Current Events > What does CE think of the saga between my coworker and me?

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I just wanted CE's take on this situation. I'm thinking mixed which usually means a no but I guess I also want to tell someone the story.

It'll be long so click a different topic if you're not down to read a story. Just warning you.

Anyway we had an intern at our work for the past 8 months. Didn't think much of her at first but IMO I was getting signs of interest from her, and I developed an interest. She'd touch me a lot while talking, asked me about my relationship status (stuff like "oh I bet your girlfriend loves that!", like a sneaky way to ask if I have one), and other coworkers who saw us said we seemed like we liked each other (didn't say this to us directly, I heard it from others). Before her internship ended she asked for my personal number and I gave it to her.

She invited me to a party at her house last Saturday and I showed up. I was planning on making an appearance but we ended up talking for 3 or 4 hours. She sat super close across from me with knees touching and kept putting hands on me while talking (grabbing my hands for emphasis, touching my leg, etc). I left and she gave me a hug.

Anyway her first week at her new job was this past week and she texted me first telling me about how it was. I decided to ask her to lunch which she accepted. When I sent a "see you there at that time then!" text she gave it a heart using the iMessage reaction thing. She always gave thumbs up before this so I really started to think she was seeing it a certain way.

We had the lunch today and she showed up, and we stayed at the restaurant for three hours talking. However I tried to pay for both of us and asked if she minded, and she said "Oh no. I mind. Greatly." so I was like oh ok, and we split it down the middle.

When we went to leave she gave me a hug and I said we should do this again sometime. She said sure and said Saturdays are generally open for her. I kind of jokingly said "Hey maybe I can pay next time!" and she said "No way, you're not my dad or my date. I always pay for myself."

I didn't plan on this one being a date necessarily, I just wanted to pay since I invited her. I was planning on inviting her on a more obvious date next time (like dinner) but am I right in thinking that she's shutting the idea down pre-emptively? I think it'd be more like "Only if it's a date!" or something like that rather than what she actually said.

My plan is just to lay low at least a week and see if she contacts me. Just wondering what CE's take is.

It sounds to me like she's hinting really hard. She probably wanted to hook up at the party.

I think she was kind of making fun of you with that "not my date" line. Not mean, just teasing you for a soft out to lunch invite instead of a confident asking her on a date. If that's the case, then don't do the lay low thing. Straight up ask her out, make it clear it's a date.

Honestly, chances are she's into you romantically, and if she'll ever pursue that it's gotta be really soon. Don't worry about rejection

DarkChozoGhost posted...

It sounds to me like she's hinting really hard. She probably wanted to hook up at the party.

I think she was kind of making fun of you with that "not my date" line. Not mean, just teasing you for a soft out to lunch invite instead of a confident asking her on a date. If that's the case, then don't do the lay low thing. Straight up ask her out, make it clear it's a date.

Honestly, chances are she's into you romantically, and if she'll ever pursue that it's gotta be really soon. Don't worry about rejection

Oh yeah one thing that was kind of weird was that both at the party and at the lunch today she kept applying chapstick. I don't want to be weird and think too much into that but I hadn't seen her ever do it before. It was almost like she was expecting the possibility of a kiss.

Also at the party she walked me to my car at the end of the night (I parked really far) but then left really fast after hugging. It almost kind of felt like she chickened out of something happening.

CoolMaskGuy posted...

I don't want to be weird and think too much into that but I hadn't seen her ever do it before. It was almost like she was expecting the possibility of a kiss.

Lmao

If you want to go on a date with her, just ask her out on a date. She'll let you know if she's up for it.