Current Events > Is it creepy for a 35 year old to date a 20 year old?

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MutantJohn posted...

CE when you call them out on dating a 20 year old at 35 being creepy:
https://i.kym-cdn.com/entries/icons/original/000/035/699/pepe.jpg

Oh so you are a troll incapable of arguing your point?

OK.

DCinGA posted...

My fianc is 15yrs younger than me...didn't think it'd work but it has.

We're a great match. She keeps me young and I keep her grounded.

HAhah loll

BlameAnesthesia posted...

20 is not really an adult. Sure, legally speaking. But someone who is 20 is still cognitively developing and probably doesn't finish developing until 25ish. As such, I find it a bit creepy because at 20 you don't have enough "adult" life experience to not be overly influenced by someone who is 35.

Likewise, if you're 35, if a 20 year old doesn't annoy you in some regard, you're probably cognitively stunted yourself. Like talk about not growing as a person for 10 years in order to fully relate with that individual.

And let's not forget the classic [(age/2) + 7]

I guess that equation works well for being accepted as socially normal but when it comes down to it, love is hard to find so we should try to take hold of it where ever it is as long as its two consenting adults.

People always like to try to play the "He is older so he is more mature" card but when it comes to dating experience women usually have far more because they always have suitors where as some men can reach their 30s and still be virgins.

Also when it comes to large age gaps the younger parties mindset is more often then not "they are too old, I will never actually settle down with this person, I just want a test drive".
@BlameAnesthesia

BlameAnesthesia posted...

20 is not really an adult. Sure, legally speaking. But someone who is 20 is still cognitively developing and probably doesn't finish developing until 25ish. As such, I find it a bit creepy because at 20 you don't have enough "adult" life experience to not be overly influenced by someone who is 35.

Likewise, if you're 35, if a 20 year old doesn't annoy you in some regard, you're probably cognitively stunted yourself. Like talk about not growing as a person for 10 years in order to fully relate with that individual.

And let's not forget the classic [(age/2) + 7]

Well... I am 33 and I have been with my partner for 3.5 years. We were 29 and 21. I briefly dated someone 5 years older before and the older guy only wanted to get busted and go in raves all the time and took tons of drugs and alcohol despite being older. My younger partner drink occasionally, smoke occasionally and plays video games with me. Despite the bigger age gaps, we have more in common

Perfectly acceptable for some, personally it strikes me as rather creepy.
I and most of my friends are in our early 40s. One of our number starting dating a 20 year old. That was awkward and uncomfortable when he brought her out to some of our get togethers. But if it works for some people all power to them.

That equation is horseshit btw. Just a random equation somebody made up. I can make my own up right now. And so can you.

Depends on how rich or famous the guy is.

I certainly question the true intentions of everyone involved

not really, most 35 y/o women are married already anyway

BlameAnesthesia posted...

Likewise, if you're 35, if a 20 year old doesn't annoy you in some regard, you're probably cognitively stunted yourself. Like talk about not growing as a person for 10 years in order to fully relate with that individual.

You know not everyone is as boring and anti-social as you right?

Weird but harmless, and thus i do not see any reason as to why i should interfere.

That line is how i feel about a lot of things.

I refuse to believe people unironically actually get upset over something like two adults datinging each other.

toadfan64 posted...

I refuse to believe people unironically actually get upset over something like two adults datinging each other.

Ideally yes, but that's not how the world works. That's why we have something like the"dating equation"

not illegal and not my business, idc

K181 posted...

Yes. They really have nothing in common to make me think that a relationship would work.

Why do people keep saying that they would have nothing in common? This never made much sense to me. They may have different situations, which isnt even guaranteed btw, but you can still have plenty in common.

This isnt the best example by any stretch but Im 32. Ive never dated anyone with such a large age gap before but Ive been gaming on Xbox for 10+ years. Ive met all kinds of people from a massive range of ages. I still have stuff in common with people way younger than me, outside of gaming of course.

I dont think it would be that big of a stretch to find a pattern much younger than you that you have a great deal in common with.

DepreceV2 posted...

Why do people keep saying that they would have nothing in common? This never made much sense to me. They may have different situations, which isnt even guaranteed btw, but you can still have plenty in common.

This isnt the best example by any stretch but Im 32. Ive never dated anyone with such a large age gap before but Ive been gaming on Xbox for 10+ years. Ive met all kinds of people from a massive range of ages. I still have stuff in common with people way younger than me, outside of gaming of course.

I dont think it would be that big of a stretch to find a pattern much younger than you that you have a great deal in common with.

I tend to have more in commong with a bit younger than older. I swear most guys I have met that were only 5 years older don't even understand my Pokemon and gaming references. My partner who's 8.5 years younger does. I do wonder if they are talking about stages of life? Even so some people go back at university or college at 30 and since college age is 17 here. Some people start their carreer at 19-20 sometimes.

As long as the relationship is between two consenting adults, I couldn't possibly care any less.

This is someone's alternative account. I can't make up the name yet....

@bsp77 help....

Kylo_Ren_ posted...

This is someone's alternative account. I can't make up the name yet....

@bsp77 help....

I don't know who this guy is. You suspect Geno4LoveGeno4L?

Also, I am 44 and my gf is 29, so pfft. Sorry you can't do similar, TC

Lost_All_Senses posted...

Makes me feel uncomfortable. And if me feeling uncomfortable makes you feel uncomfortable than I feel even more uncomfortable.

I'm feeling really uncomfortable right now. Or am I?

bsp77 posted...

I don't know who this guy is. You suspect Geno4LoveGeno4L?

Yes!!!!!

It's the only person who brings up such topics. Good police work!!

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Reminder that this guy has talked at length about meeting his wife when she was 14.

interesting results so far

Geno4LoveGeno4L posted...

People who want to date much younger only do it for control and power.

This.

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I didn't read the previous page.

Sometimes people be high fiving themselves.

bulletproofvita posted...

This.

You have no idea what you are talking about. I am not with my gf for control or power.

And agreeing with Geno is not a good look

bulletproofvita posted...

This.

Cringe

Depends on how seriously they're dating. It will very weird if they try to be committed and the 20 year old brings their 35 year old partner, who could be 7 years younger than her parents, to a family gathering, but if they're just dating for fun and to party it's not as weird