Current Events > Why does it ravage my brain/emotions seeing people going out to have fun

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always ends up depressing and exhausting me. i'm not even here to fling shit about it anymore it's just there's so many threads about "going to X tn" and boom, wind fully out sails

shouldnt i be desensitized to this by now?

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ProfessorKukui posted...

yea sorry i dunno. i don't expect answers, maybe some people throwing it in my face some more itt but whatre ya gonna do

then there'll be the folks who'll tell me to make plans regardless, or to stop living in fear or whatever

i just wanna practice proper caution and not get depressed when i hear about people who dont have to or dont care to

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People talking about relevant things in their life is almost never them "throwing in in your face". It's just them not tip toeing around conversation and not talking freely just to save you from your feelings. Don't play victim and suspect, it don't help.

Now, to be more compassionate. A lot of people out are dealing with what you are but still going out. Maybe not to your extreme, I'm not trying to minimize how you feel. But I went through not enjoying going out because of social anxiety but I knew exposure therapy was the best thing for it. I was right. I still get anxiety around situations out my norm, but it's calmed down enough for me to usually still enjoy myself. I believe peoe telling you that ultimately want whats best for you but just go about it in a shallow and sloppy way. They probably don't completely understand the depth of your feelings. But don't do the whole "They're doing it just to spite me" thing. You're creating a false perception of self importance that just works against you. Which I use to do as well. Then I realized everyone is living their own life and they don't have time to spite others over petty stuff or sit there and breakdown everything you do and are about.

That was less compassionate than I was going for but hey, maybe it'll tough love help. Also, maybe I completely missed the problem.

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Same but for different reasons

I can't make plans or go out and have fun even if covid didn't exist

Lost_All_Senses posted...

That was less compassionate than I was going for

it's alright i didnt read it. your posts have basically never been helpful or on point IMO, no offense intended

DarthAragorn posted...

Same but for different reasons

I can't make plans or go out and have fun even if covid didn't exist

it can be as easy as googling "x hobby y area"

you can be somewhere within a couple hours

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I have basically returned to life as normal

Only major difference is having to wear mask at work.

But I hang with friends. Go to restaurants. Etc. No bars, but I haven't been a bar person for years so that isn't covid related.

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nice

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Eyeratosthenes posted...

it's alright i didnt read it. your posts have basically never been helpful or on point IMO, no offense intended

Lol. You're good. I heard the opposite from others, so Im good. It's not realistic to please everyone. If I'm not for you, I'm not for you. I'll tag you to remind myself you don't want my input. I hope you find the advice that works for you

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I went to a few parties before covid hit and it made me realize that I don't care to do that shit anymore so any kind of posts about outings during covid had me relieved that I didn't have to go/concerned that people are dumb and going out during a pandemic. Maybe I'm just getting old.
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ProfessorKukui posted...

Buy cracker bareel take out, go to the park eat there

good that your keeping safe but going crazy don't help either. Control & minimize risks but have some fun...

Still feeling the edible afterglow m8. I'm not philosophical

I need social and physical contact lol. There's basically nothing I can do without becoming the world's biggest fuckin hypocrite. I just gotta weather a few more months hopefully

Smashingpmkns posted...

I went to a few parties before covid hit and it made me realize that I don't care to do that shit anymore so any kind of posts about outings during covid had me relieved that I didn't have to go/concerned that people are dumb and going out during a pandemic. Maybe I'm just getting old.

I feel you, and yeah it's not even that great. I just happened to take a couple years off from all that shit, then was neck-deep in covid when the urge to do so again cropped up. Really, really unlucky timing on my part

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Eyeratosthenes posted...

it's alright i didnt read it. your posts have basically never been helpful or on point IMO, no offense intended

it can be as easy as googling "x hobby y area"

you can be somewhere within a couple hours

That sounds like a great way to give myself a massive panic attack

I can't just go do shit with a bunch of strangers, I'm just incapable of it socially

DarthAragorn posted...

That sounds like a great way to give myself a massive panic attack

I can't just go do shit with a bunch of strangers, I'm just incapable of it socially

That's why you pregame

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i used to get annoyed / upset about people disregarding covid safety protocols as well because the more people who do it the more the virus spreads and the longer we have to live in lockdown.

then i accepted that we are not leaving lockdown until the vaccine has been widely available for some time, so what these idiots do is of no concern to me now.

i'll have my first shot in less than a week, my second in four weeks and i'll be fully vaccinated in like ~6 weeks. so at this point i really, really DGAF how those morons behave. i'll be safe and when the 3rd wave hits this fall i'll be annoyed we have to lockdown again but whatever.

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Eyeratosthenes posted...

it's alright i didnt read it. your posts have basically never been helpful or on point IMO, no offense intended

Lmfao, tell a bitch quick

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Giant_Aspirin posted...

then i accepted that we are not leaving lockdown until the vaccine has been widely available for some time, so what these idiots do is of no concern to me now.

this is true, it really is. but i'm not mad they're ignoring it and having a good time. i'm depressed because my convictions will not allow the same for me. i've had to watch everyone be happy and ignorant for over a year. the past few months have just utterly broken me down, so when i see posts like that i get blue is all. i'd like it to stop

i stopped going on insta entirely because of this. half the stories in my feed were people out or partying

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Just worry about you and yours

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Eyeratosthenes posted...

i'm depressed because my convictions will not allow the same for me.

don't be depressed because you're a responsible adult. think about how long we've been dealing with this vs how close the end is. six more weeks to wait is nothing compared to living >52 like this

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Giant_Aspirin posted...

don't be depressed because you're a responsible adult. think about how long we've been dealing with this vs how close the end is. six more weeks to wait is nothing compared to living >52 like this

idk man i havent interacted with another human being aside from work, home, and discord in going on 13 months now. aside from store clerks and doctors anyway. my body and brain read about someone chilling with buds and just overwhelm me like "when's that gonna be you, we're dying here"

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pkmnlord posted...

Lmfao, tell a bitch quick

Now that's just disrespect. But tell me how you really feel. You got anything you want to get off your chest? Don't just piggyback off someone elses unfavorable honesty towards me. Say what you feel. Or just say Im having a melty so you again don't have to actually contribute any real input.

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Lost_All_Senses posted...

Now that's just disrespect. But tell me how you really feel. You got anything you want to get off your chest? Don't just piggyback off someone elses unfavorable honesty towards me. Say what you feel. Or just say Im having a melty so you again don't have to actually contribute any real input.

Ay I'll tell you how I feel RIGHT NOW

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Eyeratosthenes posted...

idk man i havent interacted with another human being aside from work, home, and discord in going on 13 months now. aside from store clerks and doctors anyway. my body and brain read about someone chilling with buds and just overwhelm me like "when's that gonna be you, we're dying here"

the weather is perfect for outdoor socializing. get some buddies / etc and go chill on a patio, or go to a park?

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Same for me, but over people having any kind of romantic success. Sometimes this place ravages me, so the logical conclusion is to take a break, right. But then it's tv, movies, and games that shove it in my face.

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I'm kinda too disgusted with all of my friends to wanna be in their presence >_>

I could use a walk in the park but the solo walks got old months ago. Oh well, maybe some light exercise like that will get some endorphins flowing or something

KogaSteelfang posted...

Same for me, but over people having any kind of romantic success. Sometimes this place ravages me, so the logical conclusion is to take a break, right. But then it's tv, movies, and games that shove it in my face.

TV and movies and stuff don't hit me the same cuz they're all actors just playing a part and getting paid. here i know people are actually going out, having fun, meeting people, enjoying indoor activities, etc

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How many times are you planning on making this topic?

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DrizztLink posted...

How many times are you planning on making this topic?

you're completely free to block me, and I'd understand. I will continue to make topics in this vein until I am able to resume socializing

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Lost_All_Senses posted...

Now that's just disrespect. But tell me how you really feel. You got anything you want to get off your chest? Don't just piggyback off someone elses unfavorable honesty towards me. Say what you feel. Or just say Im having a melty so you again don't have to actually contribute any real input.

I don't even know or care who you are. Here's some tough love for you back, STFU and stop posting.

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The world won't implode if you do some socializing

Unless you are super high risk then I understand

I couldn't take it anymore. Literally got to the point where I almost anheroed. There was more at play than isolation, but that was a big part of it

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Eyeratosthenes posted...

TV and movies and stuff don't hit me the same cuz they're all actors just playing a part and getting paid.

That makes it easier, but it still bothers me. Like the other night I got home from work and my mom was watching some rom-com. It ran all over me. Like, I know it's fiction and supposed to be ridiculous, but I couldn't stand it.

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If it helps, your restraint in giving up that socialising time could quite possibly be the reason a whole bunch of other people aren't dead just now.
Also if it weren't for all the selfish scumbags that have been out spreading viruses, this would have been over months ago, so feel good about not being part of the problem.

Wow, I didn't even know this was a thing till now.


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KINDERFELD posted...

Wow, I didn't even know this was a thing till now.

what, social starvation?

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Eyeratosthenes posted...

what, social starvation?

People being negatively emotionally affected by others posting about their social life.

I grew up in the days where Paris Hilton was popular. She made everyone feel like shit about their social life or where they vacationed.

I'm pretty much desensitized to it now.

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pkmnlord posted...

I don't even know or care who you are. Here's some tough love for you back, STFU and stop posting.

Piggy backing with no insight or actual opinion might be even worse. Just jumping on a wagon to come at someone with no real reason. Imma STFu and stop post cause I got company tho. So that's a freebie.

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KINDERFELD posted...

People being negatively emotionally affected by others posting about their social life.

I grew up in the days where Paris Hilton was popular. She made everyone feel like shit about their social life or where they vacationed.

I'm pretty much desensitized to it now.

Eh I'm talking about something diff but yea

I feel better now that I'm home from work at least.

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I think I've tried to deliver this gently but I'll out with it: you can engage in careful social activities (including romantic) if you follow all the protocols, are diligent about testing and pre-tracing and vetting any people you interact with for the same. You wouldn't be a hypocrite if you adapt in a smart and responsible way with mutual communication to fulfill your human needs.

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Eyeratosthenes posted...

Eh I'm talking about something diff but yea

I feel better now that I'm home from work at least.

If you lived in my shoes you'd probably feel like total shit about yourself on a daily basis.

I come from a family over overachievers, and they're on social media posting about themselves all the time. They need the validation from others more than I do and I fully understand that, so I actually pity them.


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berlyman101 posted...

I think I've tried to deliver this gently but I'll out with it: you can engage in careful social activities (including romantic) if you follow all the protocols, are diligent about testing and pre-tracing and vetting any people you interact with for the same. You wouldn't be a hypocrite if you adapt in a smart and responsible way with mutual communication to fulfill your human needs.

I simply don't believe that, but it's alright. these hysterics are always provoked by some other stressor that I'm failing to identify or examine. I guess for today it was work related

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Six feet!

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hahaha. my life is the same even without covid because no one likes me and my social anxiety levels are freaking insane my work makes me go in to the office, and i just sit in my office and code things and talk to literally no one lmaaoaoooo

Kelis posted...

hahaha. my life is the same even without covid because no one likes me and my social anxiety levels are freaking insane my work makes me go in to the office, and i just sit in my office and code things and talk to literally no one lmaaoaoooo

yea but you make more money than i do so you really are the one laughing here

also before covid i was a recluse for 2 years. a switch flipped and now i crave society again. lolsux oh well

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Just wear your mask and go out and do shit. I've been living life the same as always except with a mask on, you'll be fine. They proved back in the days of those protests you can be clumped with people and be safe wearing a mask, get out there and have some fun.

nahh i'm over it til the next time i get stressed out lol. go out and have fun tn

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