Current Events > Parents, what would you do if your kids misbehave in public?

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and a stranger talks to you and tries to correct you on how to discipline them because he/she is uncomfortable with you disciplining them?

I would tell them thanks but no thanks for the advice. Especially if they are the type to advocate spanking in public.

I got a wild 3 almost 4 year old and I have to constantly discipline in public but have never had someone try to correct me. But I also remove my kid from crowds to talk to him or change the environment so he can settle down. No need to ruin everyone else's day with a screaming toddler around.

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=oHO6m_UmwSs

Simply put, my parents beat me if I stepped too far out of line. If they saw someone else try to tell them how to discipline their kids, either they got ignored or told them to mind their business. African parents are strict disciplinarians.

pretty much your job as a parent is to teach your misbehaving kids manners by whupping their butts.

Youre their parent. Not their best friend

I slam the other parent on the floor. Put them in the Camel Clutch. Break their back and make them humble.

WizardofHoth posted...

pretty much your job as a parent is to teach your misbehaving kids manners by whupping their butts.

Youre their parent. Not their best friend

agreed

If I ever saw someone spank their kid in public I would lose my f'n mind. Don't hit kids. And to top it off, I work at a school so I'm a mandatory reporter as well

I'd chokeslam the other parent through a table.

so what youre saying is that you'd rather let your kids be misbehaving little bastards and you wont punish them by whupping theier butts?

Bad_Mojo posted...

If I ever saw someone spank their kid in public I would lose my f'n mind. Don't hit kids. And to top it off, I work at a school so I'm a mandatory reporter as well

WizardofHoth posted...

pretty much your job as a parent is to teach your misbehaving kids manners by whupping their butts.

Youre their parent. Not their best friend

Well spoken.

Bad_Mojo posted...

Don't hit kids.

WizardofHoth posted...

so what youre saying is that you'd rather let your kids be misbehaving little bastards and you wont punish them by whupping theier butts?

uh, yeah, corporal punishment is never the solution >_>

There is an 8 year difference between my brother and me, so I had to babysit him young. Then one of my girlfriends in high school had a sister that was only 4 when were 16. After high school my first adult friend three kids. Then I've worked at a school for like 7 years now. Now my brother has three kids, 4-2-1. Guess what? I haven't had a single issue with any of those kids talking back to me. Not in my personal life with all those kids. Not at the rowdy school I work at. Because I treat them all like adults and they respect me more for respecting them. If you have a kid that's misbehaving, that's because YOU as a parent didn't put in enough good will while they were younger.

My brother has a hard with with his kids not listening, but that's because HE gets frustrated and gets short with them. He never sits down and tries to find out with the problem is. Most parents I see have pretty much zero empathy because they're too focused on stupid adult shit like washing the dishes while the kids are still awake and not getting to know them better. Like our dad, their grandfather, has to fight to get a hug from the oldest grandson because he thinks it's more important to clean the dishes right away instead of sitting and coloring a picture with them. I wait until they go to bed until I clean things up. It's just little things like that.

Corporal punishment isn't a good long term strategy.

https://www.apa.org/news/press/releases/2002/06/spanking

While the nature of the analyses prohibits causally linking corporal punishment with the child behaviors, Gershoff also summarizes a large body of literature on parenting that suggests why corporal punishment may actually cause negative outcomes for children. For one, corporal punishment on its own does not teach children right from wrong. Secondly, although it makes children afraid to disobey when parents are present, when parents are not present to administer the punishment those same children will misbehave.

Bad_Mojo posted...

There is an 8 year difference between my brother and me, so I had to babysit him young. Then one of my girlfriends in high school had a sister that was only 4 when were 16. After high school my first adult friend three kids. Then I've worked at a school for like 7 years now. Now my brother has three kids, 4-2-1. Guess what? I haven't had a single issue with any of those kids talking back to me. Not in my personal life with all those kids. Not at the rowdy school I work at. Because I treat them all like adults and they respect me more for respecting them. If you have a kid that's misbehaving, that's because YOU as a parent didn't put in enough good will while they were younger.

My brother has a hard with with his kids not listening, but that's because HE gets frustrated and gets short with them. He never sits down and tries to find out with the problem is. Most parents I see have pretty much zero empathy because they're too focused on stupid adult shit like washing the dishes while the kids are still awake and not getting to know them better. Like our dad, their grandfather, has to fight to get a hug from the oldest grandson because he thinks it's more important to clean the dishes right away instead of sitting and coloring a picture with them. I wait until they go to bed until I clean things up. It's just little things like that.

in some way, I know that feeling because life is so busy that you have a lot of things to do whether the kids are home or not

Frosted_Midna posted...

Well spoken.

It's really not. The second part is true, but acting like the only way to discipline a kid is to put hands on them is gross.

Bad_Mojo posted...

There is an 8 year difference between my brother and me, so I had to babysit him young. Then one of my girlfriends in high school had a sister that was only 4 when were 16. After high school my first adult friend three kids. Then I've worked at a school for like 7 years now. Now my brother has three kids, 4-2-1. Guess what? I haven't had a single issue with any of those kids talking back to me. Not in my personal life with all those kids. Not at the rowdy school I work at. Because I treat them all like adults and they respect me more for respecting them. If you have a kid that's misbehaving, that's because YOU as a parent didn't put in enough good will while they were younger.

My brother has a hard with with his kids not listening, but that's because HE gets frustrated and gets short with them. He never sits down and tries to find out with the problem is. Most parents I see have pretty much zero empathy because they're too focused on stupid adult shit like washing the dishes while the kids are still awake and not getting to know them better. Like our dad, their grandfather, has to fight to get a hug from the oldest grandson because he thinks it's more important to clean the dishes right away instead of sitting and coloring a picture with them. I wait until they go to bed until I clean things up. It's just little things like that.

I agree with a lot of that, but I feel like there's a balance. Your kids should see you do chores and realize that sometimes things need to be put on hold. But sometimes it's okay to just have fun.

Finding the balance is hard though.

Whatever the kid wants, they don't get. If it's a place they wanted to go to, we're leaving. Take away privileges if they act out, and act like they're not there if they try to throw a fit.

Ah, so this is actually a spanking topic. Nah I don't do that. My son is 8 and he does not flip out like that in public. There are more than one way to discipline your kids.

Hayame_Zero posted... Whatever the kid wants, they don't get. If it's a place they wanted to go to, we're leaving. Take away privileges if they act out, and act like they're not there if they try to throw a fit.

This right here. If my son acts out, then okay we're leaving the fun place, or I'm putting away your games.

I just took my daughter to the car. Im usually with my wife so one of us could go sit in the car with her. Kids dont want to sit in the car so it worked well.

ArchNemo posted...

I agree with a lot of that, but I feel like there's a balance. Your kids should see you do chores and realize that sometimes things need to be put on hold. But sometimes it's okay to just have fun.

The oldest helps me around the house. He helps me pick up the toys, he waters our garden, ect. It's because I help him with things, so he helps me with things. The middle one always says please and thank you, because I always say please and thank you to them. And the youngest was helping me with the dishes, it was the cutest thing ever, lol. She's holding onto the dishwasher pulling out the silverware and handing them to me to put away

I treat them with the respect of an adult for the most part, like a fellow human. Most adults I see treat their kids like they're beneath them, show little respect to them because they think that's how kids should be treated of they become spoiled. No, the become spoiled if you just give them stuff and ignore the love part.

Adults tend to be pretty selfish and horrible people, and kids don't have that toxic view on life yet

Bad_Mojo posted...

The oldest helps me around the house. He helps me pick up the toys, he waters our garden, ect. It's because I help him with things, so he helps me with things. The middle one always says please and thank you, because I always say please and thank you to them. And the youngest was helping me with the dishes, it was the cutest thing ever, lol. She's holding onto the dishwasher pulling out the silverware and handing them to me to put away

I treat them with the respect of an adult for the most part, like a fellow human. Most adults I see treat their kids like they're beneath them, show little respect to them because they think that's how kids should be treated of they become spoiled. No, the become spoiled if you just give them stuff and ignore the love part.

Adults tend to be pretty selfish and horrible people, and kids don't have that toxic view on life yet

That's really great, it sounds like you have a good handle on things.

I find that people sometimes underestimate how much kids actually understand. Often times if you stop to explain things, they'll get it. If you make a habit to talk to them like you'd talk to anyone else (within reason) I think it does wonders for how they interact with people and the world around them.

ArchNemo posted...

That's really great, it sounds like you have a good handle on things.

I find that people sometimes underestimate how much kids actually understand. Often times if you stop to explain things, they'll get it. If you make a habit to talk to them like you'd talk to anyone else (within reason) I think it does wonders for how they interact with people and the world around them.

Exactly!