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Is fine with being a male? I'm a male. I'm fine with that I don't want to identify as anything else. I enjoy being male or at least I don't hate it. I'm also attracted to females, and slightly MtF trans. I would I suppose identify slightly as bisexual but I'm basically straight.

However, the term feminine I'm not sure if that's the term that should be used. I dont have any desire to be a man in the sense that society expects. I find much more comfort in the idea of being a woman. I identify with comfort and emotions in the sense that I would be classified as the typical emotional girlfriend. I envy mothers. Doing stereotypical housework I enjoy. I'm not trying to make it sound like that's a womans job I'm just trying to explain.

Like I dont find woman my age attractive either. I'm attracted to woman who are bigger and older than me as they for whatever psychological reason make me me safe and comfortable.

Like in another life if I was born a woman I would be the girlfriend in some lesbian relationship with a 40 year old soccer mom. Being a girlfriend is what I'd like, yet I'm stuck being the boyfriend.

The conflicting thing is I know people can identify as whatever but as I'm not a born female and I do not look at all feminine either I dont have desire to really change that.

I have many times daily where i FEEL female. I identify with them all the time and never seem to understand or get men of any kind really beyond basic bonding or friendships and even those are weird.

I dont know where I'm going with this.

Fluid?
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I can relate in the sense that I would very much like having the female physyical qualities but I enjoy having my male qualities and flaunting them to women, I just would like to get the butt women get when they work out instea dof the one I get when I do, which is good in women's eyes but I just have a different taste I guess.
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You identify with the gender roles of women, doesn't make you trans.
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burritosatan posted...

Fluid?

I think definitions are complicated but gender-fluid would seem to fit, maybe with a bit of Oedipal Complex with the older, larger woman thing.
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indica posted...

burritosatan posted...

Fluid?

I think definitions are complicated but gender-fluid would seem to fit, maybe with a bit of Oedipal Complex with the older, larger woman thing.

Oedipal Complex is that Oedipus complex? Because I'm not sure that fits unless I'm missing something as I don't see them as some sort of threat... I almost see older and bigger (as in taller) as some sort of symbol if comfort and stability that I dont seem to find in any partner I've ever had.

Woah, you pretty much discribed me too for the most part like 98%. I have no interest in transitioning or anything like that, but deep down I feel wrong.

I got the same taste in women too, but I wouldn't call it oedipal. Never had incestuous thoughts.
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So you're an estrogenic male, which I understand is different from MtF in terms of brain structure.

Could be gender fluid. Most likely something under genderqueer. Maybe.

Shits confusing in all honesty.

Couldn't hurt to google genderqueer and read about it and it's many subgroups. Might be that something will click with you.

Good luck. :)

Don't put too much thought or worry into it and just enjoy yourself for who you are. Do something that makes you happy, don't agonize over your identity. You'll figure it out eventually.
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Psyonix posted...

indica posted...

burritosatan posted...

Fluid?

I think definitions are complicated but gender-fluid would seem to fit, maybe with a bit of Oedipal Complex with the older, larger woman thing.

Oedipal Complex is that Oedipus complex? Because I'm not sure that fits unless I'm missing something as I don't see them as some sort of threat... I almost see older and bigger (as in taller) as some sort of symbol if comfort and stability that I dont seem to find in any partner I've ever had.

If you see older and bigger women as comforting, and you're a man, then Freud would say that you are looking to these women as replacements for your mother, which is a big part of the Oedipal Complex, especially not being aware of it.
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Sounds like demigirl (using girl in it feels weird but it's the technical label), which is basically where you... feel like and identify with being a woman, but maybe not enough to transition or feel dysphoria.
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Valesa posted...

Sounds like demigirl (using girl in it feels weird but it's the technical label), which is basically where you... feel like and identify with being a woman, but maybe not enough to transition or feel dysphoria.

The term seems strange to me too; there's also demifluid, which is also a little strange. I can't help but think of a chibi succubus with demigirl.
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Thanks for the responses.

The Oedipal complex still seems weird to me as it makes it sound like people who find older and bigger woman and a comfort are doing it out of some need their mothers never gave them but that's not the case at all. It also talks about resentment which I dont have.

Let me explain further:

I've dated woman ranging from skinny to large and different ethnicities as well and it's great but all of them have always been shorter than me.

I also have kids, as I was married once (I'm 29 btw). Sometimes when my partners would complain it literally felt to me like I had a 3rd kid. Not in the fact that they argued like a child but that's just how I saw them, but it's not a lack of respect. If life was chaotic for some reason it was like one more person to have to take care of.

I dont know why but I feel like being a partner to a woman at minimum age 35 to 40 and also if shes taller than me (I'm 5'11') it for whatever reason seems like at the very least shed be another half I could rely on.

This sounds strange and im fully aware any grown adult can definitely take care of themselves and im not even 6 foot tall it just seems like my brain finds these woman some sort of protective role yet I dont have any massive life trauma that would possibly sway me towards seeking that?

Talk to a shrink instead of gamefaqs
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Psyonix posted...

Thanks for the responses.

The Oedipal complex still seems weird to me as it makes it sound like people who find older and bigger woman and a comfort are doing it out of some need their mothers never gave them but that's not the case at all. It also talks about resentment which I dont have.

Let me explain further:

I've dated woman ranging from skinny to large and different ethnicities as well and it's great but all of them have always been shorter than me.

I also have kids, as I was married once (I'm 29 btw). Sometimes when my partners would complain it literally felt to me like I had a 3rd kid. Not in the fact that they argued like a child but that's just how I saw them, but it's not a lack of respect. If life was chaotic for some reason it was like one more person to have to take care of.

I dont know why but I feel like being a partner to a woman at minimum age 35 to 40 and also if shes taller than me (I'm 5'11') it for whatever reason seems like at the very least shed be another half I could rely on.

This sounds strange and im fully aware any grown adult can definitely take care of themselves and im not even 6 foot tall it just seems like my brain finds these woman some sort of protective role yet I dont have any massive life trauma that would possibly sway me towards seeking that?

I wouldn't take my Oedipal comments too seriously...Freud wasn't exactly right about everything. But I would say that sounds like you find comfort in someone who represents a maternal figure for you, and I don't mean that in any negative way. I mean Freud said that all men suffer from the Oedipal Complex and a later psychologist added that all women suffer from the Elektra Complex--Freud only centered on male development for some reason. I guess I might ask if you find it difficult to form relationships with men?
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so you're a guy who likes "feminine" stuff. just enjoy those things, and be you.

i don't see an issue.

Fam_Fam posted...

so you're a guy who likes "feminine" stuff. just enjoy those things, and be you.

i don't see an issue.

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