Current Events > Sometimes I'm jealous of people who have excessive free time.

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Like, sometimes I want the freedom to just do what I want to do. I can't, tho. I have a wife, a 4 year old and another one on the way. The wife doesn't look too keenly on me setting and playing video games all day, tho I try to get away with as much as I can lol. Most of the friends I have, I say friends but I actually mean acquaintances, are either stay at home nothings OR single, so all of their time is their time. Most of the friends I had growing up are in the spot I am in. They all have things going on, their own families, and we simply just lost touch with each other.

I find myself envying people with free time, as they don't have anyone to answer to when they are at home. I guess I don't actually answer to anyone in my own home, but I have to take into account that I can't just do what I want, because I have others there who want to spend time with me. This sounds like a good thing, and it is, but sometimes I just want me time.

The grass truly is greener on the other side. The people who have no one would probably envy me in return. When I really think about it, I am actually happier where I'm at, because it has the potential be more fulfilling in the long run. At least, I think it does.
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Interesting you say that since I always percieved adults with families only traveling in circles with similarly-obligated adults. I always thought having kids would be the death-knell for my friendships in their current forms, being single myself.
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Solid Sonic posted...

Interesting you say that since I always percieved adults with families only traveling in circles with similarly-obligated adults. I always thought having kids would be the death-knell for my friendships in their current forms, being single myself.

It's difficult because the planets have to align when two people have families. Someone who is single or a deadbeat has, comparatively, unlimited time that they are able to work with. Of course, depending on the individual that is, but in the general sense it does seem to be this way.

Like, everything has to line up just right for me to able to set down and do something without interruption. Times this by two, taking into account another person with a family, and it just becomes that much more difficult for them both to have a moment to hang.
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im worried about this happening to me too when i have kids, especially since i will be the only person of my friend group AND family to have children. so im afraid i will lose not only free time but most of my relationships as well
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I have roughly 15 hours of free time a day.

I am sometimes jealous of people who don't have much free time.

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Romulox28 posted...

im worried about this happening to me too when i have kids, especially since i will be the only person of my friend group AND family to have children. so im afraid i will lose not only free time but most of my relationships as well

You won't be able to go out anymore, at least not for a while, unless you plan on leaving the child rearing to the mother. It's really hard on them, anyway, as today some women have this self expectation that they also need to work in order to be an independent, strong, modern woman. Adversely, this seems to have somewhat dampened men's willingness/desire to work, as they no longer need to be the main provider, so mothers kinda have to work now.

Both of us work full time, but she actually makes more than I do. We could probably just survive of her income, if we budgeted properly. It's nice having a little extra money to play with, tho.
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Dyinglegacy posted...

Romulox28 posted...

im worried about this happening to me too when i have kids, especially since i will be the only person of my friend group AND family to have children. so im afraid i will lose not only free time but most of my relationships as well

You won't be able to go out anymore, at least not for a while, unless you plan on leaving the child rearing to the mother. It's really hard on them, anyway, as today some women have this self expectation that they also need to work in order to be an independent, strong, modern woman. Adversely, this seems to have somewhat dampened men's willingness/desire to work, as they no longer need to be the main provider, so mothers kinda have to work now.

Both of us work full time, but she actually makes more than I do. We could probably just survive of her income, if we budgeted properly. It's nice having a little extra money to play with, tho.

my wife & i both live in a high CoL area so we will both need to work full-time while we raise the kid, which i think will be even more of an added stress

damn, this little fucker better be worth it
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I miss the days before kids when I could take a nap anytime I wanted, play games to my hearts content and marathon shows with my wife. I wouldn't trade it for the world though, I'll just have to wait until they're older to go back to those times.
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Your situation is a major reason as to why I choose to not have a relationship & kids.

Dyinglegacy posted...

The people who have no one would probably envy me in return.

Strictly speaking for myself, I certainly don't. Not even close.
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voldothegr8 posted...

I miss the days before kids when I could take a nap anytime I wanted, play games to my hearts content and marathon shows with my wife. I wouldn't trade it for the world though, I'll just have to wait until they're older to go back to those times.

I know :(((

Wife and I used to be much closer before our son. We'd set and play borderlands together. I remember her actually getting the itch to play and grind for loot lol. We would set for hours and watch shows way up until the AM, and if we got hungry in the middle of the night, we'd just go to waffle house or wherever we wanted to go.
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