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healthy?

I ask because I want to leave where I'm living in two years, but it might even take longer than that. I'd be content to just grind away making money and improving my position for two years without talking to people, just focusing on my art, but I'm afraid I'd really regret not socializing during that time.

I'm also not getting any younger. I'm 32 and have had only 1 relationship, that lasted 1 month. I want to experience true romance that's satisfying in the prime of my youth (which some might argue has even already passed, not that I agree).

I'm suffering right now from not having many friends, to the point I even came here in desperation for some semblance of conversation. Pathetic to admit, but it's where I'm at right now. I wish I had friends I could consistently talk to about music, games, comics, and anime. But I'm not sure how often I should put in the effort to meet new people.

I was recommended these app by you guys, Meetup. I also have Bumble and Tinder and have been using those. How often should I be meeting up with people? I don't want to be too introverted or extroverted.

I have no idea but I can sympathize as Im in a similar position with friendships
wishing you the best

Only way to find out is by going out and doing just that. You may like being surrounded by many, maybe a few, and even none at all. It all depends.

I was going party to party and in my college years I was doing even more of that.. often hosting or socializing with my exes friends who always wanted to go out amongst the many random strangers Id meet at those parties. When wed hang out at their home or whatever itd be mostly drinking and watching something on TV. Maybe wed play a board game or something like that. I think the only time I felt happy socializing, truly socializing was amongst musicians and the ones Id meet from playing in bands or whatever. A long ass jam session that would have me practically ignore the party or whatever festivity. I could do that for hours and be having fun.

Anyways, I got sick of the party party and sitting down somewhere to do something I could be just doing in the comfort of my own home. I dont care to make the effort to socialize like that but Im also not afraid to just say hi or talk with random strangers so I get my fill of social interaction that way these days. Hell, I might even be at the point where I dont even care to have a foreseeable girlfriend at this point. Im just happy to do me. Happy to just flirt and have someone come over from time to time.

Im 30. Try it, though. Dont deny yourself the right to live, just work through those initial nerves and go for it.

I forgot I get invited constantly to raves. But IDK what to do there other than stand and bob my head to the music. Is there a go-to list of small talk topics? I guess since they're progressive raves I could talk about politics, but that's depressing now.

So should I just buy Settlers of Catan and ask random people on this app to play? Or maybe join a reading club? Damn IDK.

I just don't want to wither away unseen

Kanaya413 posted...

I have no idea but I can sympathize as Im in a similar position with friendships
wishing you the best

thanks man, I hope the best for you as well

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