Current Events > Am I wrong for being pissed off at my parents about my car?

(+) Yeah! (+)

My parents car broke down on 12/21, and I lent them my brand new car (of under 1000 miles) as a temporary measure. By today, 12/26, they STILL didnt tow their car nor get it looked at, and are still driving my car around. According to my app, they put 400 miles on it already, going to their friend house, church, a mall, etc.

I went to their house to try to see the condition of the car and to see when theyre going to fix their car, and its clear they smoked in my car too. I gave them a time limit: return my car by next week. Theyre pretty pissed off and are yelling at me for not helping them out.

Am I in the wrong here? Because this is pretty fucking bullshit from my perspective. If I was borrowing a car from someone, Id drive it as little as possible and treat it good, not like what my parents are doing to my car.

Nope. I'd be annoyed with the lack of action and really pissed at the smoking.

Are you sure they have failed to get theirs fixed through inaction, or is it just a bad time of year to get a mechanic scheduled?

Between Christmas and the storms, I had to wait several days for my work van to just be looked at, and the garage we use has a deal with our company and so rushed us ahead of others and it still took them several days to do something that could have been hammered out in an afternoon.

Maybe the places around you are just swamped?

Smoking when you asked not to is still a major dick move, though

They are acting entitled as fuck. I would have taken the car back immediately after the smoking thing. Thats just not right.

buddhamonster posted...

Are you sure they have failed to get theirs fixed through inaction, or is it just a bad time of year to get a mechanic scheduled?

Between Christmas and the storms, I had to wait several days for my work van to just be looked at, and the garage we use has a deal with our company and so rushed us ahead of others and it still took them several days to do something that could have been hammered out in an afternoon.

Maybe the places around you are just swamped?

Smoking when you asked not to is still a major dick move, though

They told me they didnt call the dealer yet. They have an extended warranty that covers a rental/loaner car, so I expected them to use that benefit ASAP, not just drive my car around.

They are 100% in the wrong here.

I feel like I have to ask given that this is CE and its 2022 but......

Did you buy the new car or was it purchased by your parents? I've seen some entitled kids that get upset about "their car" being used by their parents that paid for the purchase of the car, the insurance of the car, the maintenance of the car, and had their names on the title of said car ...... which kind of makes it the parents car.

Yeah, I'd be pissed. Especially about the smoking. I wouldn't want my brand new car to have that smoke smell in it. It's a pain in the ass to get that smell out.

Atralis posted...

I feel like I have to ask given that this is CE.

Did you buy the new car or was it purchased by your parents?

I bought it, specifically for my parents-in-law too. Long story short, my parents-in-law crashed their 10-year old vehicle, and needed financial help buying a car; so we bought a brand new 2022 Hyundai Venue for them (under my name, with some of the money from them (i.e., the insurance check), but majority from my wife and I) back in October. This was really poor timing for us, because we are already committed to purchasing a $60k minivan soon...

So technically, this is my car (registered to me, and majority funded by my wife and I), but purchased for my parents-in-law. My parents know this too.

Our other car at the moment is a 2019 RAM truck; like hell I'm letting my parents drive a truck.

Yeah, this is 100% fair.

IdiotMachine posted...

So technically, this is my car (registered to me, and majority funded by my wife and I), but purchased for my parents-in-law. My parents know this too.

And now that my parents-in-law dont have a car, my wife needs to drive them around for shit, like lab appointments and groceries and stuff.

Getting pretty annoyed about all this crap.

I'd give them a maximum of 72 hours to figure it out before you take the car back.

48 of those hours are negotiable.

100% justified in being pissed. But also better to channel that anger into helping them get their car fixed, the faster that happens, the faster you get your car back. Also they should pay to have your car detailed for all that smoke.

Either way, their car needs to be towed to the dealer so help the situation out by calling the dealer and setting it in motion.

I would be pissed but be a better person.

You should ground them

CommonStar posted...

100% justified in being pissed. But also better to channel that anger into helping them get their car fixed, the faster that happens, the faster you get your car back. Also they should pay to have your car detailed for all that smoke.

CobraGT posted...

Either way, their car needs to be towed to the dealer so help the situation out by calling the dealer and setting it in motion.

I would be pissed but be a better person.

Bah you guys are too reasonable. Im going to call the dealer tomorrow.

Its the smoking that is bull shit. I think you should be okay helping your parents out, but have every right to be pissed about the smoking