Current Events > Why do you not want kids?

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I work with them each day and that's enough for me.

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Weird, I always thought it was coded into our dna to procreate... the aliens are going to force it on us anyway

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I don't want kids because I like my freedom to do whatever I want. Maybe that changes later in life. Right now? That is my answer.

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Im perfectly mentally/physically/financially able to have kids but I want nothing to do with any of my own. I want to live my life on my own terms. I have no desire to be responsible for a kid.

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Children are a massive liability and provide no tactical advantage whatsoever.

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PoundGarden posted...

Children are a massive liability and provide no tactical advantage whatsoever.

You are pretty much banking on that you will love being around kids which is a gamble and your only positive if it happens

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Conflict posted...

Sounds to me like you just want to feel superior for no tangible reason

Not everyone is equipped to raise children

I understand not everyone is equipped to raise children. These are not the people I'm talking about.

It's the ones who actively think having children is some sort of nuisance or strain with no benefits.


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Ilishe posted...

t's the ones who actively think having children is some sort of nuisance or strain

It most definitely is.

Ilishe posted...

with no benefits.

And this is the crux of the matter. Whether or not the benefits are worth the drawbacks is a completely subjective decision.

If people feel it is worth the hardship, good for them. If people feel it isn't and therefore choose not to have kids, good for them too.

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Ilishe posted...

It's the ones who actively think having children is some sort of nuisance or strain with no benefits.

Both are subjective. You cant get mad at someone for having different values when it doesnt effect you or other people

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They're just not a priority for me. I'd be fine ending up with one or two, but I don't see that in my near future.

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Conflict posted...

Yeah I agree looking at a kids as a nuisance or strain isn't a good mindset

I mean they literally are though. Its not family friendly to say but it doesnt stop it from being true. I was reading a thread just earlier today with countless people saying things along the lines of I 100% wanted my baby and even still he/she drives me up the wall daily. I wouldnt change a thing though and stuff like that. Even the most pro parent people see them as an annoyance in some ways. They just think the intangibles make up for it which is fine for them but lots of others dont.

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I love kids, have worked in daycares, always enjoy babysitting for fam - I'm great with them. Growing up I assumed I'd have 2 of my own. I'm even currently with someone that's really pressuring me into having one.

I don't think I can do it. It's an insane amount of responsibility and deeply changes things forever. There's a lot of instability in the world and always so much I'll still need to do. It's overwhelming to one day decide this will be the top priority of the rest of your life.

I also don't view one side as being inherently more selfish than the other. Bringing someone into this world without their consent just because it's one of your goals, something you need to feel fulfilled, a biological impulse, desire to put your lineage into the future, or you just simply want one all sounds pretty selfish too.

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Conflict posted...

Yeah I agree looking at a kids as a nuisance or strain isn't a good mindset

? How is that a bad mindset? Its just different. I dont think he meant that all kids are like that. When I say that, I mean it as in how it would be if I had a kid personally. If I dont want to take care of a kid then of course i would consider the child a nuisance. Now this wont necessary stay the case as I begin raising the child. That usually is what happens when you start raising a child you didnt expect to have. Even with all the ups and downs. Ive seen my brothers go through this. They love their children to death but I have seen them struggle at times. I dont think I want to have that struggle. Im perfectly happy being free

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I wouldn't like the mom, and I don't even know her.

Conflict posted...

I mean yeah, of course raising a child is difficult, there's no disputing that. But I don't look at it as a "nuisance", I just look at it as not being equipped to handle that responsibility and the many difficult hurdles that may arise as they become teenagers too.

Aka a nuisance. Look bro. I think you dont like the word because it has a negative stigma attached to it but it is still accurate. You just said the same thing but in a round about way to avoid using the word nuisance. We arent judging kids directly by saying it. We are just saying the idea of having that level of responsibility is a nuisance.


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I just dont. Never have, and never had a reason to want them
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Conflict posted...

I mean yeah, of course raising a child is difficult, there's no disputing that. But I don't look at it as a "nuisance", I just look at it as not being equipped to handle that responsibility and the many difficult hurdles that may arise as they become teenagers too.

Not being equipped? You can be capable of doing something but still view it as a chore.

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DepreceV2 posted...

Both are subjective. You cant get mad at someone for having different values when it doesnt effect you or other people

You confuse getting mad at with feeling bad for.

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I could hardly take care of myself let alone a kid. Plus they are too expensive and I'm too broke for that.

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i want kids but not rn. maybe later...

either way, not all of us are suited to breed and raise kids so i understand why some people wouldnt want them. guess not everyone was meant to be a parent.