Poll of the Day > Generally speaking, the person who DMs swaps in DND, right?

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I get a single campaign having a single DM, even if it lasts months, but Ive lived in this house for close to 2 years now, and one of the guys who lives here has NEVER not been the DM.

Is this a hard and fast rule or something? Or is it just indicative of him being a controlling dickhead who needs to be the one guiding the narrative?

Im pissed off at him because he has refused to let me play with his group at ALL since I moved in.

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Its not that big a deal, he only has two other people to play with, and Ive seen enough of the other two to know I dont like them.

Still kinda fucked up that my dealer invited me to join in a game of DnD before a friend I rent a house with did when he hosts basically every Saturday >_>

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Some people are just "Forever DM's".

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PK_Spam posted...

Its not that big a deal, he only has two other people to play with, and Ive seen enough of the other two to know I dont like them.

Still kinda fucked up that my dealer invited me to join in a game of DnD before a friend I rent a house with did when he hosts basically every Saturday >_>

Are you actually friends or just roommates?

I think were friends.

In the way that if he asks me to get something when Im heading out, I do, but if the situation were reversed hell forget and take 5 weeks to do the thing.

At the end of the day, its not too much of a loss because I probably wouldnt enjoy hanging out with the people he considers friends, but it is weird and lopsided. Yeah.

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In my experience, being a DM sucks and no one wants to do it.
Yes, everyone should take a turn bearing the burden. But obviously, people will try to evade it if they can.
The last time I "played" D&D ended over 3 years ago. I had just finished DMing a 5 year long campaign. Obviously was burned out, asked the group if anyone else would DM a new game. You can tell from the prior sentence how that turned out. :p

Sounds like you're describing the opposite problem, where yeah, someone can be a control freak and never want to relinquish that "power" to someone else. Those DMs are usually best avoided anyway. I mean...to a tiny extent I can understand it... I really like my houserules and feel they made martials more viable compared to casters, and I kinda poisoned myself to ever "going back" to a game w/o such changes (I prefer playing martials, even though they're much weaker than casters in 3E/PF). My hope was the group I had would like my rules (they did!) and then in turn run their own games w/ similar rules that I could play in...

Every group is different. Some people only really enjoy the game if they are DMing it. If you want to DM a game you might have to find different people if just playing isnt their thing.

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It depends entirely on your group. You could see if there are polls that indicate the most common way, but there's certainly not a standard.

If you want to DM you should express interest and gauge response instead of coming to PotD.

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Its not that I want to DM, I want to get a chance to play the game. Period.

But it apparently never makes sense for me to drop in at any given time, even though I live here.

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Mead posted...

Every group is different. Some people only really enjoy the game if they are DMing it. If you want to DM a game you might have to find different people if just playing isnt their thing.

I mean, if you've ever searched online for D&D and other role playing groups to join (and I have, many hours over half a dozen major sites), the DMs looking for players topics/threads fill up w/ interest VERY fast unless the DM has really unappealing house rules or something.
While as players looking for a DM topics/threads tend to go unanswered.

Being a (good) DM requires putting in way more effort than being a player does, so I don't think it's surprising or controversial that there are way less people wanting to be DMs than players... Heck, half the DMs I ever had were only DM b/c no one else wanted to do it and someone "stepped up" (which is how I became a DM, lol).

You could ask the other players if they could pester the DM about letting you join I suppose. If they all want you to be given a chance to jump in, the DM isn't likely to say no. It's a bit of a rude roundabout way of doing it but if he's excluding you for no reason I don't see why you shouldn't try.

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Im not gonna go and ask people I barely know to ask to get me in when the dude I share a third of the rent with wont even consider me for a campaign once in close to two years, when Im here close to every Saturday night.

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There are guys who just like to DM, and often groups are okay with it. Honestly, I kinda thought that was the way it always was, since most of my D&D-playing friends make it sound like they've had the same DM for their individual groups (although maybe one of the others DMs for the other RPGs they play?)

PK_Spam posted...

Im not gonna go and ask people I barely know to ask to get me in when the dude I share a third of the rent with wont even consider me for a campaign once in close to two years, when Im here close to every Saturday night.

I don't get why he won't let you play, considering that groups can run low at times.

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