Current Events > Those of you here who are married, do you like your in-laws?

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do you

They are pretty nice they dont speak English though

I'm not married yet, but I really like my girlfriend's family. I think they'll make great in-laws.

Yes, I absolutely love them

Pends which ones. Some are great, others not so.

Nope, not at all

I like my in-laws more than I like my own parents.

i think i get along with my wife's family (mom and stepdad) more than she does at the moment. they're enjoyable people to be around, very supportive, but they're trumpers. she gets into arguments with them over it from time to time, and i don't. her dad's side is totally chill.

My girlfriends sister is a bitch.

Gonna be a tough hurdle to get over.

All of mine are dead. I didn't really know my first mother in law, and didn't get to know my first father in law too well: he got shot by Islamists, and wasn't well enough to travel outside Nigeria after that. My second father in law was a great mate and it was a tragedy that he died so early. As for my second mother in law... Eh...Let's just say that we weren't on the best of terms. Like, we really weren't.

Well, I'm only technically married now (divorce is pretty pricey in my area), but here's how I felt about them:

Mother-in-Law: Hated her. She was a demon to me from day one and treated me like garbage. She was an extremely religious woman and thought I had "ruined" her precious baby by "living in sin."
Stepfather-in-Law: He was okay. He was a hardcore conservative, but he never said much to me. He was basically like a plant in the living room.

Stepmother-in-Law: I liked her. She was kind to me. She ended up not being a very nice person (extremely long story) though.
Father-in-Law: I genuinely felt like this man was the father I never really had. He was warm and welcoming from day one. Always treated me like a member of the family. It hurts my heart to have lost that familial connection.

My ex always said she loved my mother. She (my mother) was loving and accepting of her from the beginning. She loved my ex even when my ex's own mother disowned her. Of course, given the way my ex completely spiraled at the end, she could have been lying and hated my mother the whole time. My mom's not completely innocent either. Turns out she wasn't nearly as supportive as she outwardly acted (and not in a, "I don't understand, but I love you anyway," way but a, "Grin and bare it until this phase passes," way).

I'm not sure how my ex felt about my father. I cut contact with him not long into my relationship with my ex, but she had met him. She'd heard all of the horror stories. She saw me have a panic attack when I thought my mom was bringing him to visit. Again, judging by one of her parting barbs being, "You're just like him!" she probably thought he was a scumbag (he was).

No one really talks about how devastating it is to lose someone you consider family like that. I even had a therapist tell me I didn't really have the right to feel upset about it.

i love them a lot

Mother in law hell no. Probably the vilest person I know and I absolutely loathe her.

Father in law is ok. Feel kinda bad for him. Had a stroke a couple years ago and isn't doing too good.

My wife's siblings are all okay except for one brother. Total piece of crap. Used to guilt my wife into giving him money with promises to repay. Never did of course. He probably doesn't like me since I cut all that crap out.

No, they are qanon nuts.

thankfully the apple fell very far from the now-poisonous tree

Oh, I forgot that siblings are technically in-laws as well.

Brother-in-Law: I didn't really get along with him, but he wasn't a bad guy. He was on the spectrum but (and this is my ex's words) their mother coddled him to the point that he couldn't function on his own. He (who was a foot taller and probably a good 100+lbs heavier than me) swung at my head the first time I met him because something startled me and I swore (specifically "god dammit").

Sister-in-Law: I got along well with her. She was six when I started dating my ex and I basically got to watch her grow up. Sweet little girl. I worried a lot about her because her mom (the stepmother-in-law) was a bad influence. I hope she's doing well.

Yes.

I actually think I like them more than my wife does.

Brother-in-law is pretty cool, though he has basically given up on making anything of himself

Father-in-law has mostly checked out

Sister-in-law is dumb as a bag of bricks and constantly does the opposite of what people tell her to do

Various cousins/aunts/uncles-in-law are mostly fine.

Yes my inlaws are white hippies they love our interracial family. They where protesting inequality in the 1970s they are pressuring us for grand kids but my parents are too.

Sister and Mother in law are great. Father in law is fine (parents are divorced) but arrogant as fuck.

We live near her aunt, uncle, and a few cousins and they are all good people.

Pretty sure my ex's parents not liking me is part of the reason we aren't married.

Of my immediate in-laws, my wifes brothers are both cool people. Not at all a fan of her mother/step-father though. Theyre not that far off from being full-on religious whackos.

One of the brothers came out several years ago and, though weve always made sure he knows he has a place in our house, his parents tried to pretend for years that it wasnt a thing. Just ignored it. Hes dating someone serious now so theyve pretty much just stopped having any kind of interaction with him. Not the kind of people I want around my kids in the long term.