Current Events > How do I stop hating myself and getting stressed out

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I have a huge problem, when I think about all the times I fail I get annoyed at myself and start to hate myself. When I think of all those I failed as wasted time, I get very stressed out.

I know people says I am doing in still studying despite my age, but I think to myself if it wasnt for my health then I would already have my A Levels and degree.

I try hard to not think about my past or my failure, but sometimes it is hard to do so.

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Did you go through a rite of passage, this is becoming more of a thing since humans stop doing these

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R1masher posted...

Did you go through a rite of passage, this is becoming more of a thing since humans stop doing these

I dont know what that is.

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I know it wasn't my fault that I failed in the past, those were things I couldn't control. But no matter the reason it doesn't change I failed in the past and I am still not in the position I want to be.

I am working hard to achieve the position I want to be in life, but I can't change that many years in my life has been wasted. It will take time for me to get the qualifications I need to get permanent job with a good pay.

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Failure in-and-of itself is not a waste of time. If you are committing yourself and giving a real effort, failure is a learning tool. If you are just goofing off, yeah its a waste but not really of time since you didn't give a real effort (you just spent the time you could have used to give a shit doing something else). Failure is the first step to success. Failure is never the last step unless you choose for it to be.

Think about anyone who is awesome at something. That person failed at it countless times before they became great at it.

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If I don't like something about myself enuff then I will try my very best to change it. If not then I accept my flaws for who I am.

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supermichael11 posted...

...when I think about all the times I fail I get annoyed at myself and start to hate myself...

We're all doomed to fail regularly. It can be a big deal like a bankruptcy, or minor one...like missing an opportunity for wit. Failure is part of life.

Victory can be had by not giving up after failure. Try focusing on not giving up, not the moments you failed.

Good luck.

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I guess that is a good thing to focus on not giving up, I will focus on that. I hope that helps.

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