Current Events > Kinda stunning how strongly anti-rainbow my mom remains

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Get your own place, TC. That way youre free to wear whatever you want and your mother cant do anything about it.

Gobstoppers12 posted...

I'm having a hard time recalling when I've given a shit about your opinion lmao

Oh I know you do. You wouldn't respond to me on that point alone otherwise.

I don't think the whole "just move out" is the point. Clearly he cares about her, otherwise he wouldn't feel hurt, which what I got from his OP. Sure, move out but also ask her directly why she feels what she feels and what she would want you to do if you are born a certain way

CyricZ posted...

Oh I know you do. You wouldn't respond to me on that point alone otherwise.

Think what you want, my dude. It's a free websight.

Yeah I don't think she's going to magically xhange her opinion without a reason to. I'd you both keep acting like how you are things won't change.

CyricZ posted...

Oh I know you do. You wouldn't respond to me on that point alone otherwise.

Historically not a great comeback

Derwood posted...

This topic did not go the way TC thought it would.

That's more of an indictment of the people posting who didn't understand what the point of the topic was.

ModernPost posted...

That's more of an indictment of the people posting who didn't understand what the point of the topic was.

The point was....BlogFAQS?

I wonder if anyone dunking on me was one of those going "haha your mom hates you for being a f-word" when I was on a subreddit around the new year

Mr_hulk88 posted...

I don't think the whole "just move out" is the point. Clearly he cares about her, otherwise he wouldn't feel hurt, which what I got from his OP. Sure, move out but also ask her directly why she feels what she feels and what she would want you to do if you are born a certain way

It's also not that easy. My siblings and my mom and I were stuck together when my dad walked out on her. My mom had to get a job and I was working a dead end job after flunking out of college due to anxiety. A few years later, I was laid up for the better part of 18 months due to surgeries. When my brother eventually graduated high school, my dad essentially cut everyone off and said he was selling the house. We barely had money and my sister had just gotten a steady job, so we were forced to move to low-income apartments. We eventually got on our feet after a few years and started renting the house we live in currently. It's great and we'd love to buy it some day, but me discovering myself and my mom going farther down the Christian right rabbit hole had made things challenging. I would likely have to find stranger roommates to go somewhere else and moving would force everyone to move out of the house. I'm making a solid living at a job I love, but it's still expensive to live on your own.

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I've read every post. I get what TC is complaining about.

What I don't get is the idea that no one is allowed to respond

Derwood posted...

What I don't get is the idea that no one is allowed to respond

This statement just reminds me of the classic by the old bigots: "You can't say anything anymore!"

And the answer is the same: if you're going to fly off the mouth saying whatever without thinking of the effect of your words, you will be treated as someone who doesn't give a shit about the feelings of others.

Multiple people came into this topic of TC lamenting his relationship with his mother and saw the laundry part and thought "Ah, that's what I'll respond to" for whatever reason, either thinking that they "needed to fix it" or just to be smug and pithy.

And the response I'm hearing about those is "Well you should expect people to be like that" like they're not in control of their own words.

God damn, and you people were worried about the toxicity of 261 leaking here.

I'll tell you all flat: 400 has the controlling share of toxicity between those two boards.

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CE shouldn't be used as therapy, that's the first mistake.

u guys better be careful, this thread is gonna get a youtube lore recap video

What else does she do that is anti-lgbtq+?

hockeybub89 posted...

I wonder if anyone dunking on me was one of those going "haha your mom hates you for being a f-word" when I was on a subreddit around the new year

It's also not that easy. My siblings and my mom and I were stuck together when my dad walked out on her. My mom had to get a job and I was working a dead end job after flunking out of college due to anxiety. A few years later, I was laid up for the better part of 18 months due to surgeries. When my brother eventually graduated high school, my dad essentially cut everyone off and said he was selling the house. We barely had money and my sister had just gotten a steady job, so we were forced to move to low-income apartments. We eventually got on our feet after a few years and started renting the house we live in currently. It's great and we'd love to buy it some day, but me discovering myself and my mom going farther down the Christian right rabbit hole had made things challenging. I would likely have to find stranger roommates to go somewhere else and moving would force everyone to move out of the house. I'm making a solid living at a job I love, but it's still expensive to live on your own.

Oh I did imagine your situation must have something that makes it complicated to just go ahead and get your own place tomorrow, and yeah it sounds like a mess to separate at this point and force everyone to move when you are sustaining together right now. I was meaning to say that even assuming it's your aspiration to get your own place at some point that's not the solution to a disconnect you have with her if that's what you care about. I just basically think it's worth trying to get to the bottom of the motive for the rejection she feels from a rational standpoint and find why she feels that and what she expects from resenting a natural trait from someone

I like how people come in here expecting everyone else to know TCs mom is abusive and a bigot. Its easy to assume not knowing the story that TC is just a man child who cant do their own laundry lol. Im sorry some of us are not up to date on the chronicles of hockeybub

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I like how people come in here expecting everyone else to know TCs mom is abusive and a bigot. Its easy to assume not knowing the story that TC is just a man child who cant do their own laundry lol. Im sorry some of us are not up to date on the chronicles of hockeybub

If you don't know any backstory (I didn't) you can still tell she's a homophobe from the title and post. People think not doing your own laundry is worse than homophobia apparently, and intentionally missed the point of TC's grievance.

KI_Simpson posted...

People think not doing your own laundry is worse than homophobia

I don't think anybody in here thinks that. But between the laundry and the hatefulness, only one thing is in TC's control.

Hint: it's the laundry

people are missing the point here.

Yes, tc should do his own laundry. That's not really something all that important to discuss in this context though and the rest of youse are focusing too much on that.

Turns out the shirt is Dry Clean Only

Because your mom is homophobic I will help you out by teaching you how to wash laundry TC:

1. Sort the laundry: Begin by sorting your laundry into different piles based on color and fabric type. Generally, you'll want to separate whites, darks, and delicates. Check the care labels on your clothes for specific instructions.
2. Pre-treat stains: Before loading your clothes into the washing machine, check for any stains and pre-treat them if necessary. You can use a stain remover or apply a small amount of detergent directly to the stain. Gently rub the stain to loosen it.
3. Choose the right detergent: Select a suitable laundry detergent based on the type of clothes and the level of dirtiness. Follow the instructions on the detergent packaging to determine the appropriate amount to use.
4. Load the washing machine: Open the washing machine and add your sorted clothes, being careful not to overload the machine. Make sure to leave enough space for the clothes to move freely during the wash cycle.
5. Add fabric softener or dryer sheets (optional): If you prefer to use fabric softener or dryer sheets for a fresh scent and to reduce static, add them to the designated compartments in the washing machine.
6. Select the appropriate settings: Consult the instruction manual of your washing machine to understand its different settings. Choose the appropriate water temperature, wash cycle, and spin speed based on the fabric type and the level of soiling. For example, use cold water for delicate items and hot water for whites and heavily soiled items.
7. Start the washing machine: Close the lid or door of the washing machine and start the wash cycle. Depending on the machine and the selected settings, the cycle will typically take anywhere from 30 minutes to over an hour.
8. Transfer clothes to the dryer or hang them to dry: Once the washing cycle is complete, remove the clothes from the washing machine. If you're using a dryer, transfer the clothes to the dryer and add a dryer sheet if desired. If you prefer to air dry your clothes, hang them on a clothesline or use drying racks.
9. Set the dryer settings (if using): If you're using a dryer, choose the appropriate drying settings based on the fabric type and the level of moisture. Set the timer or select the desired drying program. Be cautious not to over-dry delicate items.
10. Start the drying cycle: Close the dryer door and start the drying cycle. Ensure the lint filter is clean to maximize efficiency and prevent fire hazards.
11. Fold or hang the dry clothes: Once the drying cycle is complete, remove the clothes from the dryer or clothesline. Fold them neatly or hang them up immediately to prevent wrinkles.
12. Iron (if necessary): If any clothes are wrinkled, you can iron them using an iron and ironing board. Refer to the garment's care label for appropriate ironing instructions.

That's it! Following these steps will help you successfully do your laundry. Remember to always check the care labels on your clothes for any specific instructions or limitations.

gdi CE, do better than "hurr durr dO yOuR oWn LaUnDrY" ffs

Dakimakura posted...

I will help you out by teaching you how to wash laundry TC:

Thanks, chat gpt

Do you understand why she isn't just throwing it out? I feel like if my child had a shirt supporting a cause I opposed as much as your mother does LGBT rights, I would either do nothing or take the shirt away.

There's no way TC makes these topics in good faith considering their standing on this board. I'd say that TC is doing it on purpose because he's a glutton for punishment but who knows.

Anteaterking posted...

Do you understand why she isn't just throwing it out? I feel like if my child had a shirt supporting a cause I opposed as much as your mother does LGBT rights, I would either do nothing or take the shirt away.

I do not. This has been a silent battle of wills. If it has a rainbow, it goes into hiding and pretty much any correspondence or swag I bring home from work has "All Are Welcome" and a rainbow on it somewhere.

She actually lost her shit when I brought up a few months back that she meticulously covered up a small rainbow on a calendar I brought home from work. She said I should mind my business and that I can take back the stupid calendar before tossing it into the trash. My sister took it back out of the trash and my mom wound up hanging it back up, but not before cutting off the entire strip on which the offending rainbow resided.

It's like she realizes throwing out an adult's stuff is stupid, but that I will forget about the LGBTQ stuff like a child if she hides it. Or it's even worse and she can't bear to accept the fact that she may have birthed one of those.

holy ratio

Gobstoppers12 posted...

I don't think anybody in here thinks that. But between the laundry and the hatefulness, only one thing is in TC's control.

Hint: it's the laundry

And it's clear that I could do the laundry. It's not about the laundry.

hockeybub89 posted...

And it's clear that I could do the laundry. It's not about the laundry.

You made it seem like it was about the laundry with that last line.

Gobstoppers12 posted...

You made it seem like it was about the laundry with that last line.

If your attention span is the last line of text you read, sure.

VirtuousWrath posted...

There's no way TC makes these topics in good faith considering their standing on this board. I'd say that TC is doing it on purpose because he's a glutton for punishment but who knows

Perhaps you can explain my standing on this board to the class and what I have done to earn it

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I like how people come in here expecting everyone else to know TCs mom is abusive and a bigot. Its easy to assume not knowing the story that TC is just a man child who cant do their own laundry lol. Im sorry some of us are not up to date on the chronicles of hockeybub

It's literally spelled out for you in the OP what my issue is.

MarcoRubio posted...

Turns out the shirt is Dry Clean Only

Lol

KI_Simpson posted...

If you don't know any backstory (I didn't)

I had -Zero- clue about it either.

VampireCoyote posted...

Fortune, fame
Mirror vain
Gone insane
But the anti-rainbow mom remains

LMFAO

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Me lol

Yeah, once the LGBT community adopted it it has become something right-wingers just can't stand in any context.

It's "funny" how they don't see their problem is not with rainbows, but their bigotry.

Gobstoppers12 posted...

I don't think anybody in here thinks that. But between the laundry and the hatefulness, only one thing is in TC's control.

Hint: it's the laundry

I think this post sums up my thoughts and intentions. Obviously there are people trolling.

But from what I can perceive, the laundry is relevant because it showcases the moms opinion. TC also states hed have to wait until night to wash his clothes. Which implied theres either a fear or some rule not allowing him to wash otherwise.

I think being able to talk about the laundry situation would be a decent starting point to addressing the overall issue. TC has since elaborated, but I dont think its weird for folks to focus on the laundry initially. Like Gob said, its the only controllable element of the OP.

But TC is here to vent, so forced advice obviously isnt particularly wanted.

By the time it took tc to make this thread, I bet I could prolly take all my dirty clothes from the hamper and shove it into the washer and throw in 2 tide-pods and start the machine before the thread is made.

cuttin_in_farm posted...

I think this post sums up my thoughts and intentions. Obviously there are people trolling.

But from what I can perceive, the laundry is relevant because it showcases the moms opinion. TC also states hed have to wait until night to wash his clothes. Which implied theres either a fear or some rule not allowing him to wash otherwise.

I think being able to talk about the laundry situation would be a decent starting point to addressing the overall issue. TC has since elaborated, but I dont think its weird for folks to focus on the laundry initially. Like Gob said, its the only controllable element of the OP.

But TC is here to vent, so forced advice obviously isnt particularly wanted.

The goal of this post I'm sure was not to find a way to get the rainbow shirt laundered. It's just an easy example of the resistance of his mother. The cutting the rainbow off the calendar is another. If that had been the primary example, would half the topic had been "here's how to use tape"? It's just easy to look at something that's more habitual/consistent.

The only mistake TC made re: laundry in this topic was offer weird counter-arguments about efficiency and other things. If you just look past those responses and accept that it's not really about the shirt not being cleaned but rather about how the shirt not being cleaned is a passive aggressive act by the mother to express her disapproval, you can see how irrelevant Gob's post is.

cuttin_in_farm posted...

But from what I can perceive, the laundry is relevant because it showcases the moms opinion. TC also states hed have to wait until night to wash his clothes. Which implied theres either a fear or some rule not allowing him to wash otherwise.

Night being when I would be home to wash. The laundry is only relevant as an example.

If I complained that I bought a drink with a pride flag on it and it got buried in the back of a cupboard, would the moral of the story be that I can't put away groceries?

ShineboxPhil posted...

By the time it took tc to make this thread, I bet I could prolly take all my dirty clothes from the hamper and shove it into the washer and throw in 2 tide-pods and start the machine before the thread is made.

It's the principle of the shirt in question, you disingenuous hack.

Anteaterking posted...

The only mistake TC made re: laundry in this topic was offer weird counter-arguments about efficiency and other things. If you just look past those responses and accept that it's not really about the shirt not being cleaned but rather about how the shirt not being cleaned is a passive aggressive act by the mother to express her disapproval, you can see how irrelevant Gob's post is.

It wasn't that weird. People living in a house together consolidating chores isn't as odd as anyone was making it out to be. But like you said, I was just using an example of something trivial being turned into a battleground.

hockeybub89 posted...

It's the principle of the shirt in question, you disingenuous hack.

Then move the fuck out and take yourself out of that environment instead of trying to rally a set of randos to hate your mom...
But clearly you put up with the Stockholm syndrome for internet points

hockeybub89 posted...

Night being when I would be home to wash. The laundry is only relevant as an example.

If I complained that I bought a drink with a pride flag on it and it got buried in the back of a cupboard, would the moral of the story be that I can't put away groceries?

Maybe?

Again, without the context thats not present in the OP, I feel its easy to interpret the laundry being a large component of the issue.

Add in context of posters saying move out without any other context thats given later, I thought it was reasonable at first

Anyone still giving you shit is trolling or didnt read the topic tho.

Mr_hulk88 posted...

? That's what I said

That's exactly my case. The few occasions where I've wanted to wash something separatly she got pissed, so I just respect the system

No it isn't. They said to wait and do full loads of laundry.

ShineboxPhil posted...

Then move the fuck out and take yourself out of that environment instead of trying to rally a set of randos to hate your mom...
But clearly you put up with the Stockholm syndrome for internet points

Oh so now we're victim blaming. You make things sound so simple. And maybe depressed people should try not being sad and abuse and bullying victims should just run.