Current Events > Its completely normal to look for others while going on dates with some1 right?

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I mean, youd never get anything done if you just stick to 1 person exclusiively for a minor probability of something (ie just like youd never give 1 job application then wait patiently until it gets declined THEN you send a different one and repeat).

i was in an emotional breakdown the whole night and he was so sweet and talked to me and made me feel happy till the morning anyway he was so sweet and we both really like japanese stuff.

anyway he didnt finish halfway through the conversation and didndt text me till like 7 hrs, and didnt evne reply to my question. he mellowed out a bit anyway and we was talking about our date but it wasnt as intimate as the night before.

I'm guessing hes also doing other stuff right? he didnt seem to mind me looking for other things at the time.

If he lost interest, then he lost interest. Maybe there is someone better , or maybe he got disappointed in some trait he discovered in you and is a big turnoff for him

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He probably found out what your gamefaqs username was so he's looking for a way out ASAP.
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vocedelmorte posted...

If he lost interest, then he lost interest. Maybe there is someone better , or maybe he got disappointed in some trait he discovered in you and is a big turnoff for him

no ordinary human being wouldve put up with my mental breakdown, especially as a complete stranger. he pretty much sweet talked me and put up with my emotional baggage and social idiocy for 5 hours, i find it hard to believe you could do that on a whim.

When I was actively dating, I would date several people until I made myself "exclusive" with one or if things were going really well the woman I was dating, and knew we both had the intention of getting together then I would remain exclusive with her but if it was in the figuring each other out stage then I would be looking and going out with others.

Sometimes, you never know what a person is doing until you ask them or they share that information, I try not to assume/figure them out because the messages get all twisted up because what I see is not what they are actually doing, etc, etc.
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MACisBack posted...

When I was actively dating, I would date several people until I made myself "exclusive" with one or if things were going really well the woman I was dating, and knew we both had the intention of getting together then I would remain exclusive with her but if it was in the figuring each other out stage then I would be looking and going out with others.

Sometimes, you never know what a person is doing until you ask them or they share that information, I try not to assume/figure them out because the messages get all twisted up because what I see is not what they are actually doing, etc, etc.

I was just jokingly saying how I was a clingy boyfriend and he was like "were not boyfriends?" which shocked and gave me a panic attack, probably one of the main causes for this topic.

were still going out on sunday though, hes hosting and even offered to make the dinner himself

I think it's ok for everyone to be dating around until you specifically talk about being exclusive. This has come back to bite me a couple times though tbh. Apparently some people think dating immediately implies exclusivity and I just look at it as casual until otherwise said >_>

It sounds like he is into you and still wants to get to know you more, and this is after the fact you mentioned you're clingy(maybe he likes that, and won't tell you straight up or is shy about it right now)

Also for him to announce to you that he is making the dinner proves that he thinking deeper about you than just the fact he gets to see you(most people won't).

So don't take this as this is his true intention but maybe its his way of showing you that it doesn't matter who you are, but he sees you or wants to see you as something more than a friend.

Good luck to you two!
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MACisBack posted...

It sounds like he is into you and still wants to get to know you more, and this is after the fact you mentioned you're clingy(maybe he likes that, and won't tell you straight up or is shy about it right now)

Also for him to announce to you that he is making the dinner proves that he thinking deeper about you than just the fact he gets to see you(most people won't).

So don't take this as this is his true intention but maybe its his way of showing you that it doesn't matter who you are, but he sees you or wants to see you as something more than a friend.

Good luck to you two!

He actually likes it I think, he finds my social idiocy and baggage kind of cute, which is shocking considering hes 19 and im 29.

But I just know that shit is gonna get real old after a while, I need to fix myself up, ive applied for therapy as well so i can get a councillor in 2-3 weeks.

maybe its because I was raised in a more conservative asia.. but dating someone and still looking for others is considered incredibly rude and is grounds for them to dump you immediately ( i mean, it still happens but people understood that youre a 2 timing jerk)

FluttershyPony posted...

vocedelmorte posted...

If he lost interest, then he lost interest. Maybe there is someone better , or maybe he got disappointed in some trait he discovered in you and is a big turnoff for him

no ordinary human being wouldve put up with my mental breakdown, especially as a complete stranger. he pretty much sweet talked me and put up with my emotional baggage and social idiocy for 5 hours, i find it hard to believe you could do that on a whim.

Maybe he thought it through and figured he don't really want to deal with it? Not trying to sound like a dick, but you mentioned clingy, even if in joking way, people gets put off by that kind of thing too soon
Again, im not trying to be negative, i wish you good luck, its just something from own experience

Sounds like you're moving in the right direction to help yourself, and don't condemn it already by saying its going to get old but focus on the fact millions of people can't find anyone or isn't open to allowing someone in there life, here you are, almost getting involved with someone who thinks you're special.

So instead of kicking yourself in the nuts, open you hand and pat yourself on the back for accomplishing a large step, and keep yourself moving in the right direction.
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