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teep_ 03/10/21 12:31:38 AM #101: |
You have a job
You spent time with someone else. Someone who obviously also wants to spend time with you back You have enough money to indulge in your hobbies (vidya) Believe me, you're further than some people. It's natural to want to be better, and I support your efforts to be so, but you can do so without putting yourself down. It's hard, and I don't expect you to read this post and go "I'm cured!!111" but believe me, it's possible! --- teep dumb as f*** fr - BatmanVonDoom I'm gonna pound a 400 lb woman just to prove teep wrong - NigerianKnight ... Copied to Clipboard!
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KogaSteelfang 03/10/21 12:33:53 AM #102: |
DarthAragorn posted...
maybe, but its hard to think otherwise, if I wasnt complete trash I wouldnt be where Im at in my life, Id have friends, I wouldnt be a 27 year old permavirgin with a completely platonic lunch with a coworker being the closest thing to a date Ive ever been on, I wouldnt be still living with my parents, etcI know it hurts. It sucks. But the world will beat you up enough, no need to do it yourself. --- Work in progress, please be patient. ... Copied to Clipboard!
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Darmik 03/10/21 12:37:41 AM #103: |
If you can handle a lunch with a girl without making her regret it you're not as bad as you seem to think you are.
That's not saying anything about this girl specifically. Just at the very least it means you're good enough to actually have some sort of a social life and the better you are at that the more likely you'll connect with someone. --- Kind Regards, Darmik ... Copied to Clipboard!
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dave_is_slick 03/10/21 1:44:55 AM #105: |
DarthAragorn posted...
Yeah after thinking about this I feel nowhere near as good about it as I did earlier todayDon't. I let my self-doubt and fear stop me from asking out a coworker who I'm fairly certain was interested, at least a little. To the point where some others legit thought we had a thing. Don't be a coward like me, you'll just hate yourself for it. --- The most relaxing version of Aquatic Ambiance I've ever heard: http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=bl61y1XM7sM ... Copied to Clipboard!
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No_U_L7 03/10/21 2:40:03 AM #106: |
people just want to throw themselves a pity party so they have an excuse to blame their failure on external factors. they're afraid that if they actually got in shape, dressed well and was successful and girls still didn't like them, they'd have nothing to blame their failures on. it's easier to make excuses and loathe in self pity than actually try change
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jon1012 03/10/21 2:55:46 AM #107: |
DarthAragorn posted...
I mean I already know she wouldn't have any interest in me because I'm fat and fuck ugly and she's neither of those post a pic. we can suggest improvements. --- We are Borg. ... Copied to Clipboard!
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No_U_L7 03/10/21 3:07:24 AM #109: |
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truth hurts huh --- ... Copied to Clipboard!
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DarthAragorn 03/10/21 8:58:14 AM #110: |
Darmik posted...
If you can handle a lunch with a girl without making her regret it you're not as bad as you seem to think you are.Im not convinced she doesnt lol dave_is_slick posted... Don't. I let my self-doubt and fear stop me from asking out a coworker who I'm fairly certain was interested, at least a little. To the point where some others legit thought we had a thing. Don't be a coward like me, you'll just hate yourself for it.I dont think thats the case here unfortunately, theres probably no interest there whatsoever jon1012 posted... post a pic. we can suggest improvements.Doesnt really show my shitty fatass body but ![]() god dammit why does gamefaqs auto rotate it ... Copied to Clipboard!
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DarthAragorn 03/10/21 10:23:56 AM #112: |
If I cut it any shorter I may as well shave it all off and I cant pull off that look right now.
losing weight is a valid point but fuck that takes so much time and effort ... Copied to Clipboard!
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DarthAragorn 03/10/21 10:25:42 AM #113: |
teep_ posted...
You have a jobSorry teep I missed this one i wouldnt say she obviously wants to spend time with me at this point <_< ... Copied to Clipboard!
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Eyeratosthenes 03/10/21 10:27:45 AM #114: |
Dude you are not the ugly monster you have been making yourself out to be. You have actual cuteness potential. Consider shaving your head and getting some stylish frames, something to add a little panache. And yes, obviously work on your health. You don't need to work too hard. The hardest part is calorie counting. Make a myfitnesspal acct and start taking a walk every day. Even 20 minutes is good
Like damn man after seeing your pic you are just a thousand times way too hard on yourself --- Aiways / Hairistotle ... Copied to Clipboard!
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WingsOfGood 03/10/21 11:13:59 AM #116: |
What did you talk about?
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KogaSteelfang 03/10/21 11:33:00 AM #117: |
You are far from ugly. I think you actually have a nice face. If I described you, I'd say you are distinctly in the cute category. Sure, you could lose some weight, but honestly it doesn't even look that bad on you.
I firmly believe you are capable of turning things around. You just need a bit of success to fuel the idea that you can. --- Work in progress, please be patient. ... Copied to Clipboard!
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DarthAragorn 03/10/21 11:35:14 AM #118: |
Eyeratosthenes posted...
Dude you are not the ugly monster you have been making yourself out to be. You have actual cuteness potential. Consider shaving your head and getting some stylish frames, something to add a little panache. And yes, obviously work on your health. You don't need to work too hard. The hardest part is calorie counting. Make a myfitnesspal acct and start taking a walk every day. Even 20 minutes is good [LFAQs-redacted-quote] I mean its hard to think otherwise when even when I was close to in shape it was never close to good enough but thanks I suppose WingsOfGood posted... What did you talk about?Mostly outside interests, and a little bit about our childhoods. ... Copied to Clipboard!
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Eyeratosthenes 03/10/21 11:45:16 AM #119: |
DarthAragorn posted...
I mean its hard to think otherwise when even when I was close to in shape it was never close to good enoughyour aesthetic is just as important as weight, if not even more so in some ways shave or buzz your hair would be a big bump up imo. I think the right glasses would add some variety to your face, break up the monotone that would be present if you shaved your hair. Get clothes that fit. Like snug, but not tight. That part will take a lot of trial and error if you're not used to it How's your posture? Good posture instantly adds +1 to your attractiveness. Like NO guys have good posture. So few. Do it. Chest out, shoulders back. Do it even if you have moobs. A tight undershirt under a snug fit shirt or sweater will dampen them a lot. Seriously, if you don't have good posture start working on it. It'll take a while til you don't have to consciously do it anymore but it's so fucking worth it. It also adds like an inch to your perceived height --- Aiways / Hairistotle ... Copied to Clipboard!
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Scarecrow17 03/10/21 11:59:25 AM #120: |
To be completely honest with you, TC, it sounds like shes being friendly with you. If you really want to know whether or not shes into you, spend some time with her outside of work. Thatll be your best bet. If you asked her out now and got rejected, then it may be awkward especially for her from here on.
Personally, I wouldnt go for it since the two of you work together. Its the same reason why I dont go for girls at my gym. I would rather not shit where I eat. I tried that once and we did not part on good terms. Made gym day a drag when it should be my me time. I definitely recommend lifting weights not to get girls but for yourself primarily. Exercise is healthy and youll have more confidence in yourself. Yes, its a lot of work and effort but the end result is definitely worth it. --- His foundation lie in the holy mountain. Selah. ... Copied to Clipboard!
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Phynaster 03/10/21 12:03:52 PM #121: |
Eyeratosthenes posted...
Dude you are not the ugly monster you have been making yourself out to be. You have actual cuteness potential. Consider shaving your head and getting some stylish frames, something to add a little panache. And yes, obviously work on your health. You don't need to work too hard. The hardest part is calorie counting. Make a myfitnesspal acct and start taking a walk every day. Even 20 minutes is goodYeah this. Your image of yourself is seriously skewed TC. You look like a totally normal dude. And seconding the posture thing. I had fairly bad posture as a youngun but now my good posture is something everyone commends --- Rebel ... Copied to Clipboard!
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WaterLink 03/10/21 12:15:53 PM #122: |
Relient_K posted...
"Do you like daggers?" Holy shit I forgot about this --- https://imgur.com/TFF3Nn8 Joe Burrow, the legend ... Copied to Clipboard!
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teep_ 03/10/21 12:39:47 PM #123: |
DarthAragorn posted...
teep_ posted...You have a jobSorry teep I missed this one Of course she does. Just cause exams got in the way doesn't mean it's the end. Trust me, I'm speaking from experience in being on your end --- teep dumb as f*** fr - BatmanVonDoom I'm gonna pound a 400 lb woman just to prove teep wrong - NigerianKnight ... Copied to Clipboard!
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DarthAragorn 03/10/21 1:03:14 PM #124: |
teep_ posted...
Of course she does. Just cause exams got in the way doesn't mean it's the end. Trust me, I'm speaking from experience in being on your endMaaaaaybe tbh Im expecting her to forget I ever asked ... Copied to Clipboard!
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What_ 03/10/21 1:05:42 PM #125: |
Damn dude youve never been on a date?
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teep_ 03/10/21 1:07:52 PM #126: |
DarthAragorn posted...
teep_ posted...Of course she does. Just cause exams got in the way doesn't mean it's the end. Trust me, I'm speaking from experience in being on your endMaaaaaybe If she does, then you'll know for sure I guess. But judging by your posts, I don't think that'll be the case Just don't blow up her phone asking if she's done with exams yet >_> --- teep dumb as f*** fr - BatmanVonDoom I'm gonna pound a 400 lb woman just to prove teep wrong - NigerianKnight ... Copied to Clipboard!
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DarthAragorn 03/10/21 1:18:44 PM #127: |
What_ posted...
Damn dude youve never been on a date?Sure havent, Im trash teep_ posted... If she does, then you'll know for sure I guess. But judging by your posts, I don't think that'll be the caseMaybe... I havent talked to her much this week. I usually take an empty cubicle across from hers on Fridays just to get some different scenery instead of my windowless kinda isolated office but idk if I should this week also I dont have her number so no worries there ... Copied to Clipboard!
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No_U_L7 03/10/21 1:29:36 PM #128: |
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Chewtarch 03/10/21 1:31:33 PM #129: |
TC please don't let the trolls taking potshots at you get you down. IDK what kinda person enjoys doing something like that, but their words are meaningless
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jon1012 03/10/21 1:35:17 PM #130: |
You're really not that bad looking. A haircut and getting in shape would help, but the getting in shape part could be said about anyone.
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jon1012 03/10/21 1:40:51 PM #131: |
I think you need to work on your confidence and be ok with rejection. That and shooting your shot at a lot more ladies. Do you have any dating apps?
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Eyeratosthenes 03/10/21 1:43:00 PM #132: |
Dating apps would not do well for TC's self esteem issue. They're a warped shade of what they used to be. Hinge might be okay I haven't used that one
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WingsOfGood 03/10/21 1:50:02 PM #133: |
Make sure not to see her as like your final or only chance. Take the chance no doubt, but don't put her on a pedestal and remember that you have self-worth and challenge her to say "do I really want to date her, is she up to MY standards". Be sure that you are ok with it not working out.
These are important because girls can easily sense desperation and it makes them run. ... Copied to Clipboard!
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teep_ 03/10/21 2:07:13 PM #135: |
Conflict posted...
You look like a completely normal person. me_irl lol --- teep dumb as f*** fr - BatmanVonDoom I'm gonna pound a 400 lb woman just to prove teep wrong - NigerianKnight ... Copied to Clipboard!
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DarthAragorn 03/10/21 2:11:58 PM #136: |
Eyeratosthenes posted...
Dating apps would not do well for TC's self esteem issue. They're a warped shade of what they used to be. Hinge might be okay I haven't used that oneYeah I tried dating apps and got literally zero matches. ... Copied to Clipboard!
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DarthAragorn 03/10/21 2:21:57 PM #137: |
No_U_L7 posted...
Wait, you're white? Yeah, you have 0 grounds to complain about anythingThere really is zero reason not to block you is there ... Copied to Clipboard!
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DarthAragorn 03/10/21 2:31:12 PM #138: |
By the way I talked to her really briefly today
felt really awkward and weird so I think Ill just never talk to her again ... Copied to Clipboard!
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Eyeratosthenes 03/10/21 2:32:39 PM #139: |
DarthAragorn posted...
By the way I talked to her really briefly todayNo, sit next to her on Friday and stop overanalyzing your interactions lol. Also, chin up. Like, literally (forgot to mention that when i brought up posture) --- Aiways / Hairistotle ... Copied to Clipboard!
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ScofieldReturns 03/10/21 2:33:30 PM #140: |
DarthAragorn posted...
There really is zero reason not to block you is there probably because im the only person ITT actually giving you good expert advice. but do whatever you want, like i said the excuse is all you want because it's the easier path --- ... Copied to Clipboard!
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vbty3 03/10/21 2:38:24 PM #142: |
DarthAragorn posted...
By the way I talked to her really briefly todayThe trick that works for me is to get it in my head that it's basically like hanging out with anyone. It helps me stop being nervous and putting that person on a pedestal. Reframing your interactions with her as interactions with any friend or coworker may help ease your nerves. She's just a person at the end of the day. --- Steam Wishlist: http://steamcommunity.com/profiles/76561198043569354/wishlist ... Copied to Clipboard!
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teep_ 03/10/21 4:30:54 PM #143: |
Eyeratosthenes posted...
DarthAragorn posted...By the way I talked to her really briefly todayNo, sit next to her on Friday and stop overanalyzing your interactions lol. Also, chin up. Like, literally (forgot to mention that when i brought up posture) This, so much --- teep dumb as f*** fr - BatmanVonDoom I'm gonna pound a 400 lb woman just to prove teep wrong - NigerianKnight ... Copied to Clipboard!
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DarthAragorn 03/10/21 5:25:58 PM #144: |
Yeah ok I think were actually fine
except she said bye to me and I didnt hear because I had music on so I had to pause it and be like sorry what did you say like a dumbass and it ended up being nothing important ... Copied to Clipboard!
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jon1012 03/10/21 5:28:03 PM #145: |
Eyeratosthenes posted...
Dating apps would not do well for TC's self esteem issue. They're a warped shade of what they used to be. Hinge might be okay I haven't used that one lol as if there was a golden age of dating apps. Tc should throw himself in there. --- We are Borg. ... Copied to Clipboard!
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jon1012 03/10/21 5:28:51 PM #146: |
Whats your height and weight, TC? You keep talking about yourself being fat.
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DarthAragorn 03/10/21 5:35:58 PM #147: |
jon1012 posted...
Whats your height and weight, TC? You keep talking about yourself being fat.511 240ish ... Copied to Clipboard!
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Eyeratosthenes 03/10/21 6:28:06 PM #148: |
DarthAragorn posted...
Yeah ok I think were actually fineLmao that happens to everyone bro. You guys are good, I told you jon1012 posted... lol as if there was a golden age of dating apps. Tc should throw himself in there.There most definitely was. I'd still advise against it but it's tc's call obv --- Aiways / Hairistotle ... Copied to Clipboard!
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Phynaster 03/10/21 6:32:53 PM #149: |
DarthAragorn posted...
511 240ishThat's not that bad dude. That's easily turnaroundable in relatively little time. --- Rebel ... Copied to Clipboard!
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DarthAragorn 03/10/21 7:02:48 PM #150: |
Phynaster posted...
That's not that bad dude. That's easily turnaroundable in relatively little time.Still like 6+ months, then all I have is still being fuckin balding at 27 and a horrid worthless personality ... Copied to Clipboard!
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