Current Events > Why you need to stay at your parents house as an adult

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1. The real estate market and renting costs are incredibly expensive. Most recent college graduates have considerable debt, and also take on jobs with entry level pay that cannot adequately pay down their student loans, afford decent housing, and also provide for bills/retirement savings. Living at home to avoid paying rent so you can pay down student loans and begin funding retirement sets up a fantastic foundation for your financial future. After you get your bearings and develop your career, you will be in an advantageous position to find housing you can afford

tldr
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Frankly people have diverse living situations. I don't make snap judgments based on this in today's world. Though apparently that other topic struck a nerve for TC.
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in before averagejoel's "if you cant afford a mercedes right out of college, it means capitalism failed. you shouldnt need to budget or be financially responsible. smh avocado toast smh"

P4wn4g3 posted...

Frankly people have diverse living situations. I don't make snap judgments based on this in today's world. Though apparently that other topic struck a nerve for TC.

Nah I don't take it personally, I just think young people shouldn't feel compelled to move out from societal pressures. It's more important to save up young so their early retirement contributions can earn compound growth and ensure a good retirement

Apparently, there's some cultures where the eldest child is actually expected to live with their parents well into adulthood.

Doesn't make me feel any better tho.
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Supposedly, the concept of a Waltons-style "multigenerational home" is making a comeback.
https://www.forbes.com/sites/nextavenue/2016/10/09/multigenerational-living-is-back-and-thats-a-good-thing/

As someone who did move out after graduation (well, before, but details), it's financially smarter to stay with your guardians. It's antiquated to claim everyone should do this. I mean, some people combine their families for this ease of living.

Now, I wouldn't redo shit lol Just acknowledging I spent more cash/time than I needed trying to budget with minimum wage and acceptable living conditions.
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My parents are Mexican theyre in no rush to move me out. Must be a White People Thing, dont know why they hate their kids so much.
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Flockaveli posted...

Must be a White People Thing

I think it might be a protestant thing.

Flockaveli posted...

My parents are Mexican theyre in no rush to move me out. Must be a White People Thing, dont know why they hate their kids so much.

I grew up with Mexican neighbors and it was not abnormal for their sons to marry and then come back with their wives in the main house.
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Flockaveli posted...
That's racist
But true.
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My parents don't live in a place where I'd be able to function, unless I wasn't working. I wouldn't want to be not working though.
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No, the problem is Colleges and Universities and to another extent, idiots in charge of companies.

Not every fucking job should require a bachelors. You dont need a bachelors to run a billing dept at some insurance company or something. You dont need a bachelors to be a friggin Secretary.

And they wonder why people are not loyal to their employers anymore??? Its because theyre trying to pay off a massive student loan and are constantly trying to upgrade their salary.

Stop making stupid jobs having a bachelors requirement.

Obviously there are many jobs that require bachelors or masters. Most office jobs are easy as fuck as long as you get the proper training.
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The thing is, the whole "move out at 18 and shove off on your own" is a very, very new concept as far as human history, only really picking up in the post war boom in the 50s. Before that.... having multiple generations in a household was the norm. And when you consider WHY the post war boom happened in the first place, the rest of the first world was in ruin aside from the United States, late teens/early 20s moving out and getting their own places is the exception, not the norm.
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Right...and as a result you never get a job or learn how to do laundry, or own a car. Fantastic idea. And sitting in mommy's basement playing video games all day is an added bonus!
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Why did you make a NEET board
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P4wn4g3 posted...

Why did you make a NEET board

It's a popular topic. I'm helping the community by creating a place users can go to have topical discussions. The board is extremely popular right now.
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I moved out at 18 because I wanted to go out and live my own life and make my own decisions but I get why it's not the right choice for everybody.

Also guys, no sarcasm whatsoever, I will be kicking my kids out of the fucking house once they turn 18. Why? Because I love them and want them to grow as responsible, independent functioning adults. What's my alternative? Have them hang around jobless playing video games all fucking day?
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Flockaveli posted...

My parents are Mexican theyre in no rush to move me out. Must be a White People Thing, dont know why they hate their kids so much.

Indian family here, same thing. Dont get why white people cant wait for their kids to move out.
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REMercsChamp posted...

P4wn4g3 posted...

Why did you make a NEET board

It's a popular topic. I'm helping the community by creating a place users can go to have topical discussions. The board is extremely popular right now.

It's a popular topic with you alone.
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@turbam
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Kazi1212 posted...

Flockaveli posted...

My parents are Mexican theyre in no rush to move me out. Must be a White People Thing, dont know why they hate their kids so much.

Indian family here, same thing. Dont get why white people cant wait for their kids to move out.

It's been said a million times - it's because they want to see their kids succeed.

I live in Toronto where the average rent for a 1 bedroom apartment is over $2000 a month. And guess what? My kids will be kicked to the fucking curb when they're 18 and have to fend for themselves.

I knew a guy here who was living with 6 other roommates and pulled rickshaws downtown just to barely make the month's rent. And guess what? He's growing up and developing life skills while other people are sitting around playing god damn video games.
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Why would you want to though? Money aint everything

I love my parents but I got the hell out of there ASAP
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You ain't lyin
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If I didn't move out of state for my job, I'd probably have lived at home for a couple years.
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REMercsChamp posted...

Kazi1212 posted...

Flockaveli posted...

My parents are Mexican theyre in no rush to move me out. Must be a White People Thing, dont know why they hate their kids so much.

Indian family here, same thing. Dont get why white people cant wait for their kids to move out.

It's been said a million times - it's because they want to see their kids succeed.

I don't understand, so Indian kids dont succeed in the real world because they live longer with their parents? I'm not saying your way doesnt work in making kids succeed(although I dont get it), im just saying its not the only way.
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Kazi1212 posted...

REMercsChamp posted...

Kazi1212 posted...

Flockaveli posted...

My parents are Mexican theyre in no rush to move me out. Must be a White People Thing, dont know why they hate their kids so much.

Indian family here, same thing. Dont get why white people cant wait for their kids to move out.

It's been said a million times - it's because they want to see their kids succeed.

I don't understand, so Indian kids dont succeed in the real world because they live longer with their parents? I'm not saying your way doesnt work in making kids succeed(although I dont get it), im just saying its not the only way.

I don't see how anyone's definition of success can be this:

- No job
- Mom cooks, cleans, does laundry for you
- No car, use your parents
- Can't stay out past 10pm or you'll get in trouble
- Still get an allowance into your late 20s

Unbelievable
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REMercsChamp posted...

Kazi1212 posted...

REMercsChamp posted...

Kazi1212 posted...

Flockaveli posted...

My parents are Mexican theyre in no rush to move me out. Must be a White People Thing, dont know why they hate their kids so much.

Indian family here, same thing. Dont get why white people cant wait for their kids to move out.

It's been said a million times - it's because they want to see their kids succeed.

I don't understand, so Indian kids dont succeed in the real world because they live longer with their parents? I'm not saying your way doesnt work in making kids succeed(although I dont get it), im just saying its not the only way.

I don't see how anyone's definition of success can be this:

- No job
- Mom cooks, cleans, does laundry for you
- No car, use your parents
- Can't stay out past 10pm or you'll get in trouble
- Still get an allowance into your late 20s

Unbelievable

I think you're equivocating living with your parents = being a lazy irresponsible slob, which is not necessarily the case. Though I have to say, I see white people who live with their parents past 25 as way more of the type of person you described than minorities like Asians. Perhaps because its sort of expected for you to stay with your parents until you marry in more traditional cultures, so that doesnt give them the excuse of being irresponsible slobs just relying on their parents. In Western culture I suppose its more expected for you to move out earlier, so those that dont are generally prone to being irresponsible anyway.
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It was way cheaper after grad school.

My family was self employed and small. There was never a big push to move out. We lived in a home the family built over a hundred years ago.

My nieghbors were my only first cousins. They lived in a family owned homr that was built by my grandparents.

My grand parents lived in houses they built like 15 miles away. My fraternal grandparents had both my fraternal great grandparents living with them.

No idea why so many families push their family out so readily. I will have my parents live with me, ideally, whem they get too old. They funded my lifr and my college, I plan on giving back.
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My parents don't own their home and I'd pay rent.
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Flockaveli posted...

My parents are Mexican theyre in no rush to move me out. Must be a White People Thing, dont know why they hate their kids so much.

i feel like this too tbh. my brother has been a physician assistant for like 6 years now I think? he's saved up a shit load of money and there's no pressure for him to move out. it's fairly normal for people here who are from the caribbean to pool their wealth together with their family, most of my peers from highschool who are in professional careers seem to be still living at home as well

Kazi1212 posted...

REMercsChamp posted...

Kazi1212 posted...

REMercsChamp posted...

Kazi1212 posted...

Flockaveli posted...

My parents are Mexican theyre in no rush to move me out. Must be a White People Thing, dont know why they hate their kids so much.

Indian family here, same thing. Dont get why white people cant wait for their kids to move out.

It's been said a million times - it's because they want to see their kids succeed.

I don't understand, so Indian kids dont succeed in the real world because they live longer with their parents? I'm not saying your way doesnt work in making kids succeed(although I dont get it), im just saying its not the only way.

I don't see how anyone's definition of success can be this:

- No job
- Mom cooks, cleans, does laundry for you
- No car, use your parents
- Can't stay out past 10pm or you'll get in trouble
- Still get an allowance into your late 20s

Unbelievable

I think you're equivocating living with your parents = being a lazy irresponsible slob, which is not necessarily the case. Though I have to say, I see white people who live with their parents past 25 as way more of the type of person you described than minorities like Asians. Perhaps because its sort of expected for you to stay with your parents until you marry in more traditional cultures, so that doesnt give them the excuse of being irresponsible slobs just relying on their parents. In Western culture I suppose its more expected for you to move out earlier, so those that dont are generally prone to being irresponsible anyway.

So what are you trying to say here exactly
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REMercsChamp posted...

Kazi1212 posted...

REMercsChamp posted...

Kazi1212 posted...

REMercsChamp posted...

Kazi1212 posted...

Flockaveli posted...

My parents are Mexican theyre in no rush to move me out. Must be a White People Thing, dont know why they hate their kids so much.

Indian family here, same thing. Dont get why white people cant wait for their kids to move out.

It's been said a million times - it's because they want to see their kids succeed.

I don't understand, so Indian kids dont succeed in the real world because they live longer with their parents? I'm not saying your way doesnt work in making kids succeed(although I dont get it), im just saying its not the only way.

I don't see how anyone's definition of success can be this:

- No job
- Mom cooks, cleans, does laundry for you
- No car, use your parents
- Can't stay out past 10pm or you'll get in trouble
- Still get an allowance into your late 20s

Unbelievable

I think you're equivocating living with your parents = being a lazy irresponsible slob, which is not necessarily the case. Though I have to say, I see white people who live with their parents past 25 as way more of the type of person you described than minorities like Asians. Perhaps because its sort of expected for you to stay with your parents until you marry in more traditional cultures, so that doesnt give them the excuse of being irresponsible slobs just relying on their parents. In Western culture I suppose its more expected for you to move out earlier, so those that dont are generally prone to being irresponsible anyway.

So what are you trying to say here exactly

Essentially that its possible to live with your parents and not be a total lazy irresponsible slob as you described, though the probability of that happening varies by cultural background.
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Kazi1212 posted...

Essentially that its possible to live with your parents and not be a total lazy irresponsible slob as you described, though the probability of that happening varies by cultural background.

I still don't really get it. How is having a curfew of 7pm when you're living at home being a lazy slob?
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Kazi1212 posted...

REMercsChamp posted...

Kazi1212 posted...

REMercsChamp posted...

Kazi1212 posted...

Flockaveli posted...

My parents are Mexican theyre in no rush to move me out. Must be a White People Thing, dont know why they hate their kids so much.

Indian family here, same thing. Dont get why white people cant wait for their kids to move out.

It's been said a million times - it's because they want to see their kids succeed.

I don't understand, so Indian kids dont succeed in the real world because they live longer with their parents? I'm not saying your way doesnt work in making kids succeed(although I dont get it), im just saying its not the only way.

I don't see how anyone's definition of success can be this:

- No job
- Mom cooks, cleans, does laundry for you
- No car, use your parents
- Can't stay out past 10pm or you'll get in trouble
- Still get an allowance into your late 20s

Unbelievable

I think you're equivocating living with your parents = being a lazy irresponsible slob, which is not necessarily the case. Though I have to say, I see white people who live with their parents past 25 as way more of the type of person you described than minorities like Asians. Perhaps because its sort of expected for you to stay with your parents until you marry in more traditional cultures, so that doesnt give them the excuse of being irresponsible slobs just relying on their parents. In Western culture I suppose its more expected for you to move out earlier, so those that dont are generally prone to being irresponsible anyway.

I agree with this 110% good post. NEETMercsChamp is just projecting.
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REMercsChamp posted...

And guess what?

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And guess what?

REMercsChamp posted...

And guess what?

REMercsChamp posted...

And guess what?

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REMercsChamp posted...

Also guys, no sarcasm whatsoever, I will be kicking my kids out of the fucking house once they turn 18. Why? Because I love them and want them to grow as responsible, independent functioning adults. What's my alternative? Have them hang around jobless playing video games all fucking day?

The alternative is giving them the opportunity to actually be prepared to move out

Which literally never happens at 18 in this day and age unless they're going to college.
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"Hey ma, I'm out with a girl! Is it okay to stay out past 9:30pm tonight or am I gonna get grounded again!"
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Damn, and I thought I caught the rare moment in which Mercs wasn't just taking the piss
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REMercsChamp posted...

"Hey ma, I'm out with a girl! Is it okay to stay out past 9:30pm tonight or am I gonna get grounded again!"

Who actually does that to their 18-y.o. child? They have their own keys, right?
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Laserion posted...

REMercsChamp posted...

"Hey ma, I'm out with a girl! Is it okay to stay out past 9:30pm tonight or am I gonna get grounded again!"

Who actually does that to their 18-y.o. child? They have their own keys, right?

They should of
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My parents live in a town of 5,000.
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Wish I had the choice, but I absolutely don't.
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