Current Events > Should relatives be allowed to deceive a Terminally-ill person about her status?

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It's a great fucking question being disclosed in this really good movie out this summer.

https://www.theatlantic.com/entertainment/archive/2019/07/lulu-wang-director-farewell-welcomes-your-tears/593806/

Indeed, the deeply sincere and personal The Farewell, released in New York and Los Angeles on Friday, has had a profoundly powerful effect on its viewers so far, whether prompting tears or unexpected laughter. Wang based the film, her second feature, on a lie that she and her family told: In 2013, her nai nai (the Mandarin term for paternal grandmothers), was diagnosed with Stage 4 lung cancer, but the family chose not to tell hera call that may seem unusual but is actually in keeping with Chinese values of sharing emotional burdens. (This way, Nai Nai doesnt have to carry the weight of knowing about her failing health; the family does it for her.) To ensure that everyone got a chance to say goodbye, they orchestrated a shotgun wedding for Wangs cousin in China, an elaborate cover-up that Wang, who grew up in the United States but remained close to Nai Nai, struggled to accept even as she participated in the deception.

The film depicts these events through the eyes of Wangs avatar, Billi, played by the Crazy Rich Asians scene-stealer Awkwafina. When Billi learns of the plot, shes torn between wanting to tell Nai Naiso her grandmother can get her affairs in orderand wanting to support her parents, aunts, and uncles. Shes distraught, but showing her emotions would invite Nai Nais suspicion.

As for Wangs concerns that her bittersweet family drama would be hated, she neednt have worried: Since its debut at Sundance in January, its been lauded by critics, presented at scores of festivals around the world, and showered with honors, including the Audience Favourite Award at Sundances London fete. That night in downtown L.A., Wang picked up yet another trophythe Sundance Institute Vanguard Award, which has previously been given to indie filmmakers such as Dee Rees, Marielle Heller, and Boots Rileyand announced, to a spirited full house, that the film had landed Chinese distribution, the details of which are still being finalized.

Its been a whirlwind tour for Wang, who is frequently approached by fans affected by her film. Most of the time, they want to share their emotions and life stories, to tell her how much her nai nai reminds them of their own, or how much her family resembles theirs. Its happened at every single screening Ive been to, Daniele Melia, one of the producers of The Farewell, told me. Shes created something that is touching people in such a universal way, considering the story shes telling is as personal a story as any filmmaker has ever told.

Many of Wangs admirers cry when they come up to her, and even now, months into the promo circuit, Wang cries too. Shes surprised by how emotional she still gets. I feel like I could sit down with this person and have a three-hour meal or something to really talk it through, but I dont have that, she said. Its very intense in a very short burst of time.

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No.
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Yeah, no, that's beyond fucked up and you're a piece of shit if you do that.
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Lol, Im definitely not getting into this discussion here. That sounds hella annoying. I would like to hear from people with actual experience with close family members that went through terminal illnesses tho.
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Is this an ad? It feels like an ad.
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