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I've never dated anyone before.

It's good if someone really and truly deserves to have their lives ruined -- rapists, pedophiles, neo-nazis, hate-crimers, corrupt cops, etc.

Society doesn't allow us to throw people into stocks anymore, so this is just the modern-age equivalent. Although, if you ask me, we should bring the stocks back for special cases.

OhhhJa posted...

People in their 20s always feel that way. I wish I had spent my 20s worrying less. Your 30s is when you finally accept that your big dreams are pretty much dead and you're just gonna be a cog in the wheel and probably not be able to retire lol

I agree with the second part of this, but it's still possible for some people to accomplish their dreams depending on what they are. Very few people get to accomplish their dreams while still young. And to be honest, 30 isn't even that old when you consider that people nowadays are living into their 80s.

You have to keep talking positively to yourself no matter how shitty and inept you feel, otherwise you'll start wanting to die.

Salrite posted...

Pretty sure no one genuinely hates the animals themselves, they just have an understanding of the harm that they can cause and the reality of their impact on the environment.

I've met people who include wanting to kill their least favorite animals with a shovel into conversation like it's a normal topic and act like it's funny or "just their thing" then scoff and feel superior when you challenge how insane that is.

As someone who works with wildlife and who has exchanged stories with rangers, most people are complete idiots because we are so removed from nature that they don't understand anything about it, but there are also people who experience nothing but antipathy when they touch grass. Of course, there are a lot of good people, too -- misinformed, likely, but still good.

And you gotta trust me, tons of people think they have an understanding of the dangers and impact to the environment, but I can confidently say that they probably don't.

As a late bloomer with anxiety, depression, and autism, and who missed "normal" milestones due to surgery/medical trauma, I'm right there with you guys.

I'm 26 and haven't done anything I want to. I can't accomplish anything. I don't even want much, but I can never seem to get it. Every day it feels like the system is already built for all of us to fail and I was just unlucky enough to be one of the people who was born in a way that dooms me to being easily tossed aside by society's demands. I've missed out on so much already. But I don't even know what of it is my fault and what isn't. It really hurts because I am an ambitious and passionate person who enjoys so many things, wants to try so many things, wants to work so many jobs, and wants to see and experience so many places -- yet even though God gave me all this amazing nature, they cursed me to never be good enough to actually accomplish any of them. I was made wrong. My worst fear is looking back and having nothing but regrets. What if by the time I finally "figure it all out" I'm too old or don't have enough time to enjoy it?

To be honest, if it wasn't for my love of art and my family keeping me afloat I would just kms

...But I want to keep trying no matter what. Certainly some kind of joy awaits me? However small it may be I just want to accomplish one thing, and if I can do that, I can find a way to be happy. Until then I keep taking my 6 medications to get me through each day, go to therapy, cry it out, suck it up, and keep going forward because it's the only direction time goes whether I want it to or not. Even if I feel years younger than I actually am and hate where I live and have no self-esteem and can't get a break from the intrusive thoughts, I'll keep going because the one thing about getting older is that I'm realizing how nobody else knows what they're doing, either. Periods of regrets, "I wish", and hating ourselves are all, unfortunately, just part of the both terrible and beautiful human condition.

I can say 100 negative things about myself but the one thing I know I'm not is a quitter. At the end of the day I still always have that.

Not even going to lie, it's probably going to suck, OP, and you can't make it not suck -- but you can at least make it bittersweet. Use the day to look back at what you have accomplished and set new goals for yourself. None of us are dead yet, we're just depressed, but that doesn't have to be forever.

GGuirao13 posted...

Aren't they also known for carrying disease?

Not more than any other bird, unless they've been in close contact with human civilization. So, yeah, the ones in cities can get you sick, but it isn't because of something unique to them, they're just a vessel for germs from other humans.

Pigeons are incredibly intelligent and have assisted humans as messengers in war. There was a time that owning a pigeon was seen as a sign of luxury. They were loved for decades until one shitty politician called them "rats with wings" and humans systematically abandoned them. I highly recommend hood nature (casual geographic)'s video on them because it's both very funny and very true.

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=Y3kwJSEdCWQ

I sincerely believe that anyone who truly hates an animal is just uneducated about them and/or is incapable of appreciating nature, because what a stupid thing to be hateful about. Some people even seem to make hating a certain animal/animals a whole personality trait. Can't stand people like that.

captpackrat posted...

A box of googly eyes.

This actually works on me. I carry them around with me in my bag just in case I see something that would be funny to mildly vandalize. At my old job my coworkers were floored because googly eyes kept appearing on all of their office supplies.

Five Finger Death Punch.

Ivan Moody has the best male singing voice I've ever heard.

possum in a peanut
https://gamefaqs.gamespot.com/a/forum/4/48d1feb7.jpg
https://www.amazon.com/Archie-McPhee-Possum-Peanut-12967/dp/B098BPP9F8

No and while it isn't on my list of destinations, I really want to travel some day. I can't imagine living an entire lifetime without ever seeing the ocean. I want to go to New Zealand. Hell, I think I want to live in New Zealand.

Glob posted...

A girl on my undergraduate degree used to sell her knickers to weirdos online. Made an absolute killing doing it.

This is one of the few things that is advantageous about being female. Try doing that as a man and see how far that goes.

Glob posted...

In fairness, up until a few years ago, I felt the same way. Then I got a new job thats crazy money for where it is. A few other things have happened since that have helped, but thats really the thing that made the biggest difference.

It's okay for me because I have a plan. I was blessed with the talent of art and that's always marketable because there's a whole lot of freaks out there. I'll wind up doing commissions of hardcore furry porn. Like real kink shit. Saw a thing online where people were making fun of a lady for doing that, then she showed a screencap of her paypal balance and it was 90,000 USD. Say what you will about furries but the opportunities are golden. They'll pay you like 200 dollars for a detailed reference sheet of their fursona. Plan B is selling feet pics and used underwear. I've heard of some people even having that as their primary source of income.

The lesson here is that you don't even have to be good in this world -- you just have to market the right thing to the right people.

Amuseum posted...

Aware of my own shortcomings? Sure. To the point of hating myself? Never.

Myths are merely teaching guides. They become problematic when treated as dogma. Hence fighting over whose belief is "true" in inevitable yet pointless and even deadly. We're deep into science and information age, but global politics is still dominated by religion (humans are pathetic.)

The core issue with the term atheism is that acknowledges theism is even a valid stance. That is, atheists would be better served by other terms, like rationalism.

Good point all around.

My therapist loves me by the way.

OhhhJa posted...

Yeah, inflation will outpace most of those savings easily lol. That's assuming the banking institutions and corporations wont steal them entirely too
Your 750k retirement fund will be worth worth toilet paper in 20-30 years

I plan on just ending myself at the hint of becoming old and unable to do things. No way in Hell do I want to watch my body fall apart like that. I know way too much about hospice and death to ever allow it. Something's taking me out and I don't know what, but I do no two things -- it isn't going to be drowning, and it isn't going to be age. Like if I get murdered I'll just be pissed off (if there's an afterlife).

The only thing allowed to kill me is me.

Glob posted...

Im 38.

Sounds about right. I was gonna say there is no way you're under 40 or at least below 35.
I'm 26 and I've already accepted my fate.

Glob posted...

Earning well in a low cost of living area is the main thing. A few passive income streams. And it helps that I bought my home for cash so no mortgage (well, the one Ill live in when I retire. I dont actually live in it at the moment).

Another question. How old are you? Because I don't know a single person my age who isn't struggling to save.

Glob posted...

Im planning to retire at 45.

How is that even possible?

man101 posted...

Getting products or access to a service in exchange for money is a scam?

Let me say it better -- subscription services for things that were / could be one-time purchases are a scam. Remember when all you had to do was buy a disc of Microsoft Word but now you have to pay monthly? How about Nintendo online? Hell, even HP printers (and they'll shut your printer off with a remote if you fail to pay it). In the long run, companies make more money from subscription payments than one-time payments, meanwhile the costs of all these services adds up for us. It's like how teachers would assign you multiple pages of homework without consideration for the multiple pages of homework from your other classes.

Adobe pisses me off the most. I'm so jealous of my boss because she's grandfathered in from when it was affordable. I need creative cloud for graphic design school and it's 30 dollars a month. Without the student discount it'd be 90 dollars a month. When does it end???

pedro45 posted...

I could really learn more about retirement funds and stuff that i contribute to.

Don't worry about it none of us are going to be able to afford retirement.

Kallainanna posted...

I'm not very good with finances. My brain really doesn't like numbers or math and I kinda feel like I don't really believe money is real?

Same.

MICHALECOLE posted...

Putting on a duvet cover, taking off a duvet cover

That's exactly why I switched to a quilt.

I'm curious.

Subscription services are such a scam.

Bat178 posted...

Separate from the AI age verification, Youtube are now suddenly turning on Restricted Mode for a lot of people, and it's doing a lot of damage to creators. Warframe YouTubers in particular are getting hit really hard by it

Motherfucker.

Republicans are ruining fucking everything man

Bat178 posted...

Jesus. I don't think I've ever seen a social media site enshittify this quickly, this hard.

Don't forget twitter lol

Halloween has been my favorite holiday for my entire life. If it weren't for family, Halloween would be the only holiday I celebrated at all. My brother and I have been going to Spirit every Halloween since childhood. Our local rock station always plays this is halloween (the marilyn manson version) and we always try to catch it. Without trick-or-treaters or parties to go to we don't dress up, but we do eat a lot of candy.

The fact that trick-or-treating on Halloween is dying nearly brings a tear to my eye.

VioletZer0 posted...

not for long

Mastercard / Visa and Paypal decided they don't want adults to buy anything with "adult themes" and it goes beyond just porn, so Steam removed a bunch of games because of the censorship. Seriously, there's so much censorship going on! And across several countries! It's scary.

Rats are the best pet!

I can live without a cat or a dog, but I always need to have rats! <3

It has consistently been all bees were struggling except for honeybees -- so naturally people put all their effort into conserving honeybees. So fucking dumb.

Just getting rid of lawns and having natural plants would help. Lawns are old-fashioned and a huge waste of money time and effort.

My entire family sucks at bowling so much that we used to go just for the entertainment of watching how terrible each-other are.

Realthuddydrumz posted...

Are those mice? Or some sort of exotic gerbil breed? They're totally adorable whatever they are.

They are natal multimammate mice aka African soft fur mice/rats. They actually aren't mice or rats, but rather kind of their own thing. Each one has 18 nipples! They have big litters, aren't as smelly or aggressive as regular mice, and are bigger than regular mice, so they're normally bred for snake food (they're also super chill and can be housed alongside regular mice). Somebody had way too many and donated them to the raptor rescue as food for our birds. I thought they were so cute and since it was around my birthday I convinced my family to split the cost with me to get them their enclosure. It wouldn't be the first time I rescued a couple rodents from there. I love how big their eyes are ears are <3

teddy241 posted...

I was watching a live stream of the minnesota state fair. I paid particularly close attention to the look on most people's faces as the streamer passed by. Id say at least half the people looked stressed, anxious and/or on edge. It's like if something just started popping off they wouldn't be shocked

They're probably afraid of getting shot. I don't go to things like fairs because I'm too worried about there being a shooter. Nowhere is safe. My mom went to a festival and had a hard time enjoying it because she just kept thinking "wow this would be the perfect place for a shooter". It got shot up two days later. Oddly, this isn't the first time she had a bad feeling that turned out to be true. We were going to see a movie one night but she had that feeling and we didn't go. That's how we avoided being in the Aurora theatre shooting. Hell, I've had a gun waved at me from someone driving in front of us. It can happen anywhere. Schools, concerts, churches, grocery stores... Remember when teenagers used to hang out at the mall all day? Now malls are practically deserted. There's just nowhere safe to have fun anymore. It's no wonder people here are so screen-addicted.

Bat178 posted...

They are adding AI upscaling to creators' videos without their consent: https://youtu.be/I1P7WGoxqsc?si=jdY4Y9n6ZuMGVntG

Creators are losing lots of revenue because of this. I'm floored that no major content creators are calling them out. Why? Fear of being censored. Therein lies the problem. Do you have any idea the outcry it would make if somebody like Markiplier got censored from youtube for speaking out against them? Youtube would be harassed by millions into changing their ways.

SunWuKung420 posted...

Just don't have sex.

Do you live your life in fear of getting raped? Like it could happen any time you leave the house.

Bruh

There's not much to cheer up about here except that we at least aren't one of the countries ravaged by dictatorship, war, instability, low resources, genocide... That helps.

Realthuddydrumz posted...

My baby boy twitch the day we brought him home. Poor boy was so lonely and scared :(

Aww :( Did you get him a friend?
Rats are my favorite pet! I even wrote a guide on taking care of them.

Sesame and Nougat (they're always together)
https://gamefaqs.gamespot.com/a/forum/9/99847b43.jpg
Tiramisu
https://gamefaqs.gamespot.com/a/forum/4/41fa366c.jpg
Smores
https://gamefaqs.gamespot.com/a/forum/8/8af533f1.jpg
Crumbs (RIP <3)
https://gamefaqs.gamespot.com/a/forum/2/2785dd8e.jpg

pedro45 posted...

Can you get sterilized?

In America? Yeah, let me just get rich first then find doctors who won't give me shit and in the country with the worst healthcare for women out of any wealthy nation. Maybe while I'm at it I'll go to planned parenthood and let the protesters outside of it pull my hair for fun.

It's easier just to carry a gun everywhere so I don't have to worry about being raped.
Land of the free

SunWuKung420 posted...

Why?

Because I would literally rather die than be a mother. I would literally rather lose a leg than get pregnant, even if it was only for a day. I am so abhorrently disgusted by babies and children that I barely see them as human. They creep me out, they're disgusting, they're stupid, and they're a burden. The thought of getting pregnant makes me want to vomit. Most people don't even know all of the terrifying things that can happen during pregnancy. Like, your teeth can literally fall out because the baby is sapping the calcium from your bones. It's like having a fucking parasite inside of you for 10 months. I wouldn't even be able to give a baby up for adoption. Just the idea that one of those things is out there with my genes is enough to make me shudder. I'm want to rip out my uterus because just having the ability to reproduce makes me feel violated

SunWuKung420 posted...

Do you think shrimp causes seasickness?

Well, they are from the sea...

That's not a secret, though.

I wish I was born sterile.

people disassociating during 9/11

^ Same with ovaries except they're never cool to have.

CyborgSage00x0 posted...

That's been true for a long while now.

Unfortunate but true.

willythemailboy posted...

Marshmallows are generally made with gelatin from mammalian sources (i.e. boiled out of otherwise unusable connective tissues from beef) but certain brands will use skin and other unusable fish parts as the gelatin source to be Kosher/Halal.

You have to look pretty hard to find vegan-friendly marshmallows which are usually made from seaweed-based agar proteins.

The weird things you learn working at a grocery store.

Oh, of course. But it isn't on any other marshmallow ingredient list that I can find. I just found that one kind of funny. It really isn't a big deal. I mean, at least tilapia is food! Now don't get me started on that dye that turns mice transparent.

willythemailboy posted...

Not at all, but you might benefit more from using one of the online learning services like Brilliant where you can start at the basics and work at your own pace rather than jumping straight into a structured learning environment you're obviously not ready for. It might be best to drop that class now if you can and try it again after a few months of prep. No one likes to admit they need remedial help but it beats slamming your face into a wall and quitting.

I'm doing that with the Kahn Academy app and it has been helpful. I learned how to divide. Thing is, I can learn (some) math and do it that moment, but I'll forget it all the very next day. Basically I just have to keep very specific notes that are written in a way I understand so if I ever need to do it I can just check there. But tbh I have never once needed to apply anything other than very basic math in my life. I think it's crazy how hard they try to push math on everyone (I'm just in graphic design? hello???) and all the math teachers I had from middle school onwards acted like if you couldn't do math you might as well just kill yourself. Like you just won't even be able to live without their level of math skills. It definitely didn't help my anxiety surrounding math. It's weird that I've noticed that in math teachers and so has my family. It's probably a personality thing in the brain connected to the fact they're good at math. Kinda like how doctors tend to be assholes and politicians tend to be psychopaths. I remember reading about this kinda thing in HS psychology class...which I fucking aced btw