Current Events > Three months salary for engagement rings...is that before or after tax?

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Cause before tax, my monthly salary is about $20,000, which would mean a ring in the $60,000 range...but that is a bit too pricey for me.

How many people still go by the three months rule anyway?

This generation has mostly stopped buying blood diamonds. Fake is almost exactly the same if not better.

I'm not sure if it's before or after tax, but it's definitely after falling for the scam. A three or low-four digit ring with a real diamond can be beautiful. I paid $792.72, including tax, for Mrs. Devsman's. Of course, that was thirteen years ago.

It's 2 months, not 3. And it's a pretty silly "rule" anyway. If you're in the market for an engagement ring, you should set a reasonable budget, not some arbitrary number like that.

Sariana21 posted...

It's 2 months, not 3. And it's a pretty silly "rule" anyway. If you're in the market for an engagement ring, you should set a reasonable budget, not some arbitrary number like that.

How else could he shoehorn a fake stealth brag topic tho

Respectfully, stop buying into that bullshit. That entire gimmick was created by De Beers the diamond company. Unless your a diamond expert I seriously doubt most people can tell the difference between a 5 carat diamond and an 8 carat diamond. Plus if your spouse is giving a shit about that kind of thing, then she's not the one for you.

Buy a respectful ring, a few thousand dollars, and then spend another 4-5k on a nice vacation for the two of you. That's better than any 50,000 dollar ring. To quote Ron Swanson from Parks and Rec, people who buy things are suckers. Adding to that, especially when it comes to diamonds.

My little sister for example, chose to get a ring off of Amazon. Cost her husband all of 500 bucks. It's a nice fake black gem that even if it gets stolen, costs next to nothing to replace.

So I'm looking at Tiffany rings and they are all $10k+, wtf.

If you're serious about buying a diamond ring, look for a diamond broker. Find a stone you like and then have a setting made for it. Don't buy a ring "off the shelf" - you will overpay.

I never heard of a 3 months rule

leonkr41138 posted...

I never heard of a 3 months rule

Again, its a bullshit rule that De Beers created to sell more stock. To be honest, Diamonds are practically worthless outside of looking pretty. They just sell them for a ridiculous upcharge.

3 active posts lmfao

Ivany2008 posted...

Again, its a bullshit rule that De Beers created to sell more stock. To be honest, Diamonds are practically worthless outside of looking pretty. They just sell them for a ridiculous upcharge.

Not true. They are quite useful in industrial applications, as the tips of cutting tools, for example.

Its true that you should pay a considerable amount for a ring but 3 months is too few. Its 6 months minimum, and thats if youre on at least a 6 figure salary. Consider 10+ months if you are on fewer than 6 figures

What advantages does this ring offer over, say, a train... which I could also easily afford.

honestly it just depends how much you really love her. Could be a cheap $200 ring or if you really love her a lot then give her something worth more.

TMOG posted...

What advantages does this ring offer over, say, a train... which I could also easily afford.

You can tell your women apart from what rings you gave to which women

Rika_Furude posted...

You can tell your women apart from what rings you gave to which women

Couldn't I tell them apart more easily based on the train they drive

TMOG posted...

Couldn't I tell them apart more easily based on the train they drive

What if you are somewhere else, such as your own personal yacht?

Rika_Furude posted...

What if you are somewhere else, such as your own personal yacht?

Then I'd be alone anyway since they're all on their own yachts

Ivany2008 posted...

Respectfully, stop buying into that bullshit. That entire gimmick was created by De Beers the diamond company. Unless your a diamond expert I seriously doubt most people can tell the difference between a 5 carat diamond and an 8 carat diamond. Plus if your spouse is giving a shit about that kind of thing, then she's not the one for you.

Buy a respectful ring, a few thousand dollars, and then spend another 4-5k on a nice vacation for the two of you. That's better than any 50,000 dollar ring. To quote Ron Swanson from Parks and Rec, people who buy things are suckers. Adding to that, especially when it comes to diamonds.

My little sister for example, chose to get a ring off of Amazon. Cost her husband all of 500 bucks. It's a nice fake black gem that even if it gets stolen, costs next to nothing to replace.

This guy gets it. My wifes engagement ring cost me less than a months wages and she was thrilled with it. Also, most women are pretty rubbish at gauging how much a ring costs anyway.

Glob posted...

This guy gets it. My wifes engagement ring cost me less than a months wages and she was thrilled with it. Also, most women are pretty rubbish at gauging how much a ring costs anyway.

All that matters is that your in a happy relationship. Spending money on a ring just doesn't make sense. Especially when you can use most of that money towards a home or retirement.

Of course you make $240k a year. And of course youre getting married. Why would anyone doubt either of those two statements?

Joke or not, no one should be buying an overpriced ass ring.

Buy a cheap ass ring, and save your money on something you both can actually use for your future. Or even a nice vacation.

Thats gross zing!

My wife would have kicked my ass if I spent that much on a ring.

If you ask me the key isn't what the ring is worth but the thought that went into it. What my wife treasures about the ring is the story.

Her best friend was engaged but they didn't have a ring yet, I told her that I was planning to ask my future wife to marry me but I wanted to figure out what sort of ring she wanted. I got her friend to take her ring shopping and I "reluctantly" went along and brought a friend of mine so I'd "not get bored". Anyways, I didn't hover but stayed close enough to hear her talk about the rings, was able to get a good idea of what she liked.

A few days later I went to a jewelry store and picked out a ring that checked all the boxes for what she liked. The style she liked actually restricted the size of gem pretty significantly so I bought a high quality diamond but even doing that the ring didn't cost very much but it was something I knew she'd love and she did.

Basically, try to buy a ring that suits her more than anything else, that matters so much more than the price. Heck if I was to buy my wife an engagement ring all over again today? I'd not even go with a diamond but rather her birth stone, she'd like that even more even though it would have cost even less but that's a bit of info she hadn't mentioned while out ring shopping with her friend.

Ivany2008 posted...

Respectfully, stop buying into that bullshit. That entire gimmick was created by De Beers the diamond company. Unless your a diamond expert I seriously doubt most people can tell the difference between a 5 carat diamond and an 8 carat diamond. Plus if your spouse is giving a shit about that kind of thing, then she's not the one for you.

Buy a respectful ring, a few thousand dollars, and then spend another 4-5k on a nice vacation for the two of you. That's better than any 50,000 dollar ring. To quote Ron Swanson from Parks and Rec, people who buy things are suckers. Adding to that, especially when it comes to diamonds.

My little sister for example, chose to get a ring off of Amazon. Cost her husband all of 500 bucks. It's a nice fake black gem that even if it gets stolen, costs next to nothing to replace.

Do not buy jewelry from Amazon.

Another reason I dont see myself getting married. At least until I get my act together and find a better paying job.

Aint no way I can ever afford to spend that much on a ring and Im not the kind of guy that girls are ok with that. At least in my dating experience.

She should be glad to get a rubber band to put around her finger. It's the thought that counts after all

haarlem1982 posted...

She should be glad to get a rubber band to put around her finger. It's the thought that counts after all

There's nothing wrong with symbolism or tradition, but there shouldn't be anything mandatory about it either. I say, you should absolutely be able to propose and marry without a ring at all.

If you're not considering lab diamonds, you're asking to be ripped off and continue exploitation.

Spend money on the marriage, not the engagement or the wedding.

Ivany2008 posted...

Respectfully, stop buying into that bullshit. That entire gimmick was created by De Beers the diamond company. Unless your a diamond expert I seriously doubt most people can tell the difference between a 5 carat diamond and an 8 carat diamond. Plus if your spouse is giving a shit about that kind of thing, then she's not the one for you.

Who the fuck here do you think is buying those sized diamonds? Those sizes are bigger than what Prince Harry bought for Meghan Markle. Those are massive

rexcrk posted...

Another reason I dont see myself getting married. At least until I get my act together and find a better paying job.

Aint no way I can ever afford to spend that much on a ring and Im not the kind of guy that girls are ok with that. At least in my dating experience.

You shouldn't be spending that much on a ring in the first place.

Sariana21 posted...

If you're serious

He isn't. He's just another MAGA troll.

I think my wife ring was 600 I think. I picked it based on her life style, so low cuts that wont get caught on things

Why is "humble brag about my hot girlfriend and big salary" the new CE gimmick? And why are people dusting off alts to do it?

How much is she spending on you TC?

rexcrk posted...

Another reason I dont see myself getting married. At least until I get my act together and find a better paying job.

Aint no way I can ever afford to spend that much on a ring and Im not the kind of guy that girls are ok with that. At least in my dating experience.

To be honest, the sorts of women who would expect you to spend three months of you salary on a ring arent the ones you want to marry anyway.

Glob posted...

To be honest, the sorts of women who would expect you to spend three months of you salary on a ring arent the ones you want to marry anyway.

Absolutely yes to this. I didnt want a ring at all, just a simple wedding band, but my husband really wanted to get me one. So I let him. But that was for him, not me.

Buy a lab made diamond for cheap

leonkr41138 posted...

I never heard of a 3 months rule

it's literally marketing created by DeBeer's (diamond cartel) and it actually stuck. we bought it hook, line and sinker while they laughed all the way to the bank.

in all reality, there is no reason to buy a 'real diamond' outside of social pressure. buy a lab grown diamond that is of better quality and 1/10th of the price of an 'earth diamond'.

and as for TC, the expensive ring won't make you feel any more of a whole person than bragging about your salary on a video game message board does

If I made 20k a month there's like a thousand things I would do other than shitpost on a social board on a dying game websight so this sounds legit

Yeah, the "three months salary" thing is pretty much the same as Kellogg's "breakfast is the most important meal of the day": it was a marketing campaign that people took as gospel after it was over.

I spent $12k on my wife's engagement ring.

I always knew I'd go up to five figures for her ring so in an effort to make sure she got exactly what she wanted, we both went ring shopping for it. I have a good eye for diamonds so I bought that separately and we got a custom setting for it.

DCinGA posted...

How much is she spending on you TC?

Other than money, she takes care of everything else in our lives. I would say her contribution is priceless.