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deupd_u
12/29/21 6:58:40 AM
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"How were you gifted as a child?"

"UUUUUUUUHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHH"

People pretending "Yeah, well...I COULD have been something if I were as smart as I was when I was 6" is weapons-grade copium.

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Chozo_Gunner
12/29/21 7:00:57 AM
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deupd_u posted...
"How were you gifted as a child?"

"UUUUUUUUHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHH"

Nobody says this lol

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deupd_u
12/29/21 7:01:15 AM
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And inb4 CE pretends they've never ever seen anyone do anything like this

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AngelicRadiance
12/29/21 7:01:24 AM
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Jokes on you because I was a failure as a child too

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deupd_u
12/29/21 7:01:41 AM
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Chozo_Gunner posted...
Nobody says this lol

deupd_u posted...
And inb4 CE pretends they've never ever seen anyone do anything like this
woooooooooooooooow, you beat me

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BloodMoon7
12/29/21 7:01:56 AM
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That was me except I was always a failure. But tbf it never came out of my own mouth, everyone just thought I was pretty smart and mature. Boy were they wrong.

I am depressed tho.

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Chozo_Gunner
12/29/21 7:02:48 AM
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deupd_u posted...
woooooooooooooooow, you beat me

Still better than setting up a strawman to make yourself look smarter

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Southernfatman
12/29/21 7:03:56 AM
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It's more like we were gifted as kids, which gave people the impression we were super smart when we were just better at learning the early stuff and that pressure and the feeling we let people down crushes us mentally and makes us feel like failures. Or at least that's how it is for me.

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Xethuminra
12/29/21 7:04:34 AM
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You are not a failure. You were failed. There's a difference.
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deupd_u
12/29/21 7:05:44 AM
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Southernfatman posted...
It's more like we were gifted as kids
No.

Xethuminra posted...
You are not a failure. You were failed. There's a difference.
Don't blame literally everyone but yourself

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Xethuminra
12/29/21 7:07:55 AM
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deupd_u posted...
No.

Don't blame literally everyone but yourself
Ok

I failed you. That works fine for me.
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eston
12/29/21 7:20:15 AM
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Southernfatman posted...
It's more like we were gifted as kids, which gave people the impression we were super smart when we were just better at learning the early stuff and that pressure and the feeling we let people down crushes us mentally and makes us feel like failures. Or at least that's how it is for me.
Yes, that's the actual point of those memes not whatever TC is talking about lol

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Xethuminra
12/29/21 7:21:18 AM
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What happened, happened.

How you feel about it, your reputation, etc

.... Is not a factor in terms of the facts.
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AngelicRadiance
12/29/21 7:23:00 AM
#14:


TC's a Trump supporter if I recall

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Xethuminra
12/29/21 7:23:23 AM
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Shocker
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Jerry_Hellyeah
12/29/21 7:23:58 AM
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TC can't inb4, so youre just gifted as hell.

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gunplagirl
12/29/21 7:26:14 AM
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TC just got back from being suspended, I see. Welcome back, and see you later since I'm guessing you'll not be here long.

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g980
12/29/21 7:31:45 AM
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Southernfatman posted...
It's more like we were gifted as kids, which gave people the impression we were super smart when we were just better at learning the early stuff and that pressure and the feeling we let people down crushes us mentally and makes us feel like failures. Or at least that's how it is for me.


Im with you up to the pressure/letting people down part

Gifted programs give an unearned sense of intelligence, K-12 was easy to coast through with minimal work...

... then you get to college with terrible habits, no study skills, and probably a delay before you accept that some classes require actual effort

For me it wasnt really until after i graduated college that i really got my shit together and started college

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Xethuminra
12/29/21 7:32:11 AM
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Jerry_Hellyeah posted...
TC can't inb4, so youre just gifted as hell.

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Zanzenburger
12/29/21 8:33:53 AM
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Southernfatman posted...
It's more like we were gifted as kids, which gave people the impression we were super smart when we were just better at learning the early stuff and that pressure and the feeling we let people down crushes us mentally and makes us feel like failures. Or at least that's how it is for me.
This.

I do have several facebook friends who constantly share memes about what it's like to be a failure as an adult after being a former gifted kid growing up.

The problem is that these people are trying to take two different sets of standards and comparing them to each other.

Being a gifted kid simply meant you were at a math or reading level higher than your grade in school (a grade which is determined by your age, not by any sort of realistic mental capacity). One you are in high school, being gifted loses its value as you can be a 10th grader and be taking basic algebra or calculus depending on your skill level. There is no "expected" level of math, just what you tested into and what prerequisites you have. This also continues in college.

Outside of school, there are no math or reading tests. You get judged in society by your career, your wealth, your appearance, things that weren't as important when you were a child. Being good at math does not necessarily translate to these things. But a gifted child will hear "gifted" and assume they were better at most things than most people when that is just not necessarily true. Then they learn the truth as an adult and their world falls apart.

EDIT: Let me add to this that the issue comes with the term "gifted". If we just changed the term to "advanced placement" I think we wouldn't see this kind of problem pop up as often.

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DrizztLink
12/29/21 9:05:29 AM
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Zanzenburger posted...
EDIT: Let me add to this that the issue comes with the term "gifted". If we just changed the term to "advanced placement" I think we wouldn't see this kind of problem pop up as often.
Maybe "accelerated?"

Advanced Placement already exists.

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Zanzenburger
12/29/21 9:08:57 AM
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DrizztLink posted...
Maybe "accelerated?"

Advanced Placement already exists.
At the elementary level? I know it does in high school.

But accelerated could work too.

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Jiek_Fafn
12/29/21 9:10:42 AM
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I'm sorry you feel that way, TC. I'd suggest talking to a professional about the depression aspect at least.

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DarkChozoGhost
12/29/21 9:11:44 AM
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You realize everyone that says they were gifted as a child was in a dedicated gifted program? It's not just some arbitrary self appointed title (even if the evaluations for such programs were a bit arbitrary).

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Turbam
12/29/21 9:17:36 AM
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BloodMoon7 posted...
That was me except I was always a failure. But tbf it never came out of my own mouth, everyone just thought I was pretty smart and mature. Boy were they wrong.

I am depressed tho.


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Solid Snake07
12/29/21 9:32:36 AM
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This is why you shouldn't praise children for no reason

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Xavier_On_High
12/29/21 9:40:19 AM
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Don't hate TC. For him, mocking people were at one point talented is "punching up".

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DrizztLink
12/29/21 11:47:13 AM
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Zanzenburger posted...
At the elementary level? I know it does in high school.

But accelerated could work too.
It doesn't in Elementary but K-12 still shares enough at the school board level and whatnot that having two programs with the same name would probably cause confusion.

Not like "shut down education" confusion but it's a problem that can be sidestepped entirely.

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Machete
12/29/21 12:24:34 PM
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"deupd_u"

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Flockaveli
12/29/21 12:26:39 PM
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I skipped the 4th and 11th grade.

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DD Divine
12/29/21 12:54:57 PM
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I see this a lot I also see a lot of people self diagnosing themselves with autism. Which IMO I dont like people doing that and then saying oh Im on the spectrum but highly functional.

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darkprince45
12/29/21 12:57:32 PM
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People on forums tend to over estimate how gifted or smart they are. Lets be real, most Reddit type users wore new balances and slept in the back of the classroom. Then got surprised they were a C student

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Shadow20201
12/29/21 1:07:49 PM
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I wish I learned earlier in life that a Gifted diagnosis was more disability than blessing. I never learned to apply myself or study/do homework properly. And the follow up of dealing with crushing disappointment and failure later in life than is developmentally healthy.

No one's life goes as expected though so I don't subscribe to the 'Woe is me. I could have been something.' feelings.

My oldest daughter could be categorized as gifted, so I can draw on my experiences to help her out and avoid the pitfalls that I couldn't.

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Incurso
12/29/21 1:11:08 PM
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Anyone who thinks I was gifted as a child is wrong.

Reminds me that in first grade, I was constantly getting detentions, whether it be after school, in-school, out-of-school, and Saturday. The rest of elementary school was fine, with straight A's. That dropped off in high school, when I didn't apply myself as much as necessary, but whatever.
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Criminalt
12/29/21 3:13:51 PM
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Then there are the kids whose parents encouraged them to believe they were gifted ... but who weren't, really. They were simply above-average performers at a very mediocre school -- big fish in a small pond. Then they changed schools, moved to a bigger pond, and the letdown was heartbreaking.

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Turtlebread
12/29/21 3:16:37 PM
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Gifted students have mostly gone on to making YouTube video essays about their favourite games


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deupd_u
12/29/21 5:47:13 PM
#39:


gunplagirl posted...
TC just got back from being suspended, I see. Welcome back, and see you later since I'm guessing you'll not be here long.
No I didn't? What's wrong with you?

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Rathinor
12/29/21 5:51:05 PM
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So TC is depressed because he is a failure?

I mean, we all know he's a failure at life, so I don't see how this is news
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BTH_Phoenix
12/29/21 7:07:46 PM
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Everyone's kid is gonna be the next president or astronaut.

Then you realize you can do everything right in life and get nothing to show for it.

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Heartomaton
12/29/21 7:15:06 PM
#42:


AngelicRadiance posted...
Jokes on you because I was a failure as a child too


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IllegalAlien
12/29/21 7:28:03 PM
#43:


just because you're gifted doesn't mean shit. it just means you learn faster than the normal person...

if you do jack shit for 20 years while your average joe shmoe works hard for 20 year, yeah no wonder he's a doctor now and you're a neet

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VigorouslySwish
12/29/21 7:30:58 PM
#44:


iM SmArT i JuSt NeVeR aPpLiEd MySeLf

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darkprince45
12/30/21 2:32:18 AM
#45:


VigorouslySwish posted...
iM SmArT i JuSt NeVeR aPpLiEd MySeLf
Honestly, this. Like I said, a lot of forum users believe theyre gifted and of high intelligence. When in reality, youre just an average dude.

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Doe
12/30/21 2:32:51 AM
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Anyone have the gamefaqs poll where everyone said their best attribute would be INT and the description was "I'm smarter than the average gamer"

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Guide
12/30/21 2:35:43 AM
#47:


This is fairly common for smart kids, actually. I got college tours and some sort of scholarship-bond thing in third grade, as part of...some kind of program that sounds like Rogaine?

The thing is that they never learn to study until it's way too late.

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WaterLink
12/30/21 3:42:13 AM
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I can kind of understand it. Was valedictorian of a 500+ senior class, 34 ACT, full ride to college. Probably didn't end up the way many people expected, let alone the way my 18 year old self expected it to go. But I wouldn't consider myself a failure, I've found happiness in my own way and I'm not ashamed of it.

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The_Yahtz09
12/30/21 4:19:38 AM
#49:


Shadow20201 posted...
I wish I learned earlier in life that a Gifted diagnosis was more disability than blessing. I never learned to apply myself or study/do homework properly. And the follow up of dealing with crushing disappointment and failure later in life than is developmentally healthy.
US education being unable to teach kids how to study or apply themselves to schoolwork is a separate issue from gifted programs.

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DocDelicious
12/30/21 4:27:08 AM
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I was reading at a college level in first grade, took summer courses at John Hopkins beginning in fourth grade, and was a published writer by the time I was 18.

Now I work in transportation.
Don't do drugs kids.

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