Current Events > Guy swiped right on 2 million Tinder profiles and only got 1 date. Why?

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If you're 2mil swipes in then that's definitely a you problem.

*shrug* I grew up around a bunch of outdoorsy types so it doesn't seem weird to me. Just like it doesn't seem weird to me they are unable to understand why women wouldn't find it appealing their seemingly sole hobby involves them going out and spending the day away and unavailable.

It's even worse now. Somehow every dating apps is owned by one parent company now. I was on OkCupid getting ads for Tinder, Hinge, POF, and I think Match.

Women these days are very, VERY cautious of men. And with the love of Joe Rogan, Jordan Peterson and Andrew Tate among younger guys, can you blame anyone? A guy not willing to respect you when the possibility of getting pregnant in a country where it's increasingly becoming illegal to get an abortion. Then hiding vaccination and political alignment and stuff like that?

I made no effort at all to be desirable but I tried to jump into women's pants anyway and it failed - and here's why that is unfair

A guy is secretive about his vaccination status and workplace and expresses a desire to hunt for snakes in the desert and the red flag here is that he likes to fish?

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I've been on both sides of the "bad dating site experiences" equation, back when there weren't really apps for it. I had what, in retrospect, was a genuinely scary experience with a girl who seemed to be of the opinion that merely exchanging messages with her represented a contractual agreement of romantic interaction, and being the doormat that I am, I didn't shut that down as quickly or decisively as I should have. But also, when I think about the kind of profile I presented and messages I sent, I feel sorry for all the girls I contacted.

I think maybe dating sites/apps are just not the future of dating some of us thought they would be. Using the internet to find people sounds great until you realize that the kind of people who use the internet to find people are generally going to be less inclined to meet with someone in person. Because people who don't have trouble with face-to-face interaction probably don't need help from a dating app to meet people.

I like fishing, but I know a lot of people dont. A good dating profile should show multiple sides of you, or at least not make it seem like you only do 1 thing

From this guys profile it looks like literally all he does is work, handle snakes, and fish. If thats the case, then thats fine, but it also heavily, heavily reduces the pool of people who will be interested. You have to cast a wide net and this guy did not do that

Hehe. "Wide net" I see what you did there.

think maybe dating sites/apps are just not the future of dating some of us thought they would be. Using the internet to find people sounds great until you realize that the kind of people who use the internet to find people are generally going to be less inclined to meet with someone in person. Because people who don't have trouble with face-to-face interaction probably don't need help from a dating app to meet people.

Hes probably shadow banned. Someone who makes a profile like that is probably not very pleasant to anyone who reaches out and they might be reporting him for it.

A guy is secretive about his vaccination status and workplace and expresses a desire to hunt for snakes in the desert and the red flag here is that he likes to fish?

I mean, it's pretty well known that fishing tends to be one of the absolute least attractive things you can put on your profile. Like, women VERY vocally complain about all the guys posing with fish in their pics. It's very well known.

Makes me wonder why so many still do it.

I'll be honest, I dont think its known as much as some think it is.

Like I said earlier in the topic, a flipside example in many women's profiles is some variant of, "loves to travel."

Men and women put shit on their profiles that they personally think is attractive, but the opposite sex has definitely vocally complained about. Yet if you ask the people adding it, they will swear the opposite sex has no issue with it on their profile.

I honestly think many of them are totally oblivious to their profiles having things in it that the opposite sex isnt so fond to see.

I don't even think "loves to travel" is inherently bad. But when it's the only interest she lists, it's kind of like... Okay, but what do you do for fun when you're not traveling? Because you're not traveling 24/7. Doesn't give you a lot to go on