Current Events > It sucks how there's literally no point in me losing weight.

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I've turned into a chubby-chub over the pandemic and managed to lose a few pounds, but I've developed a few stretch marks. I'm not obese or fat in an unsightly way as most of my weight goes to my stomach.

Even if I were to lose my belly, those stretch marks won't disappear and people will judge.

Ive been obese for years and Ive tried to lose weight but cant so Ive just accepted Im a token fat guy.

were you planning on walking around in crop tops or something? wtf

Oubliettes posted...

were you planning on walking around in crop tops or something? wtf

Tbh I wanted to get swole for a minute, lmao.

I think it would ruin sex, though.

Does people judging bother you?

CRON posted...

I think it would ruin sex, though.

What?

ViewtifulJoe posted...

Does people judging bother you?

It's my biggest fear, stemming from a number of awful experiences. I hate it and constantly fear it.

Flockaveli posted...

What?

I take my shirt off, partner sees stretch marks, I become less attractive. Simple.

There is a point and its to be healthier. Stretch marks are normal and not that big a deal tbh.

you got any belly hair?

Who gives a fuck about stretch marks

Get swole because it's fun

Oubliettes posted...

you got any belly hair?

A little. I'm not really a hairy person.

Majority of people won't even notice the stretch marks. And 100% of the people that do will think "That's awesome he has been able to change so much and get in shape."

0% of people will think "lol that fit guy has stretch marks and used to be fat what a loser!!"

you are overthinking this, TC

if you want to get in better shape, do it. don't worry about stretch marks

CRON posted...

It's my biggest fear, stemming from a number of awful experiences. I hate it and constantly fear it.

Well it's not the most motivating thing in the world but reining it in while you can and giving people less to judge is a start.

You have the pandemic as an free easy excuse if people ask and the weight loss results would speak for themselves afterward.

AngelsNAirwav3s posted...

Majority of people won't even notice the stretch marks. And 100% of the people that do will think "That's awesome he has been able to change so much and get in shape."

0% of people will think "lol that fit guy has stretch marks and used to be fat what a loser!!"

this

also, when you're wearing a shirt (which is 99% of the time) people wont even notice

No one cares about stretch marks. Muscle growth can also cause them

Stretch marks are a sign of self control and willpower. If you have visible stretch marks, at worst that means you used to be fat, but now you're not.

Nobody but the most shallow of shallow people will even care.

CRON posted...

It's my biggest fear, stemming from a number of awful experiences. I hate it and constantly fear it.

I take my shirt off, partner sees stretch marks, I become less attractive. Simple.

....less attractive than the alternative?

If you don't wanna lose weight just say so

Fuck what people think. Do it for you.

Also by the time you get to the point of taking your clothes off, they're already into you to not give a fuck about stretch marks.

Gobstoppers12 posted...

Stretch marks are a sign of self control and willpower. If you have visible stretch marks, at worst that means you used to be fat, but now you're not.

Nobody but the most shallow of shallow people will even care.

My ex laughed at me because I had a tiny, faded stretch mark near my armpit.

I thought this was going to be, "I'd still be 5'X" and women only want a guy who's 6 ft."

CRON posted...

A little. I'm not really a hairy person.

same. i got like one little strip that runs from my belly button to my chest, and a patch just between my pecs.

anyways, i got stretch marks on my love handle area from being overweight as a kid. been 150 since like high school to now and a size 30 waist. dated like 20 girls before i got married, no one ever commented on my stretch marks and my wife didn't even notice them until i pointed them out like a month ago. we've been married 10 years

FortuneCookie posted...

I thought this was going to be, "I'd still be 5'X" and women only want a guy who's 6 ft."

I'm 5'8 on a good day but never ran into an issue when it comes to my height.

Theres absolutely a point. It's your health. Especially if you are predisposed genetically. Diabetes, high blood pressure, cholesterol.

I have obese friends that complain that they have been on diets and lose a little and relapse, but 90% of the time I see them eat bad and a lot when we go out. So I can imagine what it's like when I'm not there.

Watch what you eat dude.
Subtract 500 calories less than your maintenance and Track your food on myfitnesspal app (you don't need a paif account).
Cut down on the processed junk food. Especially high in sugar and saturated fat. Especially soda. -Eat whole foods (grains, beans, vegetables) and drink plenty of water if you aren't.

And be more physically active. Go to the gym 3-5x a week and walk everyday for a few miles (doesn't have to be all at once)

Food should be your medicine or else medicine will be your food.

Bruh cmon, back when I first started working out, I got stretch marks on my forearms, upper back, chest, biceps. And than when I let myself go for a bit I got them on my stomach and love handles. Its not a big deal, no one cares. Besides, after a couple months they turn to the same color as your skin for the most part and become hardly noticeable.

Bro, its not even worth thinking about

TC I have a ton of stretch marks and I promise you no one will care but you

Yes, nobody will care about stretch marks. Everyone gets them

Making mountains out of molehills, tc.

I've lost 12 pounds since my break up which was a month ago...just get your heart broken it's a great motivator

Mikea posted...

TC I have a ton of stretch marks and I promise you no one will care but you

I see stretch marks as a badge of honor. You bettered yourself and overcame adversity

But like you said it's more likely people simply won't notice or care

Arcanine2009 posted...

Theres absolutely a point. It's your health. Especially if you are predisposed genetically. Diabetes, high blood pressure, cholesterol.

I have obese friends that complain that they have been on diets and lose a little and relapse, but 90% of the time I see them eat bad and a lot when we go out. So I can imagine what it's like when I'm not there.

Watch what you eat dude.
Subtract 500 calories less than your maintenance and Track your food on myfitnesspal app (you don't need a paif account).
Cut down on the processed junk food. Especially high in sugar and saturated fat. Especially soda. -Eat whole foods (grains, beans, vegetables) and drink plenty of water if you aren't.

And be more physically active. Go to the gym 3-5x a week and walk everyday for a few miles (doesn't have to be all at once)

Food should be your medicine or else medicine will be your food.

Im obese myself for a number of reasons, and this is true for me, I dont have the willpower or energy to stay committed long term to lose weight, it also doesnt help Ive used food for comfort due to childhood trauma and was also broke af and lived on the likes of frozen pizzas, ramen, cereal and other high carb foods.

Arent there products that can fix it? I think its cocoa butter or something like that.

Even the jacked up bodybuilders have shit loads of stretch marks, which is why they try to hide it with tanning, and special creams. Also, do you not wear a shirt in public? How are people going to see your stretchmarks on your gut?

My entire body is covered in pink lightning after I lost 190 pounds and people have either said nothing or thought that its incredibly badass.

Vitamin E lotion. My mom says it worked for her after pregnancy.

That is possibly the worst possible reason to not get in shape.

Do it cause you wanna and for health reasons. Also being in shape with stretch marks beats the fuck out of being chubby with stretch marks.

No girl ever looked at my abs and said ewww gross theres a huge scar.

CanuckCowboy posted...

No girl ever looked at my abs and said ewww gross theres a huge scar.

My ex literally laughed at me because I had a small stretch mark near one of my armpits.

If someone is into you they will look past minor imperfections.

CRON posted...

My ex literally laughed at me because I had a small stretch mark near one of my armpits.

Its not a big deal bro.

The amount of celebrities with stretch marks who have them brushed out in pictures.

For example, The Rock is covered with them but you'd never notice because of his tattoos, air brushing and muscles.

JTilly posted...

Its not a big deal bro.

That's not actually helpful when it comes to disorders of perception, you know.

Basically fucking useless.

CRON posted...

My ex literally laughed at me because I had a small stretch mark near one of my armpits.

So at least a chunk of it is related to trauma from that garbage person, yeah?

DrizztLink posted...

That's not actually helpful when it comes to disorders of perception, you know.

Basically fucking useless.

shut the fuck up

DrizztLink posted...

So at least a chunk of it is related to trauma from that garbage person, yeah?

Not just them. My appearance has always been mocked, despite me admittedly not being unattractive if I try.

Not remotely true. If you fill that skin with muscle it won't be half as bad.

Payzmaykr posted...

Arent there products that can fix it? I think its cocoa butter or something like that.

They may be linked to lack of vitamins. D especially but also C. Zinc and E too.

But its probably also partly genetic.

CRON posted...

Not just them. My appearance has always been mocked, despite me admittedly not being unattractive if I try.

Pretty sure this is either in your head or you don't understand good natured ribbing.

And no one decent cares about strech marks. We all know your ex was a piece of shit

CRON posted...

My ex literally laughed at me because I had a small stretch mark near one of my armpits.

That's fucked up. I dated a chick with a good figure who was fat in high school and her stretch marks NEVER bothered me in the slightest, and I'm superficial af

I don't see how it can be a negative. Your ex judged you for bettering yourself and is laughing at your past self? Like how insanely fucked up does somebody have to be to do that

I fucking hate negative pieces of shit like that that try to walk on people's efforts to better themselves. Fuck her.

CRON posted...

and people will judge.
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well heres the problem right here