Current Events > Question for anybody divorced/broken up with after 10+ years in a relationship

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My girlfriend's sister got a divorce last May, so more than a year ago. (She was married for like 17 years.)

Anyway, she's been depressed and drinking, practically nonstop, the entire time with no end in sight. She's become less social and even set her privacy on Facebook (I know, "Lol Facebook,") so nobody can write anything on her wall. She doesn't post anything, but does comment on people's posts.

I keep telling my gf that these are all warning signs that she's not getting better, and in fact, is getting worse. But, my gf just acts like it's fine, and I'm blowing this all out of proportion.

I hope I'm wrong and my gf is right, but what, if anything, can I do to help her sister see that she's just wasting her life? Or should I just mind my own business and look the other way?
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That sucks, homie. Try reaching out to her independently. Take her out to supper or something.

Ultimately, however, you can only do so much to help her. She's gotta want to be helped.

Also, yes, I think you're right and your gf is wrong.
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Thanks for the advice, @Eat_More_Beef

Maybe I'll text her and see how she's feeling... I'm not going to ask her to dinner without my gf; that would be weird. And my gf has a lot going on at the moment, so... IDK. :|
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EscapeFromHell posted...

Thanks for the advice, @Eat_More_Beef

Maybe I'll text her and see how she's feeling... I'm not going to ask her to dinner without my gf; that would be weird. And my gf has a lot going on at the moment, so... IDK. :|

Nah, homie. Ask her to dinner. Your gf will understand if you're trying to bridge that gap. Make it a date between the two of you (non romantic). Show her you care and you're her friend.
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I've never been in a relationship that long, mostly because I'm only in my 20s, but I think I have a good understanding of what it feels like. Try to invite her to things with you, or do some kind of group activities. Isolating yourself too much right after a breakup honestly makes things a lot harder than they need to be. Help her gain some of her confidence back.
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Hook her up with someone. 100% serious--fastest/best confidence boost.
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I mean I was devstated after a 6 month relationship even tho I have felt better when I ended a couple 2 year ones, so I cannot begin to believe how ending a 17 year ne might feel, hope she recovers.
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