Current Events > apparently dating as a foreigner in Japan is actually more difficult

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Beveren_Rabbit
12/28/22 6:42:37 AM
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than Pick Up Artists want you to believe. You can't just to be a tall fit attractive white guy that speaks Japanese and expect to easily get a girlfriend.

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NeonTentacles
12/28/22 6:45:31 AM
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Beveren_Rabbit posted...
You can't just to be a tall fit attractive white guy that speaks Japanese and expect to easily get a girlfriend.
Hell yeah you can

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Patchwork
12/28/22 6:46:18 AM
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Hot tip: just be fucking normal

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pinky0926
12/28/22 6:49:49 AM
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I watched a video on this by that guy who talks about japanese culture on youtube (can't remember his channel). It seems like a lot of japanese women find white guys attractive, but the language barrier is a big problem and so is the cultural side. Like their expectation is that westerners are too extroverted, sometimes rude, and won't be able to impress their parents.

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COVxy
12/28/22 6:51:09 AM
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Feel like anybody telling you it will be easier to date in a foreign country where there will be a language and cultural gap should immediately come across to you as a bullshit artist.

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Zikten
12/28/22 6:52:47 AM
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When I was in Japan all but 1 girl ignored me. 1 single girl I met was interested in talking to me. But I was only there for 2 weeks, and I only met the girl for like an hour 1 time amd never saw her again

It might be different in Tokyo. I was in Nagoya. But I think the amount of Japanese girls eager and desperate for a foreign boyfriend is greatly exaggerated
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pinky0926
12/28/22 6:53:37 AM
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Not the same thing obviously but when I was in Thailand tinder was a joke. Do you know how easy it is to get tinder matches in south east asia when you're a tall white blond guy?

The problem was, most of them were escorts and a large amount of them were looking for a "rich" western guy to sweep them away from poverty. Made me uncomfortable on multiple levels.

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Glob
12/28/22 6:53:49 AM
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Pick up artists are full of shit anyway. Despicable culture thats hurtful to both men and women. You shouldnt be giving them the attention they so clearly crave.
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Dakimakura
12/28/22 6:54:33 AM
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Pick up artists like that NoU_L7 guy

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Turtlebread
12/28/22 6:55:17 AM
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Spoilers

It depends on if youre attractive or not


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Glob
12/28/22 6:55:21 AM
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pinky0926 posted...
Do you know how easy it is to get tinder matches in south east asia when you're a tall white blond guy?

Not blonde, no.
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Oubliettes
12/28/22 6:59:45 AM
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pinky0926 posted...
and won't be able to impress their parents.

i hooked up with this japanese chick at a bar in tokyo a few years back, and was expecting a one night stand. the first thing we did in the morning was get on a train so she could introduce me to her mom and dad lol. it was bizarre. i ended up saying i needed to use the restroom, walked out the front door and ghosted her. still kinda feel bad about that. she emailed me for months asking if i was okay.

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pinky0926
12/28/22 7:00:28 AM
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Oubliettes posted...
i hooked up with this japanese chick at a bar in tokyo a few years back, and was expecting a one night stand. the first thing we did in the morning was get on a train so she could introduce me to her mom and dad lol. it was bizarre. i ended up saying i needed to use the restroom, walked out the front door and ghosted her. still kinda feel bad about that. she emailed me for months asking if i was okay.

Ouch dude. I hope she got over that.

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Beveren_Rabbit
12/28/22 7:01:25 AM
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she probably thought you got kindapped and was worried about you

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Zikten
12/28/22 7:02:30 AM
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Oubliettes posted...
i hooked up with this japanese chick at a bar in tokyo a few years back, and was expecting a one night stand. the first thing we did in the morning was get on a train so she could introduce me to her mom and dad lol. it was bizarre. i ended up saying i needed to use the restroom, walked out the front door and ghosted her. still kinda feel bad about that. she emailed me for months asking if i was okay.
Damn. Why were you so freaked out? She may have turned out to be very nice. Especially since she attempted to find out if you were ok for months

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K181
12/28/22 7:11:14 AM
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Small sample size, I know, but both of my friends that spent a considerable amount of time in Japan said that it was basically nonstop easy mode and that most weeks theyd actively have to try to not get laid to not do so. Though they also gave the caveat that that was only the case for white dudes over there.

Oh, and neither are what Id remotely have called pickup artists. They were just meaningful sociable and knew how to have conversations with women without freaking out over it.

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Zikten
12/28/22 7:14:29 AM
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K181 posted...
Small sample size, I know, but both of my friends that spent a considerable amount of time in Japan said that it was basically nonstop easy mode and that most weeks theyd actively have to try to not get laid to not do so. Though they also gave the caveat that that was only the case for white dudes over there.
What city were they in?
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RiKuToTheMiGhtY
12/28/22 7:15:54 AM
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Oubliettes posted...
i hooked up with this japanese chick at a bar in tokyo a few years back, and was expecting a one night stand. the first thing we did in the morning was get on a train so she could introduce me to her mom and dad lol. it was bizarre. i ended up saying i needed to use the restroom, walked out the front door and ghosted her. still kinda feel bad about that. she emailed me for months asking if i was okay.
You did not just fuck up, you fucked up royally, she probably would have been a good girlfriend if she kept trying to see if you were ok for months.

You are the only person who lost here.

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K181
12/28/22 7:18:27 AM
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Zikten posted...
What city were they in?

One was in Tokyo and the other was in I think Osaka or Kyoto. They were over there at different times, I think a year or two apart.

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action52
12/28/22 7:24:58 AM
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Being a foreigner gives you an advantage in any country. You're exotic, you stand out. And if you are fluent in their language, that's probably going to be impressive unless they're even more fluent in their language. Also there are clubs and bars that foreigners hang out in, and Japanese people looking to hook up with foreigners like to go. If you go to those places and aren't very picky, it's easy to find someone who will go out with you or at least sleep with you (assuming these places are still open post COVID, I haven't been to them in many years).

That doesn't mean you will have Japanese women falling all over you or that you will be able to get any Japanese woman you want. In terms of random people you meet, you'll probably be considered slightly more attractive than you were but that's it.

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Nukazie
12/28/22 7:27:39 AM
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just have money??

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Oubliettes
12/28/22 8:37:44 AM
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RiKuToTheMiGhtY posted...
You did not just fuck up, you fucked up royally, she probably would have been a good girlfriend if she kept trying to see if you were ok for months.

You are the only person who lost here.

why would i try to form a relationship with a girl in a country i was only gonna be in for a few more weeks

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Beveren_Rabbit
12/28/22 8:46:40 AM
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you could have just told her you're not interested instead of have her worry that her date got kidnapped while visiting a foreign country.

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gatorsPENSbucs
12/28/22 8:47:28 AM
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Oubliettes posted...
why would i try to form a relationship with a girl in a country i was only gonna be in for a few more weeks
Especially one that wants you to meet her parents after one night. You did the right thing, and her continuing to email you for months just confirms it.

As for the topic

Turtlebread posted...
Spoilers

It depends on if youre attractive or not


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Zikten
12/28/22 8:51:33 AM
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gatorsPENSbucs posted...
Especially one that wants you to meet her parents after one night. You did the right thing, and her continuing to email you for months just confirms it.
She was probably scared he was dead

He should have told her he didn't want to stay. Not slip out when she isn't looking and ghost her when she is worried about him

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Beveren_Rabbit
12/28/22 8:54:50 AM
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ghosting is really immature :)

but who knows she could have been bait for human trafficking. She could have been luring you to rob you , hold you hostage , or

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Oubliettes
12/28/22 9:00:16 AM
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Beveren_Rabbit posted...
ghosting is really immature :)

but who knows she could have been bait for human trafficking. She could have been luring you to rob you , hold you hostage , or

that happened the following week lol
girl bought me a drink and gave me coke in the bathroom. we made out a bit and i woke up in a taxi cab with my passport and credit cards having been stolen

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Turtlebread
12/28/22 9:01:12 AM
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Oubliettes posted...
that happened the following week lol
girl bought me a drink and gave me coke in the bathroom. we made out a bit and i woke up in a taxi cab with my passport and credit cards having been stolen


you live a charmed life

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NeonTentacles
12/28/22 9:32:59 AM
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Why was your passport on you? I'd keep it in a hotel room

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Oubliettes
12/28/22 9:38:06 AM
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NeonTentacles posted...
Why was your passport on you? I'd keep it in a hotel room

idk i was like 23, travelling alone, and had never been abroad
i did coke with a stranger in a bathroom, i wasnt exactly making stellar decisions that night lol

Turtlebread posted...
you live a charmed life


magical things happen when you have no regard for your health or safety and your only goal in life is chasing tail

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Jiek_Fafn
12/28/22 9:44:57 AM
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Oubliettes posted...
i hooked up with this japanese chick at a bar in tokyo a few years back, and was expecting a one night stand. the first thing we did in the morning was get on a train so she could introduce me to her mom and dad lol. it was bizarre. i ended up saying i needed to use the restroom, walked out the front door and ghosted her. still kinda feel bad about that. she emailed me for months asking if i was okay.
That's kind of horrible, but it made me laugh

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Glob
12/28/22 9:46:41 AM
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Turtlebread posted...
you live a charmed life

Sounds like he got into some shenanigans when he was younger. Its more of a red flag for me if somebody didnt, to be honest.
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Turtlebread
12/28/22 9:51:07 AM
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Well theres shenanigans and then theres waking up without your organs

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Glob
12/28/22 9:55:02 AM
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Turtlebread posted...
Well theres shenanigans and then theres waking up without your organs

Youre aware that your passport isnt an organ, right?
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Beveren_Rabbit
12/28/22 10:01:10 AM
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any reason why a passport isn't considered an organ despite having your ID Photo and various personal information ?

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Turtlebread
12/28/22 10:06:01 AM
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Glob posted...
Youre aware that your passport isnt an organ, right?

Yes, so obviously he came out on top in this situation.

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crayola555
12/28/22 10:09:41 AM
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Beveren_Rabbit posted...
than Pick Up Artists want you to believe. You can't just to be a tall fit attractive white guy that speaks Japanese and expect to easily get a girlfriend.

Most of them probably just got together with a few escorts or some lady in a dating app that's looking for a green card to another foreign country. Then they feel the need to exaggerate they got some game in a foreign country

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josifrees
12/28/22 10:16:18 AM
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PUAs are dumb as shit Im pretty sure that would be why they struggle in japan

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Oubliettes
12/28/22 12:15:27 PM
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Turtlebread posted...
Yes, so obviously he came out on top in this situation.

i absolutely did. i got all the money back after filing a CC dispute and i got a funny as shit memory

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josifrees
12/28/22 3:07:38 PM
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I was in Thailand visiting my wifes family and it was wild being like the only white dude in a 20 mile radius. Felt so sexy

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Zikten
12/28/22 3:18:36 PM
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josifrees posted...
I was in Thailand visiting my wifes family and it was wild being like the only white dude in a 20 mile radius. Felt so sexy
I had that feeling in Nagoya. I had to take a bus and subway to go to the local college where I'd meet my group. It was extremely weird to be the only person of my ethnicity in areas. I always felt like that hundreds of eyes were on me

Now I know how minorities sometimes feel in some places.

I remember a teenage boy walked past me on a sidewalk and actually did a double take. Nagoya does not get as many foreigners as Tokyo. Someone on the trip told me some people in Nagoya never see foreigners except on tv or whatever
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josifrees
12/28/22 3:21:29 PM
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When I was in Tokyo I was getting looks but I think it was I had my cute baby in a carrier and she looked really cute

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dj1200
12/28/22 3:21:58 PM
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Nukazie posted...
just have money??
strangely enough, this works in any country

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Heartomaton
12/28/22 3:26:36 PM
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Oubliettes posted...
i ended up saying i needed to use the restroom, walked out the front door and ghosted her.

Dude. Tf.

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Glob
12/28/22 6:49:55 PM
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Turtlebread posted...
Yes, so obviously he came out on top in this situation.

You seem youre deliberately trying to be as boring as possible.

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Turtlebread
12/28/22 8:46:15 PM
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Glob posted...
You seem youre deliberately trying to be as boring as possible.

Ok lol

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YugiNoob
12/28/22 8:59:41 PM
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Zikten posted...
I had that feeling in Nagoya. I had to take a bus and subway to go to the local college where I'd meet my group. It was extremely weird to be the only person of my ethnicity in areas. I always felt like that hundreds of eyes were on me

Now I know how minorities sometimes feel in some places.

I remember a teenage boy walked past me on a sidewalk and actually did a double take. Nagoya does not get as many foreigners as Tokyo. Someone on the trip told me some people in Nagoya never see foreigners except on tv or whatever
I know that feeling. I walked into a Jolibees once and I was literally the only person in the restaurant who wasnt Filipino. Everyone stared. Workers and customers alike.

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Oubliettes
12/28/22 9:04:56 PM
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surprise. i just thought she wanted to change clothes or something b/c we were gonna go bar hopping again

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Hoodroar
12/28/22 9:06:52 PM
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Ngl this is the main reason I don't like being not white, it means I can't even go to some other country to be popular with women. >_>

Beveren_Rabbit posted...
You can't just to be a tall fit attractive white guy that speaks Japanese and expect to easily get a girlfriend.

lol

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