due to it just being something like being into redheads.

But if she excludes them due to their race then it's a bit racist.
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"Blanket exclusion of an entire race isn't racist." - racists
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xOmniCloudx posted...

Shinobi120 posted...

xOmniCloudx posted...

Black guy here and in America, most White women think they're all pedestaled so merely talking to them like a regular person has them auto assume you want them and they'll quickly throw out partner card or something like that when I had zero interest in them beyond the conversation we were having. Don't have this problem with White women in any other country I deal with.

I'm also black, & what you just said almost always used to happen to me. They always come up with a shitty excuse like that. "I have a boyfriend", etc.

Then why the fuck did you give me your number then? Go screw yourself. I don't have time for games.

This situation happens to me too. Co-workers, in a situation where co-workers would naturally talk and start forming bonds. They'll be a seemingly nice person and speak out against racism, wrongdoing in society in such. Yet despite that they'll have a partner that is a racist piece of shit and the epitome of causing and supporting those things.

They just pretend like it's not a big deal when you bring it up to them and ask them how they can be with someone like that. "Yeah, it's bad but when he's not being a racist piece of shit, he's the greatest guy of all time". It's why I don't trust White American women in any capacity. How are you going to be friendly with a group of people the man you love and start a family with (thus are raising children that can inherit his views) hates and celebrates the murdering and general wrongdoing of?

It's because it doesn't affect them so they could care less. It's all about them because it's inconvenient to just pick one side since they can play the White card and oppressed by White men as a woman card simultaneously. American White women are the most disloyal woman I have ever dealt with. Even as a racist White man, I wouldn't understand why you'd want someone that's not all in backing you in your corner.

In any case, pedestaling people is wrong in general. It's people, not property or money.

Calls other people racist, while stereotyping an entire country based on anecdotal evidence.

@Coffeebeanz posted...

Some day I will find a guy with a fetish for self-loathing half-asian female doctors.

Why are you self-loathing? That can't be healthy psychologically.
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Bumble_ posted...

"No Blacks" in a dating profile--is that racist or sexual preference?

Maybe it is, maybe it isn't. But, regardless, it's completely irrelevant. People can choose who to date, and who to exclude... for whatever reason they please. Whether it's preference, OR thinking that blacks are sub-human or whatever.

Putting it out there, clear as day like that. Is good. It saves both parties some time. What? It wasn't worded sufficiently tenderly, so as to not get you butthurt :)?

imagine being this pressed to defend racism lol
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It's a racist sexual preference. The actual answer is that we don't have enough information to answer the question. This could be just a very callous way of expressing sincere sexual preference, it could be pure racism. And it could be somewhere inbetween.
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Wow, I have never seen a poll on CE so evenly split.

looked posted...

xOmniCloudx posted...

Shinobi120 posted...

xOmniCloudx posted...

Black guy here and in America, most White women think they're all pedestaled so merely talking to them like a regular person has them auto assume you want them and they'll quickly throw out partner card or something like that when I had zero interest in them beyond the conversation we were having. Don't have this problem with White women in any other country I deal with.

I'm also black, & what you just said almost always used to happen to me. They always come up with a shitty excuse like that. "I have a boyfriend", etc.

Then why the fuck did you give me your number then? Go screw yourself. I don't have time for games.

This situation happens to me too. Co-workers, in a situation where co-workers would naturally talk and start forming bonds. They'll be a seemingly nice person and speak out against racism, wrongdoing in society in such. Yet despite that they'll have a partner that is a racist piece of shit and the epitome of causing and supporting those things.

They just pretend like it's not a big deal when you bring it up to them and ask them how they can be with someone like that. "Yeah, it's bad but when he's not being a racist piece of shit, he's the greatest guy of all time". It's why I don't trust White American women in any capacity. How are you going to be friendly with a group of people the man you love and start a family with (thus are raising children that can inherit his views) hates and celebrates the murdering and general wrongdoing of?

It's because it doesn't affect them so they could care less. It's all about them because it's inconvenient to just pick one side since they can play the White card and oppressed by White men as a woman card simultaneously. American White women are the most disloyal woman I have ever dealt with. Even as a racist White man, I wouldn't understand why you'd want someone that's not all in backing you in your corner.

In any case, pedestaling people is wrong in general. It's people, not property or money.

Calls other people racist, while stereotyping an entire country based on anecdotal evidence.

American isn't a race and attacking actual racists is the literal opposite of being racist. Blinded by your White guilt I see to the point that you're seeing things not actually there lulz. You wouldn't have this problem if you were like the Whites in many other countries who don't have White guilt and aren't brainwashed by White supremacy and terrible American culture. Now THOSE White women in some of the other countries, I trust.

You just got rekt with pure facts son. Now continue to hold that L, the only thing you ever hold lol.
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Why do you guys see everything in black and white? (No pun intended).

Say somebody only likes narrow noses that point upwards (meaning white girls, and only some of them), or she only likes the East Asian eye shape (this excluding any other race), thats just a preference.

If you can be friends with people of a specific race, if you got close friends of a specific race, if you wouldnt mind if your sibling dated somebody of that race, and if you would be open to hire somebody of a specific race, but it just so happens you dont feel particularly attracted to such race in a physical level, whats the big deal?

xOmniCloudx posted...

looked posted...

xOmniCloudx posted...

Shinobi120 posted...

xOmniCloudx posted...

Black guy here and in America, most White women think they're all pedestaled so merely talking to them like a regular person has them auto assume you want them and they'll quickly throw out partner card or something like that when I had zero interest in them beyond the conversation we were having. Don't have this problem with White women in any other country I deal with.

I'm also black, & what you just said almost always used to happen to me. They always come up with a shitty excuse like that. "I have a boyfriend", etc.

Then why the fuck did you give me your number then? Go screw yourself. I don't have time for games.

This situation happens to me too. Co-workers, in a situation where co-workers would naturally talk and start forming bonds. They'll be a seemingly nice person and speak out against racism, wrongdoing in society in such. Yet despite that they'll have a partner that is a racist piece of shit and the epitome of causing and supporting those things.

They just pretend like it's not a big deal when you bring it up to them and ask them how they can be with someone like that. "Yeah, it's bad but when he's not being a racist piece of shit, he's the greatest guy of all time". It's why I don't trust White American women in any capacity. How are you going to be friendly with a group of people the man you love and start a family with (thus are raising children that can inherit his views) hates and celebrates the murdering and general wrongdoing of?

It's because it doesn't affect them so they could care less. It's all about them because it's inconvenient to just pick one side since they can play the White card and oppressed by White men as a woman card simultaneously. American White women are the most disloyal woman I have ever dealt with. Even as a racist White man, I wouldn't understand why you'd want someone that's not all in backing you in your corner.

In any case, pedestaling people is wrong in general. It's people, not property or money.

Calls other people racist, while stereotyping an entire country based on anecdotal evidence.

American isn't a race and attacking actual racists is the literal opposite of being racist. Blinded by your White guilt I see to the point that you're seeing things not actually there lulz. You wouldn't have this problem if you were like the Whites in many other countries who don't have White guilt and aren't brainwashed by White supremacy and terrible American culture. Now THOSE White women in some of the other countries, I trust.

You just got rekt with pure facts son. Now continue to hold that L, the only thing you ever hold lol.

Um, white supremacist ideology has always been a global phenomenon, has been that way for over 400 years. Euros aren't immune from that.
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EliteC posted...

Why do you guys see everything in black and white? (No pun intended).

Say somebody only likes narrow noses that point upwards (meaning white girls, and only some of them), or she only likes the East Asian eye shape (this excluding any other race), thats just a preference.

If you can be friends with people of a specific race, if you got close friends of a specific race, if you wouldnt mind if your sibling dated somebody of that race, and if you would be open to hire somebody of a specific race, but it just so happens you dont feel particularly attracted to such race in a physical level, whats the big deal?

lol
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FrisbeeDude posted...

EliteC posted...

Why do you guys see everything in black and white? (No pun intended).

Say somebody only likes narrow noses that point upwards (meaning white girls, and only some of them), or she only likes the East Asian eye shape (this excluding any other race), thats just a preference.

If you can be friends with people of a specific race, if you got close friends of a specific race, if you wouldnt mind if your sibling dated somebody of that race, and if you would be open to hire somebody of a specific race, but it just so happens you dont feel particularly attracted to such race in a physical level, whats the big deal?

lol

Wut?

Taharqa_ posted...

Um, white supremacist ideology has always been a global phenomenon, has been that way for over 400 years. Euros aren't immune from that.

Not to be rude but for months you've shown cluelessness about minority experiences and outright have said as much. Then asked me to explain everyday things that are common knowledge to most minorities in the US....

Your whole thing here is that ALL Whites are evil everywhere. Your post is so off the mark of what I'm talking about it's hilarious and even outside that just plain ridiculous anyway to the point I'm not even going to bother to dissect the MANY flaws of it even if it was in the ballpark of the point of my post. Stop replying to me from now on since I'm just going to ignore you as you're just too clueless and someone I can't take seriously writing that.

Tl;dr lol.
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xOmniCloudx posted...

Taharqa_ posted...

Um, white supremacist ideology has always been a global phenomenon, has been that way for over 400 years. Euros aren't immune from that.

Not to be rude but for months you've shown cluelessness about minority experiences and outright have said as much. Then asked me to explain everyday things that are common knowledge to most minorities in the US....

Your whole thing here is that ALL Whites are evil everywhere. Your post is so off the mark of what I'm talking about it's hilarious and even outside that just plain ridiculous anyway to the point I'm not even going to bother to dissect the MANY flaws of it even if it was in the ballpark of the point of my post. Stop replying to me from now on since I'm just going to ignore you as you're just too clueless and someone I can't take seriously writing that.

Tl;dr lol.

Clueless about minority experiences? I am black Sparky. I think I know a bit about minority experiences.

When did I say or even imply that all white people were evil everywhere? Run the receipts.

Your whole schtick would be amusing if it weren't so...weird. That whole wall of text that you posted earlier was evidence of that.
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xOmniCloudx posted...

Taharqa_ posted...

Um, white supremacist ideology has always been a global phenomenon, has been that way for over 400 years. Euros aren't immune from that.

Not to be rude but for months you've shown cluelessness about minority experiences and outright have said as much. Then asked me to explain everyday things that are common knowledge to most minorities in the US....

Your whole thing here is that ALL Whites are evil everywhere. Your post is so off the mark of what I'm talking about it's hilarious and even outside that just plain ridiculous anyway to the point I'm not even going to bother to dissect the MANY flaws of it even if it was in the ballpark of the point of my post. Stop replying to me from now on since I'm just going to ignore you as you're just too clueless and someone I can't take seriously writing that.

Tl;dr lol.

Watch your fucking mouth and quit making up shit.
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Kineth posted...

xOmniCloudx posted...

Taharqa_ posted...

Um, white supremacist ideology has always been a global phenomenon, has been that way for over 400 years. Euros aren't immune from that.

Not to be rude but for months you've shown cluelessness about minority experiences and outright have said as much. Then asked me to explain everyday things that are common knowledge to most minorities in the US....

Your whole thing here is that ALL Whites are evil everywhere. Your post is so off the mark of what I'm talking about it's hilarious and even outside that just plain ridiculous anyway to the point I'm not even going to bother to dissect the MANY flaws of it even if it was in the ballpark of the point of my post. Stop replying to me from now on since I'm just going to ignore you as you're just too clueless and someone I can't take seriously writing that.

Tl;dr lol.

Watch your fucking mouth and quit making up shit.

I just watched my mouth due to your advice and as a result learned that I was too easy on you. Thank you, because it means you agree that you need to get ragged harder on xD. Especially when you just exposed yourself on an alt. lol. Another L for you. You've got quite a long list of those. Too bad you have no Ws to balance it out :P

Anyway, I'll keep making stuff up in your world since it triggers you. I'm doing you a favor since the truth I tell the real world would just pop out more tears out of your eyes haha
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Taharqa_ posted...

xOmniCloudx posted...

Taharqa_ posted...

Um, white supremacist ideology has always been a global phenomenon, has been that way for over 400 years. Euros aren't immune from that.

Not to be rude but for months you've shown cluelessness about minority experiences and outright have said as much. Then asked me to explain everyday things that are common knowledge to most minorities in the US....

Your whole thing here is that ALL Whites are evil everywhere. Your post is so off the mark of what I'm talking about it's hilarious and even outside that just plain ridiculous anyway to the point I'm not even going to bother to dissect the MANY flaws of it even if it was in the ballpark of the point of my post. Stop replying to me from now on since I'm just going to ignore you as you're just too clueless and someone I can't take seriously writing that.

Tl;dr lol.

Clueless about minority experiences? I am black Sparky. I think I know a bit about minority experiences.

When did I say or even imply that all white people were evil everywhere? Run the receipts.

Your whole schtick would be amusing if it weren't so...weird. That whole wall of text that you posted earlier was evidence of that.

I didn't read that since I don't read joke posts after they reveal themselves the first time.

So yet again, lol.
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xOmniCloudx posted...

Taharqa_ posted...

xOmniCloudx posted...

Taharqa_ posted...

Um, white supremacist ideology has always been a global phenomenon, has been that way for over 400 years. Euros aren't immune from that.

Not to be rude but for months you've shown cluelessness about minority experiences and outright have said as much. Then asked me to explain everyday things that are common knowledge to most minorities in the US....

Your whole thing here is that ALL Whites are evil everywhere. Your post is so off the mark of what I'm talking about it's hilarious and even outside that just plain ridiculous anyway to the point I'm not even going to bother to dissect the MANY flaws of it even if it was in the ballpark of the point of my post. Stop replying to me from now on since I'm just going to ignore you as you're just too clueless and someone I can't take seriously writing that.

Tl;dr lol.

Clueless about minority experiences? I am black Sparky. I think I know a bit about minority experiences.

When did I say or even imply that all white people were evil everywhere? Run the receipts.

Your whole schtick would be amusing if it weren't so...weird. That whole wall of text that you posted earlier was evidence of that.

I didn't read that since I don't read joke posts after they reveal themselves the first time.

So yet again, lol.

Yet you still quoted it, lol.

Keep going lil weird dude.
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notice how nobody itt has satisfactorily explained how a sexual preference can be racist/sexist?

hmm...
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Rika_Furude posted...

notice how nobody itt has satisfactorily explained how a sexual preference can be racist/sexist?

hmm...

Well if you need that explained to you, you're just too far gone anyways.

Or

So you'll just keep saying it isn't a satisfactory explanation no matter how many times its been effectively and objectively proven.

Or even

Sounds exactly like what a racist would say.

These are the kinds of nonsensical replies you can expect on CE. Its ridiculous how people on CE despite having the cloak of anonymity will still refuse to ever admit they're wrong no matter how much its been proven. I tried having a discussion with a guy just like that in another topic, its crazy how they will keep up with that MO even when its exposed and spelled out right in front of their face.
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Rika_Furude posted...

notice how nobody itt has satisfactorily explained how a sexual preference can be racist/sexist?

hmm...

there is no race with universal physical features. to exclude a race is to do so for social reasons.
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