Current Events > So this kinda sucks, but I am considering surrendering my cat.

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I have two cats. Both of them were fantastic. Ever since we had a child about two years ago, one of the cat became toxic; she constantly hisses and has attempted to attack our baby numerous times. This cat also started attacking the other cat, and now the two cats hate each other. This cat also started pooping and peeing outside of the LitterRobots, sometimes brazenly right in front of us (would come into the living room, meow, and just fucking pee/poop right in front of us; what the fuck).

Kind of dealing with it the past two years, and hoping things will get better, but this cat just is miserable to be around and hates our child and the other cat. Shell do well in a house without other kids, I guess.

What triggered me now is I caught my toddler playing with cat poop that was hidden in a corner that I didnt see. This made me furious. I set up a litter box and locked the cat in a bathroom, something I had done at least four times now to try to re-train her to use a litter box.

So here I am now, with a difficult decision to surrender this 10-yo cat that Ive had ever since the cat was just 6 weeks old thoughts?

The other cat is still fantastic, with no issues and is just calm and sweet as ever.

I would have done so the first time it tried to attack the baby man.

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Bait topic...?

BunkerBoy posted...

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Bait topic...?

Not really. I guess I was just super annoyed with this stupid cat that time I posted that.

Sounds like the cat is sick to be honest.

Alternatively, you could give up the kid

Username checks out.

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Heres the cat. It sucks because she was so sweet before the baby.

IdiotMachine posted...

Not really. I guess I was just super annoyed with this stupid cat that time I posted that.

You have a history with animal abuse topics. Like the one where you killed some bird eggs then tried to draw an abortion parallel. So thinking you're just baiting

There are no-kill shelters.

Enclave posted...

Sounds like the cat is sick to be honest.

this possibly be the case. i would consider surrender as one of the last options.

maybe have the cat checked out.

It sucks, but the cat is endangering the welfare of your child.

If I were you, I would take it to a shelter.

(The cat, not the child).

I dont believe a word youre saying.

BunkerBoy posted...

You have a history with animal abuse topics. Like the one where you killed some bird eggs then tried to draw an abortion parallel. So thinking you're just baiting

Believe what you want, but this is real. And its frustrating because I really do care for my two cats. Its just really hard to care for this one specific cat because of how different she has reacted in the past couple years, with no signs of it getting any better.

divot1338 posted...

I dont believe a word youre saying.

No one should.

My search history before I even posted here out of frustration:
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Whats wrong with your car?

SaikyoStyle posted...

Whats wrong with your car?

for me. the transmission (gear problems). though it's not my problem anymore.

and that loan he applied for i read the letter he got denied anyway (was trying to fix it) even after paying off his car.

kingdrake2 posted...

10 years is beyond the tipping point in which a cat can die at any time

That is also kind of the reason why Im dealing with it, seeing how she could just die in the next few years or so. Just let her be here until she passes away.

Heres the other cat, freshly shaved lol:
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I'd never get rid of my bitchy cat.

IdiotMachine posted...

Heres the other cat, freshly shaved lol:

it's a keeper. more motivated to get a cat.

i don't want to get one until my living situation is stable and i have saved up enough money to handle emergency's.

BunkerBoy posted...

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Holy shit!

Cat is angry you giving the child so much more attention so it is acting out. They are no different than people in that respect.

as a cat fanatic, this is how i'd approach things

number one, give the delinquent cat a space that nobody can get to. not you, not your little one, and not the other cat.
ideally this is when one cat is smaller than the other, simply make an opening where the larger cat can't enter.
alternatively, if your cat is a percher, give it somewhere to perch. if they're a burrower, give them a new space to burrow.
you can also do things like have the normal behaving cat wear a bell around their neck, and have your baby do the same. this way the cat will know the baby is coming and can leave the situation before getting mad.

number two, cats can get jealous. if you've had them since they were little, and now they're 10. they might think you're deliberately giving more attention to the new addition to the house. try to spend some time playing with them, go out of your way to feed them treats

number three, get some cat calming pheromone diffusers and put them throughout your house. they are fairly expensive, but they work. i have a rescue cat that was very, very aggressive towards my other cat. now she's still a jerk, but she's chill about it. like she will hiss and walk away rather than go on the offensive.

number four, if the cat is pooping outside of the box, they're trying to tell you something. could be sick, could be pissed, or most likely, could be extremely stressed out. have you taken them to the vet?

number five, Vetoquinol Zylkene. it's an over the counter mood stabilizer you can give your cat. if you take them to the vet and they determine that it's simply acts of aggression, they will most likely give them this to try. I would still consult with your vet prior to buying it on your own.

number six, exposure therapy. in tandem with some of the above, bring the cat into a room that it doesn't mind staying in and have it be a room with the pheromone diffusers.
take some warm butter (NOT HOT) and dip your cats paws into it. the cat will start to be 100% focused on cleaning themselves, generally speaking they only clean when they are comfortable. as they are cleaning, sit in the room with your baby and don't acknowledge the cat. just show the cat they can be vulnerable in the presence of the baby.
then work your way up to getting the cat okay with playing while the baby is nearby, etc. just show the cat the baby is not a threat or something that will impose on them.

number seven, do you have any close friends or family that the cat has gotten along with in the past? I would ask them to adopt the cat before taking it to a shelter.
even a no-kill shelter, you have no idea their standards. you have no idea what kind of person will adopt your cat.
I would give the cat to a shelter as a 100% last resort when you have tried everything.

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oh wait. TC is that guy?

if so, shut the fuck up TC.

BucketCat posted...

as a cat fanatic, this is how i'd approach things

number one, give the delinquent cat a space that nobody can get to. not you, not your little one, and not the other cat.
ideally this is when one cat is smaller than the other, simply make an opening where the larger cat can't enter.
alternatively, if your cat is a percher, give it somewhere to perch. if they're a burrower, give them a new space to burrow.
you can also do things like have the normal behaving cat wear a bell around their neck, and have your baby do the same. this way the cat will know the baby is coming and can leave the situation before getting mad.

number two, cats can get jealous. if you've had them since they were little, and now they're 10. they might think you're deliberately giving more attention to the new addition to the house. try to spend some time playing with them, go out of your way to feed them treats

number three, get some cat calming pheromone diffusers and put them throughout your house. they are fairly expensive, but they work. i have a rescue cat that was very, very aggressive towards my other cat. now she's still a jerk, but she's chill about it. like she will hiss and walk away rather than go on the offensive.

number four, if the cat is pooping outside of the box, they're trying to tell you something. could be sick, could be pissed, or most likely, could be extremely stressed out. have you taken them to the vet?

number five, Vetoquinol Zylkene. it's an over the counter mood stabilizer you can give your cat. if you take them to the vet and they determine that it's simply acts of aggression, they will most likely give them this to try. I would still consult with your vet prior to buying it on your own.

number six, exposure therapy. in tandem with some of the above, bring the cat into a room that it doesn't mind staying in and have it be a room with the pheromone diffusers.
take some warm butter (NOT HOT) and dip your cats paws into it. the cat will start to be 100% focused on cleaning themselves, generally speaking they only clean when they are comfortable. as they are cleaning, sit in the room with your baby and don't acknowledge the cat. just show the cat they can be vulnerable in the presence of the baby.
then work your way up to getting the cat okay with playing while the baby is nearby, etc. just show the cat the baby is not a threat or something that will impose on them.

number seven, do you have any close friends or family that the cat has gotten along with in the past? I would ask them to adopt the cat before taking it to a shelter.
even a no-kill shelter, you have no idea their standards. you have no idea what kind of person will adopt your cat.
I would give the cat to a shelter as a 100% last resort when you have tried everything.

Im not putting a bell on my baby.

Ive actually tried Feliway diffusers and cat attract powders for litter, but neither helped much.

I did bring the cat to the vet ~1.5 years ago when these things started and showed no signs of slowing down, and they didnt see anything physically wrong with the cat. I havent been to the vet for either of the cats since then though (have, instead, gone to Vetco for yearly vaccines).

Vetoquinol Zylkene: why not. I just bought it. Lets see if that helps.

As for having the baby with the cat- shes a toddler now. She absolutely will not sit still and let the cat get used to her lol. Shes been equally pissed off and angry at the cat; both of them do not like each other. The other cat and my child really likes each other though.

Buttering a cat seems non-intuitive.

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Agreed

TC pulling a Kristi noem?

Yeah, given TC's history, this is either absolutely bait, or they're just a terrible person who shouldn't own animals, to begin with.

StealThisSheen posted...

Yeah, given TC's history, this is either absolutely bait, or they're just a terrible person who shouldn't own animals, to begin with.

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