Board 8 > I need to vent about a relationship issue and cant talk to others [Blogfaqs]

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I don't think it's illogical to rush when (1) she's preferred it there for years, (2) she's just come back and is still in very upset mode, and (3) she's finally made a decision to go permanently and just wants it to be done. It's not really about David and their relationship, it's just about what she wants right now.

MZero11 posted...

Regardless, couldn't she go in October and you go in January and link up?

imo this is the best solution - she should understand that you need more time to prepare
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Gatarix posted...

I don't think it's illogical to rush when (1) she's preferred it there for years, (2) she's just come back and is still in very upset mode, and (3) she's finally made a decision to go permanently and just wants it to be done. It's not really about David and their relationship, it's just about what she wants right now.

MZero11 posted...

Regardless, couldn't she go in October and you go in January and link up?

imo this is the best solution - she should understand that you need more time to prepare

I don't think he needs the time to prepare based on what he said about his life, and I think they should be spending their holidays together. I support going together and making it a joint merry experience.
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okay I didn't think about holidays, you raise a good point
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Gatarix posted...

okay I didn't think about holidays, you raise a good point

Yeah, I think your original point and then what Corrik said is likely a good representation of things, at least the way I understand it.

This is really happening, and I'm excited for it. We told my parents and then most of my extended family and almost everyone shared similar thoughts to most here, they say there's no harm in trying and I've got nothing to lose. A lot of, "we're excited but also incredibly sad". My dad shed a tear, told me if it wasn't for my younger sister he'd be right there with me over there.

My grandma wasn't the happiest, which was rough because she might be the person I'd miss the most. It's a little funny because she is super cultural Portuguese, speaks it at home, and lived there before migrating here in the 70s. She's never been back but now she has a reason to go, I guess.

I've already got half the family trying to figure out when to visit, so that made me feel better.
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Also apparently because my dad was born there I qualify to be a Portuguese citizen without needing to do anything but apply, which solves about 90% of the logistics issues of going to another country long term.
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Good luck on this next adventure!

Im happy youre excited, and that various things are coming together.
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good luck!
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Tell your family (or gf) to teach you portuguese already
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Glad to see things are going well. Good luck, man - and make sure to come back to Toronto a couple times a year to see that family. For your sake and theirs.
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davidponte posted...

Also apparently because my dad was born there I qualify to be a Portuguese citizen without needing to do anything but apply, which solves about 90% of the logistics issues of going to another country long term.

That's amazing. Dealing with Immigration and visas is the worst
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davidponte posted...

Also apparently because my dad was born there I qualify to be a Portuguese citizen without needing to do anything but apply, which solves about 90% of the logistics issues of going to another country long term.

Damn, you lucked out on that. It's looking more and more like the right decision to go.
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foolm0r0n posted...

Tell your family (or gf) to teach you portuguese already

I understand it a decent amount just from being around my grandma all these years, but struggle when it comes to speaking.
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Glad to hear things are turning out well!
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I know a bit of German, my mom is from there, I learned a bit growing up. But I don't practice... it's easier for me to speak than to understand because my vocab is shot. When I'm there for a couple of weeks, it starts picking up for me, and I can engage in some basic conversations and remembering vocab through context.

It's a big change but with some time and immersion I think you'll do well.

just make sure you grab all the Raptors championship gear you'll need before leaving.

The greatest adventure, is what lies ahead~
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Let her go.
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Whiskey_Nick posted...

Let her go.

Uhhhhh... that's the worst advice yet in the topic, seeing as it doesn't take anything that's happened since it was posted into account.
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You still havent addressed how you're going to be tuning in at 3 or 4am every weekday to watch NBA games... or NHL or NFL games...

LadyVyxx posted...

You still havent addressed how you're going to be tuning in at 3 or 4am every weekday to watch NBA games... or NHL or NFL games...

Oh shit I didnt take this into account. I take back everything I said, dump her and stay in America

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I gotta wonder if there's some sort of international streaming cloud DVR service that would allow him to tape sporting events and watch them later - hopefully unspoiled - for 30-40 a month. Ad free.
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__LeiaRolando__ posted...

I gotta wonder if there's some sort of international streaming cloud DVR service that would allow him to tape sporting events and watch them later - hopefully unspoiled - for 30-40 a month. Ad free.

No true sports fan can watch later matches unspoiled. The urge to check score updates asap is too real

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at least he doesn't have to worry about the Patriots for much longer
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you should both move to a 3rd country

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So the Azores is still a ways off from mainland Europe and it's only 4 hours ahead of EST.

Leafs/Raptors games at 11pm and Football at 5pm is very much doable.

I can still kind of legally watch it too by logging into my cable account that the family pays for from there and streaming it.
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davidponte posted...

I can still kind of legally watch it too by logging into my cable account that the family pays for from there and streaming it.

got VPN?
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davidponte posted...

So the Azores is still a ways off from mainland Europe and it's only 4 hours ahead of EST.

Leafs/Raptors games at 11pm and Football at 5pm is very much doable.

I can still kind of legally watch it too by logging into my cable account that the family pays for from there and streaming it.

Can you not just subscribe to YouTube tv or something from there anyways?
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Aecioo posted...

__LeiaRolando__ posted...

I gotta wonder if there's some sort of international streaming cloud DVR service that would allow him to tape sporting events and watch them later - hopefully unspoiled - for 30-40 a month. Ad free.

No true sports fan can watch later matches unspoiled. The urge to check score updates asap is too real

This. Plus they do game breaks and even run current scores during other games so it would be Impossible