Current Events > Can someone explain to me exactly what being a "pansexual" entails?

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So the definition and what that would look like in actuality. Kinda need to clear something up and idk anyone who would be able to give me a definitive and accurate answer.

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You find cooking utensils sexually attractive

My recent ex was mostly Asexual but she fit pansexual more before she *changed*

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It's essentially an attraction to people regardless of their gender identity or biological sex.

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that you can feel sexual attraction to someone regardless of their gender identity/expression, iirc.

like, someone who's bisexual might only be into cis-males & females, but someone who's pan doesn't necessarily have those hold-ups.

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Someone that is pansexual is someone that is bisexual, but considers it an important part of their sexuality that they are attracted to trans or nonbinary individuals.

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So, it basically means you're open to fuck anybody?

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Complete_Idi0t posted...

You find cooking utensils sexually attractive

...you don't?

mustachedmystic posted...

So, it basically means you're open to fuck anybody?

Yes

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MC_BatCommander posted...

It's essentially an attraction to people regardless of their gender identity or biological sex.

boxington posted...

that you can feel sexual attraction to someone regardless of their gender identity/expression, iirc.

like, someone who's bisexual might only be into cis-males & females, but someone who's pan doesn't necessarily have those hold-ups.

Ok so these match up with what I've come to understand as well. Well the reason I ask is because *when* I guess I'm pansexual. I'm assuming most people here don't remember me since I've rarely posted the last couple years but yeah, I've been just a typical straight guy for my entire life with absolutely no attraction to other men or trans people or anything other than females.

But then a few months ago I met a guy, hes a pretty flamboyant gay dude and we just became good friends, then really good friends, and then out of the fucking blue I had to admit to myself that I was developing feelings for him. It was weird cuz I developed feelings for him before I developed a sexual attraction towards him. I didn't know this could happen to anyone and definitely never thought it could possibly ever happen to me. I mean I've always been a staunch supporter of all the alphabet people (LGBT etc) and been super open minded, not to mention met a lot of gay guys who were interested in me, but I'd never even come close to thinking I might be anything other than straight.

I want to be sure everyone knows this isn't some kinda joke or anything like that, I'm being 100% honest. But I can't blame anyone who's skeptical of that cuz I didn't think it worked like that at all.

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Alphabet people you say?

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=QMxkevtel-k

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mustachedmystic posted...

Alphabet people you say?

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=QMxkevtel-k

Got it from Chappelle

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So they just cropped up a term for "I f*** anything that moves" ?

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Bisexuality for people who feel the need to broadcast that they don't discriminate against the transcommunity.

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DarthWendy posted...

So they just cropped up a term for "I f*** anything that moves" ?

No.

COVxy posted...

Bisexuality for people who feel the need to broadcast that they don't discriminate against the transcommunity.

No again. That's what I thought it meant originally, but now I see that it means you can develop romantic feelings for anyone. I'm still not attracted to any trans people, or really even any other guys. At least to the point of being willing to have sex with them. Tbh I am not even sure that I truly fall under this category, I just don't know what else to call it.

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I'm Panqueer genderfluid

The difference I usually say about bi and pan, is that bi people are attracted to men and women for different reasons. Like they like women a certain way and men another. Versus someone pan(like me) likes the same traits in anyone. Like if you are bi maybe you like athletic boys and thicc girls.

But I just like cute girly thicc people from any gender.
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I think you're taking your very specific circumstance and trying to fit a label to it, rather than see if the circumstance fits the label.

You had romantic feelings for someone you're not sexually attracted to. It's weird, but it happens sometimes. I don't think there's a specific label for it.

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https://lmgtfy.com/?q=pansexual&s=l

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nicklebro posted...

I see that it means you can develop romantic feelings for anyone.

what does romance have to do with what makes your dick hard?

It's like bisexual.

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COVxy posted...

I think you're taking your very specific circumstance and trying to fit a label to it, rather than see if the circumstance fits the label.

You had romantic feelings for someone you're not sexually attracted to. It's weird, but it happens sometimes. I don't think there's a specific label for it.

But everyone I've talked to about it has said the same thing. It isn't just bi+ trans like you said.

But I do agree that there's likely no accurate label for whatever the fuck happened to me. It's actually not entirely accurate for mentonsay that I developed feelings for him before attraction, I guess the feelings were just the first thing I acknowledged and accepted, since that was actually easier to comprehend and process than the fact that I found him sexually attractive. If that makes sense.

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Pansexual but not potsexual.

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inloveanddeath0 posted...

My recent ex was mostly Asexual but she fit pansexual more before she *changed*

Fuck do you mean by this post? You say that as if you doubt their being asexual.

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Raikuro posted...

what does romance have to do with what makes your dick hard?

... Lol well for some people, nothing I guess.

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