Current Events > Is it possible to be in a relationship with someone in a platonic way?

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Like, they're your boyfriend/girlfriend, but there's little to no sexual chemistry and you just spend your lives together. Play games together, watch television and movies together, go out together, even live together, but you just don't have sex or cuddle or kiss? Is that a thing?
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It's called "being roommates".
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Thats called being asexual
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DK9292 posted...

It's called "being roommates".

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Thats called a friend.
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I was with my last gf for over 3 years and we didn't have sex, although we cuddled and kissed and stuff. I think we would have had she not been struggling with bad body dysmorphia, but it's not something I feel is necessary to me. I think it can work if both parties just aren't interested in sex/physical stuff, romantic or platonic love shouldn't be seen as any less meaningful
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Pretty sure a lot of couples only have sex like once a month a few years after they marry. I hear a lot of stories on reddit. It's mostly after they have kids and the wife doesn't have the drive to have sex. It's pretty sad. It can happen to any couple.
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It's like we've moved from "can men and women be platonic friends" to "can you be platonic friends with anyone without there being sexual tension?" We'll just assume family members are off limits here.

Frankly, I don't know if I love or hate this development.
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Is it possible?
Yes, if both want that kind of relationship.
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YookaLaylee posted...

Thats called being asexual

the description in the OP suggests that they'd also be aromantic and sex averse
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..about as likely as a human falling in love with a container of garlic powder :(
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DK9292 posted...

It's called "being roommates".

EDIT: My apologies for the snarky remark, I completely missed the part about officially being boyfriend and girlfriend. I don't see anything wrong with that. Just sounds like you two are genuine life partners, you're just happy to be with one another.

It's ok, it's a bit of weird question. I guess that could be an explanation, but it's lacking something... Hmmm...

YookaLaylee posted...

Thats called being asexual

Not quite. I'm not saying these two people have no interest in sex, they just have no interest in sex with each other.

King_Hellebuyck posted...

Thats called a friend.

But in this scenario these two people are in love romantically, not just friends. The only thing that's missing is the sexual element.
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TeaMilk posted...

I was with my last gf for over 3 years and we didn't have sex, although we cuddled and kissed and stuff. I think we would have had she not been struggling with bad body dysmorphia, but it's not something I feel is necessary to me. I think it can work if both parties just aren't interested in sex/physical stuff, romantic or platonic love shouldn't be seen as any less meaningful

This is what I was looking for, yes. Romantic attachment, monogamous love, but without coitus of any kind. The kissing and cuddling are there, but that's it. You've given me some good insight. Thanks for sharing! <3

Cobra1010 posted...

Pretty sure a lot of couples only have sex like once a month a few years after they marry. I hear a lot of stories on reddit. It's mostly after they have kids and the wife doesn't have the drive to have sex. It's pretty sad. It can happen to any couple.

I've heard of that, too, but I'm not talking about being tired or some other factor that causes the sexlessness, I'm talking about just being sexless, well, just because. In this situation, there is no trigger for being uninterested in sex like tiredness from work or children or age or poor health. This hypothetical couple has no children, work only about 35 hours a week, and are still young. They also live together, just the two of them. It's a little different than the scenario you're thinking of.

hollow_shrine posted...

It's like we've moved from "can men and women be platonic friends" to "can you be platonic friends with anyone without there being sexual tension?" We'll just assume family members are off limits here.

Frankly, I don't know if I love or hate this development.

I don't even know how to respond to this...

Foppe posted...

Is it possible?
Yes, if both want that kind of relationship.

Hi hi good buddy! If you think it's possible, I think so, too :3
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garlic powder posted...

..about as likely as a human falling in love with a container of garlic powder :(

Cheer up, friend! You just haven't found the right panda lover yet!
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It's definitely possible and tbh I kinda like the sound of it.

Would have to be an open relationship though, so I could be attracted to/sleep with other people.
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Two asexuals collide.
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marthsheretoo posted...

It's definitely possible and tbh I kinda like the sound of it.

Would have to be an open relationship though, so I could be attracted to/sleep with other people.

I'm right there with you, doll. That would be awesome.
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I guess Unquestionable is pretty bad in the bedroom huh
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0AbsoluteZero0 posted...

I guess Unquestionable is pretty bad in the bedroom huh

I think you're reading too far into it.
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Ultimate Friendzone
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MY wife and I are like that actually. We have sex very rarely, not because we cant or don't want to, but because we both kind of just dont feel the need to. If we both end up wanting to at the same time, we do then, but due to work schedules and our bodies being in not the best (medical) shape, the desire just isn't there a lot of the time.

Neither of us resent it, we've accepted it as part of our lives.
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Sabram posted...

MY wife and I are like that actually. We have sex very rarely, not because we cant or don't want to, but because we both kind of just dont feel the need to. If we both end up wanting to at the same time, we do then, but due to work schedules and our bodies being in not the best (medical) shape, the desire just isn't there a lot of the time.

Neither of us resent it, we've accepted it as part of our lives.

Wow, that's really fascinating! So you're saying you're both on the same page with your sexual aversion and live harmoniously? That's some grade A communication and love! I guess it is possible, then. More valuable insight! Thanks for sharing!
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SableWolfAngel posted...

0AbsoluteZero0 posted...

I guess Unquestionable is pretty bad in the bedroom huh

I think you're reading too far into it.

Hun just ignore the stupid shit he says. Seriously, he never has anything nice to say to me either.

And yeah its entirely possible. Sounds more asexual without being aromantic imo. Whatever works tho :)
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SableWolfAngel posted...

Sabram posted...

MY wife and I are like that actually. We have sex very rarely, not because we cant or don't want to, but because we both kind of just dont feel the need to. If we both end up wanting to at the same time, we do then, but due to work schedules and our bodies being in not the best (medical) shape, the desire just isn't there a lot of the time.

Neither of us resent it, we've accepted it as part of our lives.

Wow, that's really fascinating! So you're saying you're both on the same page with your sexual aversion and live harmoniously? That's some grade A communication and love! I guess it is possible, then. More valuable insight! Thanks for sharing!

I... can't tell if you're being incredible sarcastic.
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Sabram posted...

SableWolfAngel posted...

Sabram posted...

MY wife and I are like that actually. We have sex very rarely, not because we cant or don't want to, but because we both kind of just dont feel the need to. If we both end up wanting to at the same time, we do then, but due to work schedules and our bodies being in not the best (medical) shape, the desire just isn't there a lot of the time.

Neither of us resent it, we've accepted it as part of our lives.

Wow, that's really fascinating! So you're saying you're both on the same page with your sexual aversion and live harmoniously? That's some grade A communication and love! I guess it is possible, then. More valuable insight! Thanks for sharing!

I... can't tell if you're being incredible sarcastic.

What?? No!! I'm being serious!! I'm sorry, did I say something mean? I really did like what you had to say :(
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SableWolfAngel posted...

Sabram posted...

SableWolfAngel posted...

Sabram posted...

MY wife and I are like that actually. We have sex very rarely, not because we cant or don't want to, but because we both kind of just dont feel the need to. If we both end up wanting to at the same time, we do then, but due to work schedules and our bodies being in not the best (medical) shape, the desire just isn't there a lot of the time.

Neither of us resent it, we've accepted it as part of our lives.

Wow, that's really fascinating! So you're saying you're both on the same page with your sexual aversion and live harmoniously? That's some grade A communication and love! I guess it is possible, then. More valuable insight! Thanks for sharing!

I... can't tell if you're being incredible sarcastic.

What?? No!! I'm being serious!! I'm sorry, did I say something mean? I really did like what you had to say :(

Oh alright then. Just a note it's less an "aversion" and more of a "It's nice but whatever" kind of feeling. We DO have a lot of nice long cuddle and kiss sessions though, so that helps. We're also not against either of us watching some porn to satisfy ourselves when our desires don't overlap.
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JACKBUTTMOMMY posted...

Sabram posted...

SableWolfAngel posted...

Sabram posted...

SableWolfAngel posted...

Sabram posted...

MY wife and I are like that actually. We have sex very rarely, not because we cant or don't want to, but because we both kind of just dont feel the need to. If we both end up wanting to at the same time, we do then, but due to work schedules and our bodies being in not the best (medical) shape, the desire just isn't there a lot of the time.

Neither of us resent it, we've accepted it as part of our lives.

Wow, that's really fascinating! So you're saying you're both on the same page with your sexual aversion and live harmoniously? That's some grade A communication and love! I guess it is possible, then. More valuable insight! Thanks for sharing!

I... can't tell if you're being incredible sarcastic.

What?? No!! I'm being serious!! I'm sorry, did I say something mean? I really did like what you had to say :(

Oh alright then. Just a note it's less an "aversion" and more of a "It's nice but whatever" kind of feeling. We DO have a lot of nice long cuddle and kiss sessions though, so that helps. We're also not against either of us watching some porn to satisfy ourselves when our desires don't overlap.

Oh baby!

Yeah that sounds like a good partnership right there. Whatever works for people. So long as they arent hurting each other or anyone else of course. What happens a lot unfortunately in other couplings is lack of honest or communication.

being honest is a huge thing for me, the best thing in life is honesty.
even gave an amazon seller 5 stars because they was truthful about the issue i wouldn't want a disc that wouldn't work.
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JACKBUTTMOMMY posted...

Sabram posted...

SableWolfAngel posted...

Sabram posted...

SableWolfAngel posted...

Sabram posted...

MY wife and I are like that actually. We have sex very rarely, not because we cant or don't want to, but because we both kind of just dont feel the need to. If we both end up wanting to at the same time, we do then, but due to work schedules and our bodies being in not the best (medical) shape, the desire just isn't there a lot of the time.

Neither of us resent it, we've accepted it as part of our lives.

Wow, that's really fascinating! So you're saying you're both on the same page with your sexual aversion and live harmoniously? That's some grade A communication and love! I guess it is possible, then. More valuable insight! Thanks for sharing!

I... can't tell if you're being incredible sarcastic.

What?? No!! I'm being serious!! I'm sorry, did I say something mean? I really did like what you had to say :(

Oh alright then. Just a note it's less an "aversion" and more of a "It's nice but whatever" kind of feeling. We DO have a lot of nice long cuddle and kiss sessions though, so that helps. We're also not against either of us watching some porn to satisfy ourselves when our desires don't overlap.

Oh baby!

Yeah that sounds like a good partnership right there. Whatever works for people. So long as they arent hurting each other or anyone else of course. What happens a lot unfortunately in other couplings is lack of honest or communication.

Yeah, we knew that going into the whole thing, number one killer of relationships. So we just made promises back when we were just dating to not lie about anything to each other. I mean it helps that she's a terrible liar i spose, but there's never been anything I'd call "important" that she's even tried to lie about.

But yeah, pretty much that.
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