Current Events > I have a date tomorrow with a girl way outa my league...what do I do?!?

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I'll elaborate on that point, since it's a bit vague.

Treat this like a job interview in the respect that actually, you're there to discover if this is a good fit for you. If you turn up just thinking about what the magic combination of words and behaviour is to hoodwink your employer into picking you, you're not likely to make a good impression. And critically, you won't actually discover if this truly is a good fit for you or not.

So, think about the possibility that the date doesn't go how you want it to. Really, this just means that it was a bad fit, and the worst thing that happened that day is you discovered something new, had a conversation with someone you hadn't met before. You grew a little bit. So while it's not the best outcome you hoped for, it's also not a loss. You had an experience you otherwise wouldn't have had.

Approach dates with the view in mind that you're really just going to spend some time in the company of someone new.

Honestly, this attitude has done me a lot of good in dating. In the times that I scored, it created a relaxed atmosphere and did not send off desperate vibes (because I wasn't desperate). And in the times that I didn't score, I was able to leave things gracefully and not feel like a chump.
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My man.
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atta boy
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told you it'd be fine

now follow pinky's sagely advice and, more importantly, have fun

nice
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pinky0926 posted...

I'll elaborate on that point, since it's a bit vague.

Treat this like a job interview in the respect that actually, you're there to discover if this is a good fit for you. If you turn up just thinking about what the magic combination of words and behaviour is to hoodwink your employer into picking you, you're not likely to make a good impression. And critically, you won't actually discover if this truly is a good fit for you or not.

So, think about the possibility that the date doesn't go how you want it to. Really, this just means that it was a bad fit, and the worst thing that happened that day is you discovered something new, had a conversation with someone you hadn't met before. You grew a little bit. So while it's not the best outcome you hoped for, it's also not a loss. You had an experience you otherwise wouldn't have had.

Approach dates with the view in mind that you're really just going to spend some time in the company of someone new.

Honestly, this attitude has done me a lot of good in dating. In the times that I scored, it created a relaxed atmosphere and did not send off desperate vibes (because I wasn't desperate). And in the times that I didn't score, I was able to leave things gracefully and not feel like a chump.

Interesting perspective.

I mean. The date went very well and I was just being myself the whole time. Definitely helped I took 2 shots of whiskey before I met up with her so I was nice and relaxed lolz.

But her and I just kinda clicked instantly, so I felt super comfortable around her almost instantly. Helped a ton with me just enjoying spending time with her.
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Sigh. Shes barely texted all day and is just super limited in responses.

Did I read into this wrong? I guess heres the usual. Self doubt. Assuming I screwed up somehow. Honestly. I probably did. Who knows.
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roos1046 Reborn posted...

treewojima posted...

MFBKBass5 posted...

Chicken_Butt posted...

Lost_All_Senses posted...

1st of all don't treat her like she's out of your league. Treat her like an equal

Seriously. If she agreed to date you she clearly doesn't think she's out of your league, but if you give her that impression, you're done. So chill, brah.

How does one chill?

jerk off before the date

and during

and after
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