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Anyone else lose a family member? I need to know what to do/how it feels after the initial shock wears off.
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Sorry to hear that. I've lost grandparents and uncles, but I imagine it's quite different to lose a parent.
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Ozarhok posted...

Anyone else lose a family member? I need to know what to do/how it feels after the initial shock wears off.

lost my dad in 2013

it feels the same now as then

the only thing that has changed is me

what you should do is go and be with those who are also mourning her loss. remember her.
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my brother passed away 10 years ago. you just go on living, man. that's the only thing you can do. maybe do something in her memory, like plant a tree or build a bench.

i went through the classic "stages of grief".
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sorry for your loss, TC.

I lost my dad and my cousin, and after the shock wore off, there was just this sad realization that I would never see them again, and having to get used to them not being there.
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I've lost a number of family members, but the closest one was my dad. It was 5 years ago just last month

It's really hard at first. I balled my eyes out. My heart goes out to you, TC
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My mother passed when I was younger. All I can tell you is that its healthy to grieve, make sure you dont keep your emotions bottled up, talk to someone (therapist,friends, family) and remember, she wouldnt want you to let the pain linger for too long. Live a long and happy life because thats what shed want

There's an episode from season 5 of Bojack Horseman that may help, it's titled "Free Churro"

You have my condolences and I hope you can process your loss in a healthy way
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Sorry dude.

Holidays are gonna be rough not gonna lie. The funeral process will go by quick..but the 1st Christmas or birthdays arent gonna be rough.

PM if you want to talk, not sure if I can offer too much advice but Im always willing to listen :).
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It will take some time to get back to "normal" but just get though it one day at a time.
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I'm sorry. That's always a horrible feeling
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A family member said I should write down memories I had of my mom, or make a scrap book or something, you'll start to forget stuff about her. I thought that was ridiculous so I didn't do it, now I don't remember much about her.
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I'm sorry. I dread when it happens to me

You will always recall some small things from your past with her, but you will need time to stop thinking about her often. Sometimes i would remember something i regret, or just miss her. At first its hard to believe she ls gone.
Its different time for everyone, depends how important she was in your life

Sorry for your loss man
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Sorry man I can relate. You can't prepare for it and you can't deal with it. You just have to keep on going.
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the shock now is usually numb. It's after it wears off and you see/hear something that lets it sink in that is the worst
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My condolences.
I lost my dad ten years ago. The first year was the roughest. The first birthdays and holidays without him.
And it will be the things you're not thinking of that will get you and suddenly you break down. For me it was the first time I went to our Starbucks after he died. Starbucks of all things! This was like a week after the funeral. I walked in the door and just the memories of all the times we went there together. 4-5 times a week. Idk. It hit like nothing I've ever felt emotionally before. I got about six feet in the past the door and I had to leave, get in my car and breakdown completely. Just went home and cried for the rest of that evening.
The first few days after he died was just a blur. The relief that he was out of pain, the worry of what to do next with the mortuary and funeral. What paperwork needs to be found and filled out and then sent to who. The pain of coming home and him not being there anymore.

The best advice I think I can give, which isn't going to sound very positive I know.
You never get over it. It will always hurt, you will always miss them. What does change is that you simply learn to move on. And that's the part that takes time.
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@Ozarhok
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I lost both of my grandparents this year. I know how you feel man. My condolences.
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My condolences

My mom died 5 yesrs ago and I still never fully got over it

The only thing Im able to do is live on and keep my life going and do the best I can to make everything work

I get even more depressed remembering that she always dreamed of being a grandma and when it finally hapoened and I had my 2 kids.... she wasnt alive to see it....

the feels....
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gunplagirl posted...

There's an episode from season 5 of Bojack Horseman that may help, it's titled "Free Churro"

You have my condolences and I hope you can process your loss in a healthy way

Bojack Horseman may be the best cartoon out there...

But it's definitely nothing to watch while depressed.

Chicken posted...

A family member said I should write down memories I had of my mom, or make a scrap book or something, you'll start to forget stuff about her. I thought that was ridiculous so I didn't do it, now I don't remember much about her.

It's so fucked up how we lose people piece by piece. I fucking hate that it's impossible for something to smell like somebody forever.