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Are you an NSO subscriber? I did throw my hat in, but as a non-subscriber I don't get to be part of the first wave.

ParanoidObsessive posted...

It's the opposite of that. They would argue that they know exactly what God is and what He wants, and that there is zero uncertainly. And if you disagree, you're an ignorant infidel attempting to lead them away from the truth, and should probably be punished (or killed) for it.

That's punishing you for blasphemy, though, not winning a bet. It still can't ever be confirmed one way or the other, so a hypothetical bet on the nature of God is fundamentally inconclusive.

captpackrat posted...

Most casinos use multiple decks, as many as 8, which significantly reduces the advantage of counting. And they shuffle more frequently, which resets any count.

Yep, there are ways to minimize the advantage the player can get that don't involve outright kicking people out (which, while the casino's within their rights to do it, is a bit of a buzzkill).

One-off error codes and crashes aren't a good reason to get a whole new system. Just keep an eye on them moving forward and if you get any more crashes, see if you can find some common element between them, otherwise it's nothing to be concerned about until you start seeing them frequently.

Muscles posted...

They definitely need to ban anything related to God of any form, you can bet on what he/she/it actually is

Not really. To bet on something, you need both uncertainty and a resolution. If I say "I bet you $10 God is actually a chicken," you could take that bet, but neither of us will ever know for sure whether or not God is a chicken without actually seeing/meeting them, so it'll go unpaid for at least the rest of our lives.

You could, however, bet something like "Imam Ahmed will say Allah's name 14 or more times in today's service" and that would work: You don't know for certain that it will or won't happen, but you will be able to find out and determine who won the bet.

I can't think of any off-hand, which might just be because save-anywhere systems and the option to put consoles in sleep mode and come back to them later mean you can take a break from pretty much anything if you want.

If you're going to ban chess because you can gamble on it, you kind of need to ban everything.

Salrite posted...

I think it was Majora's Mask that was the first game I noticed this with, where it took a good 30 to 60 minutes before you could even save the game.

As much as I love MM, its save system is hot garbage. Having the only permanent saves be over an hour apart in most cases (usually much longer between the Inverted Song of Time and time spent in menus/loading screens/conversations/cutscenes) and the suspend option tied to a small handful of fixed save points means there's way too much to lose if the game crashes or you have to leave on short notice.

Fortunately, it's not exactly the norm for modern games. Modern games (at least single-player ones) tend to be pretty good about offering flexible, convenient save systems, with frequent checkpoints, autosaves, and/or the option to save anywhere being common. While the scope of many games has indeed increased such that a half-hour session may not be enough to get anything meaningful done, you usually at least don't have to worry about totally wasting that half hour because you aren't able to save it.

They're different enough that a direct comparison doesn't really work, owing mostly to the differences between 2D and 3D platformers. Overall, I think I liked SM64 better (though it hasn't aged as well), but because they're such different games there's never going to be a point where I'd directly choose one over the other because I'd be making the decision at the genre level.

dj1200 posted...

Every single game in the casino favors the casino. They win in the long run. If there were a game in the player's favor, everyone would play that game.

Blackjack slightly favours the player if they can count cards (the player ends up with the dealer's advantage), but you'll also get kicked out of Blackjack tables if you do that.

I do remember it. I think I got it as part of a bundle that included several other Sim/Maxis games, including Sim Tower, Streets of Sim City, and Widget Workshop.

Personally, I'd be fine to just call everything but Chimeroid Slayer a full set. Chimeroid Slayer's just so useless that I don't see much point in counting it toward anything.

Yeah, Blood Lobster kinda sucks. Love the game overall, but that quest was emphatically not a high point. If it were like 20 lobsters, and they were visible from much further away and/or through a layer or two of wall, I might be on board with it, since narratively it's an interesting idea, but as it stands? It's the kind of thing that got put into games to sell strategy guides in the days before we'd just check the Internet for answers.

Why are you trying to make the Chimeroid augment? There's only one Chimera enemy outside of the chapter 12 story mission, and you're generally going to be better off putting Appendage Crusher, accuracy, Ranged/Melee Attack, or Attribute Attack Plus on your weapons than a Slayer option. Slayer augments are mostly only useful for Skell weapons because they're relatively cheap (aside from Chimeroid and Ultrafauna, but Chimeroid is useless because you can't even reach Lugalbanda with a Skell) and there aren't really other options worth using in your support weapons. On ground weapons, slayer augments are only worth getting as traits on the weapons themselves, and even then they're lower priority than Attack Up/Plus or Attribute Plus.

Note that slayer boosts just get added to the same additive multiplier that most other damage boosts contribute to, including Attribute bonuses and Position bonuses. If you're using ether damage, you get exactly the same damage total boost from Ether Plus as from a slayer augment of the same tier, but it applies to all enemy types. There's a relatively small number of independent multipliers that stack multiplicatively with that additive one, mostly just consisting of Core Crusher, Offensive Stance, and Aura Assault. Appendage Hardness (which is lowered by Appendage Crusher) is another, and increases to your Melee/Ranged Attack, Potential, and/or Weapon Power affect the base number to which all of these multipliers are applied.

ConfusedTorchic posted...

well if it got an error code, then it likely crashed, so

2107 is a general issues, you really need the other four numbers to narrow it down. either way, just turn it back on, then manually turn it off and back on

Pretty much all of this. You need the full error code to do any real troubleshooting, otherwise just do a manual restart and carry on as normal. Crashes happen sometimes. It's not really a big deal if it's just the occasional one. If it starts happening more frequently, you may need to send it in for repairs.

DirtBasedSoap posted...

huh?

They don't like that save files on the Switch can't be backed up locally. It's a legitimate complaint, but they seem to be catastrophizing it a bit (including apparently dredging up every Switch-related topic they can find today to complain vaguely about it).

Krow_Incarnate posted...

Man, fuck Nintendo

Flying on pals is legit one of the coolest things in that game

It's weird that that one hasn't been shot down instantly. There's ample precedent for riding/being carried by collectible creatures in other games, long predating Nintendo's patent.

It's also kind of a silly thing for them to fixate on, being a pretty meaningless aesthetic choice and not anything that would make or break a game. Not having it won't meaningfully hurt Palworld, Palworld having it wouldn't meaningfully hurt a Pokemon game that did the same thing. It just seems petty and spiteful.

rmsgrey posted...

Story progress isn't the only form of measurable progress in the game - towers, memories/tears, shrines/lightroots, battery capacity are all measurable forms of progress.

They are, but also an update saying "I completed 14 shrines and found 12 lightroots" doesn't have the same impact as "I beat the Water Temple." That's just the nature of open-world games, though: You're meant to just faff about in them and achieve small things.

Sashanan posted...

I tend to feel the odds are against you, but little enough to keep up the illusion

You don't need much to keep up the illusion of the odds being good enough to be worth continuing. The Gambler's Fallacy does half of that work for you, and if you're dealing with something like VLTs it's easy to manipulate most losses into near misses to capitalize on that fallacy as well. Throw in audiovisual cues that make you feel like lots of people are winning all the time, and you've got a recipe for people believing they can come out on top despite the odds of that being extremely slim.

agesboy posted...

for video slot machines they take like $10 of every $100 tho (and they can just adjust the odds at will, so who knows what you're getting). dont do that.

I don't remember the exact numbers because this was many years ago, but I remember reading a study that found that with more traditional gambling machines, for every $100 a problem gambler thought they'd spent, they'd actually spent like $3-400. For VLTs, though, for every $100 they'd thought they'd spent, they'd actually spent $1700, which is a pretty terrifying discrepancy.

joemodda posted...

That's why gambling is so regulated, and its also why governments are gearing towards regulating loot boxes and other gacha mechanics

Indeed. The debate of whether or not lootboxes count as gambling rages eternally, but at the end of the day, the addictive behaviours lootboxes prey on are exactly the same ones gambling exploits. Therefore, the reasoning behind regulating gambling applies equally to regulating lootboxes.

I used a guide for Blood Lobster. I'm not ashamed to admit it. In practice, the guide only got me to like 5-6 that I otherwise wouldn't have found, but that still meant going through every one the guide listed. I hadn't actually planned on doing that quest, because it was one I gave up on when I played the original, but where it was the only thing standing between me and 100% questing, I swallowed my pride and did it.

I also used a guide for the trading cards. That one being active blocks you from completing Lin's last affinity mission, so I felt like I kind of had to complete it. I did actually find all but one step of the chain just wandering around, but that one step kept me from getting anywhere, so yeah.

Because they're given more money than they give away.

ParanoidObsessive posted...

Yeah, but it's a preponderance of evidence.

One or two similarities? Coincidence. Three or four? Ehh, could still be random chance.

Once you start getting a long list, no matter how innocuous each separate item might look on its own, the more it starts looking like maybe you stole your ideas from a specific source.

I mean, why stop there? Both stories take place on Earth, both stories are in English, both stories feature one or more characters that had parents... If you go looking for similarities, it's not particularly hard to find them, which is why you need to do something to curate those you find to decide whether or not they're too trivial to consider.

Comic relief sidekicks and a love interest are common enough tropes that I wouldn't count them toward similarities between any two pieces (again, putting aside questions of how much of a role Shakespeare played in that becoming true), no matter how many other similarities exist.

Beveren_Rabbit posted...

there's always someone out there that dislikes innocent videos such as a dog yawning or

You don't need 100% of people viewing your videos to be very happy. Just 1000 people.

ParanoidObsessive posted...

You've also got the ghost of a dad, two comic relief sidekicks, a love-interest... sure, it's all generic, but it is there.

I mean, what doesn't have comic relief sidekicks and a love interest? Ghost dad, I could maybe give you, but the other two points are about as generic and high-level as concepts get (though, again, one could argue this is because of Shakespeare and picking such a massively influential figure for this analogy might not have been a great idea).

I'm less worried about falsified evidence leading to false convictions than I am about the fact that photos, videos, and audio recordings are going to have to stop being accepted as evidence because it'll be too easy to fabricate them. That's going to be a pretty significant problem.

ParanoidObsessive posted...

I mean, if Shakespeare had an estate that was still extant, and the work was still under copyright protection rather than public domain, they might actually be able to sue over The Lion King.

There's certainly enough similarities there (enough that the audience started pointing it out) that there'd at least be a case. Maybe not enough to win, but definitely enough to question it.

I dunno. "King's brother kills him and runs the prince out of town, then the prince comes back and deposes the uncle" is a pretty broad idea to try copyrighting, and that's really where the similarities end. Arguably, it only seems so generic because of Shakespeare, which is a big part of why it's good to have classic media enter public domain so new works can build on their foundation without worrying about infringing, but I'm pretty sure you can find similar stories in even older stuff that Shakespeare himself drew inspiration from.

rjsilverthorn posted...

It can, the longest took three years, but all of the recent elections have been fairly short.

I believe that's mostly since they started sequestering the cardinals for the duration. They've got a lot more incentive to agree on somebody when they don't get to leave until they do.

Far-Queue posted...

^ this is the correct answer

There are a few different right answers. It's a name that's been applied to several different styles of cake. The older definition of "velvet cake" just referred to cutting the flour in the cake with some sort of non-glutinous dry ingredient to give it a softer texture because you end up with less gluten structure. This can be cocoa, corn/rice/potato starch, or a couple other options. Adding extra acid (like from buttermilk) also softens the gluten, and in the case of cocoa, you end up with a reddish colour.

On top of that, though, there was the WWI/depression-era practice of using beetroot to make cakes instead of milk, due to rationing concerns, and that created red-coloured cakes outside of the burgundy colour acidified cocoa would give you. When food dyes became more commonplace later in the 20th century, that pushed the concept toward stronger and stronger reds, until eventually getting to the dye-inundated monstrosity that most people think of now.

It's not wrong to call a basic white pound cake with a quarter cup of red #40 added "red velvet," but the term can be a bit confusing because of how many different things it's meant over the years.

Kallainanna posted...

I only know Swiss buttercream exists because I worked in the Bakery department at Whole Foods and they used to use it - and one of the actual cake decorators told me, I didn't make a single cake while there. They switched to American buttercream to cut costs LOL - not as good, but theirs at least isn't terrible.

American butter cream is definitely cheaper, since it doesn't rely on eggs and is much less labour-intensive. Swiss requires you to make a Swiss meringue, which means beating egg whites and sugar together in a double boiler until it's whipped up and reaches ~80C (I forget the exact temp), then beating the butter into that. It's stiffer and more temperature-stable than American, and isn't as aggressively sweet because it doesn't rely on powdered sugar to dry it out and stiffen it. In a similar vein, Italian butter cream is made from an Italian meringue, which involves whipping egg whites while pouring in 240F sugar. Italian is very stiff and smooth, and my personal favourite. French is made like Italian, but with yolks instead of whites, and you end up with a very soft icing that's almost custardy, better for fillings than anything structural.

I don't mind American butter cream, especially if it's stiffened by whipping it properly and not just by dumping sugar in until it's thick enough, but pretty much every alternative is an upgrade. Making any butter cream with shortening to cut costs, however, is a travesty.

Almost never.

Sashanan posted...

The two times I've rented a car in the USA back when I drove, I turned down all extra insurance also, figured that *if* I got the car damaged, I'd cover it. Haven't needed to an either occasion.

That's one of the rare cases I do take it, unless it's a rental where my credit card already provides extra insurance. While it's very unlikely that anything happens, damage to cars can add up very quickly if it does, and the extra insurance is often a pretty nominal amount. If I were renting cars regularly enough for it to add up to a meaningful amount, I might skip it, but once every couple years? I'll take the added peace of mind.

ParanoidObsessive posted...

The real question is, how exactly would fan videos prove you didn't steal ideas?

While I'm not sure of the details, I'm guessing the approach is to show that while there are broad conceptual similarities between the plaintiff's ideas and what ended up in the game, those similarities are too basic or superficial to justify claims of infringement (like Shakespeare's estate couldn't sue Disney for The Lion King, even if we put aside the other practical issues with that idea). Without actual official content to reference, though, that kind of nuance is hard to prove and that leaves them stuck in the position of "I guess there are similarities but you'll have to trust us that they aren't close enough to really be infringing on anything."

I'm not entirely sure why they can't just resurrect the old build of the game to demonstrate it properly, unless they actually deleted all records of the old content, but something about the way they vaulted the content seems to be putting them in a really difficult position for this lawsuit.

ParanoidObsessive posted...

Because I have impulse control issues and can't stop myself from using them.

I'm not actually sure I've ever seen all the worlds in the game. I've definitely played way more times skipping 90% of the game than I have actually playing the whole thing.

I do know the last time I played it (back in the 2000s), I did a run through the Star World and beat the game in about an hour or so. Not explicitly trying to speedrun per se, just sort of casually shortcutting.

On the flip side, that means that whenever you replay the game, you only end up playing the levels you actually want to play. Sure, you could just as easily replay the levels you want from a 100% file, but I'd still say that having the flexibility to customize your playthrough to align with what you want is a good thing.

"I'm horny for boulders" - Daniel Radcliffe, 2023

Nope, they're random videos players made years ago, before the content in question was stricken from the game.

And, for that matter, most car companies were trying not to push electric cars until Tesla's success made it impossible for them to keep artificially suppressing the market and they had to jump on the bandwagon or risk getting left behind.

ParanoidObsessive posted...

It's easy to say "Let's get rid of cars" or "Let's find an alternative to cars", but most people have no realistic perspective of just how much of our lives you'd need to change in order to do so without sacrificing huge chunks of your lifestyle.

It's not that hard to get that perspective. Plenty of countries outside of the US aren't nearly as dependent on personal cars as is the norm in the US. A world entirely without cars and their cultural impact isn't realistic (for all their faults, they are useful tools), but one that isn't built around the assumption that everyone will be driving everywhere - to the overt detriment and often outright danger of anyone that doesn't - is not only possible, it's already been achieved many times over.

Now, is it possible in the US? That's a very harsh uphill battle when you've got people suing cities for promoting alternatives to driving. Americans have deep throated the myth of rugged individualism so far it's looped around for another go, and in doing so fixate almost exclusively on "what would personally be most convenient for me?" instead of larger-scale considerations like throughput and efficient land use.

Even putting aside the invasiveness, Metaverse has been a pretty colossal failure for reasons that have nothing to do with tech limitations. The idea of LARPing everyday social interactions in VR just isn't actually all that great once the novelty wears off, and the value it does provide is mostly entertainment and not the utility role that smartphones fill. Advancements in tech aren't going to change the fact that non-tech bros just don't care enough about visiting their friends virtually to spend any money on doing so (at least, nothing beyond playing something like Animal Crossing, and even then the appeal is more people sharing what they've created while the actual hangout is just voice or video chat).

Kallainanna posted...

Buttercream frosting is fine as long as it's thin and fresh. It helps a lot if they use Swiss buttercream: it's more intensive to make but significantly less sweet. Cheap cakes mostly use American buttercream that tends to be really sweet.
Cream cheese frosting is total garbage.

I should really try making Swiss butter cream again. I've only tried it twice, and the first time didn't turn out well for reasons I don't remember, and the second I gave up on the meringue before it got all the way up to temp because the consistency made me concerned that I was overcooking it. Italian is my usual go-to when I'm feeling like an upgrade over American. I do love me some Italian butter cream, and I seem to have a knack for it. The one time I did French also turned out really well for most of the same reasons, but the sheer number of yolks it takes make it a less practical option than Italian and it's better suited to fillings than frosting anyway.

Even now, I've seen people suggest - without a hint of irony - that car-centric design is good because it'll make it harder for tanks to roll into cities if the US ever gets invaded. Apparently a land invasion of the US is a major threat worth considering?

Damn_Underscore posted...

If people were open to the idea of community units there would be no need to propose them, they would already exist

Ehhh, yes and no. Car-centric suburbanization was driven (pun not intended) by individuals' desires to embrace the supposed convenience and freedom a car could provide (spurred in no small part by propaganda from car and oil companies, but there was legitimate interest there), leading them to vote for development patterns that favoured the car. In that regard, yes, fragmented suburban non-communities can be said to be what people wanted, but a lot of the consequences of those design patterns weren't readily obvious to the people who just liked the face value of "I can drive right from my door to my destination!". The broader social impacts, the infrastructure costs, and the economic fragility that came from trying to make it so everyone could enjoy that convenience weren't considered in expressing those desires.

And now, of course, so many people have only ever known car dependence that they can't wrap their heads around alternatives being any better (see: the number of people that steadfastly believe that owning a car is the only way to be free or independent), so of course they aren't going to be in favour of changing the status quo.

It's kind of like the Internet: Pretty much everyone would agree that, on paper, having easier access to information and contact with people you care about is a good thing. Now that the Internet has made access to information too easy, though, you end up with misinformation that's impossible to counter, people becoming overwhelmed by such a massive deluge of information that they can't filter out what's important/true, and being constantly plugged into each others' lives has created some major problems.

Ogurisama posted...

What will they be replaced with?
Sure tech is moving fast, but smartphones are still by the best of being small tech and keeping people connected.

Pretty much this. Even recognizing that us not being able to conceive of a paradigm shift doesn't mean one isn't possible (see Ford's "faster horses" quote) and therefore not putting too much stock in the fact that we can't think of a replacement, all of the primary functions of smart phones (phone, text, camera, location, internet connectivity, and apps that capitalize on these features) are still very much in demand and will be for the foreseeable future. Any hypothetical replacement would need to fulfill that demand in addition to whatever new features it offered in order to actually become a replacement and render smartphones obsolete, except any device that offers all of those features is best described as a smart phone.

This feels a lot like EA et al's periodic insistence that single-player games are dead, despite there being no actual evidence of a reduction in demand for them. It's just billionaires with a vested interest in selling us the Next Big Thing trying to convince us that we're unhappy with the Current Big Thing to make us want whatever's coming next more. My money's on pushing some sort of AI personal assistant sort of deal that uses context clues to predict what smartphone feature it should offer you at any given moment.

Salrite posted...

"Noise Ordinances" are one of those things that are technically a thing but police don't give a shit about. Maybe they'll come and talk to the people and ask them to stop but there's never going to be any consequence for it.

There can be consequences if it's particularly egregious or prolonged, like running a jackhammer at 2 in the morning, but otherwise it's mostly just going to be a matter of "hey keep it down" unless it's a chronic problem. Kids screaming in their front yard during the day, though, isn't likely to be on anyone's radar as something worth punishing them for.

Depends on the red velvet cake in question. White cake that's just been pumped full of red food colouring because some dude had a bunch of extra dye to sell? That's nasty. Cake that's been softened using cocoa and turns a nice reddish-brown colour because of the interaction between the cocoa and various acid ingredients? That's pretty nice.

Presumably, Murderess stole most of the reward.

SinisterSlay posted...

Your entire plan hinges on Americans even knowing where Canada is, and having a passport, and staying a full day in Canada each time to get the $800 exemption.

I'm not so much thinking about individuals crossing the border to buy games (though for anyone living in a border town, that would 100% be an option and cross-border shopping is a significant enough source of revenue for border towns that you can watch the prosperity shift across the border as exchange rates change) as I am thinking about store owners doing so, or ordering shipments from Canadian shops so they don't have to go themselves. It's not likely to be people coming up from Texas or Florida or anything, but a day trip from, say, Buffalo to St. Catharine's or Detroit to Windsor is nothing, and being able to buy games for $80 CDN ($58 US) and resell them at $80 US could yield enough of a profit margin to be worth the trip.

Of course, this is discounting whatever nonsense Trump's trade war has introduced to cross-border shopping, since that's a mess and changes too frequently to keep track of.

SinisterSlay posted...

Instead they would just region lock it

The logistics of producing an entirely separate, region locked Canadian version instead of a single NA version aren't really worthwhile, particularly where the Switch isn't region locked in the first place. Again, the Canadian market just isn't large enough that losing some sales by pricing games according to the exchange rate will justify all the extra risks and hoops that will need to be jumped through to make lower prices work.

SinisterSlay posted...

Then don't buy them.
If Nintendo is stupid enough to think Canadians are paid in American dollars then don't buy their shit until they learn Canada is not the 51st state

We're not paid in Yen, either, which is the more salient exchange rate. Nintendo, however, is, and regional pricing reflects the value of that region's currency relative to the Yen. A weak CAD means that if we only paid $60 CDN while Americans paid $60 US, Canadian customers would have less value than American ones. If pricing according to the exchange rate were seriously cutting into sales, there might be a discount, but realistically the Canadian market just isn't a large enough portion of the NA market to exert that kind of influence.

Given the relatively open border between Canada and the US (at least until recently), if the Canadian price were significantly cheaper than the exchange-adjusted US price, that would also create an incentive for American retailers to buy Canadian copies and resell them at close to American prices, resulting in significant lost revenue.

Flappers posted...

All of this is true but to me that's like saying "chances of getting into a car crash are so low that I just won't ever wear my seatbelt"

Kind of, but the actual risk differs pretty substantially there, given how much more often people drive than eat pork. Putting on a seatbelt is also a precaution that comes with pretty much no cost, whereas if you like rare pork chops, you're giving up something you like to mitigate that risk.

Just doing a quick search and finding a CDC study that covers 1998-2015, there were a grand total of 9 cases of Trichinosis and 0 cases of pork tapeworms (the vast, vast majority of cysticercosis cases appear in people that contracted the parasite abroad). Nearly half of the foodborne illness associated with pork in that period came from either Salmonella (which isn't good, obviously, but it's relatively minor as foodborne illness goes) or Staph Aureus toxin (which is a storage issue and cooking does nothing to prevent it).

Is it still a risk? Of course. But so is being struck by lightning. I'm not going to go golfing in a thunderstorm, but I'm also not going to spend my whole life avoiding open spaces any time it rains. For anyone that likes raw pork for whatever reason, you can mitigate the risk to acceptable levels without having to totally give that up.

I feel like you can say it about a lot of shounen: They tend to start reasonably strong as you get that initial front-loading of exposition and worldbuilding, which is often shounen's strong suit, but because they don't put as much emphasis on interesting plots they fall off after they settle into telling their stories and rely on cool fights (and eventually power creep) to keep the momentum up (which isn't to say that cool fights are bad, but that's a different appeal from exposition and worldbuilding). It also tends to be once you get a season or so in that they have to start padding series out with filler to make sure they last long enough for the manga to finish.

Fish can be safe to eat raw/undercooked, but there are also a lot of ways in which it can be dangerous. "Fish" is such a broad class of food that it's hard to make blanket statements about it even before considering various levels of quality and care in handling.

It's uncooked, but I wouldn't call it "raw." Curing something takes it away from the raw state.

Depends what they want. If they'd rather help you feel better than preserve the mood, then keeping it to yourself isn't good. If they'd rather keep having a good time and not be burdened by your problems, dipping out is the right option.

It's worth noting, though, that if your friends would rather you leave and be miserable on your own than do anything to interfere with their good times, they're not very good friends. That's not to say that people have to always put their own enjoyment aside to help out their friends that are having a hard time (and, in fact, constantly dragging everyone down by relying on them when they're trying to have fun instead of finding other coping strategies is being a bad friend on your end), but your friends should value your well-being. That's a pretty critical part of friendship.