Current Events > Adults that go on vacations with their families still baffle me

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I haven't been on a vacation with my family since I was 16 lol
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So what exactly is it that you are having trouble understanding?

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IfGodCouldDie posted...

So what exactly is it that you are having trouble understanding?

how/why do adults go on vacation with their parents
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No_U_L7 posted...

how/why do adults go on vacation with their parents

Parents: "hey Patrick you wanna go on an all expenses paid trip to go skiing in Colorado with us and your brothers?"

Sounds fucking awesome, what part are you not understanding?

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In my case, I go on vacation with my mom just to visit family.

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No_U_L7 posted...

I haven't been on a vacation with my family since I was 16 lol

Is that because they also find you to be a creepy, off putting sexual harasser?

Everyone does that except you, NO_U_L7

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PatrickMahomes posted...

Parents: "hey Patrick you wanna go on an all expenses paid trip to go skiing in Colorado with us and your brothers?"

Sounds fucking awesome, what part are you not understanding?

the part where you don't immediately jump off a cliff to avoid having to go on vacation with your family

MrFingers07 posted...

In my case, I go on vacation with my mom just to visit family.

eh that's fine

Tenlaar posted...

Is that because they also find you to be a creepy, off putting sexual harasser?

no one finds me to be that lmao
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No_U_L7 posted...

no one finds me to be that lmao

Flat out factually wrong.

Tenlaar posted...

Is that because they also find you to be a creepy, off putting sexual harasser?

Im guessin its because when they went to Disney World in 2015 they all got kicked out when TC tried this on a princess:

https://youtu.be/w4kMyuUkABs

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Shablagoo posted...

Im guessin its because when they went to Disney World in 2015 they all got kicked out when TC tried this on a princess:

https://youtu.be/w4kMyuUkABs

dude broke the first rule of pick up, which is also the first rule of fight club...dont fucking talk about it lmao
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Definitely nothing shady at all about saying that the first rule of something you model your entire identity off of is to hide that fact.

Tenlaar posted...

Definitely nothing shady at all about saying that the first rule of something you model your entire identity off of is to hide that fact.

because pick up artistry has been demonized by the public due to out dated mystery method era bullshit. i talk about pick up artist concepts all the time with girls and people...i just never use the phrase "pick up artist"
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Yeah man, being a creepy ass serial sexual harasser sure did get an unfair bad wrap. Damn you public for demonizing something so innocent!

Tenlaar posted...

Yeah man, being a creepy ass serial sexual harasser sure did get an unfair bad wrap. Damn you public for demonizing something so innocent!

Youre kinda proving my point. There's nothing wrong with what I do and its not remotely close to serial sexual harsher territory...yet you make the incorrect assumption because of false preconceived notions of what being a pick up artist is

I know how to have good honest conversations off cold approach that leads towards romance. Nothing wrong with that!
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There is so much wrong.

IfGodCouldDie posted...

So what exactly is it that you are having trouble understanding?

He's just mad that everybody is having fun but him.

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No_U_L7 posted...

the part where you don't immediately jump off a cliff to avoid having to go on vacation with your family

Legitimately LMAO!!
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@Duncanwii

What I don't understand is why parents would ever go on vacation with their kids...that just looks like hell

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Some people actually enjoy spending time with their family. Crazy concept, right?

Returning_CEmen posted...

Some people actually enjoy spending time with their family. Crazy concept, right?

So crazy I don't believe it. Why would people enjoy being emotionally tortured?
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It depends on the destination tbh. My family always used to go camping at this rustic cabin in a state park forest on the beach and it was fun because there was so much freedom. People brought friends and stuff and we all just did our own thing. Wed sit around the huge bonfires we built at night cooking and drinking and playing party games.

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No_U_L7 posted...

how/why do adults go on vacation with their parents

You serious dude? If you have good parents growing up..ones that feeds you, shelters you, supports you financially and emotionally and wants to spend time with you, you have to do the same.

We don't live forever man. It's likely our parents will go out first. Take it from me with my dad having brain cancer and might not live to see 2022. I wish I spent more time with him and not directed my venter anger to him when he didn't deserve it. He wasn't perfect, but he was a good dad and did what he could do with how he was raised.

Don't have this mentality of being embarrassed from your parents and not spending enough time with them, until your parents get sick. It will be too late then. Create as many good memories as you can with them. You'll deeply regret it if you don't.

And when you get kids, you'll want good relationships with your kids.

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Shablagoo posted...

It depends on the destination tbh. My family always used to go camping at this rustic cabin in a state park forest on the beach and it was fun because there was so much freedom. People brought friends and stuff and we all just did our own thing. Wed sit around the huge bonfires we built at night cooking and drinking and playing party games.

I understand all those words individually but when put together it makes absolutely no sense
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Arcanine2009 posted...

You serious dude? If you have good parents growing up..ones that feeds you, shelters you, supports you financially and emotionally and wants to spend time with you, you have to do the same.

We don't live forever man. It's likely our parents will go out first. Take it from me with my dad having brain cancer and might not live to see 2022. I wish I spent more time with him and vented my anger to him when he didn't deserve it. He wasn't perfect, but he was a good dad.

Don't have this mentality until your parents get sick. It will be too late then. Create as many memories as you can with them

I could have stopped reading at the first sentence lol. I spend time with my parents regularly but have a rule where I can't spend more than 4 consecutive hours with them, otherwise it'll inevitably end up ugly

Can't even comprehend an entire vacation lol
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No_U_L7 posted...

I could have stopped reading at the first sentence lol. I spend time with my parents regularly but have a rule where I can't spend more than 4 consecutive hours with them, otherwise it'll inevitably end up ugly

Can't even comprehend an entire vacation lol

Everybody needs a break. You don't have to be with them 24/7, but you should spend some quality vacation time with them.l every year.

My dad wanted to go to turkey, mexico and some countries in the middle east, and kept telling me to make plans, and now it likely will never happen because he is too sick.

You say that shit now, but you're going to be drowning in regret when they reach their end, and when you get kids too. Really, it just shows you are so absorbed into yourself and that you are stubborn and never really tried to have a relationship with them. If you can't have a good relationship with your parents, it will show in relationships

Learn from my mistakes. I was just like you. I took my parents for granted and didn't want to spend time with them. Even simple walks. I chose not to be close to them, when they wanted to be close to me. And look now. My dad got diagnosed with brain cancer in may and got a stroke months later and be will never the same and will likely die this year. He doesn't want to do anything but sleep for 20 hrs a day and keeps telling me he is going to die.

My mom already has her own health issues and sacrificed her career to take care of him..

Your parents are gonna die some day bro, and then you will realize that you aren't immortal and you will too someday. Hopefully not painfully and slowly like my dad. We only got one life man. Don't be stubborn.

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Arcanine2009 posted...

Everybody needs a break. You don't have to be with them 24/7, but you should spend some quality vacation time with them.l every year.

My dad wanted to go to turkey, mexico and some countries in the middle east, and kept telling me to make plans, and now it likely will never happen because he is too sick.

You say that shit now, but you're going to be drowning in regret when they reach their end, and when you get kids too. Really, it just shows you are so absorbed into yourself and that you have intimacy issues that need to be resolved.

Lol def true

But no, I could never spend a vacation with my parents, even with a break
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It's annoying as shit when somebody acts like their life experiences are universal.

Tenlaar posted...

It's annoying as shit when somebody acts like their life experiences are universal.

I agree, why does everyone ITT act like good parents are common...they are extremely rare
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I love vacationing with my family. They are easy to get along with and very responsible. We dont need alarms or a wake up call, or anything like that. They plan their itinerary months in advance and know what they need to bring. We still check out things that are unplanned and are good at problem solving as a team. Nobody whines (its kind of our family rule) and we always look out for each other financially and from a safety standpoint.

Damn, writing it out makes it sound fake, but they really are ideal travel mates. In fact, this thread is motivating me to plan a trip for post-Covid fun. Thanks, TC

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Lorenzo_2003 posted...

Nobody whines (its kind of our family rule)

our family rule is whine as much as humanly possible about the most inconsequential things. today's winner was my mom for her 20 minute tirade on why we should have eaten the cake with spoons instead of forks
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No_U_L7 posted...

I agree, why does everyone ITT act like good parents are common...they are extremely rare

Define a good parent? Because my parents weren't perfect. I grew up with immigrant parents who had different values than what what I grew up with in America. There were many things I wished I had that all the american kids had. They weren't very outgoing, they were strict and didn't give me certain freedoms that american kids had. I couldn't talk to them about dating growing up as a young adult , because they didn't believe in it... But they did the best they could do with the knowledge they had and practiced and wanted the best for my family. At the very least they gave me food, shelter, taught me life skills, supported my education and they were there for my at my lowest.
Tenlaar posted...

It's annoying as shit when somebody acts like their life experiences are universal.

I said if you had good parents that treated you right, you are obligated to do the same for them. My parents were far from perfect, but they did good.

If you grew up in a broken and abusive home, then my apologies. But deep down you know that you wouldn't want the same bad experience same for your kids when you have them. And you would want to be close to them and have a better life then you did.

I'm sorry that you never got to experience that. There are some types of relationships I also haven't really experienced as well, and part of that I would say has to do with how I was raised. But I won't use that as a crutch and I won't resent my parents for it.

I resented my dad for many things. I wished he didn't take my mom for granted and was a better husband and few other things that were minor, but in the end, some people will never change.. but at least he had far many good things that outweighed any negative traits. He wasn't abusive, thankfully

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Arcanine2009 posted...

Define a good parent?

eh im not really in the mood to outline my childhood trauma, so let's just say

Arcanine2009 posted...

you grew up in a broken and abusive home

this statement is accurate. abuse was physical at times but it was the emotional and mental abuse that really screwed me up.
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One day they will be dead. And if you liked them, you will regret not using that time you had and instead wasting it on being a pua.

WingsOfGood posted...

One day they will be dead. And if you liked them, you will regret not using that time you had and instead wasting it on being a pua.

so, living my life and dating girls is considered a waste of time to you...?

and as mentioned, i regularly spend time with my parents...i just cant fathom an entire vacation with them
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No_U_L7 posted...

eh im not really in the mood to outline my childhood trauma, so let's just say

this statement is accurate. abuse was physical at times but it was the emotional and mental abuse that really screwed me up.

My condolences. You don't have to. Have they gotten better with age and learned from their mistakes?


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Arcanine2009 posted...

My condolences. You don't have to. Have they gotten better with age and learned from their mistakes?

Yes, they have a bit, combined with living separately from them its led to much healthier lives for everyone involved. But its very easy to fall back into old habits and its mentally draining having to deal with them for extended periods
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Tenlaar posted...

Is that because they also find you to be a creepy, off putting sexual harasser?

Rekt

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