Current Events > Am I being irrational? Super pissed off at my parents.

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Bought a brand new 2023 Kia Forte in November 2022. This vehicle replaced our older 2nd car that we had, and we rarely drive it. We purchased it as a vehicle in the rare events the missus has to go into work (vs telework). Since November until April, we drove it less than 1500 miles.

My parents 2013 Caddy is having suspension issues. They brought it to the dealer mid-April, and asked to borrow our Kia. I said sure.

To this day, over a month later, they added over 1000 miles to the car, and they STILL dont have the Caddy fixed. Fortunately, my wife didnt have to go to the office so far but she has to go in on Thursday and Friday.

I told my parents last week that I needed the car back by Wednesday (tomorrow) night. They said the Caddy should be done by today. I called them today, and they said the Caddy wont be ready be next Thursday.

Im pretty pissed off about this. I called the Cadillac dealer to inquire wtf is going on, and they told me they got the car TODAY, and they anticipate the car to be completely fixed next Thursday. I asked for clarity, because to my knowledge, the car should have been at their shop since a month ago. They said no, they got the car today.

Now, Im really extremely pissed off. I called my parents back, and they apologized, and said theyll drive my wife to her work and pick her up Thursday and Friday, and any day next week if she has to go into the office.

I hung up on them.

My wife says Im overreacting and theyre my parents so I should understand Im really pissed off that they will double the mileage on this brand new car, and lied to me that they put the car at the dealer a month ago. Im also pissed off they didnt get a loaner car (its a god damn Cadillac luxury brand; theyre supposed to provide a loaner) and are just using our car as a free rental.

Thoughts?

TL;DR- Parents borrowed our brand new car because their car was at the shop, its been over a month+, they added a 1000 miles to date, and turns out they never had the car in the shop until just this week.

I can understand that you're justifiably upset, but maybe they were a little tight on the money to get their car fixed, and they didn't want to burden you with their financial issues.

You have a right to your own car. They can get a rental from the dealership.

Requiem posted...

I can understand that you're justifiably upset, but maybe they were a little tight on the money to get their car fixed, and they didn't want to burden you with their financial issues.

They have no financial issues. Theyre extremely entitled though.

It was a shit move on their part, but it's not the end of the world. Tell them the next oil change is on them, to give the car back with a full tank, and just move on.

I mean...they were kinda being shady and dishonest.

Sounds like they took advantage of you

Why didnt the dealer loan a car?

Sounds kinda like first world problems tbh

Tell them, formally, that you want your property back. Next time I recommend getting it in writing. Yeah, it's your parents and that's awkward, but sometimes it's necessary. Good luck.

This sounds familiar

Man up and go get your car?

Your parents are being assholes. You're slightly overreacting, but not by a large margin.

Did your wife have good parents and establish a strong connection with them or something? Her advice sounds crazy to those of us who had parents that were shitty.

So I called my dad, he didnt pick up. My mom called me back, saying my dad is angry at me for hanging up. My mom apologized about the situation, told me that my dad did indeed drove to the dealer to drop off the car a month ago, but they said they have part shortages and cant guarantee when itll be available. To avoid further damage, theyve just been driving the Kia around.

My dad essentially just lied to me last week when he said the car will be ready by tomorrow apparently they got the call that parts are now available and to drop the Caddy off today.

She apologized again and said she can just return the Kia tonight, Uber back home, and go rent a car tomorrow.

I just begrudgingly told my mom to keep the car until the Caddy is back, and asked her to drive my wife to work and back Thursday/Friday.

*sigh*.

(my parents are retired, so they dont really have anything to do, which is why its shocking to me that they drove so much in such a short time)

Report the car stolen and call the cops on them

1000 miles a month is roughly average. I do almost that and I work from home.

IdiotMachine posted...

(my parents are retired, so they dont really have anything to do, which is why its shocking to me that they drove so much in such a short time)

If they dont have anything to do that means they have a lot of free time to drive around.