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darklink1017 12/02/18 2:14:14 PM #1: |
forgive me for being biased, I'll try my best to tell her side of the story:
*she= Indian, in India. her parents are trying to rush her into marriage. they are offering all these different guys to her to marry. *me=indian, in the USA. just graduated. literally just secured a good paying job. *us: met 3 months ago. long distance. never met in person. me: I cannot see her until next December 2019 due to my new job. I have not accrued any PTO/Vacation time yet. her: wants me to quit my job to go see her and MARRY her by Summer 2019. government: they check the income of the sponsor (me) and I need the job to even travel overseas and provide a life for us. after marrying overseas in India, it will take an additional 6-7 months to bring her over to the USA> my response: I can't go there until December 2019. she proceeds to throw a fit and is audibly upset. my conscious: aren't we going a bit fast? what's your take on all this? should I abort? It's an LDR anyways. --- ... Copied to Clipboard!
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TeaMilk 12/02/18 2:15:33 PM #2: |
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rikasa 12/02/18 2:16:30 PM #3: |
I don't understand what the "pros" are to continuing this relationship?
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refmon 12/02/18 2:17:13 PM #4: |
TeaMilk posted...
holy shit abort --- If you read this signature, then that meant that I had control of what you read for 5 SECONDS!! ... Copied to Clipboard!
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TheMikh 12/02/18 2:17:33 PM #5: |
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Bruce_Somali 12/02/18 2:19:34 PM #7: |
Hump a bastard into her then disengage.
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Kaiganeer 12/02/18 2:22:01 PM #8: |
darklink1017 posted...
us: met 3 months ago. long distance. never met in person. darklink1017 posted... her: wants me to quit my job to go see her and MARRY her by Summer 2019 cut off all contact ... Copied to Clipboard!
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eggcorn 12/02/18 2:22:12 PM #9: |
Yeah you can find someone else where the situation isn't so ridiculous.
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Unsugarized_Foo 12/02/18 2:24:05 PM #10: |
Sounds like she's using you to get a new start, with or without you
She loses nothing in this scenario if she marrys you and you can pretty much lose what you've worked up to --- "All I have is my balls and my word, and I don't break them for anyone!"-Tony Montana ... Copied to Clipboard!
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darklink1017 12/02/18 3:01:46 PM #11: |
Yeah. That's what I thought.
I feel so damn rushed into this. I like her, but not enough to quit the job. Plus it's an LDR lol... Thanks for the advice guys. I knew what to do in my gut, but I need the outsider's perspective. Just because her parents are rushing her doesn't mean I have to fall prey to that. I've only known the girl for about 2 months now. It's already ridiculous as it is. --- ... Copied to Clipboard!
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darklink1017 12/02/18 3:02:57 PM #12: |
TheMikh posted...
do you like your job I have no choice but to like it at the moment man...got to pay off these student loans from university...the job is well paying and utilizes my skillset/passion. --- ... Copied to Clipboard!
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Blue_Inigo 12/02/18 3:06:44 PM #13: |
You've known her for 3 months and you've not physically seen her.
Dont throw shit away for her --- "This is your last dance." ... Copied to Clipboard!
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boxington 12/02/18 3:10:12 PM #14: |
yea, even though you might be really into her, I think that you should end things before you two get even more invested in your relationship.
you're still young (I assume), so hopefully you still have a lot of time to find someone with whom your interests are more aligned. you shouldn't even have to be pressured to marry someone, especially if you've only known them for a relatively short amount of time --- b-bb-box ... Copied to Clipboard!
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darklink1017 12/02/18 3:12:36 PM #16: |
boxington posted...
you're still young (I assume) I wish I was :( I'm 30..graduated university late. better late than never I suppose. That's why there's a wee bit of desperation on my part. If I was younger, I'd have aborted much longer ago. My parents want me married off too, but they are wary of marrying women from overseas (understandably). --- ... Copied to Clipboard!
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