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LSGW_Zephyra posted...

Most poly people I know talk about it as a fundamental part of their sexuality, like being gay or straight or what have you. I'm not poly, I don't need multiple partners, so the Identity never felt like it suited me. If my primary partner is mono, then I'm mono. If they are poly then I'm poly. I don't have strong opinions about it one way or the other and I don't miss being poly when I'm mono and I don't miss being mono when I'm poly.

You're just pretty low maintenance then, I guess?

I don't think I would be capable of a non monogamous relationship.

I have 18 / 25

pikakaeru posted...

some people want to experience their first mutually

Good fucking luck finding that. It is possible of course, but highly unlikely. My wife was a virgin when we started dating, but pretty sure if I was too, she wouldn't have been drawn to me. I feel that 40yo male virgins are more likely to find a more experienced woman who happens to find their inexperience charming because they have had such shitty luck with more experienced men. Kind of like the 40 Year Old Virgin movie :)

I say these things to be helpful, not to be a dick. But I know you guys don't listen. You never make any changes in your life and you will remain the same.

Umbreon posted...

Unless someone's your conjoined twin, they're going to regardless.

Which isn't to say Cyan is right or wrong for wanting to lose their virginity to another virgin, just that being a virgin isn't the only way they can relate to someone.

He is "wrong" only that it is likely self defeating

pikakaeru posted...

its a disconnect bc the other person experienced things without them

Surface level insecurity that means nothing to an actual relationship

pikakaeru posted...

why? people want someone they relate to

You don't need a fellow virgin to relate. That is surface level and shows a lack of being able to actually connect with others.

TuxedoCyan posted...

Not really.

I'd only want to lose it to a fellow virgin woman around the same age as me and as anti-social and awkward as I am.

This is what I don't understand

LSGW_Zephyra posted...

Both, and yes, I'm poly. Or rather, I'm non-monogamus

What's the difference? Real question, not snarky

HorsemnBusiness posted...

Youre too old and newly married to be reminiscing about the single life lol

And you have been the first shitty poster in this thread. Congrats!

myusernameislame posted...

Yeah sorry, I was going off of what people were saying about it being a "both sides" movie. If it's trying to convince people to listen to each other in a way I mean that's an admirable goal too, but I don't know how it could pull it off without just being taken as a centrist circle-jerk.

Yeah, I agree. Which is why I said I am going in with an open mind earlier. But I have liked his work in the past so I am hopeful.

HorsemnBusiness posted...

Didnt you just get married less than a year ago?

I know it is a lot, but please everything I wrote throughout here before posting that.

I had been happy that people understood what I meant and weren't judging...

myusernameislame posted...

It's fine if he wants to make a movie that's just entertainment, but that quote still deserves pushback because way too many people think like that.

I didn't say just entertainment. Not what I was saying at all

LSGW_Zephyra posted...

I still go on dates, I still go to parties when I want. I basically do everything I want whenever I want. Soooo this is not a thing for me

With other people or with her? Not sure if you are poly or not

myusernameislame posted...

I didn't really know anything about Alex Garland, but that quote does not make a good first impression. The people that have made left vs. right into good vs. bad are the people that use "politics" as a shield for truly repugnant views, not the people that noticed and call them out.

Alex Garland is liberal. My guess is that he wants to make a more universal movie and hope someone pays attention vs just preaching to us liberals who already agree.

Punished_Blinx posted...

I think there's a part of our brain that is always a bit wired to think 'what am I missing out on' and the desire to have sparks with someone new

This is my issue. I have had serious FOMO since 2017, but admittedly it is a little better now. For awhile, I was literally going out 5 or 6 nights a week.

pikakaeru posted...

its ok im a very submissive and passive person which is probably why im still an incel/virgin

Well, stay away from those idiots from discord as they make you worse. Feel free to reach out to people like me and Stero if you want actual advice.

Block_that_Kick posted...

Do I miss certain aspects of single life? Of course I do.

Would I trade my family for any of it? Hell no. My wife is the only person outside of my immediate family who has truly loved me for who I am and has no desire to change anything about me. My weird matches her weird, and you cant put a price on that.

Yes, weird matches her weird is a great description. She mitigates my general anxiety and I mitigate her social anxiety. With past people, we would make each other worse.

And my daughter is the greatest thing in my life and watching her grow up is the privilege of a lifetime.

I got 4 daughters. From my first marriage, but my wife adores them.

luigi33 posted...

My wife and I currently not talking. Not sure if this is the end of the line between us but it does feel rather refreshing to not have to be in her presence so much. But of course I miss her too tbf.

Shit, man. You okay? Have we discussed this before?

Getting divorced from my first wife was such a relief and the best thing that could have happened to me at that point.

Current marriage > post divorce years of single, screwing around and short term relationships > first marriage

Senta posted...

I've been with the same girl since I was 13 and she was 14.

We are now both 36, and we've never regretted a thing about all our time together. I think a large part of it is, because we met so young, our interests and joys have aligned as we've grown.

We game together, nerd out together with comics and movies. We just enjoy spending our time together doing our hobbies.

Nerds make the best partners. Well, if they know how to communicate. Many don't

pikakaeru posted...

I have never gone on a racist rant. The alcoholism bit and drunken rant part is true however.

To be fair, I never saw a racist rant. Only heard secondhand

pikakaeru posted...

also this isnt true

If your main was who I think it was, then it is true

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I spent my entire 20s and 30s with a woman I don't think I ever was truly happy with. So yeah, that contributes. I had to do all my craziness in my early 40s.

Your life is only as boring as you make it ;P get out there, try to find time to vacation (even if it's just driving up for a weekend in a city you rarely go to), look for some fun events. Treat life like you're dating again (but with your SO) etc.

See post 17 :)

ItsNotA2Mer posted...

Glad you're in good health. Not to be a downer, but I was thinking more along the lines of making sure you've had serious discussions around wishes regarding quality of life decisions, getting appropriate paperwork in order for things such as Wills, Living Wills, Power of Attorney, etc.

Yeah, I figured

Or I can just be happy to be having a beer on my deck on the house we just bought. I couldn't do this when single.

https://gamefaqs.gamespot.com/a/forum/7/779d5403.jpg

ItsNotA2Mer posted...

There are things you two can do to plan ahead for these types of eventualities. A strong relationship can absolutely withstand a significant age gap.

I exercise, try to eat well, and am generally in good shape, especially for 47.

She slows me down if anything. I am sure that will change :)

Too many posts to respond to! Love all the happy stories though and this actually has helped my mood.

See, CE doesn't have to always be toxic

Jiek_Fafn posted...

TC can relate

I appreciate that

LightningThief posted...

What about those not married but not single? Those of us with girlfriends and boyfriends with no plans to get married?

Feel free to contribute

Westernwolf4 posted...

That is so awesome, enjoy your honeymoon! Our honeymoon was the Disney Cruise, but only because we met in Europe. Our first trip together was to Paris-not even I can screw that up.

I know it will be an awesome experience for you both!

Wait, are you the guy who ditched his friends on vacation in the UK to go on a side trip with a woman he just met? :)

ItsNotA2Mer posted...

28 years strong here. I've never regretted the decision to marry my husband. There's a 23 year age difference between us, so I knew there would eventually be challenges as we both got older, (and that ended up being true), but I'm still completely in love with him.

Yeah, I am 16 years older than her. I do worry if it will rough on her in the future

Well, I will be watching on Thursday with an open mind

NoxObscuras posted...

Not married yet, but no. Thankfully that grass is always greener syndrome doesn't really hit me. I'll see women sometimes that make me think "wow she's pretty" but never anything that makes me actually want to pursue them or wish I was single again. I feel incredibly lucky to have found a girlfriend that I vibe with so well and I'm not fucking that up lol

But it probably also helps that the dating around part was very stressful for me. It was fun meeting new people, but the constant worry of if the date went well, did I say the right things, make the right impression, etc., was horrible. I'd rather not have to go through that again if there's nothing wrong with my relationship

Happy you are happy, man!

lolife67 posted...

Eh, some things I think about and miss but it always passes. It's like thinking over a find memory but I don't dwell on it or anything like that. Just reminisce and move on.

This is pretty much it. I am just posting during that moment.

Westernwolf4 posted...

You and your wife could travel to someplace you have always wanted to go, or take a class together for something you have always wanted to learn, or maybe run that marathon together.

I know it sounds trite, but I have found that my experiences are so much more exciting now that I have a special person to share it with.

Not trite at all. We had a fantastic Saturday exploring a little town nearby, going in shops, walking around, drinking at a brewery, getting apps.

And we have our official honeymoon in May to Europe

Westernwolf4 posted...

I have been married for 25 years to the love of my life. I regret nothing and consider myself very fortunate. And yet:there are some things about being single I still miss. There is a freedom to my decisions being wholly my own that I will never have again.

But the positives of my happy and stable marriage far FAR outweigh the negatives. But there is nothing wrong with missing what is lost. Every decision, even the ones that lead to great things, has a cost.

This is awesome, and yeah, you get what I am saying

And if you guys can't see that terminally online liberals constantly tweeting isn't part of the problem...

Doe posted...

People making major motion pictures should check if they're sourcing from (and thus platforming) blatant propagandists, yeah. There may not have been any malice involved, but the fact they used this guy and it didn't raise any red flags while making the movie is a bad sign. Even if his footage is used in a way that criticizes people like him, that could've been accomplished without using from him and thus giving him a shoutout in a big movie's credits.

Maybe he is trying to make right wing people come see it too? As they should. Probably a warning for all.

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Thanks lol

Maybe I am just upset about getting old and thinking all my excitement is behind me or something.

I know I would be miserable if single now, and most of friends have boring, stable lives too.

I think I just signed up for a half marathon to feel young

Umbreon posted...

I'd be bored to tears watching a movie about the Civil War regardless, but seeing a blue checkmark whine about "woke" makes me extra glad I'm not spending money on that movie.

It's not a right wing movie, dude. Not at all

Turbam posted...

I was content and happy with single life, but I feel much more complete now.

Oh yeah, did you get married in December?

@Gladius_ you know, when I posted this topic, I thought, I hope Gladius doesn't see this and judge me lol

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Same. For my wife

I think I like that excitement of anything can happen and having "firsts" with people

Alternatively, I am sooooo much more content now

I guess it could be missing being truly single and doing whatever to waste time, but I personally mean more like dating around, partying and whatnot.

If so, what do you do about it?

For the record, I am happy the vast majority of the time, but sometimes... the grass is greener...

STEROLIZER posted...

Start traveling to Anime conventions. Join a manga meet up group. Try browsing the web in your phone only. No more laptop browsing. Limit your gaming to weekdays. No gaming on the weekends.

I do agree with this stuff. I do think gaming on the weekends is fine though. In my crazy post divorce days, I would go out both Friday and Saturday night from like 6pm to 3am, wake around 10am and game a couple hours and then maybe go for a run or something.

cjsdowg posted...

I got 6.6 so I am not far behind you. However I would not trust that site I uploaded Jim Cornet and he beat us with a 6.8 this one .

https://gamefaqs.gamespot.com/a/forum/9/94d9bb26.jpg

Yeah. I tried out a bunch of pics of myself, my wife, and various exes and it was inconsistent. Generally, most averaged around a 7, but the same person could vary from a 5.5 to 7.5 and I didn't see that big of a difference. There is one pic of one ex where I always thought that pic was especially gorgeous. That was the only one to go over an 8. So tempted to show that pic, but I am guessing that is uncool.

Shit. Meant to link to the site. Have at it!

https://attractivenesstest.com/

She is kinda hot, especially for like 47

Tried to look super cool and this stupid A.I. said I was a 6.7 oh well

https://gamefaqs.gamespot.com/a/forum/6/6253497e.jpg

Looking slick, Jeff!

I just gave myself a haircut and it looks like a rat was murdered in my sink

Nope! Going on Thursday. Not a slacker.

And yeah, he says he won't direct anymore.

Jerry_Hellyeah posted...

Dude started off with western games all being samey shooters as if eastern games aren't 10,000 times as tropey. If it's an opinion, it's a smelly one.

Oh, I agree, but I think the point was that his topics start debates. Sharing a safe opinion wouldn't do anything around here.

RetuenOfDevsman posted...

I mean, why share an opinion everyone's going to agree with?

Honestly, that's a good answer