Current Events > C/D: You are a likeable person.

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Deny.

stahp it

MedeaLysistrata posted...

stahp it

Why?

GrandConjuraton posted...

Why?

How can I bring joy to your life?

I think so. I'm on friendly terms with the majority of my co-workers, classmates, etc.

No. I'm an annoying asshole.

MedeaLysistrata posted...

How can I bring joy to your life?

I don't really understand what your intent is with this post, >.<

To actually answer the question... I don't really know? There's so many things wrong with my life, like my loneliness and self-hatred, to where I live or even just a lack of general fulfillment, that it's hard to say what could actually help.

I kinda don't get how you can have all these viewpoints that you're unlikeable/living a worthless existence/etc while also having a fiancee you've said is your soul mate. Obviously being in a relationship isn't going to solve everything but doesn't it mean at least one person likes you/finds you worthwhile?

It sounds like your family cares about you too, and you said your sister wants to take care of you even when your parents are gone

c until d lol

Huge C

Topics in general are like a mirror you hold up to the other posters. So when you make topics like this it might hurt other people.

Now I realize I am trying to police you, so I'll stop.

GrandConjuraton posted...

To actually answer the question... I don't really know? There's so many things wrong with my life, like my loneliness and self-hatred, to where I live or even just a lack of general fulfillment, that it's hard to say what could actually help.

Yeah I feel the same way. I live in one of the most expensive places in the world, can't drive, mentally ill. Don't want to fix my situation either and every time I try I work some shitty job where I basically can't make any progress, or the time it takes to make progress is so long and I give up before it can happen. I also can't keep up my lifestyle forever. Not sure what to do.

TeaMilk posted...

I kinda don't get how you can have all these viewpoints that you're unlikeable/living a worthless existence/etc while also having a fiancee you've said is your soul mate. Obviously being in a relationship isn't going to solve everything but doesn't it mean at least one person likes you/finds you worthwhile?

It sounds like your family cares about you too, and you said your sister wants to take care of you even when your parents are gone

This is actually something that I discuss with my therapist a lot, where she tries to claim that because she, my fiance, and my family cares means that i'm wrong about being unlikable, but I don't agree. The only one that counts at all is my fiance; my therapist could potentially be lying to try to make me feel better, and families are obligated to care about each other (not that they always do in practice, but in theory, that's how things should work). Because I have no friends or any sort of social life, though, I think of things more broadly and consider myself unlikable.

I don't know. Maybe? It feels strange and wrong to say that after so long thinking the other way.

For once all my coworkers seem to like me. My family isn't antagonizing me. Everyone around me irl seems to either be indifferent or enjoy my company.

The only people actively disliking me now are myself, and the people online who've been fed up with me.

Y'all tell me

Smackems posted...

Y'all tell me

Yes.

MedeaLysistrata posted...

Topics in general are like a mirror you hold up to the other posters. So when you make topics like this it might hurt other people.

Now I realize I am trying to police you, so I'll stop.

Yeah I feel the same way. I live in one of the most expensive places in the world, can't drive, mentally ill. Don't want to fix my situation either and every time I try I work some shitty job where I basically can't make any progress, or the time it takes to make progress is so long and I give up before it can happen. I also can't keep up my lifestyle forever. Not sure what to do.

My only real intent with these topics are to try to get attention. I'm starved for attention and interaction, and outside of straight up trolling (which I don't want to do), I don't know how else to get it.

D. I intentionally make myself unlikable as a coping mechanism. Trying to get over it.

I also feel there is a kind of likeability where people like you because they don't take you seriously, or think you're cute, which is annoying too

CaptainStrong posted...

No. I'm an annoying asshole.

This but for some reason a decent amount of people like me.

MedeaLysistrata posted...

I also feel there is a kind of likeability where people like you because they don't take you seriously, or think you're cute, which is annoying too

When I was in school, the few people who weren't bullies to me or didn't straight up ignore my existence always treated me like I was younger than they were. I always felt like they talked to me like they would someone far younger than they were, and that was pretty depressing and demeaning in its own way...

Deny. I think I'm more likable than I may first seem if you get to know me, but I'm still annoying as heck.

GrandConjuraton posted...

My only real intent with these topics are to try to get attention.

Yeah we know

That's why everyone here posts and you know it. If we didn't want attention we'd write in a diary.

25NoviceUser posted...

That's why everyone here posts and you know it. If we didn't want attention we'd write in a diary.

i like to imagine some people post here because they are playing 100 Presidents

MedeaLysistrata posted...

i like to imagine some people post here because they are playing 100 Presidents

Nobody knows what that is. Not even Google knows what that is.

Yep it's easy to get along with me

I'd hope everyone in this topic would say C.

Lol no

No and I'm not trying to be.

All my confidence is solely due to me thinking Im a likable person tbh. I got no talents, abilities or ambitions to lean on. I have to be likable to feel worth anything lol.

C for some reason

C/D: You are a likeable person.

It's not what I shoot for, but it happens anyway.

As long as peers hold themselves accountable, they don't have to worry about me doing the same. If I really had to simplify what attracts people into my social circle besides the superficial, I self reflect on reflex to avoid being a hypocrite and that makes me annoyingly poisonous to those who don't.

People who find that dynamic preferable and useful are not rare.

Bump

I'm likable to certain people at certain times

I don't think so but maybe?

AngelicRadiance posted...

I don't think so but maybe?

You can be, but there are some frustrating qualities about you, too, >.<

I have friends who sometimes even seek out my company, so yeah, I guess so, to an extent.

They also have their own weed so it's not like they use me for that.

GrandConjuraton posted...

You can be, but there are some frustrating qualities about you, too, >.<

:(

https://m.youtube.com/watch?v=ZniBLY-MtFA

AngelicRadiance posted...

:(

It's hard to be friends with you because you flake on people pretty easily, >.< . That's the main thing, I think.

GrandConjuraton posted...

It's hard to be friends with you because you flake on people pretty easily, >.< . That's the main thing, I think.

Yeah I'm a pos

AngelicRadiance posted...

Yeah I'm a pos

That's not what I was saying at all, :|

You just need to work on it. Don't run from people if they're trying to connect with you.