Current Events > Hi, I'm your friendly local trans CEGal, ask me anything!

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Well, not anything, please be polite. I think the highlight from last month's edition was being told that being trans is my entire personality, so definitely don't bother asking me about hobbies, interests, shows, music, etc. You may also ask my advice on your problems. Some people are under the impression I give good advice, even! I don't believe them.
A few highlights from life:

-I am undertaking the arduous process of getting Husky to approve me for laser hair removal for my face I could probably still grow a better beard and mustache combo than many CEmen, it would just take a long time. I'm also working on getting my legal name changed: that's easier, at least.

-I had a falling out with my girlfriend that has since been repaired. We had a very lengthy and detailed conversation on the topic yesterday (face-to-face), which was uncomfortable at times for the both of us, but it was very productive and very healing. She let slip that she sees this as a long-term thing, which I have for a while, but I hadn't been sure we were on the same page because she's been weird about labels.

-I've successfully registered for a Masters-level Social Work class as a non-matriculating/visiting student! My grades in undergrad weren't great, but I've had great success academically since and I am eager to demonstrate I can crush it at this level.

Should I pursue a girl I work with even though she's probably straight?

ElatedVenusaur posted...

-I had a falling out with my girlfriend that has since been repaired. We had a very lengthy and detailed conversation on the topic yesterday (face-to-face), which was uncomfortable at times for the both of us, but it was very productive and very healing. She let slip that she sees this as a long-term thing, which I have for a while, but I hadn't been sure we were on the same page because she's been weird about labels.

Im glad you were able to resolve things in a way that was mutually beneficial! Communication is important

Is your girlfriend also trans? Do you enjoy watching or playing any sports? How much do you like Monty Python's Flying Circus?

Didn't read all that, my bad

Which fire emblem is your favorite?

Also hope the hair removal goes well. I imagine that's gotta be a big thing for trans folks

Crimsoness posted...

Should I pursue a girl I work with even though she's probably straight?

That depends: do you think you two could have a productive friendship if she turns out to not be interested in you romantically/sexually? If the answer is yes, then certainly.

Ilishe posted...

Is your girlfriend also trans? Do you enjoy watching or playing any sports? How much do you like Monty Python's Flying Circus?

1) Nope, she's a cis lesbian. Soft butch. Also she told me she thinks it's super hot I don't tuck, which is funny, because I mostly don't tuck out of apathy.

2) I'm a football fan. Specifically, a Bills fan. Gabe Davis scored that TD with 13 seconds remaining and I was amped, but nonetheless felt a deep sense of foreboding.
The Bills Billsed it all up, as is now (in)famous reality.

3) My Latin teacher in high school showed us Monty Python's Holy Grail in class, which I found pretty funny back then. He also showed a few other clips that were pretty entertaining, but I've never really watched it beyond those instances.

Smackems posted...

Didn't read all that, my bad

Which fire emblem is your favorite?

I think it's between Blazing Blade and Path of Radiance, for me. And it's really close, too!

Does Nintendunc have permission to PM you "hi"?

Pie or cake?

Choose carefully. _

Pepys_Monster posted...

Does Nintendunc have permission to PM you "hi"?

No. No one I do not have a prior posting relationship can PM me frivolously. If you're going to PM me, you best have a very good reason. That is *not* a good reason, even leaving aside his sordid reputation.

ThePieReborn posted...

Pie or cake?

Choose carefully. _

I am sorry friend, but I am a slut for chocolate cake. The richer and moister the better!
That is not to say that I don't like pies, because I love pies. It's just I prefer cake.

Assuming you might have as a child, could you eat Chef Boyardee canned pasta now?

Have you ever thought it was weird how serious coffee enthusiasts are about their drug use?

Do you see your thoughts in your mind in a way that you would be able to describe and have make sense to another person?

Given the choice, would you wear purple and red, or pink and black?

I've never played blazing blade.... I don't think? Was it released in the US? If so I've played it

What's your favorite Hong Kong action movie?

DespondentDeity posted...

Assuming you might have as a child, could you eat Chef Boyardee canned pasta now?

Have you ever thought it was weird how serious coffee enthusiasts are about their drug use?

Do you see your thoughts in your mind in a way that you would be able to describe and have make sense to another person?

Given the choice, would you wear purple and red, or pink and black?

1) Ewww, noooooo. I didn't like jarred tomato sauce even as a kid, since making it from scratch is a big part of my family's culinary tradition yes, I have a lot of Italian heritage, duh.

2) My girlfriend is a coffee drinker. She buys and makes good coffee, and she'll even make me some if I ask nicely. She made me some yesterday, actually: being apart from her was really rough emotionally, so I haven't been sleeping well, so the pick-me-up was appreciated and helped keep me focused, especially with all the deep conversation we had!

3) Oh damn. Those are both really nice combos, but I think I'm more purple and red than pink or black. The girlfriend still waxes poetic over the lavender get-up I wore when she met (some) of my family.

What's the next step for a transgirl after having seen a therapist about it and having them say "yup, you're trans"

How waxy does she get?

Smackems posted...

I've never played blazing blade.... I don't think? Was it released in the US? If so I've played it

Yes you have: it's Fire Emblem for the GBA. When it was ported over, it wasn't given its sub-title because it was the first FE to be released over here. It's also Fire Emblem 7!
UnicornRaline posted...

What's the next step for a transgirl after having seen a therapist about it and having them say "yup, you're trans"

Well, lots of unpacking of what that means and all the innumerable ways it's fucked with your head. The first few months of therapy were really fucking brutal. At some point, my therapist gave me a brochure for an LGBTQ+-focused clinic in my area, and after a while, I scheduled a consult for HRT. From starting therapy to starting HRT was about 4 months, but you don't need to be seeing a therapist at all to get HRT if you go to an informed consent clinic (which mine is). If you want to get HRT, you can just schedule with an informed consent clinic (Planned Parenthood practices informed consent, IIRC).

Basically, how that works is that they sit you down with a doctor who goes through an exhaustive accounting of all the things HRT will do* to your body and then asks if that sounds good. Then mine asked if I wanted to get a prescription then or think about it and maybe come back in a month or two. I, of course, opted for the former. Practically cut her off LOL.
*Doctors, especially ones who don't have much experience with trans people, can often be ill-informed or misinformed as to how extensive the effects are. Mine has had hundreds if not thousands of trans patients and at least one of the people who work there is a trans woman (she walked me through my first estrogen injection): she gave an excellent accounting.
31Veteran posted...

How waxy does she get?

The lady? She has a tendency to wax poetic about me, for some reason.
I'm not any better when I'm talking about her LOL.

Why do you need approval from a Husky to get hair removal? I feel like most dogs wouldn't see the value in it.

does venusaur signify anything in your personal life or identity?

Lost_All_Senses posted...

Why do you need approval from a Husky to get hair removal? I feel like most dogs wouldn't see the value in it.

I realize this is a joke, but that's just what Connecticut calls its Medicaid program (I'm poor as shit). Even though everything beyond HRT is gatekeeping hell in excess of WPATH standards, and WPATH doesn't even consult trans people about our care LOL , it's one of the best Medicaid programs for transition care. Or just in general, really: I haven't paid for anything out-of-pocket. It's pretty great, I feel like this is how it should be.
nfearurspecimn posted...

does venusaur signify anything in your personal life or identity?

It's my favorite starter pokemon.

I just finished Transgender History: The Roots of Todays Revolution by Susan Stryker. Its a really well-written, well-researched primer on the history of transness and the trans rights movement in the U.S. She also does an excellent job of emphasizing how multiracial its always been, as well.

Its a great read if youre at all interested in the subject matter. It covers up through the early days of the Trump administration. Im just really curious about these things, especially in the darkness of the present moment.

Anyway, Im going to go to bed now. Have a good night, CE! Ill def bump this in the morning like the shameless attention whore that I am.

Not if I bump it first. Im about to do my shot. When do you prefer to do yours? When you started on progesterone, did you have to do 100mg for any length of time or did they prescribe 200mg from the get go? I have a follow up question if its the former scenario

What is the best variety of apple and why?

DespondentDeity posted...

Not if I bump it first. Im about to do my shot. When do you prefer to do yours? When you started on progesterone, did you have to do 100mg for any length of time or did they prescribe 200mg from the get go? I have a follow up question if its the former scenario

Yeah, I started on 100mg. I was on that for three months, then I was bumped up to 200mg. Though someone screwed up putting into the system, so I had a gap where I didnt have prog and that was *completely terrible*.

Trumble posted...

What is the best variety of apple and why?

That depends on what you want to use them for.
Ill never forget buying apples for a girl in college she made a delicious apple pie for me. When I asked what kind of apples to get, she goes, Gala, ideally. But anything except Red Delicious is fine.

Because Red Delicious is the single worst possible apple for any apple-related need. I assume boomers who have never even tried so much as a Granny Smith out of fear of change are the only people joyless enough to eat them by choice.

Did your baseline mood and mood stability increase when you upped the dosage? Im planning to ask my clinician for an increase, after having missed a day and caught the dose up the following day and experiencing a much more even mood throughout the day, but Im having anxiety about asking.

Whats your favorite movie from the past 10 years

Whats the first movie you remember seeing in theaters

Most anticipated game releasing in 2023? If you have one.

DespondentDeity posted...

Did your baseline mood and mood stability increase when you upped the dosage? Im planning to ask my clinician for an increase, after having missed a day and caught the dose up the following day and experiencing a much more even mood throughout the day, but Im having anxiety about asking.

Oh, absolutely! I like to say prog is the tits, and it is, but it absolutely helps a ton with mood stability for most girls.
But also with libido. Def not as horny as before HRT, of course, but it was a noticeable spike.
Dragon posted...

Whats your favorite movie from the past 10 years

Whats the first movie you remember seeing in theaters

Most anticipated game releasing in 2023? If you have one.

Movies are a hard one for me: I didnt go to the theater much before the pandemic and have no desire to go back aside from being cautious, my GF is immunocompromised. And I like seeing her and her being alive, so Im extra careful.
But definitely Logan.

The first movie I saw in theaters? Probably The Beauty and the Beast. If I went to anything before that, I dont remember it.

Anticipated release? Nothing for 2023, because the scuttlebutt is that Victoria 3 is coming out in November of this year. I honestly dont pay anywhere near as much attention to this kind of thing as I used to, even though I still game.

Anyway, good morning CE! Im actually awake now. Ask away!

So Bills fan...have you ever thrown a sex toy at Tom Brady?

aurlen posted...

So Bills fan...have you ever thrown a sex toy at Tom Brady?

I've never been to a Patriots game, no. Me and my Dad don't get to catch many games in person, so we always preferred going to games that seemed winnable.

I did beat a stuffed dolphin with a baseball bat in the team parking lot though. Shit's wild. Dude was letting people whack that thing for a $1. Well worth it.

Do you have a favorite philosopher? Is it Hegel?

Did you really think you would get away with it?

Does Hartford deserve a new hockey team?

gunplagirl posted...

Did you really think you would get away with it?

Yes, I would have too, if not for those meddling kids!
hockeybub89 posted...

Does Hartford deserve a new hockey team?

How long have the Whalers been gone now? And, objectively, Hartford is a pretty small market on the edge of Boston's own, much bigger market, and the closest other largish city in the state is Waterbury.
New Haven, Bridgeport, and Fairfield are like an hour away, and Stamford is even further. All of which are firmly in New York City's media market. In a perfect world, sure, but in a capitalist system it just will never work.

I think yoy skipped me TC...

MedeaLysistrata posted...

Do you have a favorite philosopher? Is it Hegel?

Oh, so I did skip you, sorry. Page ends are weird sometimes, but this is a good question.
I'm honestly not well enough versed in philosophy to really have an opinion, though I did enjoy Candide and Thus Spoke Zarathustra.
Haven't read Hegel, but will never forget that Marx said he only makes sense if you turn him upside down, because it's just an objectively silly line. I read a Marx biography, but have yet to actually read Marx.

The lady has a lot of philosophy books, it seems like her wheelhouse.

ElatedVenusaur posted...

Oh, so I did skip you, sorry. Page ends are weird sometimes, but this is a good question.
I'm honestly not well enough versed in philosophy to really have an opinion, though I did enjoy Candide and Thus Spoke Zarathustra.
Haven't read Hegel, but will never forget that Marx said he only makes sense if you turn him upside down, because it's just an objectively silly line. I read a Marx biography, but have yet to actually read Marx.

Oh OK then. Nietzsche and Voltaire suck cannal water

MedeaLysistrata posted...

Oh OK then. Nietzsche and Voltaire suck cannal water

I'm mostly kidding you can enjoy whatever you want to enjoy

I am now considering what I should start reading. My backlog is always large and varied, but giving I'll likely have a lot of reading to do for my class....
Well, I'm undecided, friends. I have more books on trans stuff, a book that attempts to reconstruct a Mexica history of pre-Spanish Mexico and the Spanish conquest, a number of novels, a biography of Cyrus the Great, etc. etc.

Edit: Current emotional space. So happy to be back with my girl. And Angel Olsen is one of her faves https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=nleRCBhLr3k

https://gamefaqs.gamespot.com/a/user_image/9/6/8/AAIAInAADm8w.jpg
Beach vibezzzz bump!

Awwwlast months edition did so well, seems this one is doomed.

hey, how are you?

Yazarogi posted...

hey, how are you?

Im good, but I need a new job LOL.

I'm tipsy and eating hickory smoked bacon flavored crickets, and wondering why we don't eat bugs more because these things are delicious and nutritious!
Okay...maybe more drunk LOL.

How do you feel about rhythm games, got any favorites?

TeaMilk posted...

How do you feel about rhythm games, got any favorites?

They've never really been my jam. Even though Guitar Hero 2 was all the rage my sophomore year of college.

One of my friends would always play "Less Talk More Rokk" by Freezepop and that's actually how I got into Freezepop, LOL.
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=XodpskV6gOU
Proper Guitar Hero trappings, but none of us were anywhere near that good at the game.

https://gamefaqs.gamespot.com/a/user_image/3/3/2/AAIAInAADnCc.jpg
Me and CE.
But seriously bro, like, feminizing HRT is like a total trip. Like, hormones literally control, like 90% of everything about our bodies bro, I'm not exaggerating bro, it's totally true, I totally developed breasts and thinner skin and light hair that grows slower and even my body fat has started to really redistribute and I feel different and shit bro, like...whoa man, you wouldn't believe what it's like to *feel* things like this bro, I don't even know how to describe it. I like, think different but it's just right, you know, and even things downstairs work and feel different and I'm only, like a year in bro, seriously, it's crazy how much further I have to go bro. If you want to be a girl, bro, you can just be a girl and isn't that like totally wild bro? Bro? Yo, you listenin' bro? You hearin' what I'm saying bro?
I would do all caps, but it's against the TOS and I know I would get marked for it.

Anyway, good night. This is the last bump.

are you still awake?

ElatedVenusaur posted...

That depends on what you want to use them for.

Wrong. The correct answer is Ambrosia.

ElatedVenusaur posted...

a biography of Cyrus the Great

I did not realise we knew enough about Cyrus the Great that someone wrote a biography of him

Yazarogi posted...

are you still awake?

I wasn't, but now I am.

teep_ posted...

I did not realise we knew enough about Cyrus the Great that someone wrote a biography of him

It's big, but it seems to also talk about the culture, religion, and stuff of the Achaeamenid Empire.
It's funny, the book about Sumeria I read ended with Cyrus conquering Babylon, because that was the end of their independence and beginning of their terminal decline, because the Ancient Persians wanted to rule from their own cities. Babylon's last chance was Alexander, ironically enough, but he died before he could attempt any of his insane construction projects.