Current Events > After like a month of speaking normally, we got into a disagreement again.

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AvlButtslam posted...

What concert was it?

Steve lacy

i bought the tickets for like 90 dollars total after fee

i could sell them for close to 400.

so of course I was gonna buy the tickets regardless

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can i get a run down of what happened because i love CE's relationship drama lol

I4NRulez posted...

can i get a run down of what happened because i love CE's relationship drama lol

been involved with a younger girl in the middle of a self discovery phase while she prepares for med school.

so while we hang out and go on dates and kiss, (everything but sex) Im consistently reminded that she doesnt want a relationship and will not acknowledge any serious romantic feelings for the foreseeable future.

despite neither of us wanting a relationship for at least the near future ( personally dont want one till I can afford a good apartment or house without a room mate) Im regularly treated as if Im trying to backdoor her into a relationship, when in reality I just want her self discovery to not be directly at the expense of my time/feelings and to a lesser extent money.

gamepimp12 posted...

been involved with a younger girl in the middle of a self discovery phase while she prepares for med school.

so while we hang out and go on dates and kiss, (everything but sex) Im consistently reminded that she doesnt want a relationship and will not acknowledge any serious romantic feelings for the foreseeable future.

despite neither of us wanting a relationship for at least the near future ( personally dont want one till I can afford a good apartment or house without a room mate) Im regularly treated as if Im trying to backdoor her into a relationship, when in reality I just want her self discovery to not be directly at the expense of my time/feelings and to a lesser extent money.

How often do you hangout?

Cause if i was just FWB with someone and they were making future plans that weren't "wanna fuck on friday" i would think they want more too.

I4NRulez posted...

How often do you hangout?

Cause if i was just FWB with someone and they were making future plans that weren't "wanna fuck on friday" i would think they want more too.

When were good ? Between typically between 3-1 times a month, she might swing by my house to pick up some stuff but those are typically 20 minute visits on the way to her moms house, Im not complaining considering she lives an hour and a half - 2 hours away.

and I totally understand her thinking I want more, I dont want a relationship right now but If I did itd be her, and Ive openly admitted that. Ive also openly admitted that while I treat her like my gf (when were good I regularly by her flowers, generally make sure shes good.) I dont want a girlfriend until I feel I can provide accordingly for myself her and whatever family we may have and I dont know how many times I can express that without coming off as a broken record.

i support her self discovery completely, but at times it comes at my direct expense. She does weird shit like block me on social media apps we dont speak up and gives no reason, or make pretty romantic plans with me only to cancel at the last minute and instead go and get tacos a week later, or wear my favorite hoodie, my favorite t shirt and the necklace I bought her to tell me she doesnt like me (cause she wont acknowledge any feelings atm) its just weird and feels like the run around. Cause she does all this hot and cold stuff but the second she thinks im disappointed in her, shes making plans to see me with in the week.

That is literally the most basic bitch shit. Literally. That is to say, a family I lived with had several dogs, one of which was an old chihuahua. She couldn't reproduce and was probably to fragile to even attempt breeding anyway, but she loved attention. She would dance and shove her ass at the male dogs, and the longer they ignored her, the more erratically she danced and more aggressively she shoved her stank in their face. When they finally gave her attention, the moment they sniffed at her, she lost all interest and walked away.

Literally.

gamepimp12 posted...

Cause she does all this hot and cold stuff but the second she thinks im disappointed in her, shes making plans to see me with in the week.

thats one of the biggest red flags to look for in a person.

It sounds like you DO want a relationship and idk why you're putting your mental health on the line for this woman. There's other women out there and you'll be fine dude.

Guide posted...

That is literally the most basic bitch shit. Literally. That is to say, a family I lived with had several dogs, one of which was an old chihuahua. She couldn't reproduce and was probably to fragile to even attempt breeding anyway, but she loved attention. She would dance and shove her ass at the male dogs, and the longer they ignored her, the more erratically she danced and more aggressively she shoved her stank in their face. When they finally gave her attention, the moment they sniffed at her, she lost all interest and walked away.

Literally.

im 100% aware. I know she has a unhealthy need of independence and being alone. So much so that she thinks its normal when her sister does the exact same thing and sabotages relationships. Its the reason I would never date her till she figures that shit out (Ive actually never told her that because I dont know how she would react to me saying I wouldnt dare her)

I admittedly have a soft spot for her, and especially now that I see through a lot of her shit (I didnt up until a few months) ago

I4NRulez posted...

thats one of the biggest red flags to look for in a person.

It sounds like you DO want a relationship and idk why you're putting your mental health on the line for this woman. There's other women out there and you'll be fine dude.

I seriously do not want a relationship, I actually enjoy the casual dating im doing elsewhere and I have so many things I still want to do as a single man, but Im also at the age where im preparing to be ready to have a family and to be in a serious relationship when everything lines up.

gamepimp12 posted...

When were good ? Between typically between 3-1 times a month, she might swing by my house to pick up some stuff but those are typically 20 minute visits on the way to her moms house, Im not complaining considering she lives an hour and a half - 2 hours away.

and I totally understand her thinking I want more, I dont want a relationship right now but If I did itd be her, and Ive openly admitted that. Ive also openly admitted that while I treat her like my gf (when were good I regularly by her flowers, generally make sure shes good.) I dont want a girlfriend until I feel I can provide accordingly for myself her and whatever family we may have and I dont know how many times I can express that without coming off as a broken record.

i support her self discovery completely, but at times it comes at my direct expense. She does weird shit like block me on social media apps we dont speak up and gives no reason, or make pretty romantic plans with me only to cancel at the last minute and instead go and get tacos a week later, or wear my favorite hoodie, my favorite t shirt and the necklace I bought her to tell me she doesnt like me (cause she wont acknowledge any feelings atm) its just weird and feels like the run around. Cause she does all this hot and cold stuff but the second she thinks im disappointed in her, shes making plans to see me with in the week.

No offense man, but this sounds like your actions aren't matching your words. You say you don't want a girlfriend right now, but then you treat her like your girlfriend. And you call her your ex, despite her never actually being your girlfriend.

It sounds like you do want a relationship right now. You're just telling yourself you don't, because she doesn't want a relationship. The more you explain about this situation, the more I say you should just leave her alone and find someone that actually wants to start a relationship.

Right now you're orbiting, hoping that she will eventually want a relationship with you once she's done with her self discovery. And she's keeping you around for the closeness and goes cold when you start getting too close. All of this is just going to keep making you feel bad.

gamepimp12 posted...

I seriously do not want a relationship, I actually enjoy the casual dating im doing elsewhere and I have so many things I still want to do as a single man, but Im also at the age where im preparing to be ready to have a family and to be in a serious relationship when everything lines up.

You dont want a relationship but youre at the age where you want a relationship and want to settle down?

You're both toxic

gamepimp12 posted...

I typically always move in an assertive kind of way, Im always bringing her food or giving her money for food, Im always buying things she mentions she likes etc etc etc so of course I would buy tickets to a show two months in advance without asking.

And you're apparently also always getting into arguments over it

I didn't read all of the responses here, but this is a dumb argument. I have bought 2 tickets for concerts I am interested in plenty of times without a big discussion first. I will then ask who I am with if she is interested. If she isn't, I go with some friend. This should not be a big fucking deal.

This isn't about communication; this is about her needing to chill out. However, if TC was at all upset that she didn't want to go, then maybe that is on him.

bsp77 posted...

I didn't read all of the responses here, but this is a dumb argument. I have bought 2 tickets for concerts I am interested in plenty of times without a big discussion first. I will then ask who I am with if she is interested. If she isn't, I go with some friend. This should not be a big fucking deal.

This isn't about communication; this is about her needing to chill out. However, if TC was at all upset that she didn't want to go, then maybe that is on him.

I dont think thats her issue. from reading OP's posts it sounds like she doesnt want him to do that stuff and he keeps trying to do things that make her feel like he's trying to get her into a relationship.

I think she's seeing it as him once again attempting to try and wooo her into a relationship which is understandable. This whole topic sounds like two people who shouldnt be involved with each other.

I4NRulez posted...

I dont think thats her issue. from reading OP's posts it sounds like she doesnt want him to do that stuff and he keeps trying to do things that make her feel like he's trying to get her into a relationship.

I think she's seeing it as him once again attempting to try and wooo her into a relationship which is understandable. This whole topic sounds like two people who shouldnt be involved with each other.

Yeah, that could very well be possible, and I was maybe projecting my own life too much. I guess it matters if he was asking if she wanted to go or assuming.

I have been saying for months that this is a shit "relationship" and he needs to move on.

You know, I don't want to be overly hard on you, tc. I know that emotional investment isn't easy to cut off even if you have every rational reason to do so. Just painful to see this cycle.

I4NRulez posted...

I dont think thats her issue. from reading OP's posts it sounds like she doesnt want him to do that stuff and he keeps trying to do things that make her feel like he's trying to get her into a relationship.

I think she's seeing it as him once again attempting to try and wooo her into a relationship which is understandable. This whole topic sounds like two people who shouldnt be involved with each other.

No she was pretty adamant in the situation about feeling like I didnt respect her time and space by doing this without actually asking her about it. I dont think this is a back door her into a relationship thing, cause I casually do more than this for her.

I4NRulez posted...

You dont want a relationship but youre at the age where you want a relationship and want to settle down?

You're both toxic

Im 31 I want to be in a Financial situation, where I can afford a relationship and a family but I dont actually want one, I do enjoy the freedom I currently have

Well I think were Hanging out Wednesday. Im assuming Shes at least pulling up to my house.

Im going to ask again about the concert.