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Sorry to hear that, op. :(

I will keep you guys in my prayers.

My condolences.

MotaroRIP619 posted...

My dad passed away this evening, he had been getting better every day but had a bad night. It was a tough day.

My sincere condolences my friend. Please look after yourself too. Grief comes in stages, some days you'll be fine, some days there'll be something super minor that gets you going. Don't bottle those emotions up, and don't be afraid of them either.

Is there a charity I can send 20 to, in tribute of your dad?

I'm so sorry for your loss. Remember, we're here if you ever need to vent.

Thanks guys. Today was a sad day. I went and hung out with some family. I had my dads chemotherapy appointment for tomorrow on my calendar and realized I wouldnt ever be taking him to any appointments ever again. Just little shit like that creeping up on me again and again. Im just taking it as it comes. I am just watching Star Trek like a nerd lol.

My condolences.

I enjoyed going fishing with him and stuff, but mostly I liked calling him to talk football every week. He was rooting against my Chiefs because hes a 49ers fan but he kinda likes the Bills and is tired of the Chiefs so Ill be happy no matter what this weekend I guess. Its going to be hard to enjoy football as much without him.

I enjoyed learning how to drive with him. My son is going to be learning next year and Im anxious to teach him I had hoped hed be around to help because he was a good teacher. We had a good time with it. He was thorough but he was also calm and didnt scare me like other people did.

Sorry to hear that, hoping for the best

MotaroRIP619 posted...

My dad passed away this evening, he had been getting better every day but had a bad night. It was a tough day.

Damn. It sucks to lose your parents. Pneumonia took my dad out last March. Hope you and the rest of your family are kind to each other.

MotaroRIP619 posted...

Its going to be hard to enjoy football as much without him.

That's understandable. Be sure to take all the time you need.

MotaroRIP619 posted...

I had hoped hed be around to help because he was a good teacher. We had a good time with it. He was thorough but he was also calm and didnt scare me like other

Sounds like you learned from the best.

Im really sorry TC

I'm sorry to hear this TC.

My dad had testicular cancer ( supposedly a 90% curable version) and got one treatment away before catching pneumonia and basically passing in 3 days with all his organs failing.

I wish you and your family well and hope he avoids that fate.

Edit I see your dad passed away. My condolences to your family.

My condolences.

Sorry for your loss.

Remember to take good care of yourself.

MotaroRIP619 posted...

Thanks guys. Today was a sad day. I went and hung out with some family. I had my dads chemotherapy appointment for tomorrow on my calendar and realized I wouldnt ever be taking him to any appointments ever again. Just little shit like that creeping up on me again and again. Im just taking it as it comes. I am just watching Star Trek like a nerd lol.

Do what you need to, to process it my friend. Losing a parent is tough. You won't like reading this - I'll spoiler tag it for now, please read it when you feel okay to do so as it might bring a few tears - you were obviously very close to your dad. As time passes, you'll realise how close you are to your son too. And how many idiosyncrasies you share with your dad.

The main thing is, you're a dad too now mate. And your son looks at you with those big eyes the same way you did a few decades ago. The best way to honour your dad is to make sure the next generation doesn't forget him. All said and done, you love your dad, and your son needs to know about him too. The man who brought you up, to be better than himself (as most dads try and do), and the man who you get glassy-eyed about when your son asks an innocent question about grandad's car or sports etc.

Ok I spoilered a lot of that but it's all in good faith. If you need someone to speak to, i.e. to get something off your chest, then feel free to PM me.

Nonetheless, don't bottle things up. If you're feeling upset, get some privacy and have a good cry. An ugly cry. A loud cry. Fuck it - whatever works for you. Let your emotions out. You did it when you were a baby because you had hiccups, why not do the same thing 20-30 years later when you have something way more important to be emotional about?

Fuck, that wasn't the outcome I wanted to hear. My greatest condolences.

I'm also really sorry for your loss, TC.

RIP to him

My best wishes to you guys

MotaroRIP619 posted...

Thanks guys. Today was a sad day. I went and hung out with some family. I had my dads chemotherapy appointment for tomorrow on my calendar and realized I wouldnt ever be taking him to any appointments ever again. Just little shit like that creeping up on me again and again. Im just taking it as it comes. I am just watching Star Trek like a nerd lol.

Sorry for your loss.

Similar thing: My grandpa passed away just recently and in my phone reminders/checklist I had Meet up w Pa in it because it was several weeks since I saw him and he wasnt doing too well. Life got in the way and ultimately I had to mark it incomplete. Those little things will crop up for a bit.