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RespectWomen 05/23/24 2:13:23 PM #1: |
Feels bad man. But I guess now I know why weve only been intimate once this year.
Not really sure what to think/do with this information. Theres no one else on the side- my partner claims they just arent attracted to anyone anymore. Even went to get medical testing done to see if there might be something causing it. --- Respect Women ... Copied to Clipboard!
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SirRobX 05/23/24 2:17:17 PM #2: |
Isn't that a good thing? Now you don't have to waste time on sex
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RespectWomen 05/23/24 6:08:10 PM #3: |
F in the chat
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ItsNotA2Mer 05/23/24 6:15:10 PM #4: |
RespectWomen posted...
Not really sure what to think/do with this information. First of all, don't internalize it. While it certainly affects you, it's probably not actually about you. Beyond that, you just have to decide if you can stay in a relationship that doesn't have a sexual component, (and it's 100% cool for you to not be OK with that, you deserve to have your needs met too). It's a tough one. --- It is impossible to live in the past, difficult to live in the present, and a waste to live in the future. (He/Him). ... Copied to Clipboard!
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Enclave 05/23/24 6:16:24 PM #5: |
It's unfortunate but I suppose not the end of the world?
My best friend is ace but she still has a boyfriend, she's still in to cuddling and stuff just without the intercourse. Still, sounds rough if you're not also ace. --- The commercial says that Church isn't for perfect people, I guess that's why I'm an atheist. ... Copied to Clipboard!
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RespectWomen 05/23/24 6:36:56 PM #7: |
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Yeah this is basically my problem. I dont expect it as frequently as we used to- weve been together for over a decade, have kids etc. but for it to just randomly stop for seemingly no reason, is just hard. Were happy, healthy, etc. Enclave posted... It's unfortunate but I suppose not the end of the world? Sometimes I cant even get this. Like it can be arm over the shoulder, but not spooning. --- Respect Women ... Copied to Clipboard!
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Biofighter55 05/23/24 6:39:21 PM #9: |
RespectWomen posted...
Yeah this is basically my problem. I dont expect it as frequently as we used to- weve been together for over a decade, have kids etc. I would say come to some agreement but if really wants no sex or cuddling, her choice, but it would be a deal breaker for me --- This is my sig. Don't like it, then don't look at it. ... Copied to Clipboard!
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Enclave 05/23/24 6:39:38 PM #10: |
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Yeah, like I said, it sounds rough. Feel bad for TC for sure. RespectWomen posted... Sometimes I cant even get this. Like it can be arm over the shoulder, but not spooning. Sorry to hear that, it sounds like you really need to figure out what you need and make the best decision based on that. --- The commercial says that Church isn't for perfect people, I guess that's why I'm an atheist. ... Copied to Clipboard!
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Cemith 05/23/24 6:46:01 PM #11: |
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This. I feel for you TC, it can't be an easy choice. But you need to decide if them not wanting sex is a deal breaker. Which, it absolutely is allowed to be. Not that I'm the arbiter but a sexual connection is important. --- https://i.ibb.co/2vRbyC0/Rosa-6.png "Friends don't let friends watch The Big Bang Theory" - mogar002 ... Copied to Clipboard!
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RespectWomen 05/23/24 6:53:35 PM #12: |
Im happy in every other aspect of our relationship, so I dont feel like this fits the typical stay together for the kids trope
but I feel like Im being forced to choose between having a family or possibly never having sex again and that makes me feel kinda selfish in a way too, hard to explain --- Respect Women ... Copied to Clipboard!
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Enclave 05/23/24 6:55:50 PM #13: |
It's not selfish, sex is an important part of a relationship and if you require it then that's perfectly valid just as your wife being ace is perfectly valid.
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Thermador446 05/23/24 6:56:45 PM #14: |
Humans can't have babies by themselves.
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Cuticrusader09 05/23/24 6:59:24 PM #15: |
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Jiek_Fafn 05/23/24 7:00:07 PM #16: |
Are they willing to do you a solid now and then? I've definitely helped a partner out even though I wasn't interested in it at the time.
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Cemith 05/23/24 7:03:18 PM #17: |
RespectWomen posted...
Im happy in every other aspect of our relationship, so I dont feel like this fits the typical stay together for the kids trope Maybe, and I know this isn't for everyone, but you could consider polyamory? Like, my buddy's wife doesn't have a 10th of the drive he does so they came to an agreement and he can have no strings attached sex with people she deem okay and he's still 100% emotionally committed to her. Sounds weird but it works for them. And he's strictly just doing it to bust a nut, he's always cut off those that would get emotionally attached since he still loves his wife, he just also loves sex. --- https://i.ibb.co/2vRbyC0/Rosa-6.png "Friends don't let friends watch The Big Bang Theory" - mogar002 ... Copied to Clipboard!
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RespectWomen 05/23/24 7:14:29 PM #18: |
Cuticrusader09 posted...
Is she old enough that perimenopause could be a cause? I guess its possible, but the recent bloodwork didnt really show anything that would cause this. Jiek_Fafn posted... Are they willing to do you a solid now and then? I've definitely helped a partner out even though I wasn't interested in it at the time. we tried that once, she said she felt like she was assaulted. Like her body didnt react well to it, even though she agreed to doing it. Cemith posted... Maybe, and I know this isn't for everyone, but you could consider polyamory? its something I would consider exploring if shes truly done with all intimacy. I dont think shed be on board, but who knows. --- Respect Women ... Copied to Clipboard!
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bsp77 05/23/24 7:25:08 PM #19: |
RespectWomen posted...
I dont think shed be on board, but who knows.If she is unwilling to have sex, she needs to be open to other avenues for you. Harsh, but true. And sorry, that sucks --- Currently playing: Lies of P ... Copied to Clipboard!
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SauI_Goodman 05/23/24 7:25:31 PM #20: |
I feel like I'm asexual. Have had sex twice in the last 4 years. The desire just isn't there. For a girlfriend or sex.
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Cuticrusader09 05/23/24 7:36:33 PM #21: |
RespectWomen posted... I guess its possible, but the recent bloodwork didnt really show anything that would cause this.If a doctor claimed they would see indications of perimenopause via bloodwork, then they are full of shit. A womans hormone levels vary during a month so they cant tell you jack based on what they are at a point in time. Perimenopause is diagnosed by whether you are experiencing a number of the symptoms. The list of symptoms are:
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RespectWomen 05/23/24 7:42:44 PM #22: |
Cuticrusader09 posted...
If a doctor claimed they would see indications of perimenopause via bloodwork, then they are full of shit. A womans hormone levels vary during a month so they cant tell you jack based on what they are at a point in time. oh I dont know anything about it, she went to get her blood checked because she had a feeling it was something else specific, but cant remember exactly what it was. she has a number of those, I suppose its possible. But theyre also common symptoms for a lot of stuff I would think --- Respect Women ... Copied to Clipboard!
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Offworlder1 05/23/24 7:59:25 PM #23: |
I hope she is willing to accept that you may go elsewhere to get your sexual needs met if she won't or can't.
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RespectWomen 05/23/24 8:01:57 PM #24: |
thankfully shes not the type to try and control masturbation/porn usage
I definitely couldnt be with someone like that, with or without sex --- Respect Women ... Copied to Clipboard!
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FolkenRawr 05/23/24 8:03:26 PM #25: |
My ex 'went asexual' a year and a half into the relationship.
What actually happened is we were deeply out of sync and didn't want to be with eachother anymore. I'm not saying that's the case here. Nor am I discrediting asexuality in anyway. I'm saying there may be some underlying things going on, based on nothing but the opening post and my personal experience. --- Cookin like a chef, I'm a 5 Star Michelin ... Copied to Clipboard!
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Dungeater 05/23/24 8:07:09 PM #26: |
if she wasnt always this way then it's prolly something
when i became asexual it was due to extreme shame/guilt for using sex as a weapon against myself there is nothing wrong with being asexual, but if it came out of nowhere, that points to something imo could be she doesnt gel with u anymore could be some associations have been formed in her head that are bringing her to a full stop all the time highly HIGHLY recommend Come As You Are by Emily Nagoski i recommend this to anyone, not just those struggling with sex issues. it is an incredibly insightful book. dont you or her go into it expecting to be "cured" (i dont really think asexuality needs to be cured i just cant think of a better word), but if you approach it earnestly and open mindedly you will both gain insight into how you and she tick. and what may or may not be stopping her --- My fate was the grandest, most brilliant of them all. He/Him ... Copied to Clipboard!
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RespectWomen 05/23/24 8:22:41 PM #27: |
I could see it being something like that as well.
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RespectWomen 05/24/24 7:25:20 AM #28: |
Bump.
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LonelyStoner 05/24/24 7:28:28 AM #29: |
I couldnt be in a relationship with someone who is asexual.
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RespectWomen 05/24/24 7:31:27 AM #30: |
Yeah, I wouldnt start a new relationship with someone thats asexual.
but not sure if I should throw away my family, 10 years of commitment etc, for sex. Thats ultimately what it feels like this is going to boil down to. --- Respect Women ... Copied to Clipboard!
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Ragtag28 05/24/24 7:33:56 AM #31: |
FolkenRawr posted...
My ex 'went asexual' a year and a half into the relationship.Its kinda what I'm getting too. --- My friend code is: 2842-5212-7233 LF: Laptop, wall mounted tv(black) wide screen t.v. 60 in(black) box corner sofa set(white) ... Copied to Clipboard!
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